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Post by grinningcat on Apr 29, 2015 11:32:13 GMT
Absolutely you should go. Travelling alone is the best kind of travel. Do it. You deserve it. There is no reason why every trip has to be with family. Travelling alone is great and you avoid the annoyances of travelling with others. Do it.
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Post by momto4kiddos on Apr 29, 2015 11:37:38 GMT
And what is holding you back, guilt? I'm really not seeing why in the world you haven't booked it yet....go, book it!
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Apr 29, 2015 11:47:42 GMT
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Post by littlemama on Apr 29, 2015 11:47:42 GMT
If you want to, then do it. Traveling without my family is not something I am interested in, but lots of people do it, and I don't judge those who do - it just isn't for me.
I do think that this "I told him last week I was getting a little irritated with all of his out of town trips and he asked me where I wanted to go." was not really fair to your husband, since you stated all but one trip was for work. It's not like he is choosing to travel to all these places without you.
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Post by heather on Apr 29, 2015 11:50:28 GMT
Hell yeah. Go.
I'm planning a solo vacation this winter. Kids are in school, and at an age where they really can't miss easily. Plus my husband has no desire to go, so by myself it is. And I'm thrilled!
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Post by gar on Apr 29, 2015 11:58:06 GMT
Maybe you're holding back because of that thing women do with guilt, and 'do I deserve it?' etc If Dh is on board and the cost isn't an issue then go! Come back and tell you when you've booked
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Apr 29, 2015 12:15:47 GMT
Post by ktdoesntscrap on Apr 29, 2015 12:15:47 GMT
YES GO!!!!
enjoy!
Don't feel guilty!!
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Post by heather on Apr 29, 2015 12:16:16 GMT
Hell yeah. Go. I'm planning a solo vacation this winter. Kids are in school, and at an age where they really can't miss easily. Plus my husband has no desire to go, so by myself it is. And I'm thrilled! Do tell! Where will you be going? London. I've wanted to go for years, but there's never been a right time. So I'm going to make it the right time.
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Post by uksue on Apr 29, 2015 12:17:45 GMT
I am filled with envy- even just a weekend alone in a hotel with my kindle would be total bliss to me. As others have said, if money isn't an issue then why shouldn't you take this opportunity ! Life is short!
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Apr 29, 2015 12:25:48 GMT
Post by ljs1691 on Apr 29, 2015 12:25:48 GMT
Sounds heavenly. I wouldn't want to be gone more than about 4 days though. Knowing what awaits upon return would keep me from going longer.
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Post by miss_lizzie on Apr 29, 2015 12:26:50 GMT
I'm going on a vacation by myself this summer and am so excited! It's the first trip I will have taken without DH where I won't know a single person and it's going to be great!
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Apr 29, 2015 12:27:48 GMT
Post by travelsoul on Apr 29, 2015 12:27:48 GMT
Do not hesitate. Book it! I've travel alone several times. I've even traveled to Europe alone. It's an amazing and peaceful adventure.
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Apr 29, 2015 12:33:02 GMT
Post by kristi521 on Apr 29, 2015 12:33:02 GMT
Key West is so much fun! I would go in a heartbeat! Honestly, I would be fine anywhere that I could lounge by the pool and read with no interruptions. Right about now, the Holiday Inn up the road looks good
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Post by Deleted on Apr 29, 2015 12:47:28 GMT
A little background: My husband travels a lot for work and has been to some nice places recently. Within the last year he has been to Colorado, New Orleans, San Diego, Germany, and even a fly-fishing trip to Oregon (fly fishing was just for fun). He takes us on trips with him when he can. I have been to Hawaii, Vail, and San Francisco with him but it's been over a year since I could go with him since we have kids in school. His mother is older and can't come as often to watch the kids. I told him last week I was getting a little irritated with all of his out of town trips and he asked me where I wanted to go. The first thing that popped in my head was Key West. We have vacationed there a lot with my parents, sister, and other family. I want to go somewhere warm and tropical and I am familiar with Key West. He was a little surprised but said "yeah, go ahead". I looked into a flight to Miami and a condo in Key West and financially it's doable. DH will get the kids ready for school and be home as early as he can in the afternoon to get them to their after school activities. They are both 10 and can be home for an hour or two in the afternoon after school. Usually I am home but, sometimes I am still running errands when they get home from school. FYI We have three family vacations planned this year. One to see my sister in Florida, another week to rent a beach house, and a three week trip to Cuba in December. He will be in Guantanamo Bay for a two month deployment and we are going to spend Christmas break down there. I would just like a little time to myself or am I being selfish? Would you go? I can't figure out why I am hesitating. Traveling alone doesn't scare me. ETA. I asked my sister if she could join me but they are moving into a new house the week I would be going. And there is only one week in May that this will work with our family's schedule. ETA. We moved to our current home 2.5 years ago and he spent a year of that deployed to Afghanistan. Just adding that to give more perspective. ETA. Some of his business trips are voluntary. He gets invited to speak or teach at a conference or course. These types of trips are not required. Go and enjoy the heck out of it!
