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Post by angel97701 on Jul 13, 2014 5:40:29 GMT
Our dear niece graduated this spring. We sent her a nice card and a sizable gift card. She lives several states away (about a 3 day drive) so we don't see her often. This is her thank you: "Our last name, thank you guys for the gift card! hopefully I'll see you guys soon! I miss and love you all! Love H" (Lower case in my typing was intentional, it is how she wrote the card.) Our DSD also graduated as did her BFF. BFF has been in our home frequently for about 5-6 years. She and DSD had very different interests in HS, she was FFA and ag stuff, DSD did sports and all the hard sciences along with an Honors diploma. But they have always been there for each other. We gave her a smaller gift card. I made cards in each girls school colors to celebrate their graduations. BFF's thank you: "N, G, J, P and G (all our first names), Thank you for your continued support and hospitality throughout all these years. I truly appreciate all that you have done and sacrificed. Thank you for the beautiful card and financial assistance . . . it means a lot! Sincerely ST" I think it is interesting to read the thank you notes sent. One year we got a thank you note that wasn't even signed! but I knew who it was from because of the postmark. No return address. I wonder what DSD wrote in her thank yous? I do know that she had them out in within 2 weeks of graduation. I checked in with her, but I'm sure DGrandma did as well! Share your thank you note stories . . . you know you have some good ones!
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 13, 2014 5:43:30 GMT
Well, I gave three graduation gifts this year and I haven't gotten a single thank you note.
I'm not sure how the niece could have personalized it as she doesn't really know you (I assume this because you 3 day drive).
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Post by wiipii2 on Jul 13, 2014 5:45:42 GMT
Well my DD didn't have to send any notes out because no one acknowledged that she graduated. Not a single card or gift from anyone other then me. I'm a bit heartbroken for her.
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 13, 2014 5:48:37 GMT
Well my DD didn't have to send any notes out because no one acknowledged that she graduated. Not a single card or gift from anyone other then me. I'm a bit heartbroken for her. That is horrible. Did nobody come to her graduation party? Do you live far away?
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Post by wiipii2 on Jul 13, 2014 5:59:06 GMT
We don't have graduation parties where I live (I'm in Canada) but I've never heard of family and close family friends not recognizing it with a card or something. She worked her butt off to graduate with a 97% average and her grandparents couldn't even mail her a card or even phone her.
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Post by gale w on Jul 13, 2014 6:51:41 GMT
My dd's thank yous were very simple. Thank you for the graduation gift (with an added 'can't wait to see you next month' to my family members who we will see on vacation). I guess I should be happy she got them done at all.
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Post by gale w on Jul 13, 2014 6:52:15 GMT
Well my DD didn't have to send any notes out because no one acknowledged that she graduated. Not a single card or gift from anyone other then me. I'm a bit heartbroken for her. I'm heartbroken for her too.
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Post by cycworker on Jul 13, 2014 9:07:55 GMT
We don't have graduation parties where I live (I'm in Canada) but I've never heard of family and close family friends not recognizing it with a card or something. She worked her butt off to graduate with a 97% average and her grandparents couldn't even mail her a card or even phone her. That's awful. Part of me would be seething and part of me would just be heartbroken. I did have a graduation party. I sent thank yous, but that's because I didn't open the gifts/cards in front of anyone... saved it to after the party. Around here, thank you notes aren't required if you thank the person face to face at the time of gift opening. So no thank you notes for birthdays, for example.
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Post by wandawoman on Jul 13, 2014 11:31:52 GMT
This year I only gave one graduation gift and got no response. Last year I gave four. Got one verbal thank you, 2 notes (1 written by the grandmother!), and no response from the other. My complaint recently has been brides. I'm almost ready to stop giving them gifts. If they can plan big expensive weddings, you'd think they would be able to plan time for a simple thank you card, but that hasn't happened.
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Post by airforcemomof1 on Jul 13, 2014 12:12:54 GMT
Well my DD didn't have to send any notes out because no one acknowledged that she graduated. Not a single card or gift from anyone other then me. I'm a bit heartbroken for her. That is unbelievable and unacceptable! Please send me her name and address. I will be glad to send her something to acknowledge her hard work and accomplishment.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Jul 13, 2014 12:13:26 GMT
I am amazed at the lack of thank you's !
