Tearisci
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Post by Tearisci on Oct 8, 2024 22:21:08 GMT
I'm feeling really blue today ... I had to put my dd's on a guilt trip to get them to spend Thanksgiving with me ... I felt hurt that I wasn't a priority but Dad and boyfriends were.  We have something planned now but I hate that it had to happen this way ... I have read the entire thread but I cannot respond to everyone today ... I'm sorry! I'm so sorry to hear this. The pain our kids can cause us just cuts to the bone. Hugs. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Oct 8, 2024 22:50:23 GMT
I'm feeling really blue today ... I had to put my dd's on a guilt trip to get them to spend Thanksgiving with me ... I felt hurt that I wasn't a priority but Dad and boyfriends were. We have something planned now but I hate that it had to happen this way ... I have read the entire thread but I cannot respond to everyone today ... I'm sorry! I'm sorry for that. I'm sorry you are hurting. If you rewind the clock 20 years I had a vision for my life. I thought I'd be having the big thanksgiving dinner with my children and loved ones around me. Even if I had to cook the entire dinner myself, I felt like I'd be surrounded by all this joy. Because I was working so hard to make it happen. I was investing in my marriage, God knows mine wasn't going to be a shit show like my parents. I was investing in my kids. No way were they going to be abused and neglected like we were. And little by little, piece by piece that dream just unraveled. Don't get me wrong, I have Jeremy and I surely am grateful for him. I keep myself going, I have joy, I have goals, I am truly ok, some days even thriving. But sometimes, like you experienced today, it just sneaks up on you. You are reminded of the vision you had years ago and how reality just doesn't match what you thought would happen. Our kids, our exhusbands, sometimes even our extended families just can be disappointing. Thanksgiving is just a day on a calendar. Even if they want to do something else on the actual day, schedule some time with them and make your own thanksgiving day. I laugh when I hear mothers of toddlers talking about how hard it is. I did too back then. Toddler vs. Teenager/young adult? I'd take the toddler times 4. Big hugs. ❤️ My Thai red lentil chili was delicious. Like 4.5 stars. Will have again.  |
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Post by peasapie on Oct 8, 2024 22:57:41 GMT
Last night we got soup and salad from Panera as a spur-of-the-moment meal. My husband liked it so much that he asked to do that again tonight. So funny to me! But hey, Panera's it is.
We went to an event today in someone's home where candidates running for a local election and for our district in Congress were speaking. It was interesting hear details about their background, why they are running for office, and how they would like to change things. We chatted with one of them privately afterwards and gave a donation.
Tomorrow a friend and I are driving to a horse stable in the next town to drop off supplies to be taken down to the Asheville, NC area. They're sending two horse trailers full of supplies down and we want to get things in there in time.
Hopefully my husband won't want Panera again tomorrow...
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Post by peasapie on Oct 8, 2024 23:07:44 GMT
I'm feeling really blue today ... I had to put my dd's on a guilt trip to get them to spend Thanksgiving with me ... I felt hurt that I wasn't a priority but Dad and boyfriends were. We have something planned now but I hate that it had to happen this way ... I have read the entire thread but I cannot respond to everyone today ... I'm sorry! Well that sucks. I'm sorry you had to deal with that. |
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Post by bc2ca on Oct 9, 2024 1:08:56 GMT
Thanksgiving is just a day on a calendar. Even if they want to do something else on the actual day, schedule some time with them and make your own thanksgiving day. Wise words. It is hard to balance competing options for holiday dinners and can be the best gift to let them know another day works, as long as you get some time with them and the holiday favorites. I love that your DS wants to host this year, Delta Dawn . We went to an event today in someone's home where candidates running for a local election and for our district in Congress were speaking. It was interesting hear details about their background, why they are running for office, and how they would like to change things. We chatted with one of them privately afterwards and gave a donation. I love this. We have met both our current Rep and the previous one over the years and it made it exciting to vote for one (and against the other  ). |
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Post by Darcy Collins on Oct 9, 2024 1:17:29 GMT
Oh leannec - I'm so sorry! I'm feeling this with my kids too - my son just told me he didn't want to go on our family trip in March - I know I have to let go and let them fly - but damn it's hard! jeremysgirl - I went through so much testing as I have IBS - I gave up when they through at cheese. I'll suffer for cheese. Best of luck! |
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Post by tmarschall on Oct 9, 2024 2:48:16 GMT
8 know it's late and I'm bumping the thread. Just wanted to say cheers to those eating from your freezer, and sending love to those who are blue or worried or struggling. I did what I had to do today with work and the commute, so I'm proud I didn't get derailed again. But damn. So much crap. I don't mean to be cryptic...just family drama. Nick and I are great. But it's these family members who don't know how to have reciprocal supportive relationships. I'm just tired. Hoping we all have a little more bandwidth tomorrow. Xoxox
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Post by teddyw on Oct 9, 2024 3:10:17 GMT
My keyboard keeps acting up and I’ve typed out 2 different posts. I give up. Hopefully tomorrow this will be over.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Oct 9, 2024 3:13:18 GMT
jeremysgirl I got dinner ready at 1:15 pm and all the work was done. I had 5 (no I looked at the photo and there were 6vegetables) and meat. I did have EVOO and balsamic vinegar. Making dinner at 1 pm is so much easier. I put the tray in the oven and it was ready. Today was a great day.
