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Post by buddysmom on May 25, 2015 18:36:18 GMT
We're going to an evening wedding, not formal but the guys will wear suit or sport coats.
My DH (who has worn nothing except burgundy ties for the last 30 years) has set out a burgundy tie for our 22 year old son. He's not in the wedding or anything. Our son is across the country and doesn't care to dress up so we have the extra tie "just in case he forgets."
I had bought him a lavender tie for Christmas which he has not worn because he had no reason to wear a tie.
Isn't burgundy old-man-ish/like grandfather-ish/too conservative for a 22-year old?
What color would be best? He's wearing a dark blue suit and probably a white or very light pastel shirt.
Thanks!
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2015 18:39:54 GMT
Whatever tie he wants to wear. If the burgundy is a back up in case he forgets to bring one it honestly doesn't matter what color it is. My boys have always prefered either black ties or patterned ones.
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Post by Sam on May 25, 2015 18:44:55 GMT
Will the tie police be on the door and not let him in without a tie? Do you want your child to finally act like a grown up? Sod it, child would be getting whatever I picked up on my way out of the house. you are kind of over-thinking this given that he is not only an adult, but an adult living outside of your home (and, therefore, any faux pas is no longer on you!!!!).
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Post by MsKnit on May 25, 2015 18:45:11 GMT
Have you asked your son what he prefers?
My son has a burgundy tie with gold stripes. It came from Harry Potter world. Doesn't seem old manish to me. But, I don't quite get how any color is reserved for a particular age group.
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on May 25, 2015 18:46:47 GMT
My 21 year-old eschews his dad's ties because of width more than color. The trendy ties now are narrow - often solid, plaid, stripe (like a rep tie), or small patterns. Color doesn't matter much, but everybody has their preferences. My son also wears bow ties, often vintage.
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Post by scrappychick on May 25, 2015 18:50:25 GMT
The tie should pull in color from the suit and shirt.
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Post by hop2 on May 25, 2015 18:50:31 GMT
Whatever color tie he wants to wear. He's 22
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Post by greenlegume on May 25, 2015 18:52:56 GMT
Eh, I'd let him choose the tie and then just bring whatever for backup. If he doesn't like the backup tie, he can always go buy a new one.
Honestly, I'm not even sure I'd worry about bringing backup. I had to quit telling my son what to wear when he was about 13. That was not a hill I was willing to die on, and once they're teens, I think they're totally in charge of what they wear (barring illegal stuff or something).
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Post by cmpeter on May 25, 2015 18:53:05 GMT
Whatever color he wants. My 19 often wears a burgundy tie. It's partly a hold over from high school football. On game days the boys wore a shirt and tie to school and burgundy was one of their school colors.
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2015 18:55:23 GMT
My 19 year old wore a pink and coral and silver print tie to my brothers wedding. All the girls commented how good he looked.
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Post by LiLi on May 25, 2015 19:03:56 GMT
I don't think you should be bringing a tie for your adult son, unless he asked you to. Even if he forgets, he's an adult. That's on him.
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Post by chaosisapony on May 25, 2015 19:07:22 GMT
See to me lavender is much more of an "old person" color than burgundy. But in any case, you won't catch many 22 years old at weddings wearing ties at all around here. Sport coats sure, but more often than not it's nice slacks and a nice button up shirt.
He's 22, let him wear the tie of his choice or not if he doesn't want to wear one.
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Post by nurseypants on May 25, 2015 19:09:53 GMT
This is helicoptering on steroids.
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Post by kate on May 25, 2015 19:20:40 GMT
It's nice of you to bring a tie (any tie) as a backup. IME, a lot of guys just don't have that much invested in what color tie they wear.
My DS goes to a school with a dress code (not a uniform) - the guys wear all different kinds of ties, from the most conservative to the most eccentric.
