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Post by melanell on Apr 9, 2025 11:05:24 GMT
One of my kids was born on April 20th. And I feel bad about it, because I chose the date! At the time, I wasn't considering the date at all. I wasn't thinking about marijuana jokes or my poor kid sharing a birthday with the most evil of men. I was only considering the doctor and the day of the week. I was told to pick a day because I had to have a scheduled c-section that time around. The first thing I did was ask what days my preferred doctor would be available and she was available Tues. and Friday. I knew if I had the baby Tuesday, and all went well, I'd go home Friday, which I liked, because I wouldn't have to jump into the school routine the very first days we were home. Plus, let's face it, Tuesday meant 3 less days of being very pregnant. So I happily chose Tuesday, and I didn't think of the associations with that date ahead of time. I was too busy being so pleased with how it all worked out. And so that's my confession on how I gave my kid a crappy birthday.  |
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Post by pilcas on Apr 9, 2025 11:54:14 GMT
It’s not a crappy birthday. There is no need to worry about who else was born on that day.Its not even something most people know.
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Post by epeanymous on Apr 9, 2025 11:58:20 GMT
It’s my husband’s birthday too. Honestly has not been a big deal.
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Post by melanell on Apr 9, 2025 12:06:22 GMT
I'm terrible with remembering dates, myself. I only know the birthdays of my immediate family. After that I only know birth months for everyone else. So historic or famous people? Forget it. I never know their birthdates. It's really only this year that I'm hearing more people talk about who shares that birthdate.
But man alive, the 420 thing? I hear that every year, and now that my kid is older, they hear it too.
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Post by 3boysnme on Apr 9, 2025 12:52:37 GMT
You need to forget about the birth of evil and concentrate on the ones who are also born on that day...Shemar Moore, George Tekei, Luther Vandross and a whole slew of others who are decidedly not evil. The 420 aspect of it, cannot be helped.
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Post by Restless Spirit on Apr 9, 2025 12:59:12 GMT
Hello, my name is Karen and I was born on April 20th.
Yeah. It sucks. The wise ass remarks are getting old. It’s not witty. It’s not clever. It’s not funny. And of course people just love love love, poking poking poking and making jokes.
Honestly, I’ve started to make passive aggressive remarks right back.
“Wow.”. Did you mean to say that out loud? You’re really losing it.” Person: confused look.
“What did you just say?” Make them repeat it. “Okay then.” And walk away. I have found that when they have to repeat the insult, it makes them uncomfortable.
My current favorite. “Are you okay?” They look at me confused and say huh? What? Me: “What you just said was so… Bizarre. I just wondered if you were feeling OK.” Walk away. Takes the wind right out of their sails.
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Post by idahomom on Apr 9, 2025 13:37:31 GMT
My son was born on April Fool's Day so I understand  |
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Apr 9, 2025 13:53:05 GMT
It's not a whole lot different than people born on other holidays, but at least it's not a traditional gift giving holiday. My oldest niece was born on Christmas Day. The quips and comments are never ending - and do get old to her. Then we have my DH - born on Valentine's Day. He said the teasing growing up was constant. He just spent 7 months in hospital and rehab. Anytime he was given medications, tests, x-rays he had to verify his name and birthday, which was several times a day. Even I was beginning to get annoyed with the quips and jokes!
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Post by Restless Spirit on Apr 9, 2025 13:57:03 GMT
My son was born on April Fool's Day so I understand So was my mother-in-law. I was not fond of the woman, but I had to admit she had a very graceful way of handling it whenever birthdates came up. She would say April 1 - Yes! I’m an April Fool! It’s fun that everyone celebrates my birthday- and then giggle like it was a fun thing. Boy, did that shut everyone down. She made it “her” joke, so there was nothing anyone else could say. I always thought that was very clever of her. |
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Post by Skellinton on Apr 9, 2025 14:00:42 GMT
It has never occurred to me in my whole life to give someone a hard time or make a negative comment about someone's birthday date.
I can't believe anyone would, how weird. I have known people born on February 29, Christmas, April Fools St Patrick's Day, Valentine's Day and Groundhog Day. Never crossed my mind to make a comment about it.
