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Post by cakediva on Jun 2, 2015 1:56:45 GMT
On one hand, I'm super proud of DD for taking the leap to do this.... But the other hand wants to throw a kicking, screaming hissy fit. It isn't a huge thing in the grand scheme of things, but I'm so very jealous. Back story - DD took a year off after high school, and is about to start year 2 of a 4 year University program. DD #2 is about to take a year off, and then start a 2 year College program. So they will graduate the same year. So we decided that the three of us would do a Mother/Daughter trip to Disney (and wait until November so younger DD will be 21 when we go). All three of us are excited about the prospect of this Disney trip (and me especially, since I'm the true Disney freak in the house, and there were no plans for another trip for a very long time). DD came home from a visit with a friend today, and the two of them and another friend have decided they want to go to Disney this November during exam break (so they will each only miss a day or two of University). They are serious about it...DD already has money set aside and has enough that the trip won't derail her school money. I'm so excited for her that she wants to travel without us. But I'm so very sad that I don't get to go to Disney too!  I told her she's out of the will....LOL ETA - we will still go on the graduation trip in 3 years. Waiting until DD#2 is 21 in November means she can also have some drinks when older DD and I are. Part of the excitement for the oldest was finally being able to have a yummy slushie drink in Epcot! I'm just super duper jealous that she gets to go again so soon!! |
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Post by alittleintrepid on Jun 2, 2015 2:03:25 GMT
Oh no.... I can see by your siggie that you have a younger son....maybe he needs some mother/son time?
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Post by marimoose on Jun 2, 2015 2:05:11 GMT
Can't you still do Disney? Was your mother/daughters trip this November or a couple years down the road? I got confused by waiting until younger dd is 21. If you were going this November then I would have my feelings extremely hurt by older daughter's decision. I can see how you are excited for her to be branching out into adulthood so well but.... You are fantastic for being so positive, better than I would handle it:/ oops, I see the ages after I read alittleintrepid's post. So... now you can still plan a trip down the road??? Who doesn't want to go to Disney more than once?  |
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Post by cakediva on Jun 2, 2015 2:09:09 GMT
Can't you still do Disney? Was your mother/daughters trip this November or a couple years down the road? I got confused by waiting until younger dd is 21. If you were going this November then I would have my feelings extremely hurt by older daughter's decision. I can see how you are excited for her to be branching out into adulthood so well but.... You are fantastic for being so positive, better than I would handle it:/ oops, I see the ages after I read alittleintrepid's post. So... now you can still plan a trip down the road??? Who doesn't want to go to Disney more than once? Oh we will still go for the graduation trip - I'm just uber jealous that she gets to go again before I do! |
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Post by marimoose on Jun 2, 2015 2:23:26 GMT
Can't you still do Disney? Was your mother/daughters trip this November or a couple years down the road? I got confused by waiting until younger dd is 21. If you were going this November then I would have my feelings extremely hurt by older daughter's decision. I can see how you are excited for her to be branching out into adulthood so well but.... You are fantastic for being so positive, better than I would handle it:/ oops, I see the ages after I read alittleintrepid's post. So... now you can still plan a trip down the road??? Who doesn't want to go to Disney more than once? Oh we will still go for the graduation trip - I'm just uber jealous that she gets to go again before I do! I so understand! I took just my younger daughter to Florida 3 years ago for my birthday, leaving behind the rest of the family (they were al ok with this) and my then 16yo did NOT want to go to Disney. We did lots of things, Discovery Cove, Sea World, Busch Gardens, Universal but no Disney. I bit my tongue but was so sad inside. It didn't help that we ended up there during a tropical storm so nonstop rain and cold. My younger daughter has since become a mega Disney freak and asked if I want to repeat our trip next summer, again just the two of us. She also realizes that she was a but of a brat and also knows how lucky she was to be invited on my birthday trip, that originally I was going to do alone. BUT, the big but, she is going on a two week road trip at the end of this once to....... WDW. I am beyond jealous but as like you, excited to see her spreading her wings. I will hold out hope for next year:) We do have several country concerts planned for just the two of us this summer so that takes a little sting out. But nothing replaces Disney. Nothing. |
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Post by elaine on Jun 2, 2015 3:14:57 GMT
No one in my family goes to Disney without me. If they even think about it, I get a trip to Disney by myself.
