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Post by utmr on May 11, 2015 18:15:47 GMT
Take lots of pictures.
If breastfeeding is important, don't have bottles or formula in the house. (Not going to debate it, but if your MIL is standing over you with a bottle in her hand, it's going to make it much harder to figure out).
When people ask nosy questions, it's fine to lie. "Natural childbirth? Absolutely. No drugs at all and only 2 hours of labor for 11- pound baby pumpkin head". "Sleeping through the night? Of course"
Enjoy. It all goes by too fast.
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Post by alissa103 on May 11, 2015 19:09:50 GMT
Do NOT wait to get help if you're having trouble nursing. Don't be afraid to ask questions and make an appointment with a lactation consultant. In fact, get her number before you leave the hospital or from your midwife. Set a goal for yourself not to give up without seeking help.
Throw out the books and go by your instincts. Our world has been raising babies "forever." Every culture has its own thing. None of them are right & none of them are wrong. Just do what works for you & baby and don't worry how anyone else does it.
It's a crazy waste of time (and stressful for you AND baby) to force a schedule. They will get in a rhythm and you'll be able to go with the flow.
Babies need a lot less stuff than our culture will lead you to believe. They need YOU the most. Then a blanket, some clothes, a safe bed and you're good to go.
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Post by IAmUnoriginal on May 11, 2015 19:24:44 GMT
ODS --
Don't tiptoe around a sleeping baby. Make normal house noises while he naps and he'll sleep through it all. -- Worked great!
Get back into your routine as soon as you're feeling up to it. If it makes you feel good to do your hair and make up every day, do it, even if it's a simplified version. Get out of your sloppy clothes and messy hair. (This was from my dr when I was worried about PPD.) Put baby in a bouncy seat and talk to him while you do your routine. He'll make it part of his normal day. -- This helped.
YDS --
Sit down and hold that baby. It passes too fast. The housework can wait. There are 11 years between my kids. I realized how fast it all was going and have savored my little guy whenever possible.
Simplify - he doesn't need all the stuff, just the stuff that works for your parenting style.
Don't sweat the milestones. They'll get there in their own time. As long as they are progressing, let them pick the pace.
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Post by eebud on May 11, 2015 19:27:09 GMT
Always remember that you will do the best that you can with what you know. When you know better, you do better. You will make mistakes. We all do.
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Post by Scrapper100 on May 11, 2015 19:55:40 GMT
Routines will save you. Set them up early and stick to them. Don't tske your baby out to run errands at nap time or meal times. Babies seem to thrive on routines. Rest whenever possible and cuddle them as often as they will let you they grow up so fast. Try to enjoy the time when they are little as much as possible.
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Post by candleangie on May 11, 2015 20:12:15 GMT
Your child is a seperate being with their own thoughts and feelings. They WILL, at some point, throw a fit in the store, break the rules, tell a lie, stay out to late....they just will. Accept it now. As long as you make sure that those things never work in their favor, you're doing fine.
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Post by scrapaddie on May 11, 2015 21:28:11 GMT
This applies especially if you are a working mom.... Think before you say no because once you say no, you will have to hold your ground. ExAmple: you just got home from work and child wants to change out of cute outfit to put on one of your old t shirts made into a dress by some scarves... Your initial reaction may be NO.... But can you hold put if child starts crying or begging? Does it really matter.... No, but you did say no and now you have to stay with it.... So think before you say no... Will it be worth a fight if it comes to it?
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2015 22:15:05 GMT
*Everything seems worse at night Oh heck yes! So so so true! |
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Post by gmcwife1 on May 11, 2015 22:19:32 GMT
People have been successfully raising babies for as long as people have existed. You can do it too. It's not easy, but it doesn't have to be that complicated either. Have confidence in your instincts. Yes!! Relax, have fun and enjoy yourself  Everyone makes mistakes and parenting is always changing, moving and evolving! |
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Everyone makes mistakes and parenting is always changing, moving and evolving!