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Post by genny on May 14, 2015 14:36:29 GMT
Today is officially my son's last day of high school. They have a picnic day and a big breakfast next week and graduation rehearsals, but today is the last real day.
I've been going along fine with a sad moment here and there, but today has hit me like a ton of bricks and I have been crying all morning. DD just texted me a picture of the senior class in the auditorium with their caps and gowns on doing their Senior Day thing.
I swear it's like I've sprung a leak. My eyes have stayed wet all morning and tears just fall. I know he is smart and will do well, I am very proud of him and truly believe I've raised a great young man. But it's not about that.
I just want more time and it hurts like hell that I can't go back to that sweet little, sweaty 4 year old boy that adored his mommy so and hold him one more time with those big hugs and sloppy kisses. It's going to be a long week til graduation if I can't pull it together.
How are you guys holding up? While I don't wish this emotional hurricane on anyone, I also hope I'm not the only basket case out there...
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Post by oaksong on May 14, 2015 14:59:59 GMT
I'm getting teary-eyed reading your post, and trying not to think about it. It has only hit me in little waves, like dropping DD off at school yesterday, watching her walk away, and remembering the tiny little girl I took to school so many times. Mostly I can push it back for now.
DD's graduation isn't for 2 more weeks. DS will be home, interning locally for the summer, so I will have both kids here, maybe for the last time. When DD leaves for college, and DS goes back to school on the East coast, the deluge will begin.
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Post by lisacharlotte on May 14, 2015 15:03:30 GMT
the first year my son was out of the house my husband found old video of him as a toddler and was converting it to digital. I couldn't watch them because I got so emotional. Menopause didn't help, but it was more bitter than sweet at the time.
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Post by Basket1lady on May 14, 2015 15:04:08 GMT
Genny, big hugs. It's that time of year, isn't it?
DS still has a few more weeks--graduation is June 13 for him. But I cry all the time! I'm heavily into the planning stages of deep cleaning, arranging for family to come into town, the ceremony for everyone, the grad party... But it's the slide show that's killing me. I'm scanning photos from when he was really little, as we didn't have a digital camera yet. And those photos are killing me! And listening to different songs to add to the slide show. Arrrgh! My best friend and I were FaceTiming the other day and saying the same thing. Her DS was done on Tuesday. I knew that kid when he was 2 and wouldn't talk to anyone!
I'm not really sad. He's an awesome kid and has worked so hard over the years. But I'm just going to miss him so much. He's going out of state and will be 1,300 miles away from us. To add to it all, this is the kid with Asperger's and we always thought he would go to school close to home and live in our basement apartment. We chose this house with that in mind... But he's come so far in the past few years. The school will be a great fit for him. He's ready for this next phase. But I'm not!
And now I'm crying again!
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Post by liya on May 14, 2015 15:21:33 GMT
So far so good. DD is graduating from college Saturday. I am ok; but probably because she is moving back home.
DS does not graduate from high school until June 28. I have plenty of time to start crying. He is my youngest. I know I will cry at graduation but dropping him off at the dorms in August I will be a wreck.
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Post by Basket1lady on May 14, 2015 15:24:02 GMT
So far so good. DD is graduating from college Saturday. I am ok; but probably because she is moving back home. DS does not graduate from high school until June 28. I have plenty of time to start crying. He is my youngest. I know I will cry at graduation but dropping him off at the dorms in August I will be a wreck. I can't even think about dropping off at the dorms! It will only be me, since it's out of state. Maybe that will be a good thing. I'm going to be a mess! And I'm crying again... |
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Post by PLurker on May 14, 2015 15:36:05 GMT
I'm in Africa. On the river of "da Nile".
Forever I've been telling myself it's not until June. Still am. Unfortunately, that is next to NOW. Then I tell myself, she will be here all summer. Then I remember she is taking a road trip in August for three weeks. So that moves the "no more DD around here" to end of July. That is shortly after the above mentioned "now". Hands over ears here, chanting "la la la la la... I can't hear you!"
I am so happy and proud of her. But the selfish me just ain't. She is a good kid. Never had the terrible teen thing (flashed of, of course- she be human!) she still likes me and the feeling is mutual. Ok, gotta stop talking about it... tearing up here.
Hugs to all Moms of seniors, military moms and moms in general.
They (nature, God, whatever you believe) make you love our children so we will take care of and nurture them. Double edged sword that stabs you when they leave!
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Post by genealopea on May 14, 2015 16:03:35 GMT
Hugs. I'm doing okay so far, but DD doesn't graduate until June 11. This weekend is prom, then a flurry of other activities. She's leaving on June 13 for three weeks in Ireland, and then a week at the beach with her friends. Yikes - that leaves a month before college, and one week in there is orientation in Boston.
