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Post by my.unquiet.mind on May 23, 2015 3:24:49 GMT
It sounds to me like the kids had just recently become acquainted with those lovely words and was testing them out to see what kind of reaction they would get. There are kids who see attention as attention, regardless of the reason for the attention.
Words have power, and those kids were obviously aware of that. That being said, wow. I'm pretty sure that I'd have responded in a similar manner as the OP did. I'm sure a canned and generic admonishment would have flown out of my mouth, while inside I'd be so shocked that I would be unable to react in a more appropriate way.
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Post by smginaz Suzy on May 23, 2015 3:28:56 GMT
When I was a teen, I babysat for 2 kids, around 8 and maybe 2-3. The older kid was already a delinquent around the neighborhood, but the mouth on the little darling was unbelievable. She would spout off profanities that I had never heard, and C- and MF were only 2 of the more common ones. Not that one is related to the other, but the house was a sty. I spent one day just cleaning the kitchen because I could not stand it. The parents kept asking me to sit again (maybe hoping I would tackle another room?) and I just could not do it.
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Post by scrappinmom3 on May 23, 2015 4:34:31 GMT
Soap. Liquid or solid. Their choice.
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Post by LeaP on May 23, 2015 4:53:34 GMT
I hate when kids are rude. My 11 year old just learned the "C" word last month. One of the girls at school wrote that and other profanities on her torso, took a picture and posted it on Instagram. Of course, I was the bad guy who took screen grabs to the principal. I do wonder where the girl learned the word as she does not take a bus and the school is tiny in suburban Vancouver. Oddly the kids at our local LAUSD middle school were more sheltered.
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 23, 2015 5:06:54 GMT
My brother called me one when I was a teen so I punched him in the stomach! Ha ha!
My sister that lives with me has called me it in front of my teens. Lovely.
If my kids were outside and mouthing off like that, I would definitely want someone to say something.
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Post by moretimeplease on May 23, 2015 5:22:21 GMT
I was at Target recently and overhead a 2-3 year old child say to his dad "Holy fucking shit, dad!" No reaction from dad whatsoever. It makes me smh.  |
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Post by tuva42 on May 23, 2015 15:14:39 GMT
Here's the thing about free-range parenting. There are parents who allow their children to be free-range because they want those kids to become more independent, but these parents are still involved heavily with their children's upbringing, and these kids are taught to be respectful, responsible little human beings.
Then there are the parents who allow their kids to be free-range because they don't give a crap what their kids are doing. I've encountered both. There was a child who lived near us when my kids were elementary school aged. She was outdoors, rain or shine, every day. No supervision ever. Now in high school she's been suspended for fighting, is suspected in the vandalism case that just occurred at the high school and brags on her Twitter account about all the sex she gets and drugs she does. Parents are still clueless.
So I don't think being a free-range parent makes your kids more or less likely to be rotten little poops, its all the other parenting that you do that makes the difference.
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Post by newlywoods03 on May 23, 2015 15:55:28 GMT
OMG, we must be neighbors!!
I won't even let my kids play out front and we've had to come in from playing in our own backyard because of the language we hear from the neighbor kids. Especially the ones who live right next door and have no inside voice AT ALL!
They have 3 boys 7, 9, 12 - The 7 year old is the worst!! I have gone out numerous times to ask them to please knock it off with the language. I don't want to hear it and my 3 and 5 year old boys NEVER need to hear it.
A couple of weekends ago, all the middle school ages boys made it down to this house. It was horrible.. You're girlfriend will do this to me, I'll do this to her, F this, F that.. Horrible!!
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Post by Kelpea on May 23, 2015 16:11:55 GMT
Yeah, that. And it started around 5th grade...I'm no longer shocked now that I have teens.  |
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Post by gar on May 23, 2015 16:31:54 GMT
OMG, we must be neighbors!! I won't even let my kids play out front and we've had to come in from playing in our own backyard because of the language we hear from the neighbor kids. Especially the ones who live right next door and have no inside voice AT ALL! They have 3 boys 7, 9, 12 - The 7 year old is the worst!! I have gone out numerous times to ask them to please knock it off with the language. I don't want to hear it and my 3 and 5 year old boys NEVER need to hear it.
