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Post by mikklynn on Sept 10, 2024 13:00:15 GMT
Have you completed a project or chore you've been procrastinating? Or, what are you procrastinating?
My parents are in a care facility. They want me to plan and prepay for their funerals. I did the research last year, but didn't finalize anything. I am doing it now. My siblings don't want to be involved, so I decided I will pay the mortuary to do a lot of the work for me. Since my parents are being cremated and want their services in a church, we could just go through the cremation society. The hell with that, since I know I'll have to do all the coordination. So, the mortuary will handle the cremation, obituary, coordinate with the church, cemetary, florist, and caterer. I feel so much relief that I have started the actual paperwork.
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Post by lesley on Sept 10, 2024 13:13:37 GMT
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Post by crazy4scraps on Sept 10, 2024 13:27:19 GMT
Not completed, but started the process of setting up trusts. Weāve been putting it off and putting it off, but a couple weeks ago we finally met with the guy that weāve decided we want to go with to do it. We knew we needed to update our wills which are now almost 15 years old, and as time has passed we wanted to change up some things especially regarding our kid who is now in high school. Itās going to be something of a lengthy process due to everything that will need to be rolled into one of two trusts, but at least weāve taken that first step to get the ball rolling.
Iāve also been procrastinating getting my trades made for an event Iām going to soon. Swapping trades is a thing and people bring all kinds of stuff to swap kind of as an ice breaker. I decided a year ago to do these beaded pens and funny buttons. Bought all the stuff to do both and have barely done anything with it. The deadline to get it all done is looming so I really need to get moving and just do it. I started working on the buttons last week, and started assembling them yesterday. Itās not hard to do, just kind of boring and repetitive.
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Post by moodyblue on Sept 10, 2024 21:46:12 GMT
I would like to get my will and other paperwork updated. I do have the ones in place from years ago, but my husband died since then and the next in line to be power-of-attorney/executor has moved and I feel like I should update all the paperwork. But Iām putting it off right now because Iām not sure if I want to change some things or not. No sense starting the process if I havenāt decided what I want to do.
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Post by calgaryscrapper on Sept 11, 2024 2:06:19 GMT
Mikklynn, when our parents passed away the obituary was more reasonable in cost when we went through the funeral home versus putting it in the newspaper ourself. My in laws had their plots picked out,everything paid for and the planning completed.
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Post by mommaho on Sept 11, 2024 9:06:31 GMT
mikklynn I was able to do that for my Mom about 4 months before she passed. We had talked about what she wanted and I really feel it was so much easier than having to do it after she was gone as we had to do for my dad. My husband and I are going to do the same thing as soon as I convince him we are 
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Post by mikklynn on Sept 11, 2024 12:46:00 GMT
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Post by mikklynn on Sept 11, 2024 12:47:37 GMT
Mikklynn, when our parents passed away the obituary was more reasonable in cost when we went through the funeral home versus putting it in the newspaper ourself. My in laws had their plots picked out,everything paid for and the planning completed. Luckily my parents purchased lots years ago for themselves and my grandmother, so that is done. My in-laws preplanned and prepaid everything. It was a huge gift to all of us! |
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Post by mikklynn on Sept 11, 2024 12:49:25 GMT
mikklynn I was able to do that for my Mom about 4 months before she passed. We had talked about what she wanted and I really feel it was so much easier than having to do it after she was gone as we had to do for my dad. My husband and I are going to do the same thing as soon as I convince him we are
Ha ha, it took me forever to get my DH to fill out a medical directive, even though he was terminally ill. At least he told me what he wanted at that time. I had a folder of everything for when he passed, so that made it so much easier. |
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Sept 14, 2024 14:14:06 GMT
I feel so much relief that I have started the actual paperwork. Awesome feeling, isn't it? Good job! After my mom passed, I prepaid my cremation. I didn't want my kids to ever have to be dealing with every emotion that comes with your mother dying, then also have to figure out how to pay for the final stuff. |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Sept 14, 2024 14:39:56 GMT
I feel so much relief that I have started the actual paperwork. Awesome feeling, isn't it? Good job! After my mom passed, I prepaid my cremation. I didn't want my kids to ever have to be dealing with every emotion that comes with your mother dying, then also have to figure out how to pay for the final stuff. Just make sure that you have the information in an easy to access location and that someone knows who will remember. My ILs had both paid for cremation decades prior. But when my FIL passed suddenly, MIL was distraught and forgot that they had done that and ended up paying for it a second time through the funeral home she chose. Later on she found all the paperwork and was all like, DUH š¤¦š»āāļø. Thankfully she made all of her own arrangements herself and was given credit for the services she didnāt use for him. |
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Post by disneypal on Sept 14, 2024 15:01:35 GMT
Yes, for several years, my garage was a "catch all" - I had so much stuff in there and I really wanted to clean it out but just never got around to it. Finally, one day, I decided I was going to do it. I knew a lot was going to be trashed, so I got a rental dumpster delivered and a friend and I spent the following day cleaning it out. It felt so freeing to get rid of the stuff I knew I would never use and my garage is so nice and clean - it's wonderful to finally do something you have been putting off....and once you do it, you realize it wasn't as bad as you thought it was going to be.
On a smaller level, I have about 5 knit or crochet projects that are "in progress". I recently decided to complete all those before allowing myself to start something new. I've completed 2 of them. Only 3 more to go. It feels so good to complete something you've been procrastinating about.
