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Post by travelsoul on Apr 1, 2015 15:36:55 GMT
None of my friends and certainly not my husband understand my pain. I know you ladies will so I'm coming here to grieve.
Over the last few weekends I've been having to slowly pack up my craft room. Everything but what can fit in one Raskog had to be put in boxes and taken out to the garage. I was trying to keep things organized so they could be put on the garage shelves neatly so that I can get to them easily. Unfortunately, I had a little help from my husband who just threw stuff in boxes. Last night when I came home, he finished moving the last of my boxes and my table. I didn't know he was doing it yesterday. I didn't get a chance to say my final goodbye to my beloved craft room. To make room in the garage (so he says) he rearranged all my neatly arranged and organized boxes into stacks on top of my table. I can't find anything, get to anything, and certainly can't scrap on the table. I was really hoping I could craft in the garage. He says it's not possible as there is no room.
I'm heartbroken that we couldn't come to a compromise about finding a better way to arrange the garage so that I could continue to enjoy my hobby. I walked in the garage this morning and actually cried over the fact that thousands of dollars and years of supplies are boxed away. It's not like I wasn't using them anymore. I'm still an active scrapbooker and card maker!
This story does have a happy ending! I have a milestone birthday next month so my mom and grandma offered to buy me a shed for the backyard that I will turn into my new craft heaven!!! I'm going to hang a sign on the door that says "No husbands allowed!" I'm going to go look for one this weekend. I can't go weeks without crafting. That's just crazy.
P.S. The real happy ending is that the craft room was lost to make room for our first baby, for whom I've prayed for for years. So honestly, I'm happy to give it up. I'm just sad that my husband was not so understanding and willing to compromise with me.
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Post by oaksong on Apr 1, 2015 15:58:18 GMT
Someone needs to invent a changing/craft table combo. You could scrap while the baby's sleeping. Seriously though, crafting is the last thing you're going to be thinking of for the next year or so. Congratulations on your impending little one!
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Post by christinec68 on Apr 1, 2015 16:06:14 GMT
Congrats on the baby!!
Hugs about all your stuff getting shoved into the garage.
Yay for the craft shed!
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Post by threegirls on Apr 1, 2015 17:59:11 GMT
I know how you feel. I had to pack-up my scrap room when I was pregnant with my second daughter. I put what I could in my closet and the rest went into the scary, unfinished basement. I have to make kits and scrap at the dining room table. I have to clean everything up because it is also the table we eat at and do homework at.
You are lucky to be getting a craft shed. I would love one! Congrats on your pregnancy. Once the baby is born, make sure you find a little time for yourself and scrap away!
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Post by breetheflea on Apr 1, 2015 18:07:22 GMT
I would be telling the DH to clean out the garage...
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 1, 2015 18:47:59 GMT
That IS sad! My congrats for the baby and condolences for your scrap room.   Maybe you have a friend that scraps who would let you keep some stuff at her house? One of my friends was displaced about a year ago and didn't have anywhere to keep her scrapping stuff so I let her put it in my basement/utility room. Good thing she did, because the storage unit where she had ALL of her other possessions got flooded and it was a near total loss.  At at least you're losing the room for a really good cause! Oddly enough, though I didn't scrap all that much right after DD was born, I *thought* about it ALL the time and took tons of pics for when I would have more free time later to scrap those new baby moments. Be sure to write down some journaling to go with the pics you take. I wish I would have written more stuff down because even a few short years later, you do forget. |
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 1, 2015 18:56:25 GMT
I understand, completely!
Congratulations on the new baby - how wonderful.
Now, put a BIG lock on that shed. Hubby does not get a key.
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Post by carolynhasacat on Apr 1, 2015 19:24:13 GMT
That was really crappy of him. Can you not spend some time going through the stuff and re-organizing it so you can find things? I had the MOST time to scrap in the 2 years after my son was born. I packed up the dining room and moved in my scrapping stuff. Congrats on the baby.
