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Post by sphmaz on Jun 2, 2015 14:36:46 GMT
I LOVEd going to Grandmas to visit! She didn't necessarily have anything my parents wouldn't allow me to have but she did let me have "coffee" in the morning with my eggs (BEST EGGS EVER!!). And by coffee I mean milk with a splash of coffee in it to change the color to light tan. We watched the Dukes of Hazard, The Love Boat, Fantasy Island.....all depending on which night I was over. Such awesome memories! My parents never asked what I ate, what I did, etc. I just had fun. I would never ask and don't care much what my parents give my kids. I trust they'll do fine. That is such a cool thing you are doing though.....
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Post by sillyrabbit on Jun 2, 2015 14:41:39 GMT
My Mim and Gandy always had good snacks. We got Dr. Pepper, Mt. Dew, Pringles, Cracker Jack, and Three Musketeers. They have both since passed away, and I always think of them and smile whenever I see any of those items.
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Post by epeanymous on Jun 2, 2015 14:43:23 GMT
I think it is fine if the parents are fine with it, but, honestly, if you think the parents would be upset if you fed their kids junk food, why would you do it? I would only do it in moderation. And my DD and I have differing opinions on junk food. I see nothing wrong with an occasional Hostess Cupcake. You can have differing philosophies and disagree about things. But why would you purposely do something with your granddaughter that her mother disagrees with? I just don't get that. It seems like a weird power play.
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Post by ~Susan~ on Jun 2, 2015 14:43:37 GMT
My mother and I lived with my grandparents after my parents divorced for 5 years. I probably could have had anything I wanted, but I usually stuck to fruit.
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Post by leannec on Jun 2, 2015 14:47:41 GMT
I ate chips and chocolate like it was going out of style at my grandparent's house My mum didn't care ... maybe she should have because I was a chubby kid I don't put any restrictions on what Grandma or Nana feed my dd's but I don't let them bring the leftovers home because dh will eat it
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Post by iluvpink on Jun 2, 2015 14:47:44 GMT
OMG yes. My one grandma lived next door and she was a baker. My parents limited sweets so we loved to go next door to grandma's because there was almost always a cookie or some other treat waiting. And she had a candy jar. Though often it held "old people" candy like mints or butterschotch drops. But sometimes there would be M&M's or Kisses.
My other grandma we spent a lot of time at during the summer or would spend Friday nights. She didn't bake quite as much as she still had four kids living at home and babysat to earn extra money (she was widowed young) so less time. But she did buy foods my parents didn't approve of like sugar cereals, Tang and boxed macaroni and cheese. We would get very excited about those. My uncles were teenager and they would often bribe us with treats to get us to stop annoying them. So that was fun. But not as fun as annoying them so we didn't often get the treats lol.
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Post by padresfan619 on Jun 2, 2015 14:52:19 GMT
My Papa would always have tons of ice cream, cookies, and soda around for us when we visited. He taught me to make chocolate syrup and peanut butter sandwiches. It was amazing.
After he passed away my Grannie didn't really buy much junk food. I think she had the same three fans of Coke in her fridge for 15 years. The only thing she did for me as a kid that I loved was peeling the cucumber before slicing it.
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Post by caro on Jun 2, 2015 14:53:12 GMT
Oh Happymomma that makes me happy. I just KNOW your grandmother appreciated your call.
This thread is reminding to let go and not be their MOM but be their fun Gigi. I just don't feel old enough to have DGD/S.