Good for you for taking care of care the prepayment and getting the arrangements all done - I know you are glad to have that off your mind.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Sept 14, 2024 15:07:19 GMT
Awesome feeling, isn't it? Good job! After my mom passed, I prepaid my cremation. I didn't want my kids to ever have to be dealing with every emotion that comes with your mother dying, then also have to figure out how to pay for the final stuff. Just make sure that you have the information in an easy to access location and that someone knows who will remember. My ILs had both paid for cremation decades prior. But when my FIL passed suddenly, MIL was distraught and forgot that they had done that and ended up paying for it a second time through the funeral home she chose. Later on she found all the paperwork and was all like, DUH š¤¦š»āāļø. Thankfully she made all of her own arrangements herself and was given credit for the services she didnāt use for him. Will do! |
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Post by bc2ca on Sept 14, 2024 21:05:20 GMT
When mom went into care, they kept pestering dad to make arrangements and have mortuary contact information on file. He didn't share this with us for almost a year and got himself all tied up in knots trying to decide what to do. Once we knew about it, I picked the well established mortuary easily accessible from where he was living and made the basic arrangements (retrieve the body, cremation, paperwork, etc.) knowing all the add-ons could be added-on. In the end, we didn't add-on anything and all appreciated there was zero pressure or upselling. Good for you doing what will make it easiest for you.
My massive procrastination project is exterior house painting because I can't commit to a damn color. I really want to paint it navy blue but keep getting push back on going with such a dark color in a sunny climate. DH is fine with whatever a pick but, after 3 years, wants to get it done. So we are going with a dark blue and painting a retaining wall this weekend to test it. EEK! I'm very excited!!
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Post by jill8909 on Sept 14, 2024 21:11:01 GMT
renewed my passport!
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Post by Zee on Sept 14, 2024 21:16:51 GMT
I currently have 8 works in progress (art) and I just finished one of them. Only 7 to go!
I made a vet appt that I kept forgetting to call about.
I'm procrastinating on making a derm appt and getting my Botox (lol) so I'll try to do those things this week.
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Post by wordfish on Sept 15, 2024 15:10:12 GMT
Yes. I am terrible about procrastinating, in that I am a world champion at it. I very much dislike this about myself.
The latest thing I have finally dealt with: I scheduled all of my routine maintenance appointments that are in my power to schedule, and updated my vaccinations. To be fair, I only updated my vaccinations because my daughter recently had triplets and it was recommended for their health. But I figure it still counts.
In addition, I scheduled:
1. Mammogram (nearly 4 years overdue, yes, I know. Ridiculous). Had it on Friday, normal (whew).
2. Dentist appointment (way way wayyyyyyyy overdue, unsurprisingly having some tooth issues, that's week after next).
3. GYN appointment (I don't actually know if that is overdue because the rules on that seem murky but I scheduled it for November--probably overdue though as it's been 4+ years).
The only thing I have managed to keep up with in the last 5 years are my annual physical examinations. I have that tomorrow. I really like my PCP. He'll be glad about the vaccinations, as he has been bugging me about the shingles one for 5 years and also the mammogram.
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Post by kelly8875 on Sept 15, 2024 18:45:48 GMT
Funeral planning was one of the things my dad did for himself after my mom passed. He realized that because they hadnāt done it together, it would make it better for my brother and I if he did it for us. In fact, he went in to plan his the day after we planned moms. Unfortunately we had to use all of his plans 10 months later.
I have started sorting through all the photos that came from their house this weekend. Itās a daunting task, but Iām handling it well, because I have myself time. Itās been 2-1/2 years, and Iām ready now to sort. I did find a picture of my mom pregnant with me, that I donāt know if Iāve ever seen.
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Post by mikklynn on Sept 16, 2024 12:58:02 GMT
Funeral planning was one of the things my dad did for himself after my mom passed. He realized that because they hadnāt done it together, it would make it better for my brother and I if he did it for us. In fact, he went in to plan his the day after we planned moms. Unfortunately we had to use all of his plans 10 months later. I have started sorting through all the photos that came from their house this weekend. Itās a daunting task, but Iām handling it well, because I have myself time. Itās been 2-1/2 years, and Iām ready now to sort. I did find a picture of my mom pregnant with me, that I donāt know if Iāve ever seen. Finding photos we had never seen was the fun part of that project! |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Sept 16, 2024 13:17:36 GMT
I need to do that for myself and for DD. DHās is still valid for at least another year. |
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Post by hannahruth on Sept 17, 2024 14:39:14 GMT
I feel so much relief that I have started the actual paperwork. Awesome feeling, isn't it? Good job! After my mom passed, I prepaid my cremation. I didn't want my kids to ever have to be dealing with every emotion that comes with your mother dying, then also have to figure out how to pay for the final stuff. DH and I have purchased our plots and pre-paid for cremations - feel the same regarding the kids (both adults) and everything else that they will have to deal with. |
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Post by laurap on Sept 17, 2024 19:41:07 GMT
crazy4scraps without too much personal info, why do you have 2 trusts? I am thinking of setting one up.Not completed, but started the process of setting up trusts. Weāve been putting it off and putting it off, but a couple weeks ago we finally met with the guy that weāve decided we want to go with to do it. We knew we needed to update our wills which are now almost 15 years old, and as time has passed we wanted to change up some things especially regarding our kid who is now in high school. Itās going to be something of a lengthy process due to everything that will need to be rolled into one of two trusts, but at least weāve taken that first step to get the ball rolling.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Sept 18, 2024 0:01:01 GMT
crazy4scraps without too much personal info, why do you have 2 trusts? I am thinking of setting one up.Not completed, but started the process of setting up trusts. Weāve been putting it off and putting it off, but a couple weeks ago we finally met with the guy that weāve decided we want to go with to do it. We knew we needed to update our wills which are now almost 15 years old, and as time has passed we wanted to change up some things especially regarding our kid who is now in high school. Itās going to be something of a lengthy process due to everything that will need to be rolled into one of two trusts, but at least weāve taken that first step to get the ball rolling. We were told we would need to set up a revocable trust for each person, one for me and another for my DH. |
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