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Post by bearmom on Mar 25, 2015 17:38:48 GMT
No advice, just prayers for you and your family.
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Nink
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Post by Nink on Mar 25, 2015 17:41:50 GMT
I am so sorry you are going through this. It sounds like you're doing everything you're supposed to and I can't imaging how hurt and frustrating this must be for you. Big hugs.
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Post by gorgeouskid on Mar 25, 2015 17:42:07 GMT
Well, it appears that you are doing everything right. What a nightmare that you have to go through. This is my nightmare as a mother, to have something like this happen (and continue to happen.)
Hopefully, she'll get things together soon, and back on the right track.
Take care of yourself and husband in the meantime.
Best of luck to your family.
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Post by cbet on Mar 25, 2015 17:42:23 GMT
No advice, but I didn't want to read and run. My kid was exceptionally easy, but I have no illusions that it had anything to do with what we did as parents, it was just his personality.
Sending good thoughts your way; like you said, hopefully the judge will have had enough this time and she will turn things around after some serious thinking time.
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freebird
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Post by freebird on Mar 25, 2015 17:42:28 GMT
you sound like a very patient and loving parent. I'd have probably given up long before you sadly.
And... she sounds like a sociopath. Look it up. I'm related to one and it's hell.
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Post by bc2ca on Mar 25, 2015 17:44:57 GMT
{{{HUGS}}} I am so sorry you are dealing with all of this.
My brother put my parents through a similar routine and sadly there was nothing they could do to make him give up drugs & alcohol.
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Post by georgiapea on Mar 25, 2015 17:45:10 GMT
I am so very sorry your daughter is doing this to herself and you. My own dtr. ran away from home several times but did eventually straighten out her life. Please let us know what happens at court today and your post is fine. I'm not sure the grandfather did her any favor.
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Post by oaksong on Mar 25, 2015 17:46:51 GMT
Is there something she is not telling you that caused this abrupt change in behavior? Some kind of trauma in her past she hasn't dealt with? It must be so hard to watch her choose this path. You must feel helpless. I wish you the best.
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Peamac
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Post by Peamac on Mar 25, 2015 17:47:08 GMT
Oh my- so much that you're dealing with! (((Hugs))) and prayers for you all. Praying that the judge sees through her manipulation and can come to a good conclusion that will open her eyes and set her straight.
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Post by gar on Mar 25, 2015 17:47:46 GMT
This girl really wants to find out the hard way doesn't she! Wow...I'm sorry for the position you're in...you've done all the right things, all the things 'good' parents do but it seems she's determined to go off the rails.
I certainly have no greater knowledge than all the professionals you've been getting help from so I'll just urge you to stay strong, and I hope, somehow, things turn around for you all. Hang in there!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 25, 2015 17:50:13 GMT
I'm so sorry you and your dh are going through this. You both sound like loving and caring parents that have gone above and beyond to help and save your child. I hope "something" will click with her and things will turn around.
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Post by liya on Mar 25, 2015 17:50:18 GMT
I read your post. I don't know what to say. I have no words of wisdom or advice. You have gone above and beyond. I am so sorry you are having to deal with this.
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Post by modiemay on Mar 25, 2015 17:53:23 GMT
No advice, just sending hugs and prayers.
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Post by Jockscrap on Mar 25, 2015 17:55:44 GMT
Oh gosh what a complete nightmare you are living - I am so sorry for your troubles. The positive I can see in all this is that she seems to have held down a job throughout it all, is that right? I guess she has to reach her own lowest point before she realises the damage she is doing to herself. I can only imagine how hard that is for you as her parents to watch that process happen and be ready to pick up the pieces when she finally comes to her senses and seeks the help she needs to get her life back on track.
