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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 2, 2025 14:00:04 GMT
Basket1lady in all of my dating years I have had exactly one friend that was concerned with how tall their boyfriend was. And that my college BFF who happens to be 6'3" tall herself. I have never otherwise heard a single discussion of height among my friends over the years. I just don't buy that height is a big issue. I think it's true a lot of women prefer taller men... but I also can't think of any I know personally who otherwise really liked a man and their height was a dealbreaker. I think it's a common excuse that shorter men tell themselves when the real issue was something else. And perhaps some women do tell men they don't want want a second date because they prefer taller guys, but I highly doubt that's the primary reason. Only about 15% of American men are 6', so the math ain't mathing when the online manchildren whine that women won't date anyone under 6'. Even if you attributed the drop in long-term relationships/marriages SOLELY to women refusing to date shorter men, the math doesn't work (and OF COURSE, it's ludicrous to think any meaningful portion of the drop could be due to "being picky about height). It's always the men saying they are "quality men" but women won't date them because they're 5' 9" whose online posts make it very clear there is nothing "quality" about them, and their height has nothing to do with why they're not partnered. Women don't want them because they're entitled, misogynistic losers and women now have the option to be successful and happy on their own instead of being miserable with someone like that. I agree. When you consider the average height for females in the U.S. is 5’ 3.5”, it shouldn’t be too tough for average height males (5’ 9”) to be taller than their potential mate. So I’m going with the answer of “it has to be something else” that’s the turnoff. In my younger years, I dated both short guys and tall guys and didn’t have a problem kicking any of them to the curb when they turned out to be assholes. Maybe because women today are realizing that they have more options and opportunity, they feel less compelled to “settle” so they don’t. Good example is my older sister. I think she had/has an undiagnosed learning disability so she never did well in school or felt like she could do anything or support herself, which was compounded by having older brothers who constantly called her dumb. She latched onto the first guy she ever dated and then married him even though he showed all the signs even then that he was an abusive loser (which he in fact turned out to be). She’s been with him now for close to 50 years and still feels like she couldn’t do better and wouldn’t be able to support herself so she stays. I would have kicked him to the curb decades ago when he showed his true colors. (FTR, he’s about 5’ 9” and over the years many people have accused him of having Little Man’s Syndrome. 🤷🏻♀️) |
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Apr 2, 2025 16:21:46 GMT
Like I said before, I do think height is an obstacle in dating, but when I think of the short and semi-short men I know in my life and that I work with, most of them are married or (in the case of a couple of younger guys) are in solid relationships or have been.
The couple who are not married/in relationships definitely have other quirks that may make it hard to connect with (very opinionated types.) The shortest guy I work with is super nice and has kids, and he has been married for years. Another, younger guy who is probably 5'6 is also super nice, good looking and very athletic--runs ultramarathons. He hasn't had a hard time finding women. These are not wealthy men since they are teachers. A couple of the tallest men I work with, didn't find relationships until in their mid-30s and early 40s
I think if you come to a relationship a full person (have a steady job, can "seek to understand", have good hygiene/present in a way that shows you care, are mentally/ohysically healthy or working to be mentally/physically healthy--within what you have control over, have a personality/interests outside of gaming/watching sports, and are looking for a partnership and not to be "taken care of" like an overgrown child) you should, in most cases, attract people. Be interesting. Be open.
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