mmll32
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Jun 29, 2014 19:22:38 GMT
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Post by mmll32 on Feb 28, 2015 22:49:42 GMT
Backstory: My grandmother passed away about 6 years ago. All of my cousins and I were very close to her. Fast forward to now and I am in one of my cousins wedding. As part of her bridal shower gift I bought a flower charm (grandmas favorite flower) to either put on her bouquet or to attach to her dress, or whatever she pleases to represent grandma. I plan to wrap the charm in a box and place it on the gifts table with from grandma on it.
So, I want to include a little piece of paper saying something along the lines of: "Attach this to your dress or bouquet so that I can be with you when you walk down the isle." However, I just can't seem to come up with the right wording. I have also considered including a small picture of grandma in her wedding dress with the package but am still undecided about that. (I don't want to stir up to many emotions at the shower.)
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Post by femalebusiness on Feb 28, 2015 23:04:37 GMT
I'm no good at that stuff so I'm no help for you but I just wanted to say, that is such a wonderful idea.
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Post by littlemama on Feb 28, 2015 23:04:59 GMT
That's kinda creepy to have it be from your dead grandmother. Just give it to her with a note that you hope it will remind her of gramma on her wedding day.
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Post by AussieMeg on Feb 28, 2015 23:07:42 GMT
I have to agree with littlemama, I think it's a bit creepy to sign it "from grandma". The idea of the gift is lovely and thoughtful and perfect. Just make it from you, not grandma. "This was Grandma's favorite flower. Attach this to your dress or bouquet so that Grandma can be with you when you walk down the aisle."
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2015 23:10:32 GMT
That is something I would not give as through it is from grandma unless it was in fact something grandma had given you to pass on.
Make it from you in memory of grandma.... and I likely wouldn't give it at a shower either unless that is absolutely the only time you'll see her. For the gift table I'd get something simple for her new home/life. The charm I'd give to her after the other guests have left or on another day altogether. Don't try to be fancy or poetic with the words.. simply say it is for her to wear on her wedding day as a reminder of her grandmother.
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Post by turangaleela on Feb 28, 2015 23:14:28 GMT
I have to agree with littlemama, I think it's a bit creepy to sign it "from grandma". The idea of the gift is lovely and thoughtful and perfect. Just make it from you, not grandma. "This was Grandma's favorite flower. Attach this to your dress or bouquet so that Grandma can be with you when you walk down the aisle." I would go so far as to say "This was Grandma's favorite flower. If you attach this to your dress or bouquet then Grandma can be with you when you walk down the aisle." Just sounds less bossy to my ears (I'm a middle child and probably oversensitive because of it). I definitely think it is a lovely thought.
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Post by scrapperal on Feb 28, 2015 23:27:28 GMT
What a sweet thing to do. I agree with the previous poster's edits. It gives the bride options to do what she's most comfortable with.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Mar 1, 2015 1:25:59 GMT
Dear Cousin ABC In memory of Grandma, here's her favorite flower to attach to your bouquet, to keep her close at heart on your special day. Love Cousin 123
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Post by tinydogmafia on Mar 1, 2015 1:34:30 GMT
Dear Cousin,
You already know that Grandma is always with us in spirit and in our hearts. For your wedding day, I wanted to be sure you had a little reminder that she is there with you on your special day. I selected this charm because it was her favorite flower. A thing of beauty, just as you will be, on your wedding day.
Love, Cousin
ETA: I think this is a beautiful idea to have gotten her the charm. I am in agreement that it is a little bit creepy to say it was from Grandma.
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Post by christine58 on Mar 1, 2015 3:27:39 GMT
FYI...it's aisle not isle. (I'm sure I'll get a hand slap or two for being a spelling Nazi). Anyhow--I think it's a wonderful idea and sign it from you, not grandma. I'm sure she will love it.
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Post by Skellinton on Mar 1, 2015 4:17:31 GMT
I think it is a lovely idea, I would give it to her at another time rather than the shower though if you think it will stir up too many emotions. I also agree it should be from you, not your grandma.
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Post by Bitchy Rich on Mar 4, 2015 18:56:45 GMT
FYI...it's aisle not isle. (I'm sure I'll get a hand slap or two for being a spelling Nazi). Anyhow--I think it's a wonderful idea and sign it from you, not grandma. I'm sure she will love it. I salute you!