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Post by buddysmom on Apr 29, 2015 13:06:27 GMT
Another idea on how to get to Key West--fly into Ft Myers and take the Key West Shuttle (it's called something like that) to Key West. It's a boat that takes about four hours and drops you off in Key West. That way you don't have to drive down there from Miami if you don't want. We've done it a couple of times and it was a nice trip.
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Apr 29, 2015 13:26:18 GMT
Post by gryroagain on Apr 29, 2015 13:26:18 GMT
I've gone on grips by myself several times, I love it! It's my "mom break". Go!
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Apr 29, 2015 13:35:30 GMT
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Apr 29, 2015 13:35:30 GMT
You should definitely go. You do sound like you have mom/wife guilt, but you shouldn't. You can afford it and your husband is OK with it so go! It's good to get away and relax.
I'm debating a trip by myself as well. Not sure where yet though.
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Apr 29, 2015 13:54:38 GMT
Post by littlemama on Apr 29, 2015 13:54:38 GMT
If you want to, then do it. Traveling without my family is not something I am interested in, but lots of people do it, and I don't judge those who do - it just isn't for me. I do think that this "I told him last week I was getting a little irritated with all of his out of town trips and he asked me where I wanted to go." was not really fair to your husband, since you stated all but one trip was for work. It's not like he is choosing to travel to all these places without you. Some of his trips are voluntary. He gets invited to speak or teach at courses and conferences. These types of trips are not required. Thanks for clarifying!
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Post by paigepea on Apr 29, 2015 14:03:48 GMT
Dh has had vacations by himself once or twice (went somewhere for work but tacked on a short vacation just because of the location, it worked out, etc). He always says that while he enjoys what he sees, it is never as fun as travelling with the family. As a result,I'm not interested in travelling alone (without family or friends), especially with so many vacations (like you have) booked for the future.
If you want to go, I think it's good and great for you. I wouldn't do it to even the score or get time away since many family vacations are coming up. But I don't work and get time to myself when kids are at school, so maybe I'm in a different position than you. if you go, have fun!!
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Apr 29, 2015 14:09:35 GMT
Post by originalvanillabean on Apr 29, 2015 14:09:35 GMT
Yes! Go and enjoy yourself!!
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Apr 29, 2015 14:19:14 GMT
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 29, 2015 14:19:14 GMT
I would say go. Years ago (before kid) I had a lot of opportunities to travel solo for work to different places and I always had the chance to do a little exploring on the side. It was fun and a nice break from the everyday rat race back home. Neither of us would turn down solo vacations if the chance presents itself and it's something we want to do. These days I prefer to run off with my girlfriends and I'm blessed to have a few that are willing (and compatible) travel companions who like to do the same kinds of things that I do. In fact, I would much rather go someplace with them, because I know they are always game to stop and shop if something looks interesting whereas DH would just roll his eyes and tell me to hurry up and go in. Sorry, but that's just not the same, LOL! I don't mind taking family vacations too, but quite honestly they are more work than fun for me. When I go with my friends (even if it's partly work) it's always way more FUN!
