kimi
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Aug 11, 2020 21:47:04 GMT
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Post by kimi on Nov 22, 2024 20:16:34 GMT
How to be a good (Thanksgiving) Dinner guest
1) If you are asked to RSVP, please do so by the provided date.
2) If you are bringing a dish (thank you!) please bring your own serving plate. Please do not expect the hostess to drop everything to find a plate for you.
3) If you are bringing children, please watch them and keep them out of the kitchen during prep (and keep them from destroying the house).
4) Please leave at a reasonable time. The hosts are tired. (My family dinners/gatherings tend to last 6 hours or more.)
Feel free to add yours.
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Tearisci
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Nov 6, 2018 16:34:30 GMT
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Post by Tearisci on Nov 22, 2024 20:20:53 GMT
If it's a potluck and you are bringing a dish, please prepare it ahead of time instead of in my kitchen where I'm already using all of the space. And don't show up when it's time to eat without your dish prepared.
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Post by lucyg on Nov 22, 2024 20:23:06 GMT
If it's a potluck and you are bringing a dish, please prepare it ahead of time instead of in my kitchen where I'm already using all of the space. And don't show up when it's time to eat without your dish prepared. You saved me the trouble of making my own post.  |
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Post by Merge on Nov 22, 2024 21:29:16 GMT
If you have extraordinary dietary needs, let me know well in advance and, if I can't accommodate them, please bring your own food.
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Post by lisae on Nov 22, 2024 21:36:36 GMT
Bring your own serving spoon for potluck dishes. Label every piece of your dishes including covers with your name.
I don't know how hosts feel about it, but as a guest I always appreciate people using crock pots to keep hot foods hot if there are sufficient outlets.
Also, mingle. We went to a potluck last year and at the end of the night I felt bad because I didn't really mingle that much with people I didn't know. (not my strong suit). We have been invited to the same dinner this year and I vow to mingle more and get to know the other guests.
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Post by craftedbys on Nov 22, 2024 21:52:00 GMT
If you are supposed to bring a side dish, show up before food is served. When you are told the dinner is at 2, don't roll in at 3:30 and then act all surprised Pikachu that most of the food is gone and no one wants your green beans, Robyn.
Don't let your child (who is old enough to be told it is rude) stand in front of the fruit platter and pick pieces off with their grubby fingers and eat it while standing there, ESPECIALLY when they have a snotty nose!
It is actually considered polite to speak to people when you arrive.
Just because your host declines any offers of help in meal prep because they have it all under control doesn't mean you can't help with clean up. At the very least, you could put your disposable plate and cup in the trash instead of leaving them wherever you ate.
Don't come in and acknowledge no one and then push to be first in line, pile your plate up with a ton of food, then go and sit IN YOUR HOSTS chair for the entire time you are there. Then leave your dirty plate sitting there when you get up and walk out without so much as a thank you to your host or speaking to any other guests the entire time.
Can you tell I am infinitely glad we no longer have to deal with DH's relatives at Thanksgiving? I miss my MIL terribly, but I hated seeing the way people treated her.
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Tearisci
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Nov 6, 2018 16:34:30 GMT
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Post by Tearisci on Nov 22, 2024 22:08:09 GMT
If it's a potluck and you are bringing a dish, please prepare it ahead of time instead of in my kitchen where I'm already using all of the space. And don't show up when it's time to eat without your dish prepared. You saved me the trouble of making my own post. Y'know, it's funny how times have changed from my old days. When I was married and living in a house, we hosted a few Thanksgiving dinners and those were my big pet peeves because it was more of a formal, sit-down type of dinner. It used to urk the hell out of me when someone would roll in at dinner time with an unfinished side and everything I had so perfectly timed went by the wayside. Now I live in a different state with different family members and my sister hosts the holidays. She enjoys a more free-form sort of holiday and encourages us to bring groceries over and cook in her house. She loves cooking together so I've now come to embrace that but I do miss fancier holidays once in awhile! |
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Nov 22, 2024 22:27:40 GMT
Do not monopolize the conversation. Let others have a chance to speak.
Listen to listen. Do not listen to reply.
Do Not spend the entire time on your phone or another device.
Do NOT check your phone while dining.
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anaterra
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Jun 29, 2014 3:04:02 GMT
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Post by anaterra on Nov 22, 2024 23:40:53 GMT
Do not monopolize the conversation. Let others have a chance to speak. Listen to listen. Do not listen to reply. Do Not spend the entire time on your phone or another device. Do NOT check your phone while dining. Listen to listen!!!! I love that!! I've never heard it before but i will never forget it Thank you |
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huskergal
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Post by huskergal on Nov 22, 2024 23:48:05 GMT
Show up on time.
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pantsonfire
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Post by pantsonfire on Nov 22, 2024 23:55:42 GMT
And do not stop and eat a meal before you arrive. Freaking rude. If someone if cooking for you, don't fill up on food. |
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Nov 22, 2024 23:57:44 GMT
Do not monopolize the conversation. Let others have a chance to speak. Listen to listen. Do not listen to reply. Do Not spend the entire time on your phone or another device. Do NOT check your phone while dining. Listen to listen!!!! I love that!! I've never heard it before but i will never forget it Thank you I saw it on social media. One of those random quote memes. It's great advice. |
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Post by cmpeter on Nov 23, 2024 2:54:31 GMT
Don't drink too much and bring up politics.
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