Wish I had a sister

I am sorry that you are hurting.

I'm sorry about the loss of your mum. 

I get what you're saying. I had a sister but she died when she was 16 and I was 19. I always wonder about the adult relationship we would have had if she were still alive. I am sure that we would be close, and I really feel the loss of that relationship.

I have a sister (no brothers). She is everything opposite of me. But we get along very well, and are close when we need to be. I am thankful to my parents that they had her. It would not be the same if it was a brother.

I am sorry you are missing your mother. I know the feeling. I lost my mother 2 months ago. I am sad for the both of us.

Awww  I have a sister who I love but I always wanted a brother, preferably older   
My DDs are very close and I hope they stay that way 

I'm feel the same way as you, but I do have a sister. We haven't talked since my Mom died almost 6 years ago. I don't miss her, I miss what we could have had.  She has many jealously issues with me. After trying to be close to her for over 20 years of our adult life I just gave up.  I do have 3 daughters, two of which are teenagers, who I am very close with. You don't have to have a sister to be happy. Do you have a best friend to confide in?  I talk to my best friend just like she were my sister. I've known her for over 30 years so she is just like a sister. Don't dwell on what you don't have, make the most of what you do!  If you live in Missouri let me know. I can always user more sister connections. 

I'm sorry you're hurting from your Mom's loss.

Having a sister doesn't guarantee she'll be your friend. I have two and I'm close to one. I haven't spoken to the other one in many years by her choice. 

I had a sister I was very close to. We spent every waking moment together as children, as teen we did each other's hair before school and shared clothes, as adults we travelled to different places but stayed in close contact all the time. I loved her dearly. She was a good person and is now soaring with the angels.

Elannah

Leia, so sorry for the loss of your mom.  I totally understand, I have 2 younger brothers, no sisters.  We're all close but I see the special connection they have and envy that.  

My mom and my aunt were pregnant at the same time and both went into labor hours apart.  My aunt had her baby first, it was a girl.  My cousin was thrilled, she already had 3 brothers.  My mom had a boy, my second brother.  I was 9 at the time and I cried for hours because I wanted a sister so badly.  I love him to death but I still tell him he should have been a girl!

I'm so sorry you're missing your mom so much. (((HUGS)))

I always wonder how it would feel to be close to a mom and sisters. Or to miss them. And I actually have a mom and two sisters. How sad is that?

Aw, Julee, that is so very sad.  It happens that way probably just as often that sisters are close.  Do you have a best female friend to substitute those female close relationships?  I know what you mean about having sisters you are just not close to. I think that has its own special kind of hurt, doesn't it?

I am very close to my mom, used to be very close to my younger sister, and have always had difficulties with my oldest sister.  My oldest sister turned my youngest against me for many years.  The youngest is quite malleable and the oldest took great advantage of that.  I would like to think that the younger sister could evaluate things for herself, but she is just so easily swayed that it's very sad.

A few years ago, when my father passed away, some truth came out and now the oldest and youngest no longer speak at all.  I don't speak to the oldest either.  My younger sister wants us to be close again, and I try, but there is such a lack of trust for me that try as I do, it is still very difficult for me.  Because it makes life easier for my mom, I do maintain a guarded relationship with the youngest.  I just keep some distance so I don't get hurt if she decides to switch again.

As others have said, there is no guarantee that having a sister will give you a built in best friend type relationship.  Some never grow out of that childhood jealousy. Such is the case with my oldest sister. She never wanted siblings and has never accepted us.  And oddly enough, I have always wanted a brother.  I guess we want what we think will give us the bond we are searching for.

We should start a pea pseudo sister setup.  Those of us wanting that close relationship can acknowledge that and maybe find a good match within the pea sisterhood.  I'm available!

So sorry about your mom. That must be so hard! I understand why you feel the way you do about having a sister to do things with. I see so many sister-sister/brother-brother activities and envy that.

I also just have a brother and have three daughters (11, 14 and 16). My daughters always wish they had a brother. I think it would be nice to have a brother and sister. My husband has only a sister too, so he misses out on the brother-brother bond.

Do you have close female friends to talk to? I hope you can find what you are looking for with a friend or support on this board. Hugs to you!

I do have great female (and male) friend substitutes.  And my husband is a great friend to me.  And I hang out here for a room full of friends at any time of day!  The Pea Sisterhood cannot be matched!

I completely agree with this.

But, OP, I want to be sure that you know that I hear you, and I'm sorry you're sad.  

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I agree, the Peas sisterhood is amazing! Sadly, I feel more supported here than I do by either of my two sisters. I was never close to the older one, but used to be BFF's with the youngest sister. When DH was diagnosed with cancer, she completely disappeared from my life.

My sister of my heart is my best friend and coworker. I also have a fabulous neighbor that calls me her sister

I totally understand. I'm an only and I lost my mom two years ago. It still hurts and I frequently feel like I'm all alone. And now, my dad has a girlfriend that he is spending all of his time with and I frequently feel like an orphan! (I'm glad he has someone, really, but it is such an adjustment and my head and heart are not on the same page just yet.)