Okay, now that I re-read that, my time with her is dwindling quickly. Sniffle. I'm gonna miss her!!!
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Post by naby64 on May 14, 2015 16:10:49 GMT
I have been doing ok. My DS's last day was May 5th. I made it through college graduation of oldest DS this past Saturday with no tears at all. I was very proud of myself. Sunday a week ago, it was mentioned in church that the next Sunday was Mother's Day and Senior Recognition day. All of a sudden, my eyes just teared up and I had to leave the choir loft. I was emotional all morning and pretty much all day. On the next Sunday I was exhausted from the day before so I didn't even have it in me to cry.
His graduation is Tuesday, the 19th. That is also senior walk day. We will see at that point how I am. I am having to scrap like a mad woman to get 3 more pages done for his senior album. I have done 2 others for my kiddos and those are debuted on grad day. I have to remain blocked off emotionally to get those done.
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Post by ilikepink on May 14, 2015 16:34:43 GMT
I'm teary for all of you!! It was yesterday, wasn't it, that they went off to pre-school? My youngest graduates law school Tuesday. He texted me a few weeks ago when they got their gowns, and I cried!!! My three are grown-ass men, and still they need help tying their shoes in my head.
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Post by ametallichick on May 14, 2015 19:50:13 GMT
My ds graduates on the 4th and I have been totally fine with it.
My dd graduated 6 years ago ad I really can't remember if I was upset that day or not.
I think I was just really happy and proud. Excited!
Hugs to all of you!
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Post by hop2 on May 14, 2015 19:54:33 GMT
I'm Holding up fine, BUT DD doesn't graduateuntil June 24th. By then I'll probably be a blubbering mess.
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Post by LauraTen on May 14, 2015 20:54:07 GMT
DS's last day is at the end of the month and graduation is June 10th.
I've been buying all the stuff he will need for college.
He will need it earlier than most because he was accepted to a summer program at the University.
I am just now starting to get sad...
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Post by tanyab on May 14, 2015 21:01:58 GMT
My son's last day is next Thursday. So far I'm holding up well basically not thinking too deeply about it. It also helps that he'll still be here all summer. After that I'm sure I'll be crying just like you.  |
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Post by scraphappy0501 on May 14, 2015 22:31:48 GMT
DD #2 graduates on June 4 and I'm feeling it much more than I did when DD #1 graduated. I've been getting teary since January when it hit me that graduation was actually going to be this year. Maybe it's because once DD #2 graduates and goes off to college in the fall DH and I will be empty-nesters and have no more kids at home. She is going to college in Oregon, a 12 hour drive from us, so that might be part of it too. DD #1 was only an hour away when she went off to college. The only saving grace for me right now is that DD #1 and her DH just moved back here from out of state and they will be living close to us when my first grandchild is born in November |
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Post by bc2ca on May 14, 2015 22:39:10 GMT
I honestly can't believe graduation is almost here (June 11th for us), but I haven't been teary yet. The next month is insanely busy and I really haven't been thinking beyond what has to be done this week to have time to stop & about HS being almost over.
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Post by maryland on May 14, 2015 23:55:22 GMT
I got sad just reading your post! My oldest child's last day is next week, and I can't believe it. She has been on my nerves this week (related to her stress over senior project, AP exams, etc.). Prom was last weekend, and she wasn't being nice to her date. So the past couple of days, I was not sad about graduating! Of course next week, I will be a mess!
She had 1/2 Friday for prom (even though prom was Saturday). I was taking her to get her nails done, to lunch, and was looking forward to a fun time, just us! But she was being a crab and ruined it for us. Oh well, she won't admit it, but I think she is sad about graduating too.
She is going to college 5 hrs. away, but it's the college I went to, so I am so excited about that. But I went to law school at the local university here, so that would have been nice too (she would have been close to home and cheaper in-state).
We need a support thread for us "senior" moms!
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Post by huskergal on May 15, 2015 0:01:29 GMT
Dd graduates on Sunday. I am fine. Too much to worry about. I probably won't cry until we drop her off for college 8 hours away.
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Post by brandy327 on May 15, 2015 0:02:11 GMT
I'm reading all your posts and getting teary and just can't imagine myself there in 6 short years. Lots of hugs for all you ladies. I'll be a freaking mess when it's my turn.
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 15, 2015 0:17:20 GMT
We're about to start the emotional time. Prom is Saturday. Next weekend is the last band concert series and FIL/MIL will be attending (they haven't come to any so far).
The weekend after that is band banquet with senior slide show. Then graduation. I'm about to tear up thinking about it. Honestly, last year, I didn't know if we'd make it to graduation. High school has been tough for DD so I will just be glad it's over with. I hope a new start being away from home next year will do her some good (and me). Talk about emotional though.
