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Post by doesitmatter on May 15, 2015 5:01:49 GMT
No senior this year, but had a few in a row and the last boy last June. Still have a younger dd that I have a few more years with... I got emotional at their last varsity / play off games, awards banquets, and graduation. Then teary again when one went away to college, another in the military...one is here at home in college, and I still have my younger one.
I get tearing up in the moment - but not weeks/months in advance... No.
I have been proud and excited for each one for his future, and of course it is always bittersweet... But in general I am very practical and busy as their only parent and sole provider, working, getting a divorce, working on an advanced degree, my mom in failing health etc... so I think I tend to really think about how thankful I am for healthy, successful children and know that it's bittersweet but that they have to use their wings to fly.
They just better send lots of pictures and love their mama from wherever they are lol! And so far they have been great about calling, texting, visiting, etc. They adore theiir grandma too!
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Post by genny on May 15, 2015 14:11:26 GMT
So Class night was last night and they played all the sappy songs with the slide show and the kids walked through in their caps and gowns. More tears.
We are having his party tomorrow night (and i would say I'm about 85% ready and stressed as hell - hoping I can let myself off early today as soon as I do payroll after lunch so I can go home and work some more). yesterday I made a bunch of signs and big pictures of him and a banner to hang on the fence. Some with quotes, etc. When I walked into work this morning and saw them in my office, it got me going again.
Then a little while ago my sister, who's been out of town all week, called from the airport to let me know she was catching an earlier flight home. First thing out of her mouth was 'you sound down, what's wrong!?'. I couldn't even speak. Just her asking broke me down. I ugly cried with her for a few minutes.
Dh doesn't seem to get it and his platitudes are just pissing me off and making me not want to be around him. I don't want him to try to make me feel better, I just want him to realize this is something that I am going through, like it or not, and I just need him to mostly steer clear and stop trying to be funny or whatever it is he thinks he's trying to do. I love him but damn. Girls if this one is any indication, I will have to be drugged or hospitalized when DD graduates in 2 years.
I really expected more of myself LOL.
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Post by maryland on May 16, 2015 1:40:42 GMT
I feel so unprepared. DS#1 graduates June 5, which happens to be his 18th birthday. Then, his party on the 13th. I am going to be a mess. With my recent health problems, I've been distracted and haven't been able to think about it much, but the next couple of weeks, I'll think of nothing else. I HAVE to get my house in order for him. I still remember his first day of K & 7th grade so clearly, I'm not sure how we got here. I just want my toddlers back, this whole teenager thing stinks. So true! Babies/toddlers were so easy for me. And they were sweet, not very messy and loved their parents! Teenagers are hard! My oldest turns 18 in July, and we still haven't planned a party. Our deck is not really usable, and it will be very costly to fix it. We have been holding off because it's not in the budget. But if we don't have a party for this one, we can't have a party for the other two (it would be unfair). So we don't know what to do. Of course it's almost always guaranteed to rain in our area on weekends in the summer, so even if our deck was ready, we would still likely have it inside.
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Post by 4cliffdwellers on May 16, 2015 3:36:16 GMT
Tonight DH & I went out to eat. Neither boy wanted to go with us. We started reminiscing because we've been together 20 years this summer, and married 18 with our almost 18 yo and 14 yo. It started off with us laughing and ended with me sitting in the restaurant crying a little. We switched back to laughing as quick as we could and changed the subject.
I just feel so lucky to have my ds. He was born blue with the cord around his neck and just having him is so wonderful, but having him be intelligent and witty and mostly nice, well, it makes me cry again.
I'm chalking the emotional rollercoaster on my aneurysm, might as well get something out of it.
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Post by 950nancy on May 17, 2015 2:48:33 GMT
I am happy to report that I made it! I had about three minutes of tears on the way to graduation and then told myself to get it together. I was so proud of myself for holding it together when my son gave his speech. He ended it with with thanking me and saying that I was the greatest person he knows. I told him I was going to put his speech on a loop and play it over and and over. We still have company over for the party (all of my in-laws) but I am just done. I need a few minutes to think and be by myself. It was not nearly as bad as I thought it would be! Woot!
