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Post by crazy4scraps on Sept 29, 2024 3:04:12 GMT
I do nothing to attempt to look younger and I don’t care if I look my age (57). For years and years I looked much younger than my actual age and I didn’t like that just as much as people seem to not like looking their actual age. When you’re 18 you don’t want to look 12. When you’re 21 you don’t want people thinking you’re 15. I was still getting carded when I was in my mid to late 30’s and it was annoying as hell at the time. I have gray hair. I have wrinkles. Some of my kid’s classmates mistake me for her grandma. Guess what? Don’t give a damn about any of it because I’ve earned all of it. Other people can do whatever they want, it’s their body and their money but none of that is for me.
ETA: Just the thought of having to manage even more things I would have to do for the rest of my life to maintain sounds exhausting to me. It’s all I can do to fit in time to get to the hair salon twice a year for a hair cut.
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Post by chaosisapony on Sept 29, 2024 3:11:42 GMT
Many of my friends starting getting botox in their early 30s. It shocked me. Now some are moving on to fillers too. But I've always been supportive of whatever people want to do to be happy. It just kind of bums me out that we all have to be on this never-ending quest against aging. There's beauty and grace to be found in aging that is worth celebrating. I wish more people could accept themselves and feel comfortable in their own skin.
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Post by paget on Sept 29, 2024 3:29:43 GMT
I’ve never had Botox and don’t plan to. Partly because I don’t like the idea of it (injecting something into your body), partly the money/upkeep, and partly as it makes me cranky — societal expectations in general. But I have minimal wrinkles - a little on my forehead (I do use retin a occasionally for that). I don’t have 11s - I have a big 1. It would be nice to not have that but see all of the above.  I have been lucky to age well naturally to this point. People are typically quite surprised with my age. But I see a very noticeable difference the last 1.5 years with perimenopause. It’s affecting basically everything and I see myself looking older, gaining weight, body composition shifting, etc. but that’s a privilege I try to remind myself - aging. |
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Post by lesserknownpea on Sept 29, 2024 11:37:02 GMT
I’ve thought more about it, and if starting the Botox early will make the rich ladies and actresses keep their faces and not need face lifts and the other surgeries that leave them with the weird lookalike plastic stretched face I’m so tired of seeing, then that’s a good thing.
I really, really wish they would just use a lot of moisturizer and trust that we would love them with wrinkles, though. I watch a show like Call the Midwife with all these actors with amazing, mobile, expressive, beautifully lined faces and just wish I saw more of this.
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Post by shescrafty on Sept 29, 2024 12:22:13 GMT
I have done Botox twice and the results have been really good-so I will keep doing it.
I dye my hair-it is naturally a very dark brown and I feel more confident without all the gray. I am likely 25% gray if I let it go but for now I won’t.
I have lost about 70lbs in the last year and am happy with the changes in my life. The Botox was something I decided to start when I was having cancer surgery. I had a breast reduction and lift at the same time as a lumpectomy and I love that my boobs are so perky now (and so much smaller!).
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Post by Merge on Sept 29, 2024 15:31:27 GMT
The only permanent change I've made to my body is pierced ears and one tattoo. Temporary changes have dropped off significantly as I've aged. I don't wear makeup unless I'm going to an event. I no longer color my hair. My eyebrows are disappearing at an alarming rate. I do use a brow pencil when I go it in public, but I'm retired, so I'm doing that less as well. Here's the thing, menopause is a bitch on your looks. You don't realize just how much estrogen works to keep you looking young and feminine. I've been in menopause for 16 years and only took HRT for five years. My body has changed, but I really see the change in my face in the last five years. It's falling and can't get up. If I had unlimited funds, I'd do something about my forehead wrinkles, 11s, disappearing jawline, and developing festoons. But I don't have unlimited funds and I'd rather spend my money on other things. When comes to priorities in my life, how I look has always come in at the bottom of the list. I've created a nice life with family and friends despite having average looks. People have their own priorities, but holding on to your youth is a losing proposition. Everyone gets old, and all the plastic surgery in the world isn't going to make you 30 again. Unless you were blessed with the beauty gene that holds up as you age, it's hell for women who lose their pretty privilege after having it their entire lives. It does seem that actresses that were not considered beauties in their youth age much better than the classically beautiful ones. Good point about pretty privilege - those who never had it don’t feel the loss as they (we) age. |
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Post by Merge on Sept 29, 2024 15:36:59 GMT
I do nothing to attempt to look younger and I don’t care if I look my age (57). For years and years I looked much younger than my actual age and I didn’t like that just as much as people seem to not like looking their actual age. When you’re 18 you don’t want to look 12. When you’re 21 you don’t want people thinking you’re 15. I was still getting carded when I was in my mid to late 30’s and it was annoying as hell at the time. I have gray hair. I have wrinkles. Some of my kid’s classmates mistake me for her grandma. Guess what? Don’t give a damn about any of it because I’ve earned all of it. Other people can do whatever they want, it’s their body and their money but none of that is for me. ETA: Just the thought of having to manage even more things I would have to do for the rest of my life to maintain sounds exhausting to me. It’s all I can do to fit in time to get to the hair salon twice a year for a hair cut. I’m with you on not wanting to make time for the upkeep. I wear my hair short enough that it needs to be cut every five weeks (and I get a mani/pedi every three weeks because it makes me happy) and that’s enough maintenance for me. Can’t bring myself to add more regular appointments (brows, lashes, Botox) to the schedule. |
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I have been lucky to age well naturally to this point. People are typically quite surprised with my age. But I see a very noticeable difference the last 1.5 years with perimenopause. It’s affecting basically everything and I see myself looking older, gaining weight, body composition shifting, etc. but that’s a privilege I try to remind myself - aging. 
