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Post by jenjie on Mar 3, 2015 2:28:35 GMT
Moms of kids with Asperger's who said your child would do something like this, what would you want to have happen? Would you want the recipient to keep the gift, or would you be upset that your child gave away an expensive item and wish the recipient would offer to return it or pay for it? The one issue I have with the OP paying market or asking price for the guitar is, she and her daughter never went looking for a guitar! They were not in the market to buy. Why then are they obligated to pay a lot of money for it? I understand the young man and his dad are homeless but in another situation would you advocate paying for it? If it was bought by her and she gave it away, not much I could do because I feel like my daughter has a decent grasp about money. If you know one kid with Autism, you know one kid. She is tight with spending money if she's earned it or got it for her birthday. If it was bought by me and her father for her, I would be more upset. Maybe that's not the kindest thing to think, but it is a higher priced item. Something like that would be bought with much consideration and I would be sad. So in my situation, I'm really not sure. If we had given it to her, I'd want her to pay us back some of the costs? Maybe? Thank you this is what I was wondering. And I love how you said this. "If you know one kid with Autism, you know one kid."
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Post by pastlifepea on Mar 6, 2015 1:03:46 GMT
Bump for story ending.
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Post by melissa on Mar 6, 2015 1:44:35 GMT
I am confused. pastlifepea, I see the original story. I see the first update but not what happened after you went to the library.
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Post by Kerri W on Mar 6, 2015 1:47:42 GMT
I am confused. pastlifepea, I see the original story. I see the first update but not what happened after you went to the library. Glad I'm not the only one. I don't see the update either?
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Post by gritzi on Mar 6, 2015 1:52:36 GMT
I don't see the update either.
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Post by christine58 on Mar 6, 2015 1:52:40 GMT
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Post by melissa on Mar 6, 2015 1:54:15 GMT
I feel better now. I must have read and re-read and even refreshed the thread 3 or 4 times! LOL
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Post by gsquaredmom on Mar 6, 2015 1:56:09 GMT
I feel better now. I must have read and re-read and even refreshed the thread 3 or 4 times! LOL Me too! Exactly that!
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Post by mstubble on Mar 6, 2015 1:57:02 GMT
I feel better now. I must have read and re-read and even refreshed the thread 3 or 4 times! LOL Me three!
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Post by tarheelgurl on Mar 6, 2015 2:02:12 GMT
Where's the update??
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Post by Rainbow on Mar 6, 2015 2:07:51 GMT
He sounds very sweet. How nice that he did that for your daughter. I would try to give him something, though he may refuse to accept it. There are still some nice people in this world!
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Post by pastlifepea on Mar 6, 2015 6:02:07 GMT
Really??? I typed out this big long update onto the original post and it's gone. Will try again tomorrow. This is my week.
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Post by anaterra on Mar 7, 2015 3:51:25 GMT
Just bumping for an update... :-)
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Post by cindyupnorth on Mar 7, 2015 17:39:23 GMT
btt
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Post by welshjenni on Mar 8, 2015 13:16:36 GMT
I was looking forward to the update too. It sounds like a lovely, kind and generous gesture. Innocently made and I think that some kind of recompense, given the family circumstances, would be appropriate... I know the thread was closer but just to make a comment xx
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Post by Deleted on Mar 8, 2015 16:35:00 GMT
Update?
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Post by scrapaddie on Mar 8, 2015 17:41:59 GMT
Update and case closed ?? How?
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Post by gonewalkabout on Mar 8, 2015 17:56:05 GMT
Over thinking it. There are still some nice people out there. People on the spectrum tend to be very gentle, caring people, so it was probably just something he wanted to do.
It's quite a shame really that society in general has to question ever little motive and intent of someone doing something. Particularly if it's nice.
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Post by trainscrapper on Mar 8, 2015 18:05:57 GMT
Update and case closed ?? How? If you go to her OP original post, in the bottom right hand corner, click on her forum name. Once there, click on "members recent posts" and it shows up there. Just happened upon it. pastlifepea, glad you decided to let your daughter keep the gift, it is something she will likely not forget and will be a nice story to tell later. Hopefully the young man will accept your gift and he too will realize there still are nice people and gracious people in a world where sometimes it is hard to see. Keep us updated on what happens when you give the gift.
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Post by jamh on Mar 8, 2015 18:22:10 GMT
I still don't see any update. Did the right click thing but no update. If you did see the update, please tell us how the story ends.
jamh
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Post by my3freaks on Mar 8, 2015 19:55:57 GMT
I also went to her other posts and saw didn't see any new update. Please share! I'd love to know how this turned out.
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Post by annabella on Mar 8, 2015 20:06:02 GMT
My local library is full of homeless people so I don't feel comfortable going there. If your daughter is talking with these men, I would also feel leery about her going there without an adult.
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Post by eebud on Mar 8, 2015 20:52:20 GMT
Update and case closed ?? How? If you go to her OP original post, in the bottom right hand corner, click on her forum name. Once there, click on "members recent posts" and it shows up there. Just happened upon it. pastlifepea, glad you decided to let your daughter keep the gift, it is something she will likely not forget and will be a nice story to tell later. Hopefully the young man will accept your gift and he too will realize there still are nice people and gracious people in a world where sometimes it is hard to see. Keep us updated on what happens when you give the gift. I think you are seeing her update from a about 6 days ago. In the recent posts, you see an update that you can find towards the end of page 1 but that is not the end of it. Are you seeing a post where she actually talked to the people and made a decision on what to do about the guitar?
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Post by Outspoken on Mar 8, 2015 21:37:31 GMT
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Post by genny on Mar 9, 2015 19:49:37 GMT
So what happened?
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Mar 9, 2015 19:56:00 GMT
On March 5thy she said she updated but it is gone. She said she would repost the following day but I still don't see anything.
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Post by Outspoken on Mar 10, 2015 3:34:24 GMT
This is killing me! Well, not really. But, I am very curious!
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Post by melissa on Mar 10, 2015 22:16:59 GMT
pastlifepea come back! We need to know the ending even if it is anticlimatic!
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Post by kristenf on Mar 10, 2015 22:38:00 GMT
I see that the case is closed (with narrative pending )... (FTR, I didn't think it was over-thought... I think it was smart to learn as much as possible to anticipate all possible variables, because you can never be too careful!) Just a thought, which may or may not be confirmed by the final story, I skimmed and don't think I saw this point but sorry if it's a repeat... especially after the article they were featured in regarding denied storage, I thought it could be possible that they just can't manage to carry this item around at this time and don't have a place to store it. That, combined with genuine kindheartedness, makes sense to me... That said, I really loved the idea of offering to return it once they're on their feet. There may be cons (long term contact? hard for DD to part with it?)... but it seems like such a compassionate gesture in response to such open generosity. I hope it all worked out with everyone feeling good about it!
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