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Post by kluski on Dec 8, 2024 15:04:46 GMT
I did. I was raised a Catholic. I even did when I lost my baby in pregnancy. I believed I would see her again. But, I am questioning it now that I’ve lost my mom. I really hope and pray that I will see her again. My struggle comes with how sad I am and that I can.not.stop crying and talking to her. There’s no way she can rejoice with the Lord or rest in peace knowing how much she is missed here. Of course, my dad is also lost without her. They were married over 60 yrs. She babied that man.
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Post by gina on Dec 8, 2024 15:16:17 GMT
Yes I believe in Heaven. Please don't be so sad thinking your Mom cannot rest in peace.  I think God protects her so she *can* rest in the afterlife. It doesn't mean you won't be sad here without her. It doesn't mean your Dad isn't lost without her. But I think God shields her up there from seeing so much of your sadness here so she can be at peace. I don't know if I am explaining that right. I haven't even had a cup of coffee yet.  I was raised Catholic, made all my sacraments but God and I have a very casual relationship.  I do not attend Church currently. I just know in my heart of hearts I will see him one day but I can't adequately explain the how or why. I guess that's part of the great mystery! And p.s. My parents have been together since they are 14 years old. My Mom is 69, my Dad is 70 - they have been married for 48 years. My Mom does EVERYTHING for him. So a lot of what you are saying are things I am always nervous about. My Dad will be absolutely lost if my Mom goes first. I am so sorry for the loss of your Mom and I hope you and your Dad have at least a little bit of peace remembering some happy ties with her this holiday season.
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Post by gar on Dec 8, 2024 15:22:26 GMT
I definitely do not believe in heaven as a religious idea - that, imo, is a man made concept to get people to behave a certain way and not something I want any part of.
I cannot rule out the possibility of an afterlife in some spiritual way that humans don’t understand yet but it’s 70/30 against in my mind.
I’m sorry you’re struggling with the loss of your Mum.
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Post by grammadee on Dec 8, 2024 15:25:06 GMT
((((( kluski)))), I believe that she can have peace and comfort where she is, but also reach toward you and fold you in a hug. When you talk to her, take a moment to listen for her reply. I bet some of her words will pop into your head. Maybe some of her peace will come with them. Feel her love. Or a small giggle as you hear her lecture you about getting your act together. She is closer than you think.
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Post by chaosisapony on Dec 8, 2024 15:27:22 GMT
I don't believe in heaven or an afterlife. I think that when we die that is it. There used to be a psychic on tv in the 90s that said she could talk to people "on the other side" and she always said that the spirits reported feeling nothing but peace and that they would check in on their loved ones frequently but that they did not have feelings of sadness, obligation, or miss people in the way we do. I'm very sorry for the loss of your mom.
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Post by artbabe on Dec 8, 2024 17:01:09 GMT
I don't believe in an afterlife. I know the thought is comforting to many people and I am so sorry for your loss.
My mom lives in my heart.
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Post by pilcas on Dec 8, 2024 17:11:24 GMT
I don’t believe in an afterlife. I accept that we all live and die and I believe that the concept of an afterlife was meant to be a confort to those left behind.
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Post by scrapmaven on Dec 8, 2024 17:31:03 GMT
I do believe in an afterlife, but I don't know what that entails. When my mother was dying she told me that she knew I was in agony, but that joy would return. It took time and space, but she was right. You will get through the fog and find a new normal and you will be happy, again. It takes a lot of time and patience. Grief comes in waves. It's been many years since I lost my parents and sometimes it does feel like it just happened. Those moments are few and far btwn. I think of my folks every day. Though I miss them, I know that they're w/me.
This will get much much better. It will!
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Post by mom on Dec 8, 2024 17:50:26 GMT
Yes, I believe in Heaven. I've also lost a child and my mom. I don't know how they are at peace, but I KNOW they are. I am sorry you are hurting so much and I will be praying for you.
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Post by Merge on Dec 8, 2024 18:17:06 GMT
I don’t know. I do know I don’t believe in the Christian concept of heaven and hell as places of reward or torment based on what we do in life. I would like to think there is an afterlife where we can see our loved ones again, but as no one has come back to say for sure … I just don’t know.
I am sorry for the loss of your mom and hope you can find peace in the days to come. Grief is the worst, especially at this time of year.
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Post by Gennifer on Dec 8, 2024 18:19:10 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss. Would you like to share something about your mom here? If not, that’s fine, but I’d love to hear one of your favorite memories of her.
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Dec 8, 2024 18:19:49 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss.
