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Post by scrappintoee on Sept 11, 2024 2:12:23 GMT
I'm avoiding the debate  and plan to READ about it later. I just can't bear to hear or see that orange liar. Watching a cheesy reality show about weddings, and it made me remember the things I wish I hadn't done for our wedding. Our wedding was beautiful, and the reception was a BLAST. The decorations were perfect. I wanted a variety of music to appeal to everyones' tastes, because I wanted people to dance and have FUN! Almost everyone danced, and we love to re-watch the videos. Changes:1. Lots of my co-workers were there that meant nothing to me and/or I actually disliked them. I worried that if I didn't invite everyone, it would be rude. Now, I would be much more discerning. 2. The caterer INSISTED that we only needed 6-inch plates for the buffet; saying that people always take too much, and there was so much waste with larger plates. Now, I'd have larger plates because it seemed stingy. 3. Interviewed more photographers/videographers. Our photos are nice, but the video needed much more editing! I also REALLY wish he'd taken candid shots. Also, he didn't take photos of the BACK of my dress and train! 4. Asked the photographer to take black-and-whites! (or, I guess it would have been better to hire a separate photographer). I've altered some of our photos to b&w, but it's not the same because of lighting/ shadows. I LOVE the "artsy" look of black and whites, and CANDID photos, but we have none. Oops---actually, we do have a few candids that I LOVE! They were either taken by friends/family OR one of those disposable cameras that we put on every table (it was 1996). Was your wedding perfect, or would you change anything? |
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Post by freecharlie on Sept 11, 2024 2:14:17 GMT
There was apparently nothing but water and tea at the reception. There was supposed to be sodas as well. I didn't notice because I drink water.
I would do pictures before to cut back on the time between the ceremony and the reception.
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Post by bunnyhug on Sept 11, 2024 2:23:31 GMT
I don't know that ours was 'perfect', but I can't think of anything that I'd change ... it was a small town giant wedding of the type not really seen anymore nowadays, and we had so much fun!! Maybe the thing I'd change is that we wouldn't have gone back home to the city on the afternoon after our wedding (we had our gift opening at the community hall that day, along with brunch and drinks) because a couple of our groomsmen hosted a party that Sunday evening at their farm that I'm still sorry I missed  We had to go home and do laundry and get packed up to leave for our honeymoon (which was also fun), but some of the post-post-wedding party stories are still talked about at every group gathering, and even though I know it probably wouldn't have seemed as fun if I had actually been there, I still wish the weekend had gone on forever ... |
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Post by Ryann on Sept 11, 2024 2:25:12 GMT
We got married at a courthouse instead of having a wedding, but held a reception the following day at our favorite local restaurant. My only regret is that I would have hired a professional photographer to be there. We have lots of photos taken from family members, but having GOOD quality photos would have been nice.
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Post by melanell on Sept 11, 2024 2:25:39 GMT
There is only one thing I would change.
I would change the entertainment for the reception. It was fine, but not fantastic.
But really, the reception flew by so quickly, that I know it really didn't matter. People still danced, so it wasn't a big deal. It was simply my least favorite thing about the day.
Everything else was so wonderful that I think it just stands out more in mind because of the contrast in my eyes.
The whole weekend is such a happy memory. And with DH & I both working crazy schedules at the time, the planning seemed so stressful despite it not being a big, over the top wedding. So to have all of that stress melt away and have things go better than imagined was such a beautiful thing.
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Post by cmpeter on Sept 11, 2024 2:33:37 GMT
Nothing. We eloped and it was lovely.
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Post by used2scrap on Sept 11, 2024 2:38:29 GMT
Well the groom lol.
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Post by ntsf on Sept 11, 2024 2:41:37 GMT
my veil is folded under in all the formal pictures. no one straightened it out.. I would have done more to choose a photographer, but it was a long distance wedding.. and I let my mom do that.
I also did not like getting sick the day of the wedding and both of us flew to boston (first class), and spent a week at my old landlady's house being sick. our honeymoon was two weeks long.. so that was good.
otherwise all was ok.. we all had fun.
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Post by leannec on Sept 11, 2024 2:44:33 GMT
Nothing ...
We got married in Las Vegas with 10 guests who were family and friends who really meant a lot to us!
It was a traditional ceremony in a hotel chapel with the white dress and tuxedo and bridesmaids and best man etc ... organizing it was a breeze because the hotel does it all!
