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Post by chaosisapony on May 29, 2015 1:14:19 GMT
Oh yes. We had tons of little notes though. I made sure to dispose of 90% of them before I went home.
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my3freaks
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Post by my3freaks on May 29, 2015 4:27:51 GMT
I doubt it. My parents were not and are still not naive or dumb. Same here. Same at mine. I'm sure they wouldn't have liked to read it in black & white, but they were not at all blind to what teenagers were up to. I also have a brother who's almost 6 years older than I am. As teens we were always told that while they'd rather we didn't have sex, they knew we'd find a way if we wanted to, so be smart and be safe. If we needed anything, or money to get anything that help was available too. My parents were really big about choosing their battles with us. My Dad loved to bring up something I had done weeks or even months later, as he said, just to let me know I hadn't "gotten away with it". I am beyond grateful that I grew up before texting, internet and stuff. I graduated in 1991. I was a wild teenager, I didn't need it documented for posterity!
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Post by Miss Ang on May 29, 2015 11:24:34 GMT
Oh my goodness, yes! I found some of the letters I wrote to my dh back when I was 16-17 and I was SHOCKED at some of the stuff I wrote. Goodness, looking back, I should have become a writer of steamy romance novels. I try to remember that when my 20 and 16 year old "shock" me with their behavior or things I know they have done...... But it's awfully hard to think of your baby like that!!! Goodness!!!
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TheOtherMeg
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Post by TheOtherMeg on May 29, 2015 11:46:12 GMT
Probably not, I was #7 out of 9, very little shocked my parents by the time I was a teenager. My Mother was pretty much a realist and knew her children were neither perfect nor innocent. I'm #5 of 7. Same thing applies, though.
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momto4kiddos
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Post by momto4kiddos on May 29, 2015 13:24:42 GMT
I'm sure my parents would have been shocked by my teenage behavior (and it wasn't too horrifying.) I try to remind myself that with technology I know a whole lot more about my kids than my parents knew. When I left for the night, I was expected in by curfew and they had no way of knowing where I was until I showed back up again. These days I can just text my kid and see where they are. I've seen some language (snapchat) from my 18 yo that i'd love to say, really....is that necessary, but I keep my mouth shut. I realize how much more into their business I can be than my parents could be and try to keep it dialed back and not be too intrusive
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Post by mallie on May 29, 2015 13:27:11 GMT
I think my parents must have had interesting teen lives because they always assumed we were horndog troublemakers out to ruin our lives (and theirs, by association). So I don't think they would have been shocked, I think they would have felt vindicated or justified in their negative assumptions. Sad, but true.
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Post by kelbel827 on May 29, 2015 13:42:57 GMT
My parents were always on me, not my siblings. They would have sent me away from all human contact if they saw some of the stuff. My first address at college was 69 south green drive. There were many letters addressed to me that had emphasis on the street address.
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Post by Deleted on May 29, 2015 15:11:47 GMT
I was a depressed, nerdy teenager. I didn't date until my twenties. My parents may have been shocked at that time, but by then I was an adult, so it wouldn't have mattered.
That being said, I was recently reading through some emails DH and I exchanged before we were married. I had to toss 1/3 of them for fear that my kids may discover/read them someday.
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anniebeth24
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Post by anniebeth24 on May 29, 2015 15:26:29 GMT
I think I would have been the one to be shocked by the texts of my peers at that age. I was absolutely oblivious to so many things going on around me - realized in college what my high school friends had been doing and talking about. Felt stupid, but it was definitely an "ignorance is bliss" kind of experience for me.
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Post by vspindler on May 29, 2015 17:56:26 GMT
I don't think so. My mom kind of was a "if you can't be good, be careful" kind of parent. She was far from "innocent" back in her day (and her high school best friend married my dad's brother, so I got to hear stories!). My dad maybe, but mom, heck no. She knew what was up. She worked at a Catholic boarding school and even filled in some blanks for some of the priests there too when they overheard the boys talking about things but didn't really know what they were. She was their go to, lol.
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jenkate77
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Post by jenkate77 on May 29, 2015 18:03:35 GMT
I was so square. SO! They would have been annoyed by my complaints about them though!
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Post by Prenticekid on May 29, 2015 19:38:32 GMT
They might have been shocked, but they wouldn't have had to come up with bail money, attorney's fees, fines and/or jail visits. Sexting is illegal in my area.
When my sister and I had those "what we did when we were younger" convos with my mom, though, she either wasn't all that shocked or she just laughed.
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Post by AussieMeg on May 30, 2015 3:48:32 GMT
Unfortunately my mum did in fact find out exactly what me and my friends said.
My BFF and I used to write these stupid stories and then rate them based on how explicit they were - R rated, X rated, XXX rated..... I'm guessing that some of the notes would have been a lot worse than the texts mentioned the other day. Unfortunately my mum found them one day and was so upset she was crying. She assumed that I had been doing all of these things that we'd written about. We were only 14yo and hadn't actually done anything like that at that stage. Thanks goodness she didn't tell my dad about it, that would have been so much worse!
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2015 6:20:48 GMT
I never did anything bad , but my father told people I was going to be whore when I grew up. So he would have been happy with finding something shocking.
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Post by peasapie on May 30, 2015 12:26:25 GMT
Yes for sure. My parents were extremely strict and I was rebellious. I feel bad for kids today who do not realize their texts can be seen by more than their intended's eyes.
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