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Post by tincin on Jun 2, 2015 5:40:52 GMT
You may but I am definitely going to want to see the video of you doing it.
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Post by cakediva on Jun 2, 2015 11:33:15 GMT
No one in my family goes to Disney without me. If they even think about it, I get a trip to Disney by myself. Oooh! I like the way you think! (which may almost happen....my friends DD dances for Disney Cruise Lines, and can get us super cheap cruise offers and then it is just the flight cost....lol) |
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Post by sharlag on Jun 2, 2015 13:26:57 GMT
Can't you still do Disney? Was your mother/daughters trip this November or a couple years down the road? I got confused by waiting until younger dd is 21. If you were going this November then I would have my feelings extremely hurt by older daughter's decision. I can see how you are excited for her to be branching out into adulthood so well but.... You are fantastic for being so positive, better than I would handle it:/ oops, I see the ages after I read alittleintrepid's post. So... now you can still plan a trip down the road??? Who doesn't want to go to Disney more than once? Oh we will still go for the graduation trip - I'm just uber jealous that she gets to go again before I do! If you lived near Disney and money were no object, how often would you go to the parks? |
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Post by elaine on Jun 2, 2015 13:30:55 GMT
I grew up in Los Angeles and would go twice a year to Disneyland, at least. We lived a couple of hours from Disneyland, so it wasn't super convenient. If I lived closer, such as in Orange Co., I'd have annual passes for the kids and I.
Now that we are in Northern VA, we just go to FL and DisneyWorld once a year.
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Post by quiltz on Jun 2, 2015 13:33:46 GMT
How is your DD paying for this trip? It depends when in November as flights do get expensive due to the US Thanksgiving and Holiday season starting.
Is she still able to pay for her part of University costs? Learning how to budget is a course that everyone should have to take in life.
I would ask her how she has budgeted for this trip, also taking in mind of the exchange rate between the CDN/US money.
Simply talk to her and ask her some of these hard questions.
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Post by lesley on Jun 2, 2015 13:41:14 GMT
I am jealous of anyone who goes to Disney when I'm not. If I have a trip planned, I will happily sit and chat about the parks, the restaurants, the rides, etc with anyone at all, for hours if necessary. But if I have no plans, I get too sad to talk about it! I'm pathetic.  |
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Post by cakediva on Jun 3, 2015 1:17:44 GMT
Oh we will still go for the graduation trip - I'm just uber jealous that she gets to go again before I do! If you lived near Disney and money were no object, how often would you go to the parks? Often! LOL DH and I have a bit of a plan - winters are killing us here in Ontario. We hate the cold. So we'd LOVE to buy a rental property in Orlando (in a resort style community) that will hopefully pay for itself, possibly fund a trip or two over the years, and then become a 3 or 4 month place for us to become snow birds and leave the cold for the winter! And then I can get an annual pass, and go whenever the mood strikes me..... |
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Post by cakediva on Jun 3, 2015 1:22:27 GMT
How is your DD paying for this trip? It depends when in November as flights do get expensive due to the US Thanksgiving and Holiday season starting.
Is she still able to pay for her part of University costs? Learning how to budget is a course that everyone should have to take in life.
I would ask her how she has budgeted for this trip, also taking in mind of the exchange rate between the CDN/US money.
Simply talk to her and ask her some of these hard questions.
She's way ahead of me with that. We've already been over a lot of it. She has at least $10,000 in her high interest savings account. The trip will take maybe $2000 of it. She will still receive OSAP for partial funding of school (and at the small amount she gets, she'll maybe only have $12,000 to pay back after 4 years in school). She worked really hard this first year, has top marks to show for it. All three girls have taken into account the exchange and such. It is the 8th-14th (they changed dates when I said they would qualify for the free dining promo on right now) so with the flights we have already researched, and the exchange, they are looking at $1300 each before spending money. She pays her own way for school - we pay nothing towards her education (haven't had it to give) - she is also able to work all year long. So no worries with continuing to save more $$ for the rest of her school days. |
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