A couple of weekends ago, all the middle school ages boys made it down to this house. It was horrible.. You're girlfriend will do this to me, I'll do this to her, F this, F that.. Horrible!! You know that's going to be tricky right?  |
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Post by 3dcrafter on May 23, 2015 16:49:21 GMT
OMG, are you serious??? How old were the kids? That's revolting. I'm really bothered with the assumption that their parents aren't "schooling" on what is inappropriate language. Kids do have minds of their own and can misbehave despite a parents teaching. I truly do hope you follow though with letting their parents know what they said....as a parent I would want to know if it were my child(ren) and ASAP.
I don't believe moveablefeast said she was going to let the parents know. I doubt she even knows who the parents are. What she said was that she would tell the kids that it is inappropriate to use those words.
I do agree with you that it is totally feasible that the kids have been told not to use those words but do it anyway out of earshot of their parents. My son never swears in front of me, but I'm sure he lets the odd bad word out when he's with his mates. If he ever said either of those words and I found out about there would be serious repercussions.
I think you missed the post...It's around the 22nd post, first pg. the quote: "Fourth grade and sixth grade. I know the moms because we all use the same bus stop. I will have to say something when I see them again on Tuesday. I thought they were generally nice but mildly undisciplined kids whose most irksome behavior was riding their bikes in the street without looking for cars - which I do kind of chalk up to their free-ranginess and generally overlook because they are kids - so this was a big surprise to hear that kind of language. " I do understand that posts can be missed so no biggie ( : |
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Post by stittsygirl on May 23, 2015 19:59:42 GMT
I had a friend that used to talk like that all the time - at home, away from home, at other people's homes - whether there were kids around or not. She was absolutely shocked the day her second grader was sent to the principal's office for cursing like a sailor at another student, then his teacher. Self-awareness was not one of her strong suits  . I finally had to distance myself from her because I hated the constant foul language - which she continued to use even when called out on it- I didn't want it around my own kids, and sometimes it was so embarrassing to be with her in public. |
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Post by newlywoods03 on May 23, 2015 21:07:20 GMT
OMG, we must be neighbors!! I won't even let my kids play out front and we've had to come in from playing in our own backyard because of the language we hear from the neighbor kids. Especially the ones who live right next door and have no inside voice AT ALL! They have 3 boys 7, 9, 12 - The 7 year old is the worst!! I have gone out numerous times to ask them to please knock it off with the language. I don't want to hear it and my 3 and 5 year old boys NEVER need to hear it.
A couple of weekends ago, all the middle school ages boys made it down to this house. It was horrible.. You're girlfriend will do this to me, I'll do this to her, F this, F that.. Horrible!! You know that's going to be tricky right? Very true  But they don't need to hear it at this young age, when all they want to do is play outside, ya know. Kinda sad that I have to be worried about what my kids hear in and around their own home. They've never heard those words in our home.
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Post by gar on May 23, 2015 21:28:55 GMT
You know that's going to be tricky right? Very true But they don't need to hear it at this young age, when all they want to do is play outside, ya know. Kinda sad that I have to be worried about what my kids hear in and around their own home. They've never heard those words in our home.
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Post by newlywoods03 on May 23, 2015 21:34:44 GMT
Very true But they don't need to hear it at this young age, when all they want to do is play outside, ya know. Kinda sad that I have to be worried about what my kids hear in and around their own home. They've never heard those words in our home.
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. I finally had to distance myself from her because I hated the constant foul language - which she continued to use even when called out on it- I didn't want it around my own kids, and sometimes it was so embarrassing to be with her in public.
But they don't need to hear it at this young age, when all they want to do is play outside, ya know. Kinda sad that I have to be worried about what my kids hear in and around their own home. They've never heard those words in our home. 