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Post by mom on Apr 29, 2015 21:59:58 GMT
Honestly? I would play this one day at a time in regards to cards, questions, etc. Take this Thursday as a day to introduce yourself and begin getting to know each other. I will say prayers for you!
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Post by mztfied on Apr 29, 2015 23:08:45 GMT
How exciting!!! Hope we get an update after you meet your birth Mom. Hoping all goes well and the meeting goes perfectly.
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Post by KelleeM on Apr 29, 2015 23:30:49 GMT
That is so exciting! I hope that it all goes well. You have a great Mom to support you through this!!
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Post by heartcat on Apr 29, 2015 23:36:01 GMT
I cannot imagine how excited and nervous you must be. What a wonderful opportunity! I am so glad that your parents were supportive of you and your brother in finding other family should you choose to. I wish you all the best!
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Post by Marina on Apr 30, 2015 0:17:56 GMT
What a blessing that your parents are so supportive of your doing this. I think flowers are a great idea but I would hold off on the card and send one after your visit. It would be a great way to follow-up.
I think having questions written down is helpful as you will be feeling so many different kinds of emotions. Wishing you all the best in your meeting!
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Post by tduby1 on Apr 30, 2015 0:30:34 GMT
While I think a card could be lovely it could also be awkward and without really knowing her personality you have no way of knowing which.
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Post by scrapngranny on Apr 30, 2015 1:13:16 GMT
Congratulations! I hope your visit is everything you want it to be.
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Post by alittleintrepid on Apr 30, 2015 1:17:23 GMT
Best wishes for a successful meeting. It must be pretty exciting and nerve-racking - I'd hold off on the card and give yourself time to sort out what you want your relationship to be like.
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Post by mimima on Apr 30, 2015 1:28:59 GMT
What a wonderful opportunity, will be thinking of you.
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Post by quinlove on Apr 30, 2015 2:25:45 GMT
I met my birth father at age 52. Since my "parents" we're married briefly, his name was available. My birth mother did not want to deal with any of it. At the beginning, he volunteered some information about my mother.
We live far apart and I have seen him a few times. I do have some half brothers with him and I am very close to one of them now. After so many lost years, it was kind of hard for us to be family, but we do try.
Everyone and every story is very different. Mine isn't good or bad. For me - it did not fill the hole I never knew I had in my heart.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 30, 2015 2:42:55 GMT
My birthmom and I were reunited when I was 19 years old - 20+ years ago. We have created a wonderful realationship over time. It started out slow but now we are incredibly close. She knows she wouldn't ever replace my mom and has never tried -she has been very gracious about her role in my life .
With all that said...I still struggle every year with a mothers day card. They don't make cards for our relationship and the few birthmom cards I have found are cheesy and a bit contrived. I used to stress for weeks over the card and now I just don't send one. I send her flowers for mothers day and just write something personal on the florist card. For me that works best.
I'm excited you two are meeting and I look forward to hearing all about it.
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Post by jayfab on Apr 30, 2015 2:43:36 GMT
I'd hold off on the card. After the meeting, you can send a card and with a thank you note... assuming all goes well! I think this is a great idea. Good luck!!! I'm excited for you. |
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Post by cajeanne on Apr 30, 2015 3:04:45 GMT
How exciting for you! Please let us know how it goes.
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Post by beaglemom on May 12, 2015 22:54:39 GMT
How did it go?
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Post by Deleted on May 13, 2015 1:59:45 GMT
Thank you guys so much. Â To those who asked, before i did the dna test i joined a fb group called search squad who has dozens of search angels that all they do is research and help those find lost family members. I think i read about them on this board. Â They strongly suggested the dna test and getting my non id information from the agency i was adopted from. Once i had my results from ancestry i was lucky enough to have several and second cousins show up. Â From there my best friend and the amazing women in the search squard where able to weed through the family trees and connect the dots. Â I had already desided to bring her flowers. just didnt know if the card would be over the top. Â still on the fence. Â andrea how did it go? |
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