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Post by Mary Kay Lady on Jun 2, 2015 14:54:53 GMT
I'm one of 5 kids. When we went to visit my grandparents we went as a family and stayed at least a week because we drove from northern Illinois to southern California. My Mom's parents were the best grandparents. All year long, in anticipation of our visit, they'd eat kids cereal and save all the toys from the cereal boxes for us. Remember those days? Then, during our visit they'd let us have these toys to play with. It was the best fun. Also, my Grandma had one of those tiered serving trays. It was constantly out and filled with cookies, fudge, rice krispie treats, etc. We could help ourselves to it any time we wanted. They must have baked for weeks in anticipation of our visit. I don't remember getting sick from eating these treats, but I do remember the fun that we had visiting my grandparents. How often will they be visiting you? That might be something to consider. If they'll visit you weekly, then you might want to have some limits on what you offer. If their visits to you are only once in a while, I think I'd keep special treats for them to enjoy at your house. Offer healthy meals, too, of course.
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Post by Basket1lady on Jun 2, 2015 14:56:42 GMT
One Grandma always took us to Perkins for breakfast. We lived in the country and NEVER ate breakfast out!
Another Grandma gave us Fruity Pebbles and Frankenberry cereal for breakfast. When we stayed overnight, we would always check the pantry to see what cereal she had bought.
Mom never bought fresh fruit other than apples and oranges. That grandma always had grapes, which I lived. And eating fresh (sour!) rhubarb on the back step. So sometimes healthy choices can be memorable.
I'll admit, I closely monitored what my kids ate up through the preschool years. They kids would always end up with tummy aches and or vomiting with too much junk. But by elementary school, grandma fed them what she liked. My mom always makes Grandma Bars (really a butterscotch Rice Krispy bar). My kids devour them by the panfull!
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Post by cmpeter on Jun 2, 2015 14:58:08 GMT
My mom was a health food/organic fanatic when I was growing up. Nothing canned, processed or artificial at all. We even had carob instead of chocolate. I LOVED going to my grandparents and getting Nestle Quick, jello and sugary cereals. No idea how my mom felt about it. I don't have memories of her complaining about it.
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Post by lbp on Jun 2, 2015 15:00:25 GMT
For me, it was the opposite! I had pretty much free range at home and ate Doritos, chips and dip, ice cream and soft drinks with abandon! At Grandma's house snacks were cut up carrots, cucumbers, and celery. We could have saltines and cheese for an afternoon snack with a very small glass of Dr. Pepper. I thought the cut up veggies were the most awesome thing ever!
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Post by pierkiss on Jun 2, 2015 15:01:31 GMT
My grandparents on both sides always had that little glass candy dish filled with the most disgusting hard candies. They said they bought it for the grand kids, but none of is ever ate it! I think ink it's fine if you give them some sweets while they're at your house. I do not have any problems when my parents or my inlaws give our kids sweets.
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Post by bianca42 on Jun 2, 2015 15:01:59 GMT
When I was little my grandparents had a U-pick strawberry business. OMG...I grew up eating as many strawberries as I wanted. I totally miss that...and hate how expensive berries are.
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Post by krazykatlady on Jun 2, 2015 15:02:23 GMT
My Grandmother always gave me cinnamon rolls (with thick white icing) and a Coke for breakfast. Then she took me to Krystal for lunch. My Grandmother died in 1973 and these are still two of my favorite "sinful" meals to eat when I'm feeling nostalgic. If I had grandchildren today would I do something similar? You bet I would unless I thought it would a rift with my sons or DILs. Hopefully that wouldn't be the case. When my sons were young I never gave a second thought to what the grandparents were feeding them and I hope it will be the same for me if and when I have grandkids.
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Post by ~summer~ on Jun 2, 2015 15:06:29 GMT
I think you can give them treats but still be respectful. They probably don't want their kids to have artificial colors and flavors etc. can you buy the treats at Whole Foods?
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Post by bc2ca on Jun 2, 2015 15:11:03 GMT
My kids knew staying at Grandma's meant Fruit Loops for breakfast. Only Cheerios and granola are stocked at home. Has your DD who is totally organic/no junk ever talked to you about not feeding the kids junk/high sugar snacks? If yes, then I think it would be disrespectful to give her kids food you know the parents don't want them eating. There are healthier snack options available (crackers, fruit gummies, etc.). ETA Mom only bought Fruit Loops when the grandkids were coming. The only cereal my parents ate was oatmeal
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Post by LeaP on Jun 2, 2015 15:12:22 GMT
My grandmother always had Oreos and Welch's grape juice that we never had a home. It was such a thrill having them at her house.
