J u l e e
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Post by J u l e e on Feb 1, 2015 22:07:13 GMT
I am so sorry to read about this! Your family is in my prayers.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 1, 2015 22:18:05 GMT
Oh jenjie I'm so sorry to read this update.Prayers and positive thought for your DH for a full recovery and also to you too. Take care x
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Post by katrina on Feb 1, 2015 22:19:31 GMT
So sorry....just said a prayer
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Post by Chips on Feb 1, 2015 22:20:27 GMT
Hugs and prayers!
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Post by gillyp on Feb 1, 2015 22:33:27 GMT
So sorry you are walking this path. Wishing you both well through the treatment and after.
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Post by mikklynn on Feb 1, 2015 23:40:03 GMT
Aw, jenjie, I would not wish anyone to join this club! I am keeping you and your DH in my prayers. My DH was diagnosed with stage 4 renal cancer nearly 8 years ago. I know all cancers are different, but there is hope. Many cancers are curable or can be treated like a chronic illness. I hope and pray for the best possible outcome for your DH. My unsolicited advice as a caregiver is to accept help. It takes practice, believe me! You MUST take care of yourself. When I am tired, I simply cannot cope. Many, many hugs to you, dear pea-friend.
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marianne
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Post by marianne on Feb 1, 2015 23:58:11 GMT
So sorry you are having to deal with this insidious disease. I'll keep you and yours in my thoughts and prayers as you travel this road and keep positive thoughts for a total recovery. (((hugs)))
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Post by Deleted on Feb 2, 2015 0:01:24 GMT
I'm so sorry to hear this. You are both in my thoughts.
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Post by katlaw on Feb 2, 2015 5:25:50 GMT
Very sorry to read this update. I will be praying for your family.
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Post by smokey2471 on Feb 2, 2015 5:50:28 GMT
I'm so sorry. I will pray.
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Post by jenjie on Feb 2, 2015 9:19:43 GMT
I've come back this morning to see if you have posted his name. So - Fred you're on my list. Have you considered doing a Facebook page for him? Some place where his friends and yours can post support for him? I have another cyber friend (she's actually on this board) who did this for her husband. Folks posted prayers, jokes, funny pictures and videos for him. Also - if you could share the name and address of the hospital I'm sure would love to send cards. Thanks for the suggestion. We haven't made an announcement or whatever on Facebook so not right now. It's something to keep in mind for later though.
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Post by jenjie on Feb 2, 2015 9:23:26 GMT
Wishing you joy and peace and hope and love in the days to come. I will be praying for your family. moveablefeast I do believe this is the first time I've seen your pretty face. I like your new avatar And thank you ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg)
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Post by jenjie on Feb 2, 2015 9:32:56 GMT
Aw, jenjie, I would not wish anyone to join this club! I am keeping you and your DH in my prayers. My DH was diagnosed with stage 4 renal cancer nearly 8 years ago. I know all cancers are different, but there is hope. Many cancers are curable or can be treated like a chronic illness. I hope and pray for the best possible outcome for your DH. My unsolicited advice as a caregiver is to accept help. It takes practice, believe me! You MUST take care of yourself. When I am tired, I simply cannot cope. Many, many hugs to you, dear pea-friend. Thank you for sound advice. I'm trying! Woke up at 3:30 with a bad cramp in my foot. ![:P](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/OrTI4SBmZ2ZYSFv6ag4f.jpg)
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Post by heartcat on Feb 2, 2015 9:43:00 GMT
I am so very to hear that your dh is battling cancer. {{Hugs}}
I wish him success with the chemo. You, your dh, and all who love him are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by M in Carolina on Feb 2, 2015 10:04:37 GMT
Jenji, please take care of you, too. Your friends and family understand what you're going through and aren't expecting you to immediately reply to their notes and calls. You have always been so strong and caring, always helping others. Now it's your turn to get some rest and let us all take care of you.
Fred and you are in my prayers. We serve an awesome, amazing God.
My mom has been cancer free since 1995. Her cancer was extremely rare--1500 worldwide 5 year survivors. Her chemo was considered one of the strongest, but she did amazing well. She is one of the healthiest people I know and even though she's going to be 70 this spring, she has so much energy. People are always thinking she's in her 40s/50s.
I know it would be more difficult, but if there was a specific large hospital that has cutting edge treatment for your dh, I definitely suggest you check it out. I've been to Mayo, and they have a triage based appointment schedule, so I only had to wait a few weeks to get in. The hotels and the clinic are all together with wheelchair friendly walkway --I could walk, but I was still recovering from my stroke, so the large, carpeted walkways were so much easier than sidewalks, plus you didn't have to be out in the weather. My insurance paid for the clinic part, and all the hospitals had a patient discount, so the cost wasn't too high.
Anything you need--we're here for you. You've been such a supportive, loving pea.
