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Post by cindyupnorth on Nov 28, 2024 17:19:00 GMT
I put a cute pic of my dd and her bf on our cmas card. There are 4 other pics on it. One is of them. She gave me her permission before hand, and you quessed it. They broke up the day before thanksgiving. They had been dating for 2 years. So I thought I was safe. So dumb. So now what? Do I send them out just like they are? Probably less questions. Put a sticker over his face. Ha. Reorder them? They were 50$. What to do?
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Post by Merge on Nov 28, 2024 17:21:22 GMT
If you can afford it, I'd trash them and reorder. Lesson learned. Sorry that happened! ETA: if your dd is in a good place with the breakup, though, putting a sticker over his face would be pretty funny. 
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Post by chaosisapony on Nov 28, 2024 17:26:56 GMT
I would ask your daughter what she wants to do.
My inclination is to just send them out. I know some people that send out their Christmas cards before Thanksgiving so if you'd been one of them this year it would be too late anyway. People glance at the cards and toss them, to me this isn't something worth the added expense of reprinting and a sticker seems petty and would just lead to a bunch of questions.
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Post by monklady123 on Nov 28, 2024 17:36:54 GMT
Personally I love the sticker over his face idea, lol. As long as your dd was okay with doing it.
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Post by TankTop on Nov 28, 2024 17:51:34 GMT
I would hold off a few weeks. There might be a chance they reconcile and regardless, it will be easier for her to accept.
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Post by scrappinmama on Nov 28, 2024 17:55:29 GMT
That's a tough one. So sorry that happened. I hope your dd is handling the breakup well. If you can afford it, I would just submit a new order of cards. The sticker over his face is funny, but if you aren't prepared to ask all the questions, it will get old fast.
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Post by littlemama on Nov 28, 2024 17:59:52 GMT
You can send them out and rest assured that very few people will even pay attention to the pictures.
Or, you can pay to reorder.
Or, you can let the decision be your dd's.
For me it would depend on how long they had beem together, was the breakup ugly, was there abuse on either side, etc
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Post by christine58 on Nov 28, 2024 18:00:28 GMT
I put a cute pic of my dd and her bf on our cmas card. There are 4 other pics on it. One is of them. She gave me her permission before hand, and you quessed it. They broke up the day before thanksgiving. They had been dating for 2 years. So I thought I was safe. So dumb. So now what? Do I send them out just like they are? Probably less questions. Put a sticker over his face. Ha. Reorder them? They were 50$. What to do? I wouldn’t put a sticker over his face because then you’re gonna open yourself the phone calls. Is there anyway you can contact the company? Maybe they’d cut you a deal if you said look this is what happened, any coupon codes, etc. etc. I would redo them if you can afford to do so
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Post by malibou on Nov 28, 2024 18:07:33 GMT
I agree with those that say send it as is. I don't think most people will look at it that closely. I would check with dd though.
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Post by ellen on Nov 28, 2024 18:21:08 GMT
Both of my daughters recently had break ups after long relationships. They would be very annoyed with me if I sent out cards that had the former bf in them.
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Post by nine on Nov 28, 2024 18:29:43 GMT
Turkey stickers over his face…
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Nov 28, 2024 18:33:19 GMT
I would reprint the cards, even if it meant a financial loss on the first cards.
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Post by 950nancy on Nov 28, 2024 18:34:46 GMT
Since it is of your daughter, ask her what she would like you to do. Her opinion is the only one that matters.
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Post by lucyg on Nov 28, 2024 18:36:32 GMT
I would go along with what your DD wants, even if that means reprinting. I had to reprint $100 worth of Christmas cards the year my DGS was born, because I left the baby mama’s last name out of his double middle name. Not on purpose. Didn’t make any difference. She has hated me since the day she met me, right up through now, 17 years later. At least she has stopped threatening to send someone to kill me. 
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Post by disneypal on Nov 28, 2024 18:37:49 GMT
Send them out as is, just don’t send/give to your daughter
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Post by padresfan619 on Nov 28, 2024 18:43:27 GMT
I would ask your daughter what she wants to do and if she’s ok with you sending them, I’d send as is. I wouldn’t put a sticker over his face or call anymore attention to him.
If she wants you to get new cards, eat the loss and chalk it up to a lesson learned.
We always put partners on the end of wedding photos and other important family photos now. Years ago at a cousin’s wedding another family member’s then boyfriend was in the middle of all of the family photos. Then they broke up before the professional photos even got delivered to the bride and groom. That photo is still framed in my parent’s hallway and I roll my eyes every time I look at the guy.
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Post by epeanymous on Nov 28, 2024 18:47:34 GMT
I would reorder. I know it is pricey but this seems worth the money.
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Post by malibou on Nov 28, 2024 19:24:18 GMT
I just asked ds24, who has not had a girlfriend, and much to my surprise he immediately said, "No way can you send those out! The pea has to redo those!" And then said I was awful for saying I'd just send them out. 😐
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Post by bc2ca on Nov 28, 2024 19:54:56 GMT
I would ask DD for another photo and redo the cards.
It sucks, but I can't imagine even asking DD what she wants to do or if she is okay with the card going out with a happy couple photo.
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Post by GiantsFan on Nov 28, 2024 20:10:36 GMT
I would not send them out as is. Ask your DD how she would feel if you put a Christmas tree sticker over him.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Nov 28, 2024 20:33:35 GMT
I would ask your daughter what she wants to do and if she’s ok with you sending them, I’d send as is. I wouldn’t put a sticker over his face or call anymore attention to him. If she wants you to get new cards, eat the loss and chalk it up to a lesson learned. We always put partners on the end of wedding photos and other important family photos now. Years ago at a cousin’s wedding another family member’s then boyfriend was in the middle of all of the family photos. Then they broke up before the professional photos even got delivered to the bride and groom. That photo is still framed in my parent’s hallway and I roll my eyes every time I look at the guy. This is just a pic of them. Sooo. Yeah
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Post by manda on Nov 28, 2024 20:40:08 GMT
I’m surprised how many women say to send them out anyway. That feels disrespectful and hurtful to the daughter. Probably also embarrassing.
I say throw out the cards and get new ones printed
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Post by cadoodlebug on Nov 28, 2024 20:50:17 GMT
Seems like the perfect time for this meme. I'm among the Peas who say reorder. 
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Post by ~summer~ on Nov 28, 2024 21:16:34 GMT
I would just send out as is. Doesn’t seem like a big deal.
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Post by christinec68 on Nov 28, 2024 21:43:42 GMT
I would order new cards or just send store bought non-photo cards.
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Post by ellen on Nov 28, 2024 22:45:56 GMT
I just ran this scenario by my almost 22 year old daughter and she said that it would bug her a lot if I did this. Don’t do it.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Nov 28, 2024 23:36:40 GMT
I just ran this scenario by my almost 22 year old daughter and she said that it would bug her a lot if I did this. Don’t do it. Which one?
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Post by librarylady on Nov 28, 2024 23:37:31 GMT
I just ran this scenario by my almost 22 year old daughter and she said that it would bug her a lot if I did this. Don’t do it. Which one? Don't send photo with old boyfriend in the photo.
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Post by ellen on Nov 29, 2024 0:07:30 GMT
Don't send photo with old boyfriend in the photo. This.
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Post by gina on Nov 29, 2024 0:21:33 GMT
It's $50. I would reprint them.
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