As if I don't have enough to worry about...*UPDATE 1/28*

I have written here before about my darling DIL, who is from Mexico. She and my son got married in early May, and she is trying to do all the right things to be able to live and work here legally. I really had no idea what all goes into it, but it is first of all, expensive. They are working with an immigration attorney, but they are trying to save the money they need to file everything and pay the attorney. I've been nervous about it all since before Trump was elected, but I am even more nervous now that I see what is going on. No, I don't think anyone is going to come knocking on their door, but I do worry about her being out and about. Since she can't work yet, she is home by herself while my son works, and she does go out to a nearby park to walk with her dog. 

Last week, she had a miscarriage. Of all days, on inauguration day. She was afraid to even go to an urgent care because right now, she is just here on a visa. It's good until July, so she is not here illegally, but she is scared, and I don't blame her. 

I also worry that going through the legal channels is going to be so much more difficult for her now. I am hoping that within a month or so, I can loan them the remaining money they need, but I'm still worried. Worried that she is going to encounter roadblocks and have to move back to her home before it all goes through. My son will be devastated if that happens. 

Do you think Trump's policies are going to make it more difficult for her to go through the legal channels to be able to legally live and work here?

Also, next week, she is going home to visit her family. I'm a nervous wreck about her getting back here. 

I hate this. I have knots in my stomach just thinking about it.

**UPDATE 1/28**

Thank you all so much! I'm sorry I haven't gotten back to this thread. It's been a crazy week. And yeah, it's only Tuesday. LOL



Thankfully, my daughter in law decided just a bit ago that she is not going home. We talked on the phone this afternoon, and she told me she is used to traveling, being questioned, etc, and she said I need to trust her that she will be okay. She's not doing anything wrong, she's here legally, etc. She thought she would be okay because she was going to fly into and out of Mexico, when she typically flies into and out of San Diego. She thought it would go better since she wouldn't be driving across the border.



I hung up feeling a bit less nervous. But then a few hours later, my son called me and said she's not going after all. I guess after she talked to me, she called her mom, and her mom told her she has a bad feeling and wants her to stay here. My dil is upset, she is very close to her mom, but I think she now realizes what could happen. I feel bad for her, but at the same time, I am so relieved. This girl is just the sweetest, and she has been so wonderful to and for my son. I can't even imagine if she went and wasn't allowed back in. He told me tonight that if that had happened, he would have moved back there. (He lived there with her for over a year before they moved back here and got married).

I am so relieved. I haven't been sleeping well because of worrying about this. So many people in my family are huge Trump supporters, and they all love my dil. But dang. I was to the point that I was ready to cut them all out of my life if something happened to her while she was traveling. I do feel bad for her because she really wants to see her mom right now. They are going to try to get a refund on her plane ticket and give the money to her mom to come here.



Also, I bit the bullet late Sunday night and asked STBX if he would help pay the fees so they can get everything rolling for her application, and he said he would. He actually has given them money to help them out with other things before, and I did acknowledge that to him. They didn't want to ask him for more, and I told him that and asked him to please not tell them that I asked. I told him if he could give them half of what they need, I will give the other half. So that is what we will do. I will be so relieved when everything is filed and she has papers saying so.



Thank you all again.