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Post by liya on Mar 4, 2015 14:59:43 GMT
I know I am . I am on myfitnesspal. I did great three years ago but have since gained just about everything back. I felt really good when I lost the weight but I cannot get motivated again. For me I need to eat better but I just cannot seem to stick with it. I am good for a day or two then the cravings start. I had diet soda this week instead of water; I bought cookies again and put creamer in my coffee instead of almond milk. Not only is it bad for me but my son gets roped in too. My face is puffy and my clothes don't fit. Spring will be here soon and I won't be able to hide behind my sweaters. Sorry to ramble. But someone kick me in the butt please.
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Post by its me mg on Mar 4, 2015 15:04:24 GMT
story of my life. i've been meaning to run since january. it's march. i haven't ran once. *sigh* i signed up for a half marathon in november, and STILL .. nada!
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Post by liya on Mar 4, 2015 15:09:15 GMT
story of my life. i've been meaning to run since january. it's march. i haven't ran once. *sigh* i signed up for a half marathon in november, and STILL .. nada! I hear you. I have a treadmill; haven't used it since last Summer. I don't even want to-related to the no motivation. I got myself a Fitbit. I log minimal steps, you think that would motivate me to get on the darn thing but no. I keep telling myself I am waiting for the snow to melt to walk outside. Who am I kidding?
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Post by melissa on Mar 4, 2015 15:34:57 GMT
I am sitting on the couch next to you!
I was a very regular gym goer- 5-6 days a week for an of cardio and/or weights minimum. I went to spin class 3 days a week, a barre class 2 or 3 days a week and did free weights and machines 2-3 days a week. If I slipped off my healthy eating, it didn't matter much. I was burning the calories.
Slowly, I slipped away from that. My life has changed and I did not figure out how and when to work fitness back in. I started "cheating" regularly. Its now a lifestyle and it needs to stop. Yet, I cannot find the self motivation to do so and keep going.
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Post by conchita on Mar 4, 2015 15:39:54 GMT
Start small. Choose one thing that you could find a healthy, fulfilling alternative for and keep it up for a week. Then add another thing and so forth and so on. It doesn't have to be an overwhelming overhaul all at once type of action. Consider it a warm up to help get yourself in the right mental space. Do one positive thing for yourself each day. Drink more water, don't drink that whole can of soda, eat three meals. Consider what you're doing for yourself your way of rewarding and loving yourself rather than limiting and sacrificing and dieting. Good luck!
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Post by annabella on Mar 4, 2015 15:42:56 GMT
You have to plan your meals. Go shopping and write down what you will eat for breakfast all week. On Sunday make your lunch for the whole week and put into individual containers so you can grab and go every morning. Don't eat a cookie until you log it, that'll stop you from eating it or force you to throw it away after one bite. I do that whenever my office has donuts. Once I log it and see that half a donut is already 200 calories!
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Post by tracylynn on Mar 4, 2015 15:44:53 GMT
Sometimes you just have to fake it till you make it and it feels good. I'm on Day 4 of my restart. It's hard. As each day goes by I feel better though. There are times that I feel like I'm white knuckling it.
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Post by liya on Mar 4, 2015 15:57:08 GMT
Thanks! It's can be so frustrating. I took a photo of myself this morning because I tried to curl my hair and I couldn't believe how "fat" my face looked. I think that is why I posted today. You think that would be motivation enough. I also have not been home the past 3 weekends; so that has been a problem. I can go grocery shopping this weekend and plan for next week so that should help. Monday will be a fresh start.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2015 16:04:53 GMT
I think the first thing you need to do is ditch the guilt and the self loathing. (talking to myself here, mostly) You are valuable and deserve to feel good, and treat yourself well. That includes a healthy balanced lifestyle of regular, fun activity, and food that nourishes your body and spirit.
Love yourself enough to invest in a healthy you for the future. I see my mother (82 Y/O) struggle with no core strength, massive pain from osteo..., spinal stenosis and arthritis and I know I am headed that way if I don't treat myself better.
I wish we could come to a time where the numbers don't matter, where we are not constantly judging ourselves and coming up short. I need a paradigm shift in how I think about health and fitness.
Annette
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Post by breetheflea on Mar 4, 2015 16:05:27 GMT
I just started (sparkpeople.com) but what seems to help me is planning my dinner calories before I eat lunch or snacks for the day. I know if I want to eat a normal dinner that is not a variety of lettuces (I am not cooking special dinners for just me) that I need to hold off on the snacking earlier in the day.
