brandy327
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Post by brandy327 on May 19, 2015 23:37:09 GMT
I just spent half an hour typing up an entire post and then purposely deleted the whole thing because I don't want it out there on the interwebz attached to my name. And I don't do the anonymous thing soooo...yeah.
Anyone else do that?
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Post by Merge on May 19, 2015 23:38:19 GMT
Oh yeah. Resist the urge to overshare.
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Post by Deleted on May 19, 2015 23:38:37 GMT
Yes, oh yes, I do! But sometimes the typing it out is enough on its own, anyway. And then I can pretend in my head that all the Peas agreed with me.  |
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Post by *christine* on May 19, 2015 23:38:36 GMT
Yes. Here's a virtual **hug** - sounds like you need it!
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Post by freecharlie on May 19, 2015 23:39:08 GMT
I've done it. I've even thought of makeing an anon account, but it seemed like too much work.
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Post by caro on May 19, 2015 23:53:57 GMT
Yes, oh yes, I do! But sometimes the typing it out is enough on its own, anyway. And then I can pretend in my head that all the Peas agreed with me. Me too. I love it when all the Peas agree with me. |
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Post by Mary Kay Lady on May 20, 2015 0:03:29 GMT
Yes. I have. It's just hard to know if something shared here will come back to haunt at some point down the road.
It's kind of like letting a genie out of a bottle. You just don't know what happens once it's out. Will you be able to control it or get it back in the bottle?
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Post by tuva42 on May 20, 2015 0:12:45 GMT
Yes, yes I do exactly that.
And I hope you are able to quickly resolve your problem with your spouse/kid/MIL/SIL/boss/grumpy-next-door-neighbor before it escalates into a divorce/time-out/family-splitting-deal/snit/job-loss/law-suit and you end up pulling-your-hair-out/screaming/running-away-from-home/losing-your-mind/spending-$400-on-a-purse.
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Post by anxiousmom on May 20, 2015 0:13:25 GMT
I do it all the time. Mostly though, I delete because I am being disagreeable and cranky and sound like a raging bitch. I don't always agree with things that are said, but I try to disagree in a way that allows for us all to retain our dignity and not feel like we have to come out fighting.
But sometimes I forget myself and type up stuff that makes me sound ugly and mean spirited...which isn't me. At all. So I tend to delete those posts. That is not my style in real life, and key board courage shouldn't make me that way online.
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Post by anonrefugee on May 20, 2015 0:23:22 GMT
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Post by kernriver on May 20, 2015 0:23:31 GMT
Why not do the anonymous thing? You're anonymous now...we dont know your na,e or address. Why not just get another name and spill it.
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Post by sharlag on May 20, 2015 0:26:32 GMT
I understand how you're feeling. Although, I have never regretted anything I have posted here. People have treated me kindly and I've been very grateful when I have posted things that have made me vulnerable.
I think that when we post what we feel like is risky information, it helps more than ourselves. Many of us share the same struggles
But you got to do what you got to do! Use your own judgement.
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Post by cmpeter on May 20, 2015 0:28:17 GMT
I haven't gone as far as actually typing up s thread but there are plenty of things I would like to post but don't for that same reason.
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brandy327
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Post by brandy327 on May 20, 2015 0:33:39 GMT
I understand how you're feeling. Although, I have never regretted anything I have posted here. People have treated me kindly and I've been very grateful when I have posted things that have made me vulnerable. I think that when we post what we feel like is risky information, it helps more than ourselves. Many of us share the same struggles But you got to do what you got to do! Use your own judgement. It's nothing outrageous and the peas have always been kind, encouraging and supportive. That's why I love it here. It's more of the person I was going to post about...I'd hate for her to come across the post either by accident or if she went looking because there'd be no question it would be about her. LOL SHE would be the person I'd take stuff to (like what I was going to post about) but it's about her so I obviously can't do that. LOL  Clear as mud, right? |
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Post by brandy327 on May 20, 2015 0:37:16 GMT
Yes, yes I do exactly that. And I hope you are able to quickly resolve your problem with your spouse/kid/MIL/SIL/boss/grumpy-next-door-neighbor before it escalates into a divorce/time-out/family-splitting-deal/snit/job-loss/law-suit and you end up pulling-your-hair-out/screaming/running-away-from-home/losing-your-mind/spending-$400-on-a-purse. LOLOL!!!! That made me laugh. Thanks! |
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Post by GiantsFan on May 20, 2015 0:40:53 GMT
Yep, I "reply" to posts and delete all.the.time. I want to share my opinion but if, after typing, my opinion sounds snarky then I delete.
I've also started posts then realized the person I'm venting on IRL or the issue I'm commenting on could come back to haunt me if someone just happens on the right Google search.
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Post by scrappinmama on May 20, 2015 0:41:10 GMT
I'm sorry. I hope whatever upsets you gets resolved quickly. Hang in there!
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Post by farmdpea on May 20, 2015 0:41:53 GMT
Yep. Been there. There are some things that I'd willing to share with all bazillion Peas, but you never know exactly who could be lurking.
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Post by alittleintrepid on May 20, 2015 0:46:40 GMT
I'm pretty anonymous on here but, yeah, I hesitate to post things about people IKIRL if it would upset them to read it. Could you change enough of the details at another time so it wouldn't 'obviously be about her?
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brandy327
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Post by brandy327 on May 20, 2015 0:50:10 GMT
Yep, I "reply" to posts and delete all.the.time. I want to share my opinion but if, after typing, my opinion sounds snarky then I delete. I've also started posts then realized the person I'm venting on IRL or the issue I'm commenting on could come back to haunt me if someone just happens on the right Google search. YES! That's exactly it!!! I don't want it to come back and haunt me! LOL |
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Post by hop2 on May 20, 2015 0:58:21 GMT
Yup. Done that. I want to post responses but then I think more people see this than I think.
I always feel I know the refupeas and they're ok but then.... There's more people out there, so I delete.
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Post by nyxish on May 20, 2015 1:27:56 GMT
hahhahahhaha Omg Yes.  Many times. i don't attach much of my interwebs anything to this name... but still. Alternately: i realize that the situation i am asking about is SO complicated that it would be a 2 page back-story.... Or that i realize as i am typing that this is a question i only want one answer for, and i am not ready to hear/read disagreements because i am too emotional about it. |
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on May 20, 2015 1:30:14 GMT
I just did on the vomiting thread.
I had a vomiting in public place (s) story while on vacation and not able to check into a hotel. It was pure hell.
Hindsight I made a bad choice. It was about 7 years ago and I didn't feel like being told off. so I detailed my comment!
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Post by tuva42 on May 20, 2015 1:37:14 GMT
Oh, I've done exactly that. Responded to a thread with a story of my own and then thought better of it.
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Post by txdancermom on May 20, 2015 1:37:25 GMT
yes. sometimes typing it out helps me deal with what ever is going on.....but totally understand not wanting it all out there
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Post by melanell on May 20, 2015 1:39:43 GMT
I've done that, but for a different reason. Sometimes I want to say something, but I realize that without the details, no one will really get what I'm trying explain, but the details will lead to an enormously long post which people will likely find too long to get involved in reading. And I know that if you start off vague and keep adding details as people respond it drives everyone nuts. So I just change my mind and back out of the post.  |
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Clear as mud, right?