This was 1997 ... we stayed married for 24 years!
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Post by workingclassdog on Sept 11, 2024 2:45:19 GMT
My wedding was just about perfect.. the only thing was the photographer.. terrible. awful.
Thank goodness for the shots that my (ugggg, who I was estranged from) was my dad's pics. He was a decent photographer and at that time in my life. That might be the only thing he left that I kept.
Maybe the only other thing was an option to have the money instead for a house.. but that is neither here or there.. My stepmum spent a lot of money on my wedding. I'm totally grateful for and good memories.. but the amount of money spent we could have had a huge payment towards a house.
Edited to add.. totally forgot this one.. broke my foot two days before the wedding and broke our toasting glasses while falling down the stairs.. yeah I would change that. I did walk down the aisle without crutches though. LOTS of pain meds.
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Sept 11, 2024 2:48:51 GMT
Other than the groom…
I would have liked some of our family there.
But, it was absolutely unique and exactly who we were.
So, unless I could switch him out… I’d let it stay.
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Post by Merge on Sept 11, 2024 3:02:33 GMT
I would have had the small non-church wedding I wanted instead of the big church wedding my mom wanted.
But I was broke and my parents were paying, so they made the calls.
I would maybe have shacked up with DH for a few years instead of marrying right out of grad school and saved up for the wedding we wanted, but again, parental expectations.
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Post by huskergal on Sept 11, 2024 3:03:53 GMT
Everything but the groom.
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Post by ~summer~ on Sept 11, 2024 3:31:31 GMT
My dress was fabulous. Location was fabulous.
It was February and I was a bit too pale and my hair could have been better - it was supposed to have flowers in my hair which the florist forgot. I didn’t have a veil.
I would pick better bridesmaids dresses.
I wish I got married in September.
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Post by Basket1lady on Sept 11, 2024 3:46:07 GMT
I was pretty happy with how the wedding went off. Not bad for a 22 year old planning the thing when the biggest party I'd planned prior to that was a dinner party for 10! I would have liked it smaller, but my parents paid for the wedding and Dad said that if he was paying, he was inviting who he wanted. We had 300+ people there and I'm sure that I'd never met half of them. It was too many to have a reception line and I'm sure people were salty about never actually talking to us that day. There were SO MANY people.
I was really happy with the photos. I'd worked with the photographer professionally, so I knew how she worked. My dad b!tched up a storm over the cost ($800 in 1990), which included an assistant for her. My brother got married 15 years later and my SIL's aunt took the photos. Worst photos ever! Guess what Dad still b!tches about to this day? Yup!
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Post by breetheflea on Sept 11, 2024 3:53:30 GMT
My wedding was a $300 Hawaii-wedding moon, 10-minute ceremony close to but not on the beach. That part was fine, there was a photographer, it was short but sweet. I wish both my parents would have been there (my dad was there with one sister) but my parents were in the middle of getting a divorce.
The reception two weeks later, I would love a redo. My MIL and GMIL turned into mother-of-the-groom-zillas and nixed everything we wanted to do because it was GMIL's church who let us rent the room, and MIL was paying for the food. No one took pictures (I was probably vetoed on having disposable cameras available), people came, got their sandwich, ate cake, and there were purposely not enough chairs so no one would linger. I don't think I even had a say in what color napkins we used...
Coincidentally the anniversary of my wedding reception is tomorrow, September 11th (1999.)
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Post by peanutterbutter on Sept 11, 2024 3:55:41 GMT
The groom, my dress, and the photos. The groom- well I'm finally losing him (30 years later), the dress - more of a suit - no money. The photos, I had a friend who did her best, but I would have loved a pro photographer.
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Post by samantha25 on Sept 11, 2024 4:05:24 GMT
In Colorado, you can marry yourself and went to the courthouse before the ceremony to be married on paper. We had our friend officiate before our friends in our out door ceremony and I had typed the vows to read about 2 months before the ceremony and I sent it to DH to approve vows for him to approve and did not read his final edits. He deleted the part of the ring exchange, where do you take your wife, etc... I realized this as I was driving to the event to get dressed and was delayed. I wished I reviewed the final edit, as we are scientists, and weird that I left it to DH. All was fine, but still remember it. LOL
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Post by epeanymous on Sept 11, 2024 5:11:07 GMT
I wanted a smallish 40 or so person wedding of our closest people, paid for by us. If I had it to do over again, that is what I would do.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Sept 11, 2024 6:06:43 GMT
I was young and dumb and I knew everything, all at the same time.  I would skip the whole thing and not get married at all. |
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Post by VanC on Sept 11, 2024 8:46:18 GMT
I would change the date to sometime the week before Christmas rather than 2 days after it was a lovely time to be married but it's crappy time to celebrate an anniversary.....there is never any money. I think I'd have liked to offer a bit more food like mini croissant sandwiches and a relish tray but it was 1979 and "light refreshments" were the norm in Utah back then. So we just had cake, molded mints, a nut cup mixed with M&Ms and some weird sherbet and soda drink called Frappe'. It was lovely and perfect for us.
