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Post by Miss Ang on May 25, 2015 15:52:25 GMT
I hate vaguebooking and typically remove those that love facebook drama. I usually just unfollow but this particular person I feel like I can't (family member). Maybe part of me leaves her there so I can have something to roll my eyes at! Haha I don't know, I just can't bring myself to unfollow her! Today's post is thanking a friend for being there for her last night. Oh, and this friend is not on facebook (that is what is said in the post). She just wanted to say "thanks". When asked by another friend if everything is ok.... "She would rather not talk about it." So what's the flippin' point of putting this on facebook? Gah. So stupid! Seriously, I'm going to unfollow her right now. I'm so glad I typed this out.  It made me realize how freeing it would be to not have to see this ridiculousness everyday. Whew, I feel better already.  |
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Post by Gravity on May 25, 2015 15:56:34 GMT
If she's thanking someone on FB who isn't even on FB, she's just looking for attention. I don't have the patience for people like that.
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Post by gloryjoy on May 25, 2015 16:06:20 GMT
Yeah really, if no one else can know and it's a private matter, either phone them, text them or send them a private message.
I have friends who vaguebook sometimes, I just scroll past. I'm not going to ask them if they're okay and feed into it.
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2015 16:09:48 GMT
I hate vaguebooking. If something is personal, don't put it out there! I've also noticed another pattern with people who vaguebook. When they do post regular comments that give details they are filled with drama too.  |
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Post by melly on May 25, 2015 16:28:00 GMT
One of my cousins vaguebooks all the time and it drives me nuts. She posts "*sigh*  "and when people ask her what's wrong, she either says, "oh I'll be ok", or, "don't wanna get into it," or, "pm me Susan and I'll tell you" (only to Susan, not to her other 8 friends that also posted)... That is just one example. It really makes me crazy, lol. |
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Post by gar on May 25, 2015 16:32:43 GMT
 Makes me want to tear my hair out.
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Post by papersilly on May 25, 2015 16:32:44 GMT
I know what you mean. It's like people who post "shit just got real" and don't say anything else. Other people respond asking about what and the OP doesn't expand on it. Thanks for wasting space on my feed. Lol.
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2015 16:34:20 GMT
It's all about attention. Otherwise they'd say nothing.
MIL is the queen of vaguebooking. I never comment on those posts. Then she whines that I don't ever comment. Nope, not going to feed the drama.
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Post by moodyblue on May 25, 2015 16:36:27 GMT
I don't feed into those people face-to-face, and I refuse to do it on social media either.
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Post by georgiapea on May 25, 2015 16:38:06 GMT
Without commenting to or about the person, you could quietly put up that image of the girl doing a handstand on the beach. Even without the caption (Attention Whore) people would understand why it was there.
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2015 16:47:33 GMT
I have two FB friends that post stuff like that and it annoys me. They are both drama queens so I just scroll on by - one I'm about ready to hide because it's every single week.
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Post by hop2 on May 25, 2015 16:49:13 GMT
If you can't 'unfollow' you certainly can hide the posts from your feed. I have several relative to whom I've done this.
I don't see their crisp unless I go look for it on their feeds!
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Post by caro on May 25, 2015 17:03:53 GMT
If she's thanking someone on FB who isn't even on FB, she's just looking for attention. I don't have the patience for people like that. Oh boy, I feel the exact way. What an attention-whore. I have no time for people who vague book. |
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2015 17:27:45 GMT
I have resisted the urge to vagebook a few times in my life. Usually when I feel the urge to vaguebook, it's really because I'm stressed out / worried / anxious and want good thoughts and support without having to expose myself and my worries to everyone. Like, maybe I don't want everyone on FB to know that I've applied for a dream job, because I don't want to have to deal with the embarrassment of eventually admitting that I didn't get the job, but in the meantime I really just want people that I know to let me know that they're there for me and care about me. Recognizing those feelings in myself has helped me deal with the very few instances of vaguebooking that come across my feed. I don't have to deal with it very frequently, but I figure if someone needs support or a word of encouragement on occasion, I can try to lend them that kindness.
