Do you share a lot here?

I often share my life stories in the dinner thread ... those ladies are like family to me now!   

I do share to the main NSBR board but not as much ... it seems silly to post the same information twice!

I don’t typically share big problems or feelings online. I tend to share more IRL

Occasionally but I am a firm believer that you don't say online, in an email or text anything you would regret the world seeing.

I used to but not anymore. When it is used against you, why share? If my messy life makes you come at me, you aren't worth me sharing the messy.

Interesting choice of phrase.

I wonder if the responses here will substantially differ from the are you strong thread.

I share a lot here. I share for two reasons, one leading to the next. 1) I am committed to living my best life. One look at my reading thread responses will show you that I am constantly reading books that I believe will lead to my self improvement and improvement of society, as a whole. Note the kinds of threads I often post to challenge others to think deeply about things. I have a lot of challenges in my life. Stuff that people in my IRL circle just are very limited in their abilities to address. 2) This place has a lot of people from different places, with different experiences. Posting here gets me to think about the variety of ways in which I can address something, especially when I feel paralyzed to sort something out. One of the problems with being treated for bipolar (impulsive) for over 20 years is that you learn to pause and not trust your knee jerk reaction on anything. You get used to people dismissing you for being too "emotional" (even according to peas that is the opposite of strong and hence why I rolled my eyes at that thread) so you often bog yourself down questioning whether you are entitled to any kind of reaction at all. You guys give me some backbone sometimes when I admonish myself constantly never to rock the boat.

I'm sure I've just rocked the boat with this response. Sharing, questioning, feeling your feelings, expressing your feelings, growing your mind, challenging yourself, these are all good, healthy things. My argument would be that the things in my previous sentence area all a lot healthier than grin and bear it. Whether that should be online or IRL only, well, that's debatable. But I gave you my reasons.

I share some things here and other places. Although I think I often just re-share the same things here.

Some things just seem easier to share in a real life conversation, so I am unlikely to try to explain or type them out anywhere online.

I share some things. Far from all. As someone else mentioned above, people here keep spreadsheets and will use things against you later. We've seen peas run off the board for sharing a lot and then someone thinks they found a hole in the story, and all of a sudden the entire Altoona police department is on the case.

Of course, not sharing can get you in trouble, too, as people make assumptions about you based on the little they do know.

Such is life, I suppose. TBH I don't share much that is very personal with anyone except DH.

I am not a very regular poster and I don`t share a lot of my life here or IRL, but I will say that on the few occasions that I did I was very grateful for the understanding and advice offered.

I never felt i overshared here... i still feel like im just 1 name out tons... i dont think i would be a missed pea... i just dont really belong to any active thread like that....

That is not to look for peas to say i would definitely be missed... its ok.. i promise....

All that to say that i have gotten a peamail that floored because i didn't think i had shared that much info....

Same for me.

Not really. Especially because not so long ago a pea was pretty nasty with me and said that I wasn’t allowed to “complain” about (apparently what she sees as mundane) things in my life because clearly I don’t know what “real” struggles are. The response to that post made it pretty clear that this isn’t really a place of support for me.

I feel free to say as much or as little as I want here because no one really knows me. I do appreciate all the different perspectives when someone comes with a problem or needs advice. Sometimes people need to hear the truth in a way they won't get from close friends or family.

I have definitely shared all kinds of personal things here over the years.

Same, and I’m sorry that happened to you. I remember it- very clearly…

I share, the only things that I would share with people in my every day, real life. If something is not resolved, complex, or potentially hurtful to someone in my real life, to any degree I choose not to share here.

I’m clearly not a warm and fuzzy Pea, and differ significantly from Benny here, and how I see and interact with the world. And I am 100% OK with that. I don’t need validation. I do sometimes choose to interact to bring a voice to life experience, or perspectives that are rarely shared here. With that, though, sharing something current and personal is generally just not a way that I want to engage here.

I haven't been pig piled on too badly, but seeing it happen to others, often causes me to pause before I post things.