momto4kiddos
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Post by momto4kiddos on May 29, 2015 21:20:38 GMT
The other thread has me thinking and wondering how the men fair in the libido aging process. Since men are supposed to reach their peaks early on i'm wondering whether anyone noticed much tapering off as their men aged. Curious whether you felt it was waning interest, medication induced, dysfunction induced.
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Post by moveablefeast on May 29, 2015 21:47:48 GMT
I guess it's a TMI thread any which way, so I'll just answer honestly.  My DH developed a chronic illness in his 30s which has substantially impacted his libido. The medicine, the pain, and the overall fatigue all contribute.v I also think there is for some people just kind of a natural decline in libido as part of getting older and you either have to fight against it, find ways around it, or just accept it. But in my opinion, it's more common than people want to let on - among men who find aging particularly challenging and among men who don't. I think some guys just get tired of having to get the job done at work, then come home and have to perform there too. But that is based mostly on casual observation of my friends' husbands. |
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knotlazy
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Post by knotlazy on May 29, 2015 22:15:31 GMT
Can't believe that I'm posting on this thread...but here goes...we've been married 35+ years....we met in high school so there is that. We have experienced young adult hood....early marriage, children, buying a business, nearly losing our ass on that business, enjoying the benefits of the good times with that business, nearly losing our ass again.....teenagers....trying to pay for college...weddings....and now trying to figure out how to end my hubby's career and sell his business.
Can you see lots of stress involved? So our "love life" has ebbed and flowed over the years....
So, yes I can see changes in his libido....and I can see changes in mine.
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Post by gramasue on May 30, 2015 0:04:35 GMT
We've been married now for 27 years. We had both been married before, and met, fell in love, and married all within a year. I joked that at our ages, we knew what we wanted and didn't need to wait. Yes, at first, we were like teenagers. Couldn't keep our hands off each other. Our kids were older, so that meant they were out a lot, and we had lots of time to ourselves. Well, then we bought a motel and moved here. Our house is built into the structure of the motel, so we are "open" to the public from 8 a.m. to 10 p.m. every single day of the year. That means that a customer could walk in the front office at any time for 14 hours a day and that damn buzzer will go off. Or the phone will ring. And, I'm sorry, but by 10 at night after a long hard day cleaning, bookkeeping, doing laundry and running the household, I'm tired! So, our biggest problem is a lack of privacy during the hours when we both have any energy. DH takes care of all the maintenance and outside work, so he is tired, too. We are now in our sixties and enjoy our lifestyle, but the physical part of our marriage has suffered because of the lack of time to be together. I would love the opportunity to take him upstairs in the middle of the afternoon and then have a nice nap together afterwards, but it's simply not possible. We both agree that this aspect of our lives is not perfect, but we do find the time once in a while.  I would say we have gone from 3-4 times a week when we were first married, to 3-4 times a month now. So I guess that's not too bad, especially for a couple of old fogies like us! |
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luvnlifelady
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 30, 2015 3:00:12 GMT
My DH is pushing 49 and his interest seems to be stable. However, as I indicated in the other thread, my interest in picking up. I am starting to initiate more which I normally haven't done and want to make sure that I go at his pace.
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2015 4:27:09 GMT
The interest is still intense. The enthusiasm is there. The performance hasn't wavered. The frequency? That slowed down. LOL
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gsquaredmom
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Post by gsquaredmom on May 30, 2015 11:05:46 GMT
We've been married now for 27 years. We had both been married before, and met, fell in love, and married all within a year. I joked that at our ages, we knew what we wanted and didn't need to wait. Yes, at first, we were like teenagers. Couldn't keep our hands off each other. Our kids were older, so that meant they were out a lot, and we had lots of time to ourselves. Well, then we bought a motel and moved here. Our house is built into the structure of the motel, so we are "open" to the public from 8 a.m. to 10 p.m. every single day of the year. That means that a customer could walk in the front office at any time for 14 hours a day and that damn buzzer will go off. Or the phone will ring. And, I'm sorry, but by 10 at night after a long hard day cleaning, bookkeeping, doing laundry and running the household, I'm tired! So, our biggest problem is a lack of privacy during the hours when we both have any energy. DH takes care of all the maintenance and outside work, so he is tired, too. We are now in our sixties and enjoy our lifestyle, but the physical part of our marriage has suffered because of the lack of time to be together. I would love the opportunity to take him upstairs in the middle of the afternoon and then have a nice nap together afterwards, but it's simply not possible. We both agree that this aspect of our lives is not perfect, but we do find the time once in a while. I would say we have gone from 3-4 times a week when we were first married, to 3-4 times a month now. So I guess that's not too bad, especially for a couple of old fogies like us! Can you hire a part time night clerk? 6-10 pm could be your time. Or a couple afternoons, whenever you want? |
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Post by gramasue on May 30, 2015 20:36:03 GMT
I wish it were that easy, gsquaredmom! The problem is the layout of the building. Our house is built sort of right into the motel building, with the motel office and what we call the breakfast room in front of the house and the bedrooms on the second level, over the office and breakfast room. It would be awkward for us to be upstairs in our bedroom and have someone just underneath us, sitting in the front office. Haha!
Maybe we should just rent a room from ourselves!
Actually, it makes it quite interesting to have to be inventive about where and when we can get together. It's not always the bedroom!
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I would say we have gone from 3-4 times a week when we were first married, to 3-4 times a month now. So I guess that's not too bad, especially for a couple of old fogies like us! 
