luvnlifelady
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 29, 2015 12:26:36 GMT
DH and I were talking about this the other day. My kids are 15 and 18 and both are in marching band like I was.
However, DH and I both like baseball a lot and both kids will go to a game, but that's where their interest stops. DH does fantasy leagues and I listen to games of my favorite team and participate on related FB pages, etc.
15 yo DS can identify most any car quickly just by looking at whereas DH (and I) don't have a clue about cars. He's also very into video/photography.
I also played softball quite a bit (never the school team though) growing up. Both kids tried different sports but didn't stick with them. DH also played soccer/Little League.
Do your kids have similar interests to you? I don't mind that the kids don't like most things we do since it's neat to see them blossom with their own interests.
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Post by Deleted on May 29, 2015 13:00:40 GMT
HA! No. Not here anyways.
Well, maybe not entirely. I'm creative. So are the boys, just in different ways. I've always wanted to play music but was tone-deaf in addition to being deaf so I could never tell if I was off or not. Both boys are in the band, playing instruments that have been played by previous family members. I was part of the color guard in marching band and I'm looking forward to seeing them being part of the marching band as well. I like making things. DS1 has signed up for wood shop in high school. He's excited.
I'm not very athletic but I do enjoy hockey games. Ex has no interest in sports and the boys take after him in that regards. DH is bummed because he wanted to teach them how to play hockey and do more with them. The boys can throw and run but they aren't competitive enough to want to play.
Ex is very into cars. Neither kid is interested although they do like the idea of driving my Dad's Chevelle.
I find video games to be a waste of time. DH likes to tinker with games that he can modify (like NHL94 and another one) and spends more time modifying the games than actually playing it. I know ex and his gf are very into video games as are the boys. The boys bragged about how the GF beat a skylanders game in one day and I had a very hard time resisting the urge to roll my eyes.
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Post by grinningcat on May 29, 2015 13:14:39 GMT
Nope. And I like it that way. I don't want my pursuits to be co-opted by my parents. I'll do occasional things with them but I don't want my hobbies or interests to become so similar that I get no time to myself.
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lesley
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Post by lesley on May 29, 2015 13:21:04 GMT
DH and DS both play guitar, and will happily sit and jam for an hour. DD and I both love to sing, and that's something we do quite often. We love to bring harmonies into our songs, although she is much better at making up harmonies than I am. None of us is at all interested in any sports. I'm glad the kids aren't, because I hate watching sports! DS played rugby for a while when he was younger, but lost interest when it started becoming more tactile.
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Post by purplebee on May 29, 2015 13:21:47 GMT
Yes, some of them. I love music, sing and play a little guitar and mando, and jam with friends regularly. Dh can play and sing too, but has lost interest.
Ds 19 is a phenomenal guitar picker and a good vocalist, and is a total music person. If he hears it he can play it. Dh and I like some college sports and watch regularly, Ds can take it or leave it. I am an avid reader, read to Ds while still in the womb, always got him books and encouraged him to read for pleasure. I think the last book he read was in HS and only because he had to. But Dh is not a reader either.
Ds likes to deer hunt, Dh took him when he was small, taught him gun safety, and how to be a responsible and respectful hunter. I don't hunt, don't like guns (for me) but sure like venison in the freezer every fall.
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Post by purplebee on May 29, 2015 13:24:23 GMT
DH and DS both play guitar, and will happily sit and jam for an hour. DD and I both love to sing, and that's something we do quite often. We love to bring harmonies into our songs, although she is much better at making up harmonies than I am. None of us is at all interested in any sports. I'm glad the kids aren't, because I hate watching sports! DS played rugby for a while when he was younger, but lost interest when it started becoming more tactile. Leslie, isn't it a blessing to be able to enjoy music with your child? It's something you will always share. I love harmony too, and would rather sing harmony than lead. |
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Post by leannec on May 29, 2015 13:26:19 GMT
It's a big joke in our house that dd#1, age 16, is a mini-me  We are both total bookworms, like the same movies, into music and she's an excellent student (I'm a teacher) ... as she gets older she is looking more and more like me too  Dd#2, age 12, is more of her own self although she does love animals like I do and we both have a strange fascination with all things Titanic  Neither girl is really into dh's hobbies of ATVing and watching crappy TV  As a family, we all enjoy our boat during our summer vacation ... |
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Post by Deleted on May 29, 2015 13:34:18 GMT
No and yes...they all love to craft (me). They love to read (me). They love the ocean (him). The have a snarky sense of humor(him).
I played softball, field hockey & any sport. Went to so many Met, Giants & Rangers games it was ridiculous. My girls are soccer, lacrosse and swimming. So yes they play sports, but will not watch a single game.
The youngest has started to show interstate in gaming, husband loves it, but there is a balance. The youngest two have started to show an interstate in hunting, this will be soooo funny.