My DS turns 15 this Saturday which is just bringing home the fact that I don't have little ones anymore.
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 15, 2015 0:19:22 GMT
I read a tip a couple years ago when a friend was going through it. We have to remember that it's highly likely that our kids are pretty nervous about the next step. That could explain some of the "surliness." I know DD admitted it pretty much the other day. She's scared of college and leaving the "known" behind. I'm afriad if I start to cry that I won't stop.
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Post by tiffy128 on May 15, 2015 0:23:47 GMT
DD's last day of school was today. She called me at 9am after her last final to let me know she was officially done. I'm not sad at all. Just excited for her and the next chapter of her life. And stressed about this grad party that we are having this weekend.
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Post by lancermom on May 15, 2015 0:29:48 GMT
This week we finished our first year with our college student. Last year I was a wreck, pictures needed for band, choir, yearbook, marching band. And then she was selected to be a speaker at graduation. I was a mess all the way up to the actual moment of the ceremony. Then I was cool! And then came all the lasts of the summer marching band. Again cried up until the last final concert, then I held it together. Now she is home. It felt like forever from kindergarten to graduation. But this year felt like I blinked and it was gone. Treasure everyday.
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Post by scorpeao on May 15, 2015 0:51:26 GMT
My dd, my only, graduates on the 28th. Then, August 11th she leaves for the military...a six year enlistment. I sometimes get emotional over it, but I try to keep myself busy. I'm not sure how I'll be in August, but for now I'm just so proud of the person she's become, and I'm excited for her next chapter of life.
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Post by Really Red on May 15, 2015 1:12:25 GMT
I've got two seniors. They graduate in 3.5 weeks. I would be far sadder if they weren't making me so kooky now. They took an online class that the Commonwealth of VA insists upon and they waited until the last minute. So they are rushing through the courses because they have to order the final exam at minimum 3 weeks before the end of school. But they have 3,462 things to do! My one DD works over 40 hours/week (so she can go to the college of her choice) and she comes home at 10pm. My other DD works much less but is a social butterfly. Both girls are insistent it isn't a problem (they got 100 for the first semester, each one), but I'm a wreck because they haven't finished! No one is going anywhere on Saturday, work or not, until this is done and the exam ordered!
Then I will cry.
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Post by Really Red on May 15, 2015 1:13:27 GMT
My dd, my only, graduates on the 28th. Then, August 11th she leaves for the military...a six year enlistment. I sometimes get emotional over it, but I try to keep myself busy. I'm not sure how I'll be in August, but for now I'm just so proud of the person she's become, and I'm excited for her next chapter of life. Oh my heavens. I do not know how you are managing!!! I know you're proud and excited for her, but six years seems long unless you take it one year at a time. |
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Post by Zee on May 15, 2015 1:20:24 GMT
My youngest is only a junior but I promise you, there were no tears at all when DD graduated and I don't anticipate any for the boy either. I'm just happy both these slackers actually made it this far. Lol.
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Post by 950nancy on May 15, 2015 2:34:55 GMT
I am really pretty practical and know that something new is around the bend. My baby is a senior. He's the salutatorian and has to give a speech. Of course he decides to write it the night (started at nine) before it is due. I went down to check on him around ten and heard him in the shower. I look at his speech on the computer and see the section where he thanks everyone. He thanks his dad and I separately (we are married!) and I clearly win the parent of the year award in his speech. We have always been very close and our personalities are exactly alike. Of course it made me cry and I know when he reads it to four thousand people I will bawl. I will also be sitting on the stage for being an honored teacher and I will get to give him his diploma. Ugh. Now I am dreading his graduation. I am thrilled for him though.
Today the house is ready for his party on Saturday. I have been working on it since March. I am pooped.
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Post by 4cliffdwellers on May 15, 2015 3:32:53 GMT
I feel so unprepared. DS#1 graduates June 5, which happens to be his 18th birthday. Then, his party on the 13th. I am going to be a mess. With my recent health problems, I've been distracted and haven't been able to think about it much, but the next couple of weeks, I'll think of nothing else. I HAVE to get my house in order for him.
I still remember his first day of K & 7th grade so clearly, I'm not sure how we got here.
I just want my toddlers back, this whole teenager thing stinks.
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Post by scorpeao on May 15, 2015 3:43:53 GMT
My youngest is only a junior but I promise you, there were no tears at all when DD graduated and I don't anticipate any for the boy either. I'm just happy both these slackers actually made it this far. Lol. Do you remember those H&R Block commercials where the woman is on the phone and she looks over her shoulder to glance at an adult child playing video games while she says "can I claim a 30 y/o as a dependent?" Well, when my dad was in junior high I thought for sure that was our future. She got a bit better, but she's still a slacker. I think I saw her doing homework about 30 times her whole high school career. So, I know what you mean. |
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