As a parent, I really don't care what any of the grandparents feed my kids. In fact, I tell the girls to take advantage of all the things we don't eat or drink at our house. So at one grandma's it is Little Debbie's and soda and at the other it is unlimited smoked mozzarella. We live far, far away and I want them to have the maximum amount of fun and not worry about a thing. <- except maybe bathing ; )
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Post by Deleted on Jun 2, 2015 15:13:16 GMT
We weren't really restricted on what we could have at home, so when I went to my grandparents I didn't have anything that my mom would have cared about. Same here. My grandpa would always offer us coffee, but I declined. I was raised Mormon and he was Mormon by baptism only (had to be a member to be play on the church basketball team). I really don't think either of my parents would have cared. They would have said I was the one who made the choice.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Jun 2, 2015 15:15:27 GMT
My granny was NOT the grandmotherly type whatsoever. She would toss us some Tums and tell us to shut up LOL!! No fond memories there really.
In your situation I would be kinda worried (maybe worried is to strong of a word) that the organic family grandkids would get sick from not being use to eating "junk" food.
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Post by bostonmama on Jun 2, 2015 15:15:31 GMT
My grandmother always kept a special box of treats in the fridge for me & my brother. She still keeps a box of (much healthier) treats in her fridge for my kds now!
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Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Jun 2, 2015 15:18:59 GMT
My mother's mother didn't buy many treats, but she baked all the time. She always had pound cake, and what she called "tea cakes", which were really like soft sugar cookies with a little bit of nutmeg in them. Those are the two treats I remember her serving me. I used to stay with her for 2-3 weeks during the summer (a week at a time, not all at once). I LOVED going there. When I was about 8 years old, she would let me walk with a friend downtown (2-3 blocks, depending on what store we went to) to get a fountain coke at the drugstore for 5 cents! Precious memories!
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Post by genny on Jun 2, 2015 15:22:06 GMT
I would never say anything to my mom for feeding my kids something special.
I have special memories of my grandmother - who I only got to see once or twice a year. I'd get up early in the morning to sit with her on the front porch. She always let me have a cup of coffee with her in a special tea cup. It was about 90% milk and the rest was spoonfuls of coffee out of her cup to make it taste slightly coffee like (lots of sugar). I treasure those mornings with her very much.
I was a picky eater as a kid and my mom was the type to make me clean my plate before I left the table. I'd hold my nose to get down the broccoli or liver or whatever it was I didn't like. Granny would always always have Chef Boyardee Ravioli or Spagettios for me and a box of Lucky Charms so I could eat what I wanted while I was there. Drove my mom nuts because she didn't buy junk food, but she never said anything to Granny about it. Granny didn't spoil me in any other way BTW- if we were bad we had to go cut our own switches from the woods behind her house so she could whip us LOL.
I have the best memories at Granny's house as a kid and I wish she had been able to be a part of my kids lives - it's a wealth of happiness to draw on for me. I think what you are doing is awesome and I can't wait to see some pictures!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 2, 2015 15:22:48 GMT
It was at my paternal grandmother's house that I leaned about Captain Crunch, Chips Ahoy and Kraft Mac-n-cheese.
We never had those things at my house, mainly because they were expensive and my parents couldn't afford them.
We weren't there eating frequently so the risk to health was minimal.
I think you should go ahead as planned.
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Post by pretzels on Jun 2, 2015 15:25:57 GMT
My children eat all sorts of junk at Nana and Popsie's house. They do NOT eat a lot of junk at OUR house. It's never been a problem for us, but I'm not one of those crazy moms.
