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Post by doesitmatter on May 26, 2015 2:02:57 GMT
Ok I think we all know that the son *can* get his own tie but I think that the op - mom is just trying to be helpful because I doubt her son has had too many occasions to wear a tie.
She is looking or suggestions. I don't see how her asking about the tie is any different than peas coming and asking about prom dresses/shoes/accessories for their dd's (who are a bit younger but still)- and they never get jumped on. Or asking about wedding attire in general.
She is just asking for suggestions. Lots of Peas are constantly asking for suggestions or input, I don't think this is any different. Shrug.
But op since you asked and said :
"What color would be best? He's wearing a dark blue suit and probably a white or very light pastel shirt."
I would say that burgandy and laveneder are are both out with a blue suit! If he's wearing a blue suit and a pastel shirt - that's already a lot of color, I'd say dark blue to match the suit or black.
However, I think he'd be fine without the tie too!
And just to throw this out there, I think many of us do things for family and friends, not because they can't do it, but just to be nice.
Often my 21 year old ds opens the door for me - or will stop and get eggs at the local farm on his way over, not because I am not capable - because he wants to. I often send care packages of his favorite meals with him when he visitis on his day off because I want to.
I dunno... op I get it, maybe no one else does but us but I'm ok with that lol.
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Post by Deleted on May 26, 2015 3:20:12 GMT
Ok I think we all know that the son *can* get his own tie but I think that the op - mom is just trying to be helpful because I doubt her son has had too many occasions to wear a tie. She is looking or suggestions. I don't see how her asking about the tie is any different than peas coming and asking about prom dresses/shoes/accessories for their dd's (who are a bit younger but still)- and they never get jumped on. Or asking about wedding attire in general. She is just asking for suggestions. Lots of Peas are constantly asking for suggestions or input, I don't think this is any different. Shrug. But op since you asked and said : "What color would be best? He's wearing a dark blue suit and probably a white or very light pastel shirt." I would say that burgandy and laveneder are are both out with a blue suit! If he's wearing a blue suit and a pastel shirt - that's already a lot of color, I'd say dark blue to match the suit or black. However, I think he'd be fine without the tie too! And just to throw this out there, I think many of us do things for family and friends, not because they can't do it, but just to be nice. Often my 21 year old ds opens the door for me - or will stop and get eggs at the local farm on his way over, not because I am not capable - because he wants to. I often send care packages of his favorite meals with him when he visitis on his day off because I want to. I dunno... op I get it, maybe no one else does but us but I'm ok with that lol.  (except I think burgundy with a navy suit and white shirt is classic) |
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Post by CarolT on May 26, 2015 3:56:55 GMT
My son is going to an out-of-town wedding this weekend. I have no idea what he's wearing...
And for what it's worth, I don't think there is an age association with particular tie colors.
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Post by scrapaddie on May 26, 2015 17:41:27 GMT
For a 22 ear old I would not be involved at all . He can choose his own tie and I would not be worried about back up.... I f he forgets a toe, he can stop and buy a new one. For heaven's sakes! At 22 I was married and we lived totally independently of our parents!! ^^^ he can?!?!?  Oh no! That's what happens when I type on this tiny little phone. Lol!! |
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Post by J u l e e on May 26, 2015 19:51:31 GMT
I admit to having associations with ties and age. Maybe because I hate the color burgandy, but yeah, that screams old man to me. And maybe also because when I met my husband (we were both 29) he had the most ugly ass ties I had ever seen on a young guy. All burgandyish, and all really ugly patterns - like with gold squares or squiggly lines. I pictured them being sold with a matching hanky for the pocket. Things like that. Blech.
Men in suits are pretty much all the same. A great tie can really set it apart from all the other men in suits. So, I probably committed a cardinal sin and bought my husband better ties. Ties with color. Ties with things other than ugly repeating patterns. Ties he never would have picked out on his own - even though he was perfectly capable of choosing his own ties. And he'd ask before going on a business trip which tie went with which shirt and jacket. I had no problem helping him out.
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Post by scrappinmom3 on May 27, 2015 15:49:49 GMT
My ds23 wore a lime green one (with a black shirt and pants so he actually looked sharp) to his cousins wedding last summer. I was just glad that he didn't choose the camo one that he initially wanted.
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Post by cycworker on May 30, 2015 18:17:20 GMT
What ended up happening?
I don't think it matters what color, but if he were going with me I'd expect him to wear one
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Post by hop2 on May 30, 2015 18:26:03 GMT
Ok I think we all know that the son *can* get his own tie but I think that the op - mom is just trying to be helpful because I doubt her son has had too many occasions to wear a tie. She is looking or suggestions. I don't see how her asking about the tie is any different than peas coming and asking about prom dresses/shoes/accessories for their dd's (who are a bit younger but still)- and they never get jumped on. Or asking about wedding attire in general. She is just asking for suggestions. Lots of Peas are constantly asking for suggestions or input, I don't think this is any different. Shrug. But op since you asked and said : "What color would be best? He's wearing a dark blue suit and probably a white or very light pastel shirt." I would say that burgandy and laveneder are are both out with a blue suit! If he's wearing a blue suit and a pastel shirt - that's already a lot of color, I'd say dark blue to match the suit or black. However, I think he'd be fine without the tie too! And just to throw this out there, I think many of us do things for family and friends, not because they can't do it, but just to be nice. Often my 21 year old ds opens the door for me - or will stop and get eggs at the local farm on his way over, not because I am not capable - because he wants to. I often send care packages of his favorite meals with him when he visitis on his day off because I want to. I dunno... op I get it, maybe no one else does but us but I'm ok with that lol. Yes but if he is resistant to wearing a tie there isn't much we can recommend to fix that. Also any info that might have helped with tie color was not given as in suit specifics, shirt color, wedding party color ( to avoid lol ) 22 can be a touchy age to tell a 'boy' what to wear. Hope everyone looked fantastic and had a great time! |
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Post by azredhead on May 30, 2015 20:29:20 GMT
I like the idea of the burgundy gold stripe it can be dressed up or down. so easy. Dh has a couple like that for work but most are blue/gold or blue green.
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Post by auntkelly on May 30, 2015 21:08:19 GMT
I think it's really sweet of your husband to pack an extra tie for your son just in case he forgets. I do think a burgundy tie sounds a little drab for a summer wedding, but beggars can't be choosers.  |
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(except I think burgundy with a navy suit and white shirt is classic)