I would have liked a few more photos from the reception of the families but we were lucky to have the ones I've got because the studio flooded a month later and the negatives were destroyed but there were contact sheets that were saved otherwise I wouldn't have any.
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Post by mommaho on Sept 11, 2024 9:27:10 GMT
My MIL was upset about her where she was seated at the wedding. FIL and she had been divorced since DH was 8 and they never spoke. FIL remarried and she is the one who basically raised DH along with his Grandparents. MIL was ushered to the first row, grooms' side and offered a seat at the other end of the pew from FIL and Stepmom. She stormed out - but showed up at the reception in a housecoat, curlers in her hair and slippers. Found DH and threw her present at him. She was a trip. Other than that - 44 years later we are still going strong.
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Post by gar on Sept 11, 2024 9:33:07 GMT
I would invite fewer relatives that I barely knew and rarely ever saw.
And i wouldn’t get married in a church. 30+ years ago it was just the norm and I didn’t really have the options that there are now.
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Post by dawnnikol on Sept 11, 2024 10:08:41 GMT
I would've done a courthouse wedding or tiny Vegas drive thru. We wanted to please our parents and grandparents, and we could've used the money for something else.
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Post by smartypants71 on Sept 11, 2024 12:16:00 GMT
My dress. I hated it. It's only redeeming quality was that it had pockets.
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Post by epeanymous on Sept 11, 2024 12:25:32 GMT
I would invite fewer relatives that I barely knew and rarely ever saw. And i wouldn’t get married in a church. 30+ years ago it was just the norm and I didn’t really have the options that there are now. I had posted upthread that I wish I had a smaller wedding. The number of people I literally met for the first time at my wedding was staggering, and when I look back at our album, there are a ton of people I have not seen since and couldn’t name if I had to. I was youngish (24) and hadn’t learned how to say no! |
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Post by twistedscissors on Sept 11, 2024 12:47:20 GMT
I wish I had hired a videographer. Totally didn’t even think of it till the day of, even tho I assist a wedding photographer at several weddings a year.
I also would not have invited my parents.
I wish it had been cooler temps that day. We were married on June 3rd and it was 103 degrees.. Outside ceremony with formal attire. Shew it was hot!
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Post by rymeswithpurple on Sept 11, 2024 12:49:21 GMT
We had the same coworker group at the time, which was nice... but maybe 2 of those people would be invited if we were to get married today.
DH has always said how much he hates the suit he wore.
I loved that my uncle did our pictures, but I wish we would've sprung for a photographer.
For planning a wedding in 4 months, though, I think we did pretty good.
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Post by littlemama on Sept 11, 2024 12:50:47 GMT
If I had to go back, the wedding would be exactly the same, but the reception would be a backyard BBQ
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Post by littlemama on Sept 11, 2024 12:52:07 GMT
I would invite fewer relatives that I barely knew and rarely ever saw. And i wouldn’t get married in a church. 30+ years ago it was just the norm and I didn’t really have the options that there are now. I had posted upthread that I wish I had a smaller wedding. The number of people I literally met for the first time at my wedding was staggering, and when I look back at our album, there are a ton of people I have not seen since and couldn’t name if I had to. I was youngish (24) and hadn’t learned how to say no! We invited 90 and I think 72 came. We refused to invite people we didnt know, despite my MIL telling us we should because they give lots of $$ for a gift. |
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and plan to READ about it later. I just can't bear to hear or see that 
We had to go home and do laundry and get packed up to leave for our honeymoon (which was also fun), but some of the post-post-wedding party stories are still talked about at every group gathering, and even though I know it probably wouldn't have seemed as fun if I had actually been there, I still wish the weekend had gone on forever ... 