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Post by likescarrots on Jun 2, 2015 15:26:47 GMT
My parents weren't restrictive of anything food-wise, but I remember my grandma often would make me a grilled cheese, and my Mima always had Keebler soft batch chocolate chip cookies.
That being said, if I was watching someone else's kid, even if they were my grandchild, I would abide by their parents wishes.
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Post by Loydene on Jun 2, 2015 15:28:25 GMT
My grandmother always bought me "real" cheese -- cheddar or longhorn, NOT velvetta or processed cheese -- and cashews. And let me read all day!
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Post by caro on Jun 2, 2015 15:39:53 GMT
I think you can give them treats but still be respectful. They probably don't want their kids to have artificial colors and flavors etc. can you buy the treats at Whole Foods? There will be some organic treats and. Fresh fruit along with cheese sticks and nut butter. But there will be junk too. A friend is making rolled iced sugar cookies in a star shape. There will be ice cream bars, cupcakes and we are going to the AG store for a tea party which has sandwiches and sweets, lots of sweets. I love reading about everyone's special memories at their grandparents house. Makes me smile. I can only hope my grands will feel this way about DH and I when they are grown. We sure are going to try to make memories!!
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Post by Regina Phalange on Jun 2, 2015 15:45:15 GMT
This is one of my favorite recollections of visiting my grandparents (they've both been gone since 1991)
My Mom wasn't a big sweets/candy buyer. Occasionally she'd by something she liked, like Peanut M&M's, but we didn't regularly have candy and stuff like that in the house. Well, my Gram had what I like to refer to as an "unregulated" candy dish at her house...lol. By unregulated I mean we didn't have to ask to have any. This was like NIRVANA for us...lol. The catch here, is that it was mostly filled with "old people candy" (lol) which means those pink round candies that tasted like Pepto Bismol and spiced gumdrops or jelly beans (my Gram loved the spiced candies). They weren't even all that great, but because it was unregulated, we ate it! LOL
My other favorite was our trip to Deemer's, the local general store, to buy penny candy. Gram would give us a coupla bucks to spend and we'd fill a bag with candy!
Man I miss them!
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Post by cyndijane on Jun 2, 2015 15:50:25 GMT
I don't have any memories of this wen I was young. My experience with this as an adult is that when I used to (notice the past tense) send my kids to my parents, my parents would feed them so much junk food and sugar (which they weren't used to) that my kids came home throwing up every single time they went to visit. For this and other reasons I no longer trust my parents' judgment and they no longer see the kids unsupervised. I think there's a fine line between normal grandparent spoiling and completely disrespecting parenting choices. Don't cross the line. Agreed. My youngest isn't allergic to dairy/gluten, but he doesn't process it well. It's been a LONG road for just to get him to the point where he's "healthy". We still have family members (MIL mostly) who think we're just being particular. There's no way I could send him unsupervised to her house because she doesn't pay attention to ingredients. We get that's it's a huge pain to have GF/DF items in your home that a 5yr old would eat. So, while we send food whenever he goes anywhere, we still have to trust the adult in charge not to feed him things that aren't healthy **for him**. Now, she lives 1200 miles from us- so it's not like they get to visit that set of grandparents often. But she often laments to us how very much she wants us to put the boys on a plane for a visit- if we don't do it when they're young, they won't want to do it when they're older, etc. But any time she's visited us, and we've left her alone with them they get sick (foods they can't eat, severe diaper rash when they were little, etc). She has proven to us with the little things that she can't handle them. Unfortunately, food is an issue we have to agree on if my kids are coming to visit you. My parents live close enough to us that they've witnessed first-hand our struggle to figure out what DS2 can eat. I still send them with food when they go to my parents- but my parents wouldn't knowingly give my boys something they shouldn't eat. But, no, I'm not going to get upset if they have more sugary foods while they're at Gma's. I do understand that grandparent rules-and relationships- are different than parent rules/relationships. I think showing your kids respect for how they choose to raise their own children is critical to a healthy child-parent-grandparent relationship.
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