I prefer the idea that there is something beyond this life, but I do not believe in the heaven/afterlife of any religion. I grew up Catholic and believed to some extent, but for some reason, the idea of the heaven in the Bible never really felt quite right to me.
I have two thoughts at this point. The first is that this is it. We live and then we don’t. The other is that we contain multitudes. We are energy and energy goes somewhere. The vastness of space, the evidence that we are seemingly not alone, and the scientific theories that also seem to show we are in ways connected and that time is not linear make me settle on, more days than not, that we exist beyond this known world and that it may not be a heaven, Valhalla, Elysian Fields, that we go to, but that we continue to exist and interact with those we are bonded with in ways we cannot understand in this timeline.
This gives me much more peace than the idea of cubic heaven full of gold and pearly gates where only the chosen go to and everyone else is thrown into a place of eternal torture. Or nothing.
So, that’s where I am now.
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Post by Zee on Dec 8, 2024 18:36:50 GMT
Not really, but none of us knows for sure. I know our energy disperses after we die and goes out into the universe, but I don't know that we'll be conscious of it. We will all find out one day and that's all I need to know at this point.
What I'd really like to do is travel the universe after I die, learning things and seeing things, but I don't expect that will happen. It would be pretty cool though.
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Post by bc2ca on Dec 8, 2024 18:42:41 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. I missed my mom for years before she finally passed with dementia, so even though the grief was real, it wasn't as acute as losing someone who was actively involved in daily life. I do talk to her and about her with my dad, siblings and kids as well as just thinking about her all the time but I don't believe I will see her again.
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Post by MichyM on Dec 8, 2024 18:46:18 GMT
I am so sorry for you and your family's loss. Sending hugs and love.
I do not believe in an afterlife, and haven't ever, even as a child who was very involved in a Jewish upbringing. When my mom was in her last few months we talked about it. I felt really bad when I realized how sad she was by my non-belief. I know it would have given her comfort if I believed :/
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Post by disneypal on Dec 8, 2024 18:49:49 GMT
Yes, I 100% believe in Heaven. I am so, so sorry for how much you are missing your mother but I do believe you will be reunited with her & I believe that although she is so missed, that she is rejoicing because she’s with our Lord and she’s watching over you. Grief is so hard, it never ends but with time, it does become more manageable
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Post by workingclassdog on Dec 8, 2024 18:52:48 GMT
Yes absolutely. I feel like if I didn't believe there was no heaven or whatever, I would be very sad/depressed that there was no way I would ever see my loved ones again. I totally believe there is.
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Post by lisae on Dec 8, 2024 19:16:54 GMT
I don't know. Most of the time I don't think that I do but then I visit my parents graves and talk to them.
I don't believe that people can't rest in peace if they are missed here on earth. Grief takes time. I still talk about my mother 3 years on but not as often. My thoughts are more at peace now. It just takes time. I'm sorry for your loss. My advice would be not to rush yourself through the grieving process to help her. Let her give you the gift of time to deal with the loss.
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Post by librarylady on Dec 8, 2024 19:33:15 GMT
I don't know. One day I do, the next day I don't. Whatever it is, I do not believe it is streets of gold, etc.
A friend said, "We go back to where we were before we were born." I like that and that is probably the best explanation of what happens after death.
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Post by rickmer on Dec 8, 2024 19:46:57 GMT
I don't believe, but I don't not believe either, if that makes sense. I wouldn't be surprised that death is final and there is nothing, but also wouldn't be surprised to find out I am wrong.
I am sorry for your loss. grief is never easy. big hugs.
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Post by lucyg on Dec 8, 2024 20:51:32 GMT
I do not, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t. Yes, I know, not helpful.
I hope you can find some peace with the loss of your mother eventually. Your feelings are still raw right now. Hopefully you won’t feel that way forever. Give yourself time to heal.
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Post by TXMary on Dec 8, 2024 21:16:34 GMT
I do believe in heaven/afterlife. If I thought this was all there was, I couldn't get out of bed in the morning. I understand why some people don't, but it brings me comfort and if I'm wrong- I guess I will never know it because I'll be dead and there will be nothing.  My dad and grandma died in 1993 and my sister in 2020 and I absolutely believe that I will see them again. I'm so sorry for your loss and your pain. It's so hard to lose those closest to us. Be kind to yourself, especially over the holidays. Sending you hugs.
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Post by mollycoddle on Dec 8, 2024 21:57:54 GMT
No. I wish that I could believe it, because it sounds comforting. But logically, it doesn’t make sense to me.