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Feb 2, 2015 10:14:57 GMT
I've come back this morning to see if you have posted his name. So - Fred you're on my list. Have you considered doing a Facebook page for him? Some place where his friends and yours can post support for him? I have another cyber friend (she's actually on this board) who did this for her husband. Folks posted prayers, jokes, funny pictures and videos for him. Also - if you could share the name and address of the hospital I'm sure would love to send cards. Thanks for the suggestion. We haven't made an announcement or whatever on Facebook so not right now. It's something to keep in mind for later though. Do you have a blog? When we went through this with DH, family and friends called constantly to see how he was doing. While I understand their concern and appreciate their words of encouragement and support, I found it exhausting to repeat, over and over, what was happening at that time. I sent them a link to my blog and asked that they read that first before calling. This really cut down on phone calls (when we were trying to nap during the day) and I could relay all the important news without crying (if it was bad news). I found it therapeutic (for me) to put everything in writing (that must be the scrapper in me) and it gave me a chance to absorb and understand better what was happening as I typed. Hugs to you and your whole family. I remember those chaotic days so well. You are stronger than you think you are.
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Post by emelle64 on Feb 2, 2015 10:39:12 GMT
I'm so sorry for this. You, your husband and family will be in prayers as you forge ahead.
Emelle
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Post by christine58 on Feb 2, 2015 11:52:29 GMT
I've come back this morning to see if you have posted his name. So - Fred you're on my list. Have you considered doing a Facebook page for him? Some place where his friends and yours can post support for him? I have another cyber friend (she's actually on this board) who did this for her husband. Folks posted prayers, jokes, funny pictures and videos for him. Also - if you could share the name and address of the hospital I'm sure would love to send cards. Thanks for the suggestion. We haven't made an announcement or whatever on Facebook so not right now. It's something to keep in mind for later though. Actually...I'd use caring bridge site instead of Facebook. It's free and I know many people who use it for just this reason. Sometimes FB pages can get filled with spam etc...Caring bridge seems a bit more "secure"
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Post by smokey2471 on Feb 2, 2015 12:03:14 GMT
[/quote]Do you have a blog? When we went through this with DH, family and friends called constantly to see how he was doing. While I understand their concern and appreciate their words of encouragement and support, I found it exhausting to repeat, over and over, what was happening at that time. I sent them a link to my blog and asked that they read that first before calling. This really cut down on phone calls (when we were trying to nap during the day) and I could relay all the important news without crying (if it was bad news). I found it therapeutic (for me) to put everything in writing (that must be the scrapper in me) and it gave me a chance to absorb and understand better what was happening as I typed.
Hugs to you and your whole family. I remember those chaotic days so well. You are stronger than you think you are. [/quote]
This is not a bad idea. Even if you don't make it public or share it at all it will be therapeutic for you as well as a way of keeping notes. When he beats this nasty cancer you will have a history of treatments etc you can refer back to if you need to. If you decide to publish it you can get little "pep talks" by reading the comments. At any rate you guys are on my mind. I gave Fred name to my mother. She is a wonderful pray-er. She belongs to several national pray teams and really believes it prayer. She will add you DH to her lists.
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Post by michellegb on Feb 2, 2015 12:14:54 GMT
I am so sorry to hear this. Sending prayers and positive thoughts as your DH and you navigate this difficult road. Big hugs...
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Post by alibama on Feb 2, 2015 13:17:09 GMT
I am sorry to hear this ![:(](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/mYSUyHtG9Jrcmm_ydVcK.jpg) I will keep your family in my prayers.
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Post by stormycat on Feb 2, 2015 13:29:35 GMT
I am so very sorry to hear. I agree with the other posters, take some time to take care of yourself. I am in a suburb outside the city, so if you need anything, please let me know, even if it is lunch with an unknown pea. Wishing the best for you guys.
Heather
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Post by Deleted on Feb 2, 2015 13:38:12 GMT
sending prayers and hugs!
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Post by anniebeth24 on Feb 2, 2015 13:53:25 GMT
Praying that your faith will stay strong as you go through this. So sad and sorry.
"He will cover you with His feathers, and under His wings you will find refuge;His faithfulness will be your shield and rampart." Ps. 91:4
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Post by jenjie on Feb 2, 2015 14:17:33 GMT
Praying that your faith will stay strong as you go through this. So sad and sorry. "He will cover you with His feathers, and under His wings you will find refuge;His faithfulness will be your shield and rampart." Ps. 91:4 Anniebeth I read psalm 91 this morning and you are the third person to speak this truth over me today! Praise God. Thank you.
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Post by jenjie on Feb 2, 2015 14:17:58 GMT
I am so very sorry to hear. I agree with the other posters, take some time to take care of yourself. I am in a suburb outside the city, so if you need anything, please let me know, even if it is lunch with an unknown pea. Wishing the best for you guys. Heather Thank you so much!
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Post by 3SugarBugs on Feb 2, 2015 21:14:38 GMT
I'm so sorry to read this update jenjie...I've been away from the boards for a few days. Strength to Fred, you and your beautiful children during this most difficult time. I'm adding each of you to my prayer list and hope you find comfort in your faith, family and friends.
You've received such great advice already, but I would echo what you already thought of doing...record your doctor visit conversations. I did this when DH had his aortic dissection and it helped so much! Even taking notes, you miss things, or think of another question and then not sure if you have the answer or not...with the recording it makes it easy to go back.
Prayers, prayers, prayers!
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Post by hollymolly on Feb 2, 2015 22:31:07 GMT
I'm so sorry to hear this. Praying for you all.
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Post by Dori~Mama~Bear on Feb 2, 2015 23:07:08 GMT
hugs. I hope his treatment works.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Feb 2, 2015 23:38:24 GMT
Praying that his treatment works.
I also support/suggest Caring Bridge. I've had three people on it and it really helped their caregivers get support and not have to repeat the same info to people.
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