My niece from London stayed with us for 6 weeks. During that time we entertained her, including a couple of weekends away. She did not have to pay for anything except her own personal shopping. She thanked me when she left in person, but that was 6 weeks ago and I have not heard a peep from her since.
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Post by atomicdog on Jul 13, 2014 12:28:44 GMT
We gave several cards w/nice enclosures last year - no thank you cards at all. This year I had a niece that I haven't seen in YEARS that graduated and I sent the card/cash to her and got a lovely note! As far as the others go - they're old enough to at least text a note, if nothing else. My kids - they send their notes of thanks within 2 weeks. I think I'm done with the others.
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Post by DinCA on Jul 13, 2014 12:39:06 GMT
I got one from Tiny Prints that was unsigned. There was a return address so I knew who it was from. It was very impersonal. If it had been signed at least, it probably wouldn't bug me so much.
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Post by worrywart on Jul 13, 2014 12:46:15 GMT
My ds is still in the middle of thank yous. Yes, he is behind and it is so annoying but he has a few mailed and will do some more today! They are somewhat personal though...that is, not just generic thank you.
Wiipii, did you send out announcements? That would be upsetting.
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Post by Scrapbrat on Jul 13, 2014 12:48:24 GMT
Well my DD didn't have to send any notes out because no one acknowledged that she graduated. Not a single card or gift from anyone other then me. I'm a bit heartbroken for her. Wow I'm so sorry for your DD! That is awful!! I have gotten thank yous lately from all the grads we've given gifts to. But here is a favorite. A few years ago, my neighbor's son wrote a nice card like the BFF one, except that he thanked us for the "donation". I tell that story all the time. Does he really not understand the meaning of a donation as opposed to a gift?
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Post by TankTop on Jul 13, 2014 12:49:58 GMT
Well my DD didn't have to send any notes out because no one acknowledged that she graduated. Not a single card or gift from anyone other then me. I'm a bit heartbroken for her. That is unbelievable and unacceptable! Please send me her name and address. I will be glad to send her something to acknowledge her hard work and accomplishment. Add me to the list! I was thinking of a gift card to get some college supplies. Can you tell me what type of Walmart/Target store in near you? I feel for your dd. I was that kid in high school and I know how it hurts.
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Post by charliesangel on Jul 13, 2014 13:06:39 GMT
My husband's niece graduated college this year, we don't see her much because his sister is NUTS and has this weird relationship with her where she never lets her out of her sight (except for class and work), never let her get a drivers license, she has no friends, etc. Anyway, sent a good sized check, received a thank you 2 months later, one of those photo cards (collage with pics of niece with crazy sister - not even one pic of niece alone), and the thank you was written by the sister (who ALWAYS spells my name wrong, which is Sarah, by the way), "Uncle Xxxxx and Shara, Thank you for the $xxx, we will put it to good use." Husband and I have been married for 9 years, by the way, and I still don't count as an aunt.
Same sister who addressed our Christmas card last year as Uncle Xxxxx and family and Sahra
P.S. We do not have children. It's just the two of us!
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Jul 13, 2014 13:49:19 GMT
When I graduated back home in Texas I sent mine out but since moving to Pa a few yrs ago my DH have been to at least a grad party once a year and have yet to get a thank you note for our card/money gift. Maybe it's a regional thing? Idk.
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Post by FLA SummerBaby on Jul 13, 2014 14:51:23 GMT
My DD just graduated last month and has finished all her thank yous. I am grateful that she was happy to do them and communicate with people who took time to acknowledge her. I admit I was surprised at the folks who were sent invitation/announcement and did not send a card (like families she regularly babysits/nannys for.) When I graduated and did lots of babysitting, all my families remembered me with at least a note. I also gave many of her friends grad gifts and only received 1 thank you note at all (from her BFF).
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Post by melanell on Jul 13, 2014 14:53:24 GMT
I only sent one gift this year, but it was only 2 weeks ago, and the recipient has been away, so i wouldn't expect a Thank You to necessarily have been sent yet.