I also don't remember 420 being a thing growing up. I am 53, but I never heard any 420 stuff until I was an adult. Was that always a thing?
ETA I have a relative that shares Walt Disney's birthday, I did comment on that when I learned it!
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Post by Merge on Apr 9, 2025 14:07:07 GMT
My husband was born on St. Patrick's Day and our oldest daughter on Cinco de Mayo - two big drinking holidays. I guess I don't see the issue.
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Post by garcia5050 on Apr 9, 2025 14:11:39 GMT
My daughter was born on 6/6/05. And I thought, what if it was a year later? I really wouldn’t want my child to have a 6/6/06 birthday.
I used to listen to a parenting podcast where the mom talked about accidentally scheduling her c-section for 6/6/06 and when she realized, she moved it by a day. I think I would too.
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Post by gillyp on Apr 9, 2025 14:16:48 GMT
The date means absolutely nothing to me and I’ve only ever heard it through this forum as having a “meaning”. As soon as it’s mentioned on here I have to Google and then I’ve usually forgotten within a couple of days.  |
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Post by janet on Apr 9, 2025 14:52:54 GMT
My son was born on April Fool's Day so I understand *I* was born on April Fools Day and have been getting it all my life - I do understand! |
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Post by luckyjune on Apr 9, 2025 15:00:43 GMT
My twins were born on the 13th of June. Their 13th birthday fell on a Friday the 13th. They didn't feel alone, however, because their band teacher (also a twin) had the same birthday, as did another set of twins they went to school with (they were born just before my twins in sthe same hospital).
Their birthday is the reason for my Pea name. I had twins on the 13th and that seems kind of lucky to me!
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Post by TXMary on Apr 9, 2025 15:08:37 GMT
My oldest brother's birthday is April 20th. That date is now just connected to some really bad stuff. And no, none of it has anything to do with him but it still gets some comments. Not a huge deal but I get what you're saying.
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Post by Bridget in MD on Apr 9, 2025 15:31:47 GMT
My son's Boy Scout troop was 420. I NEVER heard anything about Weed Day or whatever until he was in that troop. It didn't help that their trailer had "on our way to high adventure!" stenciled on the back.  ETA I realize you are talking about AH's bday but I hope this made you giggle. |
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Post by SnoopyFan on Apr 9, 2025 18:46:14 GMT
It has never occurred to me in my whole life to give someone a hard time or make a negative comment about someone's birthday date. I can't believe anyone would, how weird. I have known people born on February 29, Christmas, April Fools St Patrick's Day, Valentine's Day and Groundhog Day. Never crossed my mind to make a comment about it. I also don't remember 420 being a thing growing up. I am 53, but I never heard any 420 stuff until I was an adult. Was that always a thing?ETA I have a relative that shares Walt Disney's birthday, I did comment on that when I learned it! I'm 56 and didn't know about 420 until I was in my 40s. My birthday is September 11th. I feel guilty sometimes about going out to celebrate. |
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Post by melanell on Apr 9, 2025 19:57:22 GMT
My son was born on April Fool's Day so I understand  My great grandfather was born on April Fool's Day as well, and he would get quite unhappy with anyone who dared to try to prank him on his birthday.  |
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Post by melanell on Apr 9, 2025 20:00:08 GMT
My son was born on April Fool's Day so I understand So was my mother-in-law. I was not fond of the woman, but I had to admit she had a very graceful way of handling it whenever birthdates came up. She would say April 1 - Yes! I’m an April Fool! It’s fun that everyone celebrates my birthday- and then giggle like it was a fun thing. Boy, did that shut everyone down. She made it “her” joke, so there was nothing anyone else could say. I always thought that was very clever of her. I'll have to tell my kid to start telling people in advance that they accept pot brownies in lieu of cake. |
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Post by melanell on Apr 9, 2025 20:09:08 GMT
Hugs to all of you that have either difficult birthdates or ones people insist on making wisecracks about. My birthdate doesn't bring about any comments, but my maiden name would get a comment out of pretty much every person I ever met, so I get the annoyance factor. My maiden name is an everyday word, but not an occupation based one like "Baker". It's more like "Frog". So, lots and lots of jokes & "clever" comments. "Yes, Frog spawn--never heard that one before."  |
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Post by jill8909 on Apr 9, 2025 20:32:01 GMT
no idea what April 20th is~
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Post by compeateropeator on Apr 9, 2025 20:36:36 GMT
We had pretty big 420 celebrations when I was in College during the 80s. I am 59. It has been around a long time but has really only gained energy after more states were heading toward legalizing,IMO. But I am from a hippy state so…😆😆
Sorry forgot to paste the quote originally.
