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Post by tuva42 on Jan 15, 2015 22:10:43 GMT
There were a group of a dozen or so girls who grew up with my DD in our neighborhood. They are all 21 or 22 now, and my DD has only kept in contact with a couple of them. She just saw a FB post from one of them that makes it sound like one of the others has died!! I have some friends who've kept up with the parents of this girl, but I think it would be really inappropriate for me to just call and ask. This just breaks my heart if she has passed away, I want someone to tell me she's okay!!!
Thanks for listening. Not really looking for advice, just venting and worrying.
Update: It is the worst news possible. She died of an overdose. It isn't known yet if this was suicide or an unintentional overdose. My heart is breaking for her family. Her mom and I were pregnant with our girls at the same time. The girl was in my Girl Scout troop for 7 years. She was so smart and had so much potential.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Jan 15, 2015 22:16:28 GMT
Hope it was just a poorly worded post and you find out soon.
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Post by 1lear on Jan 15, 2015 22:21:36 GMT
I would want to know, too!
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Post by Judy26 on Jan 15, 2015 22:24:07 GMT
Go to the girl in question's FB page. If something happened chances are good someone posted on her page. You get the info. without anyone knowing. I hope all is well!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 15, 2015 22:25:46 GMT
Could your DD not private message the other FB poster and ask her to clarify her post maybe? Then it wouldn't be open on her timeline for everyone to see.
That's very sad given her age if it is true.
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Post by eebud on Jan 15, 2015 22:31:09 GMT
I would also go to her FB page and see if there is anything there. I just did this yesterday for an old friend, not a close friend, but someone I reconnected with on FB about a year ago. In my case, it was true. He did die. I then went to our hometown newspaper obituaries online and found him there too.
I hope the young lady is ok and a post was misinterpreted.
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Post by scrappersue on Jan 15, 2015 22:32:46 GMT
I agree with the Facebook page idea. If she has passed away people will be posting memorials there.
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Post by PaperAngel on Jan 15, 2015 22:35:56 GMT
You may be able to Google "obituary [girl's name]." If she has a common name, it would be beneficial to know her current town/city &/or state. Hope your daughter misinterpreted the FB post, & another young life isn't lost...
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Post by miss_lizzie on Jan 15, 2015 22:39:15 GMT
You may be able to Google "obituary [girl's name]." If she has a common name, it would be beneficial to know her current town/city &/or state. Hope your daughter misinterpreted the FB post, & another young life isn't lost... That's what I do. I hope your DD's friend is okay. |
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Post by anonrefugee on Jan 15, 2015 23:01:05 GMT
I guess we have a nosyy neighborhood because I / we would text the Mom We Trust and ask if everything is okay.
If it's not there would be an almost instant food calendar, lawn maintenance, helping schedule worked out.
We've had a couple of unexpected tragedies the past year and have learned helping hands are nearby.
Hope your DD's friend is fine!
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Post by Tuttle on Jan 15, 2015 23:06:45 GMT
Do you know any of their Twitter handles? Or Instagram names? People that age tend to use those social media outlets more often than Facebook.
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Post by tuva42 on Jan 15, 2015 23:11:57 GMT
I googled and found nothing. Checked local obits and there's nothing. Checked her FB page and there's nothing, but it may be because of privacy settings. She's in college in another state. But just now up popped a new Facebook event page with a candlelight memorial planned for her at the high school the girls all went to on Sunday night. My DD sent a private message to her friend and I've sent one to one of the moms who knew her. Haven't heard yet, but my heart is breaking. I'm afraid its true. Such a beautiful, smart girl, so filled with potential! Thanks for understanding my frustration and dilemma.
I expect something happened to her in another state and the word got out to some of her friends before her family has even been able to deal with it all.
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Post by anonrefugee on Jan 16, 2015 1:00:10 GMT
I'm sorry!! She's ao young, that's extra difficult.
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Post by Dalai Mama on Jan 16, 2015 1:28:02 GMT
This happened to me before Christmas. I just went to the original post, posted 'Wait, what?' and had a pm with an explanation within 15 minutes. I hope your daughter's friend is okay.
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Post by freecharlie on Jan 16, 2015 4:25:33 GMT
Google her full name in quotations. Add her birth date if you can.
Go to one of the other friend's page and see there.
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Post by leftturnonly on Jan 16, 2015 4:28:18 GMT
I googled and found nothing. Checked local obits and there's nothing. Checked her FB page and there's nothing, but it may be because of privacy settings. She's in college in another state. But just now up popped a new Facebook event page with a candlelight memorial planned for her at the high school the girls all went to on Sunday night. My DD sent a private message to her friend and I've sent one to one of the moms who knew her. Haven't heard yet, but my heart is breaking. I'm afraid its true. Such a beautiful, smart girl, so filled with potential! Thanks for understanding my frustration and dilemma. I expect something happened to her in another state and the word got out to some of her friends before her family has even been able to deal with it all.  |
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Post by tuva42 on Jan 16, 2015 15:15:15 GMT
Thanks for the advice. I did message a friend who has kept up with them and she did get back with me to say that the girl had died of a drug overdose. No one knows any details yet. So very heartbreaking.
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Post by librarylady on Jan 16, 2015 15:23:08 GMT
I know how you feel. A girl, same age as my son, died of OD. I taught her in SS for about 5 years etc.
She had an accidental OD at her grandmother's table when she was housesitting for the grandmother. She was in her early 20s.
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Post by mimima on Jan 16, 2015 15:24:48 GMT
I'm sorry. May her Memory be Eternal
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Post by Deleted on Jan 16, 2015 15:31:49 GMT
I'm so very sorry.
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Post by jenjie on Jan 16, 2015 16:41:49 GMT
I'm so so sorry.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 16, 2015 16:42:48 GMT
I am so sorry. It is heartbreaking to hear such news. Hugs.
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Post by anonrefugee on Jan 16, 2015 17:39:24 GMT
Please please please reach out to her mom with a fond memory of her DD!!!! Do not let the circumstance prevent you from contacting her, or tell yourself you' don't want to bother her at this time.
She needs to know her child won't be forgotten, and her whole life was not the same as it was at the end.
Trust me. I know.
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Post by oaksong on Jan 16, 2015 17:49:54 GMT
How devastating! It must be heartbreaking for all of you. So sorry!
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Post by Dori~Mama~Bear on Jan 16, 2015 17:57:05 GMT
That is so sad.. hugs.
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Post by annabella on Jan 16, 2015 18:25:03 GMT
Wow that's terrible, I'm so sorry!
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Post by seriousscrapper on Jan 16, 2015 18:42:09 GMT
I'm so very sorry. ((((Hugs))))
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Post by calgal08 on Jan 16, 2015 18:42:55 GMT
OMG, how tragic.
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Post by greenlegume on Jan 16, 2015 20:05:23 GMT
What a tragic situation. I'm so sorry.
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Post by sillyrabbit on Jan 16, 2015 20:20:53 GMT
How sad. I'm so sorry.
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