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Post by mikklynn on Jul 13, 2014 14:58:22 GMT
We sent a very generous check to my niece for her college graduation. We saw her several times and received no acknowledgement of the card and check. No thank you note, either. I was really disgusted.
Shara...oops Sarah! That is AWFUL. It has to be intentional. Her poor daughter.
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Post by finaledition on Jul 13, 2014 15:12:24 GMT
We gave cards/money to 8 graduates this year (my son graduated so there were many friends we have been close to). I have received nice thank you notes from all. But I'd say all have moms who probably nagged them :-) just like I nagged my own son.
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Post by GiantsFan on Jul 13, 2014 15:14:26 GMT
DH had two nephews graduate this year. One from law school and one from a highly respected private high school. We had vacation already planned, so we were unable to attend, but sent sizable monetary gifts to each. This was on May 24th. Have not heard from either, nor has their mom mentioned it to me (DH's SIL works at my same employer and we see each other almost daily.) Whatever! At least my family sends a thank you text. I'll take that over nothing.
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Post by charliesangel on Jul 13, 2014 15:24:16 GMT
We sent a very generous check to my niece for her college graduation. We saw her several times and received no acknowledgement of the card and check. No thank you note, either. I was really disgusted. Shara...oops Sarah! That is AWFUL. It has to be intentional. Her poor daughter. It is, she doesn't like me.
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Post by whipea on Jul 13, 2014 15:42:04 GMT
My SO's brother's wife, who I affectionately refer to as the "psycho in law" had her 17 year old niece move in with them. My SO paid for half a laptop for her this Christmas, not a peep. Then he sent her a generous check for graduation - nothing. You know, considering he does not even know this girl just a little acknowledgement would be nice. His brother and psycho are as much to blame as the girl.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jul 13, 2014 15:50:40 GMT
My dd has been dragging her feet on her thank yous and finally got them done last wk and sent out. She tried to make ea one personal. Granted she did over 100. We ordered nice cards that had a picture of her in her grad gown and cap on the front. They were nice. We went to ALOT of grad parties, and have gotten thank yous from about 1/2 so far. All of them have been very nice and personal.
I too was surprised at the people we did and didn't get cards from!! Didn't hear from most of my dh's family, but got a nice card from her dentist! Also we timed it/arranged it so we made it to most of the grad parties of her friends. Either I or my dh and dd went to them. Alot of the other families didn't do the same thing. Which I thought stunk! I mean, yea, they have family there, or their party was the next day! But WE were able to do it?! That was my biggest vent of the wkend.
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Post by angel97701 on Jul 13, 2014 17:01:45 GMT
A tactic for those of you that haven't received a thank you especially for monetary gifts (which is common for graduates I believe) is a phone, email, or text "Just checking to make sure you received our gift". It serves as a gentle reminder that the gift has not been acknowledged.
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Post by Sam on Jul 13, 2014 17:08:58 GMT
I am amazed at the lack of thank you's ! My niece from London stayed with us for 6 weeks. During that time we entertained her, including a couple of weekends away. She did not have to pay for anything except her own personal shopping. She thanked me when she left in person, but that was 6 weeks ago and I have not heard a peep from her since. Maybe she's too 'posh' to continue to communicate with an American? Or maybe it just shows that people from all areas seem to be lacking in fairly basic manners at times!
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Post by Really Red on Jul 13, 2014 17:20:23 GMT
I sent out only two this year and had VERY prompt responses. They were kind and thoughtful. Short and sweet, but that is fine. When I give something in person, I tell them no thank you is necessary. I'm also fine with email thank yous.
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Post by gale w on Jul 13, 2014 17:42:33 GMT
I only sent out one grad card/gift and got a prompt and very personal thank you for it (from my sweet nephew who is always good about this kind of thing). I sent my other nephew (different sister) a grad card/gift a couple of years ago and he called to thank me which was nice. But I sent his brother a wedding gift a few months ago and haven't received a thank-you yet. He has the attitude that the world owes him so maybe I was just paying my dues.
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