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Post by Linda on Apr 1, 2015 19:28:38 GMT
congratulations on the new baby - how exciting! One thing I did with my last baby was write on a calender - just little things like first tooth or rolling over or moved to 3m clothes or first smile...you think at the time, you'll never forget...you will and that calender has been a blessing as I've scrapped her first year (and yes, I'm still scrapping it - she's 8.5 now - ouch)
Condolences on the craft room - it IS hard
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Post by Sassenach on Apr 1, 2015 19:50:44 GMT
Awww! Congratulations on the new baby. You will love your new new scrap space, too. You can purchase of of those baby swings and he or she can hang out with you in your "scrap cottage" while you scrap.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Apr 1, 2015 20:28:06 GMT
Congrats on the baby. I would be taking charge and making my own little spot in the garage because once that baby is born you will want to scrap every pic/event!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2015 21:31:56 GMT
If your dh is anything like mine, once he sets his mind to get something done, he does it asap. Like literally throw things around all willy nilly just to complete the task. Where I would organize and label things and take a bit longer to get it done, but it would be done right. If he did that to my scrap room I would be heartbroken. So I completely understand!
Congrats on your baby news!
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Post by myboysnme on Apr 1, 2015 22:22:17 GMT
It sounds like you are excited about the shed. Unless it is a place you want to be in with your baby I might put off on getting that for awhile. Babies change our lives in major ways, and time goes quickly so life may bring you a space to scrap in other ways. You may meet other moms who get together and scrap. You may want to go to crops, or you may just want to set up a table in your living room sometimes when you feel like scrapping.
Having your stuff in boxes you may be glad it is just stacked in a safe place until you can get back to scrapping. Just trying to put a positive spin on it. Having a baby pretty much puts everything we thought about before on the back burner!
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Post by foodallergymom on Apr 1, 2015 23:00:39 GMT
Congratulations first of all!! That's awesome news:-)
About the craft room, how about having a tote full of supplies you love to craft around the house for now. I know all your supplies are boxed for now. Maybe just start monthly sub and don't buy more than one kit, so you don't create a stock pile but have fresh supplies to craft every month. Atleast you will craft a little. You may not have much time, but a little ME time here and there will help keep your spirits up when you are tired and just want to do something other than taking care of the baby. I have a 1 yr old and a 5 yr old and just making a bow at times keeps me sane ;-)
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Post by FurryP on Apr 1, 2015 23:50:41 GMT
Just reading the title made me sad. My Dh's idea of cleaning up anything is piling it all in one corner. No matter what ends up on top of what. At least your is for a good reason, but I feel your pain, OP. |
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Apr 2, 2015 0:01:39 GMT
My husband would be livid if I touched any of his precious tools and he knows better than to even glance in the general direction of my scrappy stuff! Agree w/ carolynhasacat - that was a crappy thing to do! On to better things - congrats on the wonderful addition to your family! And I mean the baby, not the shed.  Although the shed will be a welcome addition when it arrives, too! Two things to look forward to! |
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Post by travelsoul on Apr 2, 2015 2:26:15 GMT
Thank you all for understanding and commiserating with me. We live in such a small house with a small garage and almost no closet space. I have filled my Raskog with my must have, most used, tools. I have a couple 12x12 Iris containers with supplies from my current kits and the supplies I'm using for my pregnancy album. I'll ise the dining room table for now. I'll probably be more productive and creative with limited supplies!
What's killing me is my stamps, 6x6 paper. I have a couple hundred sets. I tried to pull out my most used sentiments and my beloved Lawn Fawn so that they are easily accessible. I often use 3 to 4 sets at a time because I like to mix it up and build scenes. Sigh...
Sadly, I do not have local friends who paper craft. Oh well... I've already started a fabulous board on Pinterest with amazing craft shed ideas. My husband is going to be so jealous of my mom cave.
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Post by Skellinton on Apr 2, 2015 2:59:03 GMT
I am sorry for your loss, but happy for the reason!
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Post by ScrapsontheRocks on Apr 2, 2015 7:06:53 GMT
Oh, we understand! Commiserations and Congratulations to you. Roll on that shed!
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Post by Florida Cindy on Apr 2, 2015 14:21:18 GMT
It seems as if your DH was trying to help you. Mistakenly, he did what you did not want-pack up your items and put them in the garage. Even though he doesn't understand how you feel (have you told him?), he probably felt he was helping you out. Think positively about the situation. You can always have get box by box for you-so you can go through it and label whats in the box.
Do you know how many ladies would love it if there DH lifted a finger and actually did something around the house?
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Post by scrapaddie on Apr 2, 2015 21:23:57 GMT
I understand how you feel. I had to box all my stuff up when we put our house on the market. It was only a few months but it was terrible!
I also I'm very excited for you about your baby! I know how it feels to try for years and finally have your dream come true!
And now you get your own little craft place! There are some really cute ones on Pinterest! You will have so much fun scrapping that baby's life!