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MerryMom
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Post by MerryMom on Mar 4, 2015 19:01:00 GMT
That's kinda creepy to have it be from your dead grandmother. Just give it to her with a note that you hope it will remind her of gramma on her wedding day. ^^^^^^^^^^ I agree with the above ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Attach this to your dress or bouquet so that I can be with you when you walk down the aisle."The note should be from you and you can write that Grandma would have loved to have been at the wedding and that you hope the flower charm reminds her of grandma and perhaps she can put the charm on the bouquet or dress. "Grandma would have loved to have been at your wedding. So here is a charm of Grandma's favorite flower that you can attach to your bouquet or dress if you wish. Best Wishes on your wedding day, from cousin mmll32. "
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MerryMom
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Post by MerryMom on Mar 4, 2015 19:01:50 GMT
Dear Cousin, You already know that Grandma is always with us in spirit and in our hearts. For your wedding day, I wanted to be sure you had a little reminder that she is there with you on your special day. I selected this charm because it was her favorite flower. A thing of beauty, just as you will be, on your wedding day. Love, Cousin ETA: I think this is a beautiful idea to have gotten her the charm. I am in agreement that it is a little bit creepy to say it was from Grandma. tinydogmafia said it better than I
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Post by annabella on Mar 4, 2015 19:43:17 GMT
I wouldn't want to feel obligated to attach it to my bouquet or dress, what if I don't find a place to put it you know? So I wouldn't specify that it has to be attached to anything, just say keep it with you.
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MizIndependent
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Post by MizIndependent on Mar 4, 2015 19:59:35 GMT
Personally, I don't think it's creepy at all.
In fact, my mother did something very like this at my baby shower when I was about to have my first child.
My grandmother was noted for her knitting and crocheting...she'd made the most beautiful cap and sweeter and my mom gave it to me from her with a note more or less the same as what the OP has: "though I cannot be there with you, know that I am there in spirit" or something like that. It was so touching and not at all creepy.
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Post by Skellinton on Mar 4, 2015 20:06:49 GMT
Personally, I don't think it's creepy at all. In fact, my mother did something very like this at my baby shower when I was about to have my first child. My grandmother was noted for her knitting and crocheting...she'd made the most beautiful cap and sweeter and my mom gave it to me from her with a note more or less the same as what the OP has: "though I cannot be there with you, know that I am there in spirit" or something like that. It was so touching and not at all creepy. I think the difference with your story is that your grandma did actually make the cap and sweater. The op purchased an item that reminds her or her grandmother, it isn't actually from her grandmother which is why some of us find it odd to word the note as if it was from their grandmother.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2015 20:23:39 GMT
I wouldn't want to feel obligated to attach it to my bouquet or dress, what if I don't find a place to put it you know? So I wouldn't specify that it has to be attached to anything, just say keep it with you. I have to agree with annabella. Your original wording sounds some what bossy and could make her feel like she has no choice but to do what you want her to. Offer it as a suggestion rather than a command, it will probably go down better. I do love the idea of including a picture of Grandma in her wedding dress though, I think that's lovely.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2015 20:36:52 GMT
Personally, I don't think it's creepy at all. In fact, my mother did something very like this at my baby shower when I was about to have my first child. My grandmother was noted for her knitting and crocheting...she'd made the most beautiful cap and sweeter and my mom gave it to me from her with a note more or less the same as what the OP has: "though I cannot be there with you, know that I am there in spirit" or something like that. It was so touching and not at all creepy. But for you, grandma DID make the sweater and cap. So in that case, no, it is not creepy. It very literally was a gift from grandma. She had been looking ahead to the birth of your children. eta: If the OP's grandma had set aside a specific piece of jewelry and passed those pieces on to the girls' mothers with instructions to give them on their wedding days then it wouldn't be creepy. If your mom had purchased a sweater and cap after grandma died and presented it as something from grandma it would be different. It is the purchase of an item grandma has never laid eyes on and passing it off as though it is from grandma I think it is creepy. There comes a point to stop being the spokes person for the deceased.
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MizIndependent
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Post by MizIndependent on Mar 4, 2015 20:39:11 GMT
Yeah...good point, voltagain and skellinton. Hadn't thought about that.
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