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Post by bethany102399 on Apr 9, 2025 23:42:57 GMT
It’s not a crappy birthday. There is no need to worry about who else was born on that day.Its not even something most people know. it was my dad's birthday too. He would have been 83 this year. As DD's birthday is the 19th we often celebrate around this date. It's special because it's their birthday end of story. |
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Post by workingclassdog on Apr 10, 2025 1:47:48 GMT
I have two friends born on 9/11. I think that is just about the worst scenario there is. 😥😥 both of them are very lovely ladies and full of grace so they take it with a grain of salt.
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 10, 2025 2:46:24 GMT
One of my kids was born on April 20th. And I feel bad about it, because I chose the date! At the time, I wasn't considering the date at all. I wasn't thinking about marijuana jokes or my poor kid sharing a birthday with the most evil of men. I was only considering the doctor and the day of the week. I was told to pick a day because I had to have a scheduled c-section that time around. The first thing I did was ask what days my preferred doctor would be available and she was available Tues. and Friday. I knew if I had the baby Tuesday, and all went well, I'd go home Friday, which I liked, because I wouldn't have to jump into the school routine the very first days we were home. Plus, let's face it, Tuesday meant 3 less days of being very pregnant. So I happily chose Tuesday, and I didn't think of the associations with that date ahead of time. I was too busy being so pleased with how it all worked out. And so that's my confession on how I gave my kid a crappy birthday.  I have a 4/20 kiddo as well (not my choice-woke up at 6 am with my water breaking and almost drowning the poor dog sleeping with his head on my leg). At the time, 4/20 wasn't a thing or at least a big thing. I also call him MJ (nothing to do with the devils' wacky lettuce). He isn't into pot (or Hitler). Marijuana is legal here and it really isn't a big deal to any of us. I think some of his friends might have thought it was cool when he was in high school, but he is super chill about it (and most things). |
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Post by KiwiJo on Apr 10, 2025 3:32:23 GMT
…….. But man alive, the 420 thing? I hear that every year, and now that my kid is older, they hear it too. I have no clue about the significance of 420 - but if it’s a terrible thing in your mind perhaps you could switch the way you say dates to how we say them in NZ and Australia (and some other countries too, no doubt) - we say 20 April and the abbreviated way is 20/4. Would that be better for you? 😁 |
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Post by jemali on Apr 10, 2025 3:40:48 GMT
I know someone who got married on October 31. He knew it was a bad sign when his new MIL came dressed as a witch…
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Post by Zee on Apr 10, 2025 4:12:33 GMT
Hello, my name is Karen and I was born on April 20th. Yeah. It sucks. The wise ass remarks are getting old. It’s not witty. It’s not clever. It’s not funny. And of course people just love love love, poking poking poking and making jokes. Honestly, I’ve started to make passive aggressive remarks right back. “Wow.”. Did you mean to say that out loud? You’re really losing it.” Person: confused look. “What did you just say?” Make them repeat it. “Okay then.” And walk away. I have found that when they have to repeat the insult, it makes them uncomfortable. My current favorite. “Are you okay?” They look at me confused and say huh? What? Me: “What you just said was so… Bizarre. I just wondered if you were feeling OK.” Walk away. Takes the wind right out of their sails. Do they tell you you're being a Karen about it? |
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Post by Zee on Apr 10, 2025 4:13:15 GMT
I know someone who got married on October 31. He knew it was a bad sign when his new MIL came dressed as a witch… I think that would be an excellent sign! Cool family 😁 |
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