Also knowing how many calories are in certain foods (that egg salad sandwich is 275 calories, 200 of them are in the bread!) makes it easier not to eat them.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2015 16:09:35 GMT
You know, I was in this boat recently and while I *knew* what changes I needed to make to get back to my healthy habits, I seemed incapable of making and sustaining them. I decided to try the 21 Day Fix, because it makes it braindead simple to follow a healthy plan (which apparently is what I needed to kickstart myself back to my old ways). It turned out to do exactly what I wanted - remind me why I prefer living a healthy, active lifestyle. I'm done with the plan but have kept up my healthy ways. It's long enough to feel the differences in energy and vitality that eating right and exercising make, and thus make you want to continue making good choices even when you're done with the Fix.
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Post by bianca42 on Mar 4, 2015 16:12:47 GMT
I spent 3 years starting and stopping on MFP. I was staying within my calorie goal, but making poor food choices and I was always hungry. We had to take a family picture for a daycare project and I decided that was enough.
I started the 21 day fix in December and have lost 20 pounds so far. It forced me to not only stay in my calorie range but to eat the right types of foods. I'm not actually counting calories...just servings of each of the food groups. Plus, I take off a week at the end of each 21 days to eat whatever I want. I can eat healthy for 3 weeks if I know that I can have pizza and chips on week 4.
If MFP isn't working for you...maybe try something else.
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Post by ~Zoey~ on Mar 4, 2015 16:17:42 GMT
I know I am . I am on myfitnesspal. I did great three years ago but have since gained just about everything back. I felt really good when I lost the weight but I cannot get motivated again. For me I need to eat better but I just cannot seem to stick with it. I am good for a day or two then the cravings start. I had diet soda this week instead of water; I bought cookies again and put creamer in my coffee instead of almond milk. Not only is it bad for me but my son gets roped in too. My face is puffy and my clothes don't fit. Spring will be here soon and I won't be able to hide behind my sweaters. Sorry to ramble. But someone kick me in the butt please. Kick me, too! :-)
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Post by liya on Mar 4, 2015 16:18:20 GMT
Does anyone want to tell me about the 21 day fix? I'm sure I can look it up but you know...
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Post by annabella on Mar 4, 2015 16:27:57 GMT
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Post by scrapcat on Mar 4, 2015 16:35:53 GMT
Sugar is an addiction. Watch Forks Over Knives. Maybe seeing the science will help you to understand and you can make small changes. I have found anything I stick with comes with small daily changes that eventually become habits.
It can be fun to fix healthy meals and find ways of making it taste good. I find I crave those type of dishes now. Herbs are great for adding flavor (garlic, basil, cilantro).
You are right, it is hard when you get busy and don't have time to shop or cook properly. Try to freeze some things or have decent snacks. I still like cheesy things, so I'll make a spinach artichoke dip, but instead of chips I will dip celery sticks. The little things.
You can do it!
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Post by liya on Mar 4, 2015 16:43:20 GMT
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Post by cmpeter on Mar 4, 2015 17:18:02 GMT
For the 21 day fix...do you have to do the Shakeology shake (or any other type of shake/smoothie type drink)? I don't like any shake type drinks (not even real milkshakes).
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2015 17:24:04 GMT
For the 21 day fix...do you have to do the Shakeology shake (or any other type of shake/smoothie type drink)? I don't like any shake type drinks (not even real milkshakes). No you don't. Of course, the Beachbody coaches will tell you how awesome it is, but I didn't drink it or any kind of shake. I like to make smoothies from whole fruits and vegetables, not powders. (FTR, if you don't like smoothies, you don't need to have anything like that on the plan). ETA: You don't even need to buy the set from a Beachbody coach. I did, but only because a good friend is one. They are readily available elsewhere.
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Post by bianca42 on Mar 4, 2015 17:43:13 GMT
I also haven't purchased any of their shakes. I do drink a protein powder shake that I buy at Walmart for $19 a month vs. $140 a month.
I'm also not saying that 21 day fix is the answer for everyone. There are other things out there to try. The best diet/exercise plan is the one that you can stick with...whatever that is.
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Post by alittleintrepid on Mar 4, 2015 17:44:51 GMT
Lots of good suggestions on here....I think the one that stands out for me is the idea of menu planning. You should automate your eating (eg. Have a plan with healthful foods and follow it). Much easier than continuously trying to battle cravings and find something to eat under that pressure.
I think the same thing about going to the gym...instead of just saying "I'll go to the gym tomorrow" set your gym clothes out so that you automatically put them on (assuming you go in the morning...otherwise pack your bag or do whatever you need to do to follow that routine).
If you plan to keep going with MFP, make sure to friend all the Refupeas!
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Post by hennybutton on Mar 4, 2015 17:58:17 GMT
How did you get that diet soda? Where did you get the creamer? Did you have it in the house? You shouldn't have any of your trigger foods in the house. I'm not even sold on the idea of almond milk instead of creamer. Some of them have a lot of additives. I think a splash of lowfat milk is the best choice if you can't drink coffee black.