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Post by missysauter on Mar 25, 2015 17:56:18 GMT
Sounds like you have done everything you possibly could to get her help and make her accountable for her actions. I'm sending you my prayers
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Mar 25, 2015 17:56:38 GMT
When teens go wrong people are so quick to blame the parents. I know it's tough to see your kid go through all of this when you KNOW it is not who they are at there core... unfortunately some people have to learn these lessons all on there own.
I will keep you and your daughter in my thoughts!
Edit to add: You are doing a great job.
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Post by scrappersue on Mar 25, 2015 17:57:53 GMT
So sorry. Just want to say that you are AWESOME parents! You have done everything you can do. Hopefully she will grow up and make a change. But she may not. Hugs to you and your family.
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Post by conchita on Mar 25, 2015 18:00:02 GMT
Rehab? Other than what you're already doing, stay the course Momma. Thug, drugs, rebellion, that's a disastrous mix! I'm so sorry your family is having to endure this.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 25, 2015 18:02:33 GMT
From what my neighbor's have gone through with their daughter.... Pay the fines so they don't become the reason she gets sent to jail.
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Lots if hugs.
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Post by katlaw on Mar 25, 2015 18:15:38 GMT
No advice. Hugs to you. I just couldn't read and run.
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Post by scrapaddie on Mar 25, 2015 18:20:52 GMT
So sorry
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Post by MrsPea #2861 on Mar 25, 2015 18:32:07 GMT
I have a strong willed (middle) daughter as well. I feel you in every single thing you have gone through, except I live in Oregon. She is now taking responsibility at 21, so be patient a few more years mama.
It breaks and crushes your heart, but it will get better. Just keep the boundaries - this is so important. We had to recreate them after all this started and it was a mess. She knows no one will be for her like you two, trust me. Soon something will give and she'll be human again!
No other easy way to say or do it - but keep the faith!
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Post by panda on Mar 25, 2015 18:32:52 GMT
I'm sorry this is happening in your life. It sounds like you're doing everything right, and being great parents. I hope she straightens out, and sooner than later.
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Post by purplebee on Mar 25, 2015 18:41:12 GMT
Oh how awful for you, Leowife. Prayers that your daughter realises the mistakes she has made.
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Post by loco coco on Mar 25, 2015 18:44:33 GMT
Im so sorry your family is going through this  I dont have advice but around that age I also got caught up with some bad kids. I dont know what snapped me out of it but I look back and am so thankful for my mom I really hope things get better, wish I could give you a hug |
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Post by LeaP on Mar 25, 2015 18:45:22 GMT
{{Hugs}} I have a friend who is going through something similar with his son. It rips a hole through your soul and breaks your heart. I'm sorry you are going through this.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Mar 25, 2015 18:51:04 GMT
I'm so sorry.
(((hugs)))
I just want to say that it's not your fault, and kids are their own people, even if they behave like people we don't like very much at the moment.
Prayers that she will pull it together sooner rather than later.
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Post by akathy on Mar 25, 2015 18:52:17 GMT
I am so sorry. You have my prayers.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Mar 25, 2015 18:52:58 GMT
I'm so sorry for what your dd has put you and your family through You've truly done everything you can to help her and help her help herself but she has chosen this other path. I'm glad your other two kids are doing as well as they are through all of oldest dd's destruction. Keep up the good work, it will get better and things will level out. |
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Post by sillyrabbit on Mar 25, 2015 18:53:36 GMT
i have been there. my older DS pulled the same kind of stuff. you probably don't want to hear this, but once they are 18 then the legal system really amps things up. we paid for rehab twice, lawyers, etc but in the end leaving him sitting in jail for four months was the best thing we ever did for him. it nearly killed me to see my then 18 year old in that orange jumpsuit but i firmly believe he would be dead now if that hadn't happened. he has been out of jail now for seven months and while he still has a long way to go he is leaps and bounds better than he was. he never wants to go to jail again. sending hugs to you.
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I dont have advice but around that age I also got caught up with some bad kids. I dont know what snapped me out of it but I look back and am so thankful for my mom