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Post by kristenf on Apr 2, 2015 21:54:12 GMT
I so feel your pain, sistah! I packed up my craft room for baby #3! I was lucky at the time, as there was a corner in my master bedroom that I could stuff my desk and a cart, and that kept me happy for a couple of years. Then, we were lucky enough to be able to add on to our home, getting another bedroom (one for each kid) and new family room, but I lost my mbr corner. My stuff ended up in the basement (which is not a happy place... cold, dark, poor lighting, packed to the gills with crap), and ultimately became the home for our servers (hubby's an IT guy), so I don't even have a desk. This past year, my whole life changed when I got a Workbox from Original Scrapbox! It's awesome. I don't know what your mom/grandma's budget is, but even though the Scrapbox products are expensive I can't imagine that a decent shed could possibly be less... with a baby in the house, I think you'd get much better use out of having an armoir IN the house. If baby falls asleep on the playmat, you're probably not going to go out to the shed, but you can certainly sit at your WorkBox! The footprint of the closed Workbox is definitely deeper than a "normal" armoir, but the Scrapbox might be better... it's worth checking out the measurements and looking around your house for a place you might be able to fit it. Just look into it! And, Congratulations!!!! |
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Post by jediannie on Apr 2, 2015 22:26:04 GMT
travelsoul I totally feel your pain! We live in a 3 bedroom house and each of us had our own space. I'm having our first child next month and we have to share an office now to make room for the baby. I too am glad to be having a child, but darn, I was so sad I lost half my craft space! I even gave up my Raskog and it's now going to hold diapers & such in the baby's room because it was just in the way in our shared office. But, I'm very excited to scrapbook a new theme! 
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Post by boxermom73 on Apr 2, 2015 22:31:31 GMT
I had to do the same when I had my baby last year... I waited 13 years for him ! You will have lots of time to scrap when he is real little so have a kit on the table and do a little when you can I've kept up on my PL this way... Every time I pass my nursery I sigh... Lol I want a shed when we can afford it!
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Post by MerryMom on Apr 2, 2015 23:17:23 GMT
I hope your items are in plastic totes and not cardboard boxes so that dampness doesn't get to your craft supplies.
Also your shed can be called your "craft cave" instead of a man cave.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 2, 2015 23:33:31 GMT
It seems as if your DH was trying to help you. Mistakenly, he did what you did not want-pack up your items and put them in the garage. Even though he doesn't understand how you feel (have you told him?), he probably felt he was helping you out. Think positively about the situation. You can always have get box by box for you-so you can go through it and label whats in the box. Do you know how many ladies would love it if there DH lifted a finger and actually did something around the house? It's not just husbands who don't get it. I'm in the process of UNpacking most of the stuff for my studio from our move almost three years ago now that my studio buildout is done, and I've had several friends offer to help me unpack. The problem is, I need to go through it all piece by piece to decide what I don't want anymore so I can get rid of some stuff in an upcoming scrapping/stamping garage sale some friends are putting on next month. So as much as I wish someone *could* help with this truly heinous task, they just can't because I'll end up having to go through everything again myself anyway. And for the record, going through it box by box? Yeah, it STINKS when the stuff in the boxes is a jumbled up mess. Just ask me how I know... Sigh. I feel your pain there! |
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Post by wvbeetlebug on Apr 4, 2015 1:54:29 GMT
Sadness on the craft room but happiness for the baby!!!!
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Post by riversong1963 on Apr 4, 2015 3:07:16 GMT
Yeah, my husband would be sleeping on the couch until that baby was in college if he had done that to my stuff. That sounds more like controlling than helping to me. It sounds like you need to get some family/friends together to help you go through your things and organize them the way YOU want them. You're going to have some sweet & awesome pictures to scrapbook soon, so you're going to need those supplies.
Enjoy your new craft shed and your new baby! He/she will be here before you know it. Enjoy every second!
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 5, 2015 4:48:05 GMT
I don't think I could pay my husband to touch my scrappy stuff. I had to box it all up 18 months ago to put in wooden floors and he always had other things to do. Your husband might wish you were in the garage when the baby cries and you are out in the shed. Excellent planning!
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Post by mrssch on Apr 5, 2015 13:33:38 GMT
When I first read your post, I felt awful for you. When the reason for the changes came to light, I was happy for you.
You are blessed to be pregnant with your first baby and your husband was trying to help while you were away.
Being a wife and mother is full of hard sacrifices that far outweigh the costs.
Congratulations on reaching a new milestone.
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Although the shed will be a welcome addition when it arrives, too!
