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Post by fkawitchypea on Jul 12, 2014 20:31:33 GMT
So after breaking up with my son's father 10 years ago, I am finally ready to enter back into the dating world. I have no idea why I have waited so long but this year I have been spending a lot of time taking care of myself, have lost some weight and think I'm ready.
I went online to join match.com and am a bit stumped by what to write about myself. Anyone want to help? Ask me some questions you think a potential date might want to know about me? |
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jul 12, 2014 20:36:37 GMT
I'm intrigued by your Pname??!! Were you a P before? and who?!
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Post by fkawitchypea on Jul 12, 2014 20:42:54 GMT
I was a pea before (since about 2004) but was mostly a lurker. I was witchypea for the last year but before then was ~*~Jen~*~. I changed because I couldn't figure out how to log in with symbols on yhe app  . |
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jul 13, 2014 5:05:08 GMT
ah!! Well..I would suck at doing a profile for you, but I will BTT this for you!
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 13, 2014 5:57:27 GMT
Let's see, not a guy or in the market for a date, but questions I would want to know about a prospective date
Do you like sports? Which ones? What teams?
What do you do for a living?
If you could do one thing, what would it be? Or name 5 things that are on your bucket list (or would be if you had one)
What do you do for fun?
What is your favorite TV show? Book?
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Post by MrsPea #2861 on Jul 13, 2014 6:08:09 GMT
Let's see, not a guy or in the market for a date, but questions I would want to know about a prospective date Do you like sports? Which ones? What teams? What do you do for a living? If you could do one thing, what would it be? Or name 5 things that are on your bucket list (or would be if you had one) What do you do for fun? What is your favorite TV show? Book? I like these - it's a good start! I would add a faith based question. Such as: do you go to church? Do you have a spiritual belief? Are you spiritual? Something like that. Good luck! |
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Post by BeckyTech on Jul 13, 2014 6:15:56 GMT
If you have a sense of humor, I think you should throw in a non sequitur. Add to your profile how you feel about, oh ... Uncrustables, for instance.  |
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Post by craftchickapowpow on Jul 13, 2014 6:34:55 GMT
My niece joined a match making site and one of the things I remember her saying is that people told her not to post a picture that she could be easily recognized in. She posted a picture in her ski gear with helmet and sunglasses. She's an avid wake/snow boarder, runner, hiker and loves to travel so she wrote about her interests. I would not mention your kid (if he's young) because some pervs go looking for women with young kids. I think I'd probably be pretty specific about the kind of relationship I was looking for. The qualities I am looking for in a person I date. If physical appearances is a big deal to you, mention it. If you have a racial preference I'd mention it. I would not be interested in dating anyone who does not have a job. I would not be interested in a heavy drinker and no drugs. That sort of stuff will hopefully weed out undesirables.
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Post by heartcat on Jul 13, 2014 11:19:13 GMT
Congrats on getting ready to get back out in the dating world. Best of luck.
I would do something along the lines of what craftchickapowwow suggested.
I would probably bring up the kinds of things that tend to cause conflict for couples, and would state some of my biggest pros and cons.
So for myself, I'd probably write something like, 'I'm an eternal optimist, laid back, disorganized and a procrastinator. It doesn't bother me to go to bed with a few dishes in the sink. I'm a homebody with a small social circle, which is mostly family. I love animals and pets are important to me. I have no religious beliefs. I am rather traditional when it comes to the division of chores. I like to cook but have never mowed a lawn in my life. I appreciate humility and chivalry in a man, and admire a strong work ethic.'
Then I'd add in a few hobbies and interests, because you do have to enjoy doing at least 'some' things together. But I think that it would be important to make it clear that even if a man loves Scrabble, the same books and movies that I do, loves photography, prefers the mountains to a Caribbean beach, etc. that if he is OCD about housework, doesn't like animals, is a social butterfly who likes to be out all the time and has a huge circle of friends, that 'those' will be things that would likely cause conflict for us.
It's not usually a couple's hobbies, or their occupations that cause issues in a relationship. There are SO many relationships where standards for house cleaning cause trouble. Seriously. People are always venting about a spouse (male or female) being a slob, or being anal/OCD. Or I see so many issues in relationships because one person likes to go out all the time and socialize and the other doesn't, and one either feels 'stuck' at home way too often, or the other feels 'forced' to be around people they don't want to be with doing things they don't want to do.
So I would think of those things that have caused conflict in past relationships, or things that I know I would not want to deal with, and list those. It's often the things that seem like little things that are actually important, because they are 'daily' things. So rather than just an 'I'm Cathy and I work at xyz and enjoy doing abc...' I would have something in my profile that indicates what kind of person I am to live with and be around.
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Post by peasapie on Jul 13, 2014 11:55:10 GMT
Well congrats in diving back into the pool! I went on Match dot com fourteen years ago, met the love of my life, and have been married for 10 years. One thing that helped me was to read other women's profiles. I saw things I liked and things I didn't think came across well, and I tailored my profile accordingly. Above all, be honest about things and do include the things you do for fun that another person might be interested in knowing about. I love riding horses and was interested to know my future husband did, too. We bonded over that, among a few other things. I agree about not mentioning your child just yet to protect her privacy.
It's hard at first to sort through guys' profiles, but you'll get better at it as time goes by. Sometimes they aren't so honest about their age, I noticed. And I suggest meet for coffee first so that if it's a dud you can escape quickly! I think my husband was the fifth guy I met. We chatted a lot by email and phone before meeting, but some people prefer meeting first and chatting later. Good luck and please let us know how it goes. I love hearing match stories!
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Post by fkawitchypea on Jul 13, 2014 14:43:29 GMT
Thanks everyone for the replies. It's a crappy rainy day here so I plan on working on my profile today. The picture thing has me feeling a bit icky. I like the suggestion of having a photo where you cannot be easily identified, but I don't currently have any of those.
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Post by sharlag on Jul 13, 2014 23:10:15 GMT
I closed my profile with "Once when I was pregnant, I ate a Frito that I found on the floor of my car".
I had MORE opening conversations mentioning that FRITO!
If you have a funny incident to tell about yourself, and can condense it, that might be something to include. I think the humor/humility that I put in my profile made me approachable or something, because I had a good amount of fellows initiate contact. Nice guys, for the most part.
I just found out that I didn't enjoy the dating process. I wasn't wanting someone badly enough to go through that stress.
Let us know how it's going!
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