Having said that, if you believe, and it gives you comfort, that’s great. Maybe I’m just a cranky old skeptic. I am sorry for your loss.
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Post by mollycoddle on Dec 8, 2024 22:02:42 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. I missed my mom for years before she finally passed with dementia, so even though the grief was real, it wasn't as acute as losing someone who was actively involved in daily life. I do talk to her and about her with my dad, siblings and kids as well as just thinking about her all the time but I don't believe I will see her again. I do the same thing. I don’t believe in an afterlife, but I talk to my deceased parents sometimes. 🥴 I have no explanation. I miss them.
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Post by peano on Dec 8, 2024 22:29:31 GMT
I don't believe in the afterlife as in pearly gates etc. and my Jewish religious upbringing taught me that "heaven" and "hell" are how we are remembered after we're gone. That being said, I think there's a whole energetic world out there that is part of a greater something (think the Force from Star Wars) and when our energy disperses after we die it rejoins that energy.
Kind of off topic, but also kind of related, I read a fascinating article yesterday about a researcher at the U. of Virginia School of Medicine who has studied young children's stories of past lives. One case is that of a 2-year-old who started having nightmares about being a WW2 fighter pilot being shot down. The researcher was able to match the little boy's recalled memories and corroborate many of them with research he's done.
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Post by mymindseyedpea on Dec 8, 2024 23:24:14 GMT
Sorry about your mom. I hope you can find a way to connect with her beyond this realm.
I connect with my loved ones on the other side a lot.
One recent time was with my grandparents who raised me. One of my child memories was my grandfather playing the piano. Then I took it up.
As I was walking about with one of my regular customers Louann who makes lavender sachets from the bees. And somehow in our conversation I mentioned Ain’t misbehaving to her. My grandfather would play it on the piano. I haven’t thought of that in years.
A couple days later I’m in a store and the song comes on.
Yes I believe there is more than what can be proven.
ETA: Watching this movie ( if you have access to Halmark) may bring you some comfort, especially if you like choir:
Time for her to come home for Christmas
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Post by ILoveToScrapPea on Dec 8, 2024 23:48:53 GMT
Yes, I absolutely believe there’s a Heaven. I believe I’ll see my dad again. He’s been gone since 2001. I wouldn’t have any comfort at all if I didn’t believe there’s a Heaven.
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Post by lesley on Dec 9, 2024 0:12:33 GMT
No, I don’t believe in heaven, nor in an afterlife. Because if there were such a place, then why would it not also be an afterlife for every other life form that has been on earth? That would be pretty crowded! I believe we are matter and energy, again just like every other life form, and when we die, we simply cease to be. Nothing else makes sense to me.
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Post by voltagain on Dec 9, 2024 0:30:46 GMT
I did. I was raised a Catholic. I even did when I lost my baby in pregnancy. I believed I would see her again. But, I am questioning it now that I’ve lost my mom. I really hope and pray that I will see her again. My struggle comes with how sad I am and that I can.not.stop crying and talking to her. There’s no way she can rejoice with the Lord or rest in peace knowing how much she is missed here. Of course, my dad is also lost without her. They were married over 60 yrs. She babied that man. I strongly believe in an after life. However, I do not believe those who have passed are aware of our life as it continues on without their presence. They remember the life we had with them while they were alive but their death breaks that connection and it is a past memory with no "looking down to see us in our current state" I also believe when our time to pass comes that family members come to help us pass but the time between their passing and our passing is not a measurable time to them. They walked through death's door and seconds later they turn around to open that door for us. But while we are waiting for our time to die it is 30+ years of life going on that they have no awareness of. My dad was the first in his city/county to be diagnosed and died from covid. My parents had been married 60ish years before his death. Mom has not been the same since. I miss him horribly but I dream of him often. He loved wood working. When I dream of him he is always set up with his wood working tools under a bright blue clear sky on a pleasantly warm day. He measures, cuts and is preparing to build something. I can hear him whistling. In one dream he told me he can't wait to see my again.
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Post by moodyblue on Dec 9, 2024 0:32:00 GMT
I don’t believe in the religious concepts of heaven and hell; never have. Are there things that have happened that I can't really explain? Yes, but I don’t know that those support the idea of heaven and an afterlife.
I do believe that we are energy and energy goes somewhere - I believe it’s in the first law of thermodynamics, about energy not being destroyed.
Would I like to believe that I’ll see my husband again? Of course, but I don’t. If I’m wrong, it will be one helluva great surprise.
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