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Post by Deleted on May 26, 2015 12:59:03 GMT
We have a general rule of no phones after 8pm with the exception of weekends and vacations. I don't let them play on their computers with the door shut. They know I will check their phones any time I want to and I expect to know how to unlock their phones. I'm paying for one of them and ex is paying for the other. As their parents, we reserve the right to check up on them to ensure that they are not doing something that'd endanger them. I will walk into either room at random and look over their shoulders to see what they're playing.
Any time I catch them on their phone or computer after hours, the electronics end up in my room at night for the rest of their week with me. I do this during the summer too because I don't want it to become a habit. They're already attached to their phones enough as it is. Right now, it's all about youtube and weird minecraft videos on their phones. I've already gone into both phones and set their restrictions so they can't watch the videos that are marked mature and check those settings at random to ensure they didn't switch them back. Same with the google search on their phones. For the most part, they are decent kids with good grades. They don't want to do manual labor or chores so that's always a battle but that's also part of being 13 and 14.
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Post by PEArfect on May 26, 2015 13:32:02 GMT
All of our electronics are kept in the same area while charging overnight (office.) The general rule is, all electronics are shut down one hour before bed. Different times for all three of my daughters. My daughters aren't hardcore gamers, so that's not really an issue in our house.
You can't micromanage every aspect of their lives. Sometimes they need to suffer the consequences of their choices. That's how we all learn and grow.
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Post by Deleted on May 26, 2015 13:44:03 GMT
If you are going to read his texts while the iPod is downstairs or with you charging, you need to tell him that. That is a bigger issue than the curfew, IMO. Whatever you decide, be transparent about it if you want him to trust you. Model honest behavior, if you want him to be honest with you. He is angry because he wants to continue sexting with his girlfriend and you haven't discussed that situation with him at all. His anger isn't happening in a vacuum. All of a sudden, after not enforcing the curfew, you are suddenly doing it at the time he started sexting, but not copping as to why. If you want to reserve the right to monitor his texting and online behavior, fine, but own up to it. Model taking responsibility. This. A thousand times, this. |
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Post by FrozenPea on May 26, 2015 14:58:11 GMT
Yes we do. He can game on be on the pc till 10 during summer & weekends during school. His phone is charged in our room and turned in at 9. Now that out is summer he can watch TV till 11 then bed. Bedtime is 9 pm du t ing the school year. He must be in his room at least. Btw he is almost 16.
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Post by jeremysgirl on May 26, 2015 15:44:29 GMT
We have a rule that my 15 year old DD has to be off her phone by 10 pm on weeknights and 12 am on weekends. As long as she obeys this rule, she gets to have her phone. Every once in a while I have to remind her it's after hours but she appreciates her sleep, is an honors student, and gets herself out of bed in the morning so she is responsible. I do not feel the need to take it away. Also, she knows I reserve the right to take the phone at any time and look at what she is doing, but for the most part, I don't. I trust that she has a good head on her shoulders. We have discussed sexting and sending nudes. We have also discussed bullying. I don't feel the need to check up on her.
My DS is 13 and he just isn't into his phone at all. He does love his computer games. We have a rule that he needs to be off the computer by 9 pm on weeknights and 12 am on weekends so he can get enough sleep. I do have to remind him each night that it is time for bed.
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Post by kristi on May 26, 2015 16:08:13 GMT
My 15 year old daughter puts her phone up @ 8pm on weekdays.
She is aware that we know her passwords & will check her texts/instagram for appropriateness.
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