One thing to remember is that labelling certain foods as "bad" is setting yourself up for failure. The key is moderation. An occasional soda won't kill you or destroy your diet. But, don't keep it in the house and go for a really high-quality soda instead of the mass-produced stuff. Look for sodas made with cane sugar instead of high-fructose corn syrup or artificial sweeteners. It'll be more satisfying. Heck, with everything, go for high quality and consume less of it. Don't buy a bag of Chips Ahoy when you have a cookie craving. Instead, make up some cookie dough from scratch and freeze it in individual portions. When the cookie craving hits, heat up that oven and bake one or two of them. Those cookies will be much more satisfying than a whole bag of overprocessed cookies.
Most important, and I know I'm repeating myself, don't keep crap in the house. Make yourself have to work for your food. If you have to go to a store or restaurant to get a soda, or if you have to heat up your oven and wash dishes, it'll stop you from mindless consumption that does nothing to satisfy you. And, go for the least processing possible.
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Post by liya on Mar 4, 2015 18:05:45 GMT
Thanks everyone. Believe it or not just reading the replies is getting me exciting about eating better. I looked into the 21 Day fix and while I don't want to spend the $ on the cute containers I might try to do it on my own with the containers I have in the house. I am already thinking ahead to meals next week. Breakfast and lunch are easy for me to plan. Dinner that is hard for me.
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Post by shanni on Mar 4, 2015 18:05:55 GMT
I am right there with you. 6 years ago I went on weight watchers and lost 30 of my 35 needed pounds. I felt great. I looked great. I gained it all back, plus 20. I went back on ww and lost 20 pounds, then fell off again and gained it all back plus another 30. So I went from needing to lose 35 pounds 6 years ago to needing to lose 80-85 pounds now. It's just so overwhelming. I know I need to lose the weight. I hate how I look. I hate how I feel. I hate that I am turning 40 this year and look worse than I ever have. I hate that I can see the path I'm heading down and it's not pretty. I want to be able to have an active retirement with dh, but if I don't figure out how to get control, I know we won't be able to do all that we want to.
And most of all, I hate that I know all this, yet I'm sitting here eating a stack of cookies, planning where to get my next stack once these ones are done.
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Post by liya on Mar 4, 2015 18:12:15 GMT
I am right there with you. 6 years ago I went on weight watchers and lost 30 of my 35 needed pounds. I felt great. I looked great. I gained it all back, plus 20. I went back on ww and lost 20 pounds, then fell off again and gained it all back plus another 30. So I went from needing to lose 35 pounds 6 years ago to needing to lose 80-85 pounds now. It's just so overwhelming. I know I need to lose the weight. I hate how I look. I hate how I feel. I hate that I am turning 40 this year and look worse than I ever have. I hate that I can see the path I'm heading down and it's not pretty. I want to be able to have an active retirement with dh, but if I don't figure out how to get control, I know we won't be able to do all that we want to. And most of all, I hate that I know all this, yet I'm sitting here eating a stack of cookies, planning where to get my next stack once these ones are done. Oh shanni, I am so sorry. Let's do this together.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Mar 4, 2015 18:15:06 GMT
I could have written your post word for word. If anyone is interested in starting a group let me know.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2015 18:27:12 GMT
I am also having trouble staying committed, but there is something that helps that I didn't see mentioned yet: other people who are doing the same thing, and being successful at it. Right now, I work with people who are into health and fitness, and I have friends who are losing, and others who are training for competition. I'm surrounded by that - and it really does help. I've been plateaued for months now, but I'm convinced that I would have gone back up and beyond had it not been for all the healthy people I associate with. Certainly none of them are going to eat fast food with me or act like that's a good thing. I guess what I'm saying is shame motivates me. A little. No, no, I'm sure it's the support that's good.
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Post by annabella on Mar 4, 2015 18:38:17 GMT
I couldn't believe how "fat" my face looked. I think that is why I posted today. I have the same problem, I gain weight in my face first. My motivation is I have 2 months until summer and when I can't hide under sweaters anymore. So I signed up for a month of barre classes, I'm going everyday in addition to my lunch time workout in the gym at work. I don't like a minute of it.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2015 18:41:43 GMT
A barre place just opened in my town. I was going to ask how those classes are.
Ha! I see. Like, it's hard work or you're sore after or what? Do you feel like the benefits outweigh the misery? Also, they are really expensive! $25 a class here.
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Post by annabella on Mar 4, 2015 18:56:02 GMT
Yes it's really expensive here but I got the new member special so the first month is $100 and thus I'm getting my money's worth by going 20 times this month. I workout a ton, but they train you in such a different way. For me the ab work is very hard but my triceps are sore today.
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