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Post by freecharlie on May 25, 2015 17:32:52 GMT
I hate that too. My cousins wife is like that.
I've been known to post "arrrrgh" or "are you fricking kidding me?"
You can tell who really knows me or has been fb friends with me for a while by how they respond. There is a 99% chance I am watching sports. The other 1% might be a political debate, state of the union, or 8n a tv show.
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Post by scrappinmama on May 25, 2015 18:41:14 GMT
I hate vaguebooking. I have 2 friends who are prone to it. I no longer respond to those posts. I do post some things that may seem like vague booking to an outsider, but it's always Walking Dead or Game of Thrones comments.  |
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2015 18:49:45 GMT
I have resisted the urge to vagebook a few times in my life. Usually when I feel the urge to vaguebook, it's really because I'm stressed out / worried / anxious and want good thoughts and support without having to expose myself and my worries to everyone. Like, maybe I don't want everyone on FB to know that I've applied for a dream job, because I don't want to have to deal with the embarrassment of eventually admitting that I didn't get the job, but in the meantime I really just want people that I know to let me know that they're there for me and care about me. Recognizing those feelings in myself has helped me deal with the very few instances of vaguebooking that come across my feed. I don't have to deal with it very frequently, but I figure if someone needs support or a word of encouragement on occasion, I can try to lend them that kindness.  Once, centuries ago, before I knew what vague booking was, I did it unintentionally. I posted with the thought it mind as you explain it. I was so focused on what we were experiencing at that moment and just thinking I would get some vague good thoughts and support in return of my vague "despair". I got some unexpected questions, and hadn't thought it through that even though it affected me greatly, the issue that started it wasn't mine to share and I ended up in a vaguebooking situation. I never did that again. |
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Post by AnotherPea on May 25, 2015 19:15:14 GMT
I have resisted the urge to vagebook a few times in my life. Usually when I feel the urge to vaguebook, it's really because I'm stressed out / worried / anxious and want good thoughts and support without having to expose myself and my worries to everyone. Like, maybe I don't want everyone on FB to know that I've applied for a dream job, because I don't want to have to deal with the embarrassment of eventually admitting that I didn't get the job, but in the meantime I really just want people that I know to let me know that they're there for me and care about me. Recognizing those feelings in myself has helped me deal with the very few instances of vaguebooking that come across my feed. I don't have to deal with it very frequently, but I figure if someone needs support or a word of encouragement on occasion, I can try to lend them that kindness. I'll bet actual honesty in these cases would be refreshing to FB friends.
A simple "I need some encouragement right now. Want to keep details private but sure would love to feel your support if you can spare a second or two!"
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Post by anniebygaslight on May 25, 2015 19:17:19 GMT
If she's thanking someone on FB who isn't even on FB, she's just looking for attention. I don't have the patience for people like that. |
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Post by maryland on May 25, 2015 19:17:52 GMT
That would bother me too. Why not call and thank them. That would mean more to me if someone called to thank me than someone posting it on facebook. It seems like some people just want attention, so if they make it look vague, people would ask them what's up. A passive aggressive way to get attention.
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2015 19:21:13 GMT
I have resisted the urge to vagebook a few times in my life. Usually when I feel the urge to vaguebook, it's really because I'm stressed out / worried / anxious and want good thoughts and support without having to expose myself and my worries to everyone. Like, maybe I don't want everyone on FB to know that I've applied for a dream job, because I don't want to have to deal with the embarrassment of eventually admitting that I didn't get the job, but in the meantime I really just want people that I know to let me know that they're there for me and care about me. Recognizing those feelings in myself has helped me deal with the very few instances of vaguebooking that come across my feed. I don't have to deal with it very frequently, but I figure if someone needs support or a word of encouragement on occasion, I can try to lend them that kindness. I'll bet actual honesty in these cases would be refreshing to FB friends.
A simple "I need some encouragement right now. Want to keep details private but sure would love to feel your support if you can spare a second or two!"
Maybe, but I'm pretty sure I've seen people calling what you posted above as vaguebooking too. I've just decided to keep my personal stuff off of FB |
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2015 19:28:02 GMT
Is it bad that I read that stuff then ignore it?