They all love to shop, explore,volunteer (was instilled long ago), and to cook.
The above is a mixture of both of us.
We have tried to explore everything the kids like & find a happy meduim.
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Post by mallie on May 29, 2015 13:34:19 GMT
Not really.
To be honest, one thing that really puzzles dh and I is that none of our kids really has hobbies and we both have many hobbies. We tried exposing them to so many activities, interests, etc and none of them pursued anything beyond the basics.
The only exception, is my oldest dd who is a professional photographer. She says she got into it in part from me yapping about angles and what not when I was taking photographs, particularly when we went to Europe the first time. But that's her business and it's rare that does it in her off hours for fun. She doesn't seem to have an interest in it beyond work. She NEVER takes any of her cameras with her. NEVER. I was actually shocked yesterday because we went to an outdoor sculpture park and she took out her iphone to take photos. (And of course, her iphone pics look way better than my real camera pics because she has a much better eye and I'm going with the idea that her training doesn't hurt either!)
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Post by shannoots on May 29, 2015 13:45:33 GMT
DS#1 likes sports. He plays baseball and watches sports on TV all the time. His favorite station is ESPN. I love baseball and will watch other sports, if they are on but I don't seek them out. DH likes baseball and other sports but doesn't love them. I always joke that he is me in a boys body. He is a good student, loves to talk, is pretty silly, etc..
DS#2 is into outdoorsy things like hunting and fishing. I do like to fish but that's about where it stops. DH grew up hunting and fishing so they share that. He also loves to figure out how things work and my DH is just like that. He does play baseball and soccer but isn't passionate about either.
DD...we're still trying to figure out what she likes. She has tried many things including softball, gymnastics, dance, choir, etc...She's going to try Hip Hop this summer. I need to find her niche-she is going to be the one that needs an activity the most as she gets older. She does like to craft (like me).
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Post by BlueDiamond on May 29, 2015 13:57:30 GMT
I think both of our DDs have a little of each of us in them!
DD1 likes to be active in sports, like DH was. She likes to talk a lot (LOL) about mundane things, like I do. She is an introvert like I am (not a hobby, but a personality trait). Her friends are her life right now at 14. She likes reading (me) and watching TV (me and DH). Played an instrument like DH and I, but didn't continue like I did. Her big thing is cheer, which I never did...I was a marching band geek! DH took her hunting, which she LOVED! She has been very independent since pre-school.
DD2 is creative like me, doesn't read much (like DH), and loves video games (me). She likes to play outside and loves ping-pong, badminton, and playing catch (DH). She is starting to hang out with friends more and more, but she is still quite attached to me, even telling me I am her best friend and she'd rather hang out with me than her friends! She loves family time, just like me!
It's so fun to see where their interests lie, and share common things as well as learn new things with them.
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Post by mikklynn on May 29, 2015 14:06:01 GMT
Not very much. DS and DH are both sports nuts, but DS is into hunting and DH is not.
I am into creative things, DD is not. She will go to sports events with DH, so yay! I have zero interest in sports, but go with DH.
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Post by ingrid6 on May 29, 2015 14:07:21 GMT
I think my kids have a nice mix of similar and varied. I've always loved watching them pursue new stuff that neither dh or I did and we also have some of the best memories of doing stuff together. We've always been a skiing/hiking/snowshoeing family. Now that the kids are on their own, they all still love to do those things with their spouses, s/o's and with us. We started camping when they were little and 5 of the 6 still camp. All but 1 of us are musical (guitar, voice and piano) Mom brag moment - dd#6 tried out for the XFactor and out of the 7000+ people that tried out, she made it to the final 100 cut  DS is a worship ministry major and music ministry is what he does on the side. Both he and one of our daughters play in a band. DD#4 has always been interested in FBI stuff and is starting an internship with NCIS... no similarity there -I'd rather watch the show than live it  |
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 29, 2015 15:46:55 GMT
Yes, both of us. She's very artistic/crafty (me), likes to help bake and cook (both), likes to read/be read to (me), video games (both, but more DH), fishing (both, but more DH), ATV's/snowmobiles/etc. (DH), and she LOVES going on amusement park rides (me, and I'm excited about that because DH hates them). She also loves to sing and that's kind of her own thing. I have always sung to or with her since birth but I've never been involved in choir or anything like that.
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Post by anniebygaslight on May 29, 2015 16:19:23 GMT
Nope.
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Post by georgiapea on May 29, 2015 17:42:20 GMT
Not even a tiny bit. I'm artistic, my DD is not. I eschew all sports, she is a volleyball fanatic. She cooks up a storm and I find a kitchen a strange foreign place best avoided for everyone's safety. She camps and I think Motel 6 is roughing it.
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