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Post by anxiousmom on May 25, 2015 19:22:47 GMT
My 21 year-old eschews his dad's ties because of width more than color. The trendy ties now are narrow - often solid, plaid, stripe (like a rep tie), or small patterns. Color doesn't matter much, but everybody has their preferences. My son also wears bow ties, often vintage. My boys prefer bow ties over regular ties as well. Although, the youngest did just pick up a grey, light pink and baby blue striped thing for moot court kind of deal at school. I thought it was pretty. I am totally out of the equation as it applies to what they wear though. Have been for a long time-and I am reasonably certain that if I picked out a tie for either of the kids, they wouldn't like it.
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Post by lumo on May 25, 2015 19:38:08 GMT
Whatever he wants? He's 22, not 12.
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Post by Linda on May 25, 2015 19:49:53 GMT
my 23-y/o says that in that situation, given that there isn't a dress code beyond some-what formal, if he doesn't end up wearing a tie, that would be fine.
My opinion - he's 22, well old enough to dress himself.
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Post by buddysmom on May 25, 2015 20:02:09 GMT
Ok I will keep my mouth shut.
Thanks for the advice!
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Post by tania7424 on May 25, 2015 20:35:35 GMT
Does a burgundy tie have some sort of special significance I'm not aware of? DH pretty much only wears blue, grey, silver stripes of different varieties.
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Post by Bitchy Rich on May 25, 2015 20:44:20 GMT
I find it interesting that your husband has worn only burgundy ties for 30 years. He NEVER once felt like wearing a different color tie?
Agree with everyone else that a 22 year old should handle his own tie situation.
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Post by alittleintrepid on May 25, 2015 21:45:18 GMT
Personally, I like a pop of colour in a tie. Bright green, orange, something fun. For what it's worth, I don't think it's helicoptering to pack your son a spare tie. helicoptering would be if you told him to thank people when they complimented him on his tie.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on May 25, 2015 21:56:45 GMT
Whatever color tie he wants to wear. He's 22 Definitely this. And won't he be just wearing his own tie? It would have never occurred to me to pack a tie for a grown adult child.
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Post by gar on May 25, 2015 22:03:00 GMT
How old was your husband when he started (and apparently never stopped) wearing burgundy ties?
Even though you son doesn't like dressing up surely he knows that he'll need one for the wedding? Wouldn't he know that?
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Post by leannec on May 25, 2015 22:19:12 GMT
Whatever color tie he wants to wear. He's 22 Yup, no rules as long as it doesn't have Homer Simpson or Santa Claus on it
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Post by scrapaddie on May 25, 2015 22:26:46 GMT
For a 22 ear old I would not be involved at all . He can choose his own tie and I would not be worried about back up.... If he forgets a tie, he can stop and buy a new one. For heaven's sakes! At 22 I was married and we lived totally independently of our parents!!
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Post by bc2ca on May 25, 2015 22:32:41 GMT
Burgundy would be a classic look with a dark blue suit. DH rarely wears a tie, so I'm never sure if wide or narrow is in fashion but would find that out and not worry too much about the color.
My only other thought is burgundy is a darker, winter color and that your DS may want something fresher for a spring wedding so remind him to bring his lavender tie.
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Post by melanell on May 26, 2015 1:03:48 GMT
Any color he wants. I don't really associate any particular color with different ages. Even pale pink and light blue can be worn by people older than babies.
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Post by freebird on May 26, 2015 1:32:51 GMT
he's 22, he should wear whatever tie he wants or doesn't want to wear.
Also, your husband needs some better ties.
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Post by sacteach on May 26, 2015 1:43:54 GMT
I think it depends on what underwear and socks you are packing for him and which pajamas you're bringing for him. Oh, and don't forget to pack a coat for him in case it gets colder at night. Oh wait, he's 22... he can do that himself
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Post by crimsoncat05 on May 26, 2015 1:54:17 GMT
For a 22 ear old I would not be involved at all . He can choose his own tie and I would not be worried about back up.... I f he forgets a toe, he can stop and buy a new one. For heaven's sakes! At 22 I was married and we lived totally independently of our parents!! ^^^ he can?!?!?
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