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Post by putabuttononit on May 17, 2015 4:42:12 GMT
Today is officially my son's last day of high school. They have a picnic day and a big breakfast next week and graduation rehearsals, but today is the last real day. I've been going along fine with a sad moment here and there, but today has hit me like a ton of bricks and I have been crying all morning. DD just texted me a picture of the senior class in the auditorium with their caps and gowns on doing their Senior Day thing. I swear it's like I've sprung a leak. My eyes have stayed wet all morning and tears just fall. I know he is smart and will do well, I am very proud of him and truly believe I've raised a great young man. But it's not about that. I just want more time and it hurts like hell that I can't go back to that sweet little, sweaty 4 year old boy that adored his mommy so and hold him one more time with those big hugs and sloppy kisses. It's going to be a long week til graduation if I can't pull it together. How are you guys holding up? While I don't wish this emotional hurricane on anyone, I also hope I'm not the only basket case out there... Okay..yeah THAT. I have had a lot of weepy moments. I miss the little three year old blondie who followed me like a shadow, dragging her stuffed walrus by one tusk. I want to slow time down. I find myself spending too much time going through scrapbooks, and carefully avoiding home movies! I go and stand in her room and just take it in, all of the evidence of her, the essence of her. I took a picture of her collaged bulletin board the other day, just because I wanted to remember how she had arranged it. It is a snapshot of her life and loves right now. She will graduate next week. She showed me her decorated cap and I teared up. I'm glad I'm not alone, I didn't know it would be THIS hard.
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Post by monicad on May 17, 2015 6:49:03 GMT
Mine graduates on June 2nd. Right now I'm so busy trying to plan his party, make sure we have stuff ready for the actual graduation, his college orientation (5 days after he graduates), a trip to Hawaii, etc. that I don't have time to be sad. Over the next couple of weeks I'll be working on a slideshow, so that will probably be hard. Lately he's been so off/on moody that I feel like I'm ready for him to go, but I know when he does it will be really sad. He's such a reliable, responsible kid and I will miss him terribly.
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Post by deep on May 17, 2015 10:51:07 GMT
I have a bit of a reprieve. DS is in a 5 year Early College program. He is walking with his high school class this week but won't officially graduate from high school and get his AA degree from the community college until next year.
I'm getting a taste of the grad stuff (prom, graduation, no more classes at the high school) but know he will be around for one more year...most likely with me nagging him to get his capstone project done!
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Post by ellen on May 17, 2015 17:19:11 GMT
In the past few weeks all the plans we've been making came together even better than we could have hoped for her, so at this point we've mostly been happy about everything. I haven't had a crying moment yet, but I have had a lump in my throat on occasion. I think the taking her to college in August will be the moment when we feel a lot more emotional about it. I keep reminding myself that what she's about to take on has always been the parenting goal.
Seriously, she's been really crabby. She's ready to be done with school and wants to go to college. It makes it easier to let her go.
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Post by melissa on May 17, 2015 19:39:05 GMT
No weepy moments here.
A little anti-climatic actually.
Dd is homeschooled and we are not joining in with others for a graduation ceremony. So far, what I have found is either religious in nature or does not fit with her schedule. That's OK. We plan to do a senior photo shoot and will incorporate a cap into some photos.
Dd is currently planning to live at home another year. She's spent this year commuting to NYC 7 days each week. It is anywhere from 90 minutes to 2 hours door to door, depending on the train schedule. Worse when the trains are screwed up. As a result, with her crazy schedule, she's mainly been home only to sleep and shower. Next year will be the same, unless she decides to move away for a ballet trainee program.
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Post by freecharlie on May 17, 2015 21:39:20 GMT
My oldest us only in the 8th gradr, but today I watched my first graduation as a high school teacher. I got teary eyed and I had only known this kids a year. I can't imagine when ds and the friends he has gone to school with since 4th grade graduate
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Post by hop2 on May 19, 2015 22:57:31 GMT
And now it starts. See if I can remain dry eyes now. My 'baby's' last concert. Ever.
I'm not going to cry I'm not going to cry I'm not going to cry
:cry: sniff
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