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Post by slowrunner70 on May 25, 2015 19:31:28 GMT
I have a friend who does this all.the.time. It is so annoying,I started calling her out on it.
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Post by kellybelly77 on May 25, 2015 19:53:59 GMT
I read a post on LameBook once where the person was vaguebooking and someone responded "I think you spelled attention whore wrong" or something similar. I have always wanted to respond with that on my SILs vaguebook posts but I haven't yet! She is the queen of this nonsense just like my MIL was.
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Post by alittleintrepid on May 25, 2015 20:22:34 GMT
I think 75 % of what my friends post on Facebook is pretty useless. Vaguebooking I can ignore but STOP trying to sell me stuff!
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Post by bosoxbeth on May 25, 2015 20:30:02 GMT
I can't stand people like that!!!
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Post by Nink on May 25, 2015 20:31:46 GMT
I'll bet actual honesty in these cases would be refreshing to FB friends.
A simple "I need some encouragement right now. Want to keep details private but sure would love to feel your support if you can spare a second or two!"
Maybe, but I'm pretty sure I've seen people calling what you posted above as vaguebooking too. I've just decided to keep my personal stuff off of FB One of my FB friends recently posted something very similar to that recently. She got lots of support with zero questions. I don't see that as Vaguebooking. I have someone else who I have blocked that is constantly writing things like "I just had the worst thing happen to me". She'll get a thousand people asking her "what's wrong", "what happened", "are you ok". And either not respond at all, or say something like "I'll be fine...eventually. Sigh" Makes me nuts and is a completely different scenario than the one listed above in my mind. |
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Post by sharlag on May 25, 2015 20:34:30 GMT
Without commenting to or about the person, you could quietly put up that image of the girl doing a handstand on the beach. Even without the caption (Attention Whore) people would understand why it was there. what image are you talking about? What Does it mean? |
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Post by Miss Ang on May 25, 2015 21:20:31 GMT
I have resisted the urge to vagebook a few times in my life. Usually when I feel the urge to vaguebook, it's really because I'm stressed out / worried / anxious and want good thoughts and support without having to expose myself and my worries to everyone. Like, maybe I don't want everyone on FB to know that I've applied for a dream job, because I don't want to have to deal with the embarrassment of eventually admitting that I didn't get the job, but in the meantime I really just want people that I know to let me know that they're there for me and care about me. Recognizing those feelings in myself has helped me deal with the very few instances of vaguebooking that come across my feed. I don't have to deal with it very frequently, but I figure if someone needs support or a word of encouragement on occasion, I can try to lend them that kindness. I'll bet actual honesty in these cases would be refreshing to FB friends.
A simple "I need some encouragement right now. Want to keep details private but sure would love to feel your support if you can spare a second or two!"
Exactly. That is a completely different story. The person mentioned is constantly seeking attention and posting other similar vague statuses. |
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2015 21:31:36 GMT
I have resisted the urge to vagebook a few times in my life. Usually when I feel the urge to vaguebook, it's really because I'm stressed out / worried / anxious and want good thoughts and support without having to expose myself and my worries to everyone. Like, maybe I don't want everyone on FB to know that I've applied for a dream job, because I don't want to have to deal with the embarrassment of eventually admitting that I didn't get the job, but in the meantime I really just want people that I know to let me know that they're there for me and care about me. Recognizing those feelings in myself has helped me deal with the very few instances of vaguebooking that come across my feed. I don't have to deal with it very frequently, but I figure if someone needs support or a word of encouragement on occasion, I can try to lend them that kindness. It is possible to not reveal all while not crossing into vaguebooking. Just say you are considering going to work and could use some support while you make the decision. You get support and the rest aren't wondering if you are headed for divorce. |
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It made me realize how freeing it would be to not have to see this ridiculousness everyday. Whew, I feel better already. 
"and when people ask her what's wrong, she either says, "oh I'll be ok", or, "don't wanna get into it," or, "pm me Susan and I'll tell you" (only to Susan, not to her other 8 friends that also posted)... That is just one example. It really makes me crazy, lol.
Makes me want to tear my hair out.