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 29, 2015 14:22:47 GMT
Go! It's not selfish to take care of yourself. I firmly believe you will be a better parent and spouse if you put yourself first once in a while. It's a good lesson for your family, too!
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Post by mimima on Apr 29, 2015 14:24:11 GMT
Go and enjoy
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Post by krc11 on Apr 29, 2015 14:25:09 GMT
If you kids are 10, do they have some friends that you feel comfortable enough to go on one of those trips with your husband and leave the kids with friend's parents? Otherwise, if you like traveling alone, do it!
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Apr 29, 2015 14:42:19 GMT
Post by hollymolly on Apr 29, 2015 14:42:19 GMT
I love traveling by myself! I much prefer it, but I am a loner by nature. I just really like solitude.
When I was married, my DH was always going off to fish or hunt without me, and after one particularly busy deer season when he was at deer camp more than he was at home, I told him I needed a deer camp to go off to. So I started taking long weekends by myself to knit in interesting hotel rooms and visit yarn stores. I called it Knit Camp.
Since I've been single, I actually have to work at not taking all of my vacations by myself. Traveling with others is a completely different experience, and I need both.
This year, in addition to work travel, I've been to London solo, I'm doing a weekend at Universal Studios Florida solo, I'm taking a beach vacation with my son, and I'm going to Disney with my sister and cousin. I have done Disney solo 3 times, not counting when I lived in Orlando.
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Post by cmpeter on Apr 29, 2015 14:58:16 GMT
I have a hubby that travels a lot for work too. I do some as well. But, neither of us like to vacation alone. We do take trips (long weekends) without each other but with either friends, family or one on one with one of our kids. I personally wouldn't go alone because that wouldn't be fun for me.
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Post by anonrefugee on Apr 29, 2015 15:10:29 GMT
I say GO for another reason. I used. To travel a lot, pleasure and business. Quite comfortable doing both alone. Someqhere in the last 10-15 years I stopped, either for time or dollar budget. My kids are teens, I can get away for a few days, budget is there. But I am out of practice! Im trying to talk myself into a solitary trip and it seems daunting, even to places I know fairly well. I don't need a girls getaway- I need solo so I can feel confident. So I suggest you do it now, for the future "you". ( hollymolly, I'm not a Disney person- but that could be a fun idea. I'd have plenty of time to photograph and lots of room to walk without focusing on safety. )
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Post by linda~lou on Apr 29, 2015 15:45:07 GMT
Go. Just go. No guilt involved. Everyone deserves some me time. Go!!!!
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Post by hollymolly on Apr 29, 2015 15:50:03 GMT
anonrefugee Disney is great for that! It is so safe and self-contained. If you stay on site, it's even better. You don't have to drive, they take care of every detail, there are always cast members around to answer even the most basic questions and they will never make you feel silly for asking. You can do as much or as little as you want. Plus most major attractions have a solo rider line where they just work you in to fill in the empty spaces in the ride vehicles (think family of 5 in a vehicle that seats 6) and it moves so much faster than the regular line. Disney is great for photography as well, and not just the iconic images. The detail is so amazing throughout the parks and resorts. You can wander around any of their resorts and take pictures, even if you're staying off site. The Florida sunshine is great for natural light.
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Apr 29, 2015 16:26:37 GMT
Post by ilikepink on Apr 29, 2015 16:26:37 GMT
You are the one "in charge" of making sure everyone in the family is ok, right? Making sure that everyone is happy and ready to face the world, right?
So - take care of yourself, make yourself happy. Go. Don't think twice. Dad can be the Dad and do it all for a few days. Y'all be better after.
Have a good time!
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Post by likescarrots on Apr 29, 2015 17:28:34 GMT
If you want to, then do it. Traveling without my family is not something I am interested in, but lots of people do it, and I don't judge those who do - it just isn't for me. I do think that this "I told him last week I was getting a little irritated with all of his out of town trips and he asked me where I wanted to go." was not really fair to your husband, since you stated all but one trip was for work. It's not like he is choosing to travel to all these places without you. Some of his trips are voluntary. He gets invited to speak or teach at courses and conferences. These types of trips are not required. But they are still work related and probably linked to promotion/raises/funding/etc.
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