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Post by scrapmaven on Oct 9, 2024 4:06:15 GMT
naby64, just know that you have a tribe w/you right now. We can't take away the devastation from these hurricanes or the worry, but we can certainly listen and offer you comfort and support. You have friends here. leannec, I hate TG, as you know. It comes w/shoulds and disappointment and for some of us high expectations that will never be met. In reality, it's just another day. No one gets to tell you which days are important. We get to make those choices for ourselves. I'm thinking of the staycation that you had w/your girls and how much fun you all had. Maybe things like that will be the way special time together looks. It doesn't always have to be a grand hotel and spa, but it's those little bonding moments that really matter. I go to TG at dh's cousin's house and I enjoy his family, but I hate watching everyone eat. Plus, TG's were so miserable for me growing up that I'd rather be anywhere else than a TG celebration. So, my special moments are elsewhere. I don't complain. I go and I put on a happy front, but I count the moments until it's over. There isn't a law that says we have to enjoy that day. For those people who enjoy TG, that's wonderful and make the most of it. For those of us who don't enjoy it, just remember that we have 364 other days to make special. tmarschall, they say that you can't choose your relatives. If they're being hurtful then tune out if you can. Stop answering phone, emails or texts and just take a break from their chaos. They'll live. You deserve to feel peace. They're causing some suffering and that's never allowed. ((((HUGS)))). I went to my neuro-gi today, because I thought the battery in my device died. It's not dead, but I'm at the top of the settings and it's not working well enough. So, I'm guessing that means that this is progressing. The team is going to call the device company and see if they reprogram it, so that it will go to higher settings. I'm trying not to go down the rabbit hole and I've decided to focus on the good stuff in life. I know that on occasion I'm going to progress. It's just chronic, but I'm sad that I can't just have a normal, healthy life. Tmw I'm going back to cleaning my office and I'm going to start my Hogwarts Castle Lego. I'm not going to let a disease tell me how I should feel.
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Post by leannec on Oct 9, 2024 4:20:20 GMT
leannec, I hate TG, as you know. It comes w/shoulds and disappointment and for some of us high expectations that will never be met. In reality, it's just another day. No one gets to tell you which days are important. We get to make those choices for ourselves. I'm thinking of the staycation that you had w/your girls and how much fun you all had. Maybe things like that will be the way special time together looks. It doesn't always have to be a grand hotel and spa, but it's those little bonding moments that really matter. Thanksgiving is not really a big deal to me it was just the fact that I wasn't considered at all ... I'm over it now and I know we will be fine ... thanks for your insightful and kind words! I went to my neuro-gi today, because I thought the battery in my device died. It's not dead, but I'm at the top of the settings and it's not working well enough. So, I'm guessing that means that this is progressing. The team is going to call the device company and see if they reprogram it, so that it will go to higher settings. I'm trying not to go down the rabbit hole and I've decided to focus on the good stuff in life. I know that on occasion I'm going to progress. It's just chronic, but I'm sad that I can't just have a normal, healthy life. Tmw I'm going back to cleaning my office and I'm going to start my Hogwarts Castle Lego. I'm not going to let a disease tell me how I should feel. You really amaze me with your positive attitude! I can be such a Negative Nelly! I need to look to you for inspiration! I hope that the device can be reprogrammed to higher settings for you.  |
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