styxgirl
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Post by styxgirl on Jul 13, 2014 17:46:56 GMT
Well my DD didn't have to send any notes out because no one acknowledged that she graduated. Not a single card or gift from anyone other then me. I'm a bit heartbroken for her. That stinks! Tell her The Peas are proud of her!
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Post by hennybutton on Jul 13, 2014 18:32:25 GMT
I made my son write his right away. Before his party, I did lay down the law that he needed to write thank you notes. I made it easy for him by printing out the envelopes on the computer. He's got really crappy handwriting and cannot/will not address an envelope properly. I figured it was better to print the envelopes than have the notes get waylaid. It wasn't a huge deal because I had everyone's names and addresses in Excel anyway and used mail merge in Word. I'm pretty sure my son's notes simply said, "Thank you for the gift. I was glad to see you at my party/I was sorry you couldn't make it to my party." I don't care what he wrote; I was just happy he did them in a timely manner.
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Post by sues on Jul 13, 2014 18:51:26 GMT
We don't have graduation parties where I live (I'm in Canada) but I've never heard of family and close family friends not recognizing it with a card or something.
We don't have parties anymore because we don't have a lot of family left- and those that are around make it clear they no longer want to come out for holidays or parties. (Sigh.) I don't have much contact with my brothers anymore- but we certainly have continued to send cards and gifts for the kids' accomplishments. In the past few years there have been showers and weddings, graduations and the usual holidays and birthdays. I sent cards and gifts for everything. I have received one thank you note for a wedding gift (just a picture of the couple with a photo shopped 'Thank you!' message on the bottom. It wasn't even signed.) and one for a shower gift- where, weirdly, only part of the gift was acknowledged. The rest- not a verbal thank you, an email, a FB message or- God forbid, a mailed note. I always had my kids sit down within the following week to write a thank you note if we haven't seen the gift giver to thank them in person. Especially if someone mailed the gift - jeez- let them know the gift arrived! My dd is the youngest. Now that everyone else's kids have done everything- DD is starting to get ignored. One brother completely ignored her graduation this spring. Not a FB comment, a card, nothing. DD was at his house last weekend hanging out with my niece- and when niece mentioned DD's graduation- she got the stink eye from her mother. The subject was changed and that was the end of that. My husband's sister has apparently decided if there's no party- there's no gift. (WTH?) She stopped sending cards and gifts to DD this year.
I feel bad for DD. We do other things in place of a party. She understands we don't have much family left. But how do you explain aunts and uncles completely ignoring her birthday and graduation?
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Post by turangaleela on Jul 13, 2014 19:01:52 GMT
I only sent out one grad card/gift and got a prompt and very personal thank you for it (from my sweet nephew who is always good about this kind of thing). I sent my other nephew (different sister) a grad card/gift a couple of years ago and he called to thank me which was nice. But I sent his brother a wedding gift a few months ago and haven't received a thank-you yet. He has the attitude that the world owes him so maybe I was just paying my dues. The part that is bolded and purple cracked me up!!
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bandjmom
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Post by bandjmom on Jul 13, 2014 19:15:28 GMT
We've attend six graduation open houses so far this season (ds is going to a seventh this afternoon) and received three thank-you notes. I had to stop and think/count. I appreciate the thank-you notes and over the years have received some really delightful, personal notes, but I don't "keep score" of who did and did not send an acknowledgement.
Oldest ds graduated last year and did send personal thank-you notes to everyone within a few weeks of the event. I viewed this as payoff of years of ingraining the habit. Once they finally were comfortable crafting a short but meaningful message they did not mind writing the notes. LOL at the pp being thanked for the "donation." That is the kind of conversation we had a number of years ago -- how do you thank someone for a monetary gift without being tacky.
I do make sure supplies are available and if it is a long list, like for graduation, I print address labels since the information is all on my computer.
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Post by wannapea on Jul 13, 2014 19:20:33 GMT
My son sent personalized thank you notes to each and every one who acknowledged his graduation. We gave nice cash gifts to two other seniors (one neighbor and one family) and never received a thing. I'm a bit disappointed not to have my gifts acknowledged by the kids or the parents, but it seems that's how it goes sometimes!
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Post by gale w on Jul 13, 2014 19:33:36 GMT
I made my son write his right away. Before his party, I did lay down the law that he needed to write thank you notes. I made it easy for him by printing out the envelopes on the computer. He's got really crappy handwriting and cannot/will not address an envelope properly. I figured it was better to print the envelopes than have the notes get waylaid. It wasn't a huge deal because I had everyone's names and addresses in Excel anyway and used mail merge in Word. I'm pretty sure my son's notes simply said, "Thank you for the gift. I was glad to see you at my party/I was sorry you couldn't make it to my party." I don't care what he wrote; I was just happy he did them in a timely manner. When I printed out labels for the announcements, I printed doubles since I was pretty sure everyone would send a gift (and if anyone didn't I was only out a label). So when it was time to send them the labels were all ready.
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Post by lucyg on Jul 13, 2014 20:10:50 GMT
My DD graduated from college in May, rec'd a few gifts at the time, then promptly went out of state for a month to work as a roadie. She came back in late June, we had a party, and she rec'd more gifts. Now she's back at her own home up north and I guess I'd better start nagging her. She writes long, beautiful thank you notes, practically a novel, but the downside is it takes forever. I also had one nephew graduate from college and I haven't heard from him yet, but it's only been a couple of weeks since his party, too. I'm sure I'll get a note from him eventually.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Jul 13, 2014 20:15:09 GMT
I am amazed at the lack of thank you's ! My niece from London stayed with us for 6 weeks. During that time we entertained her, including a couple of weekends away. She did not have to pay for anything except her own personal shopping. She thanked me when she left in person, but that was 6 weeks ago and I have not heard a peep from her since. Maybe she's too 'posh' to continue to communicate with an American? Or maybe it just shows that people from all areas seem to be lacking in fairly basic manners at times! I blame her Mother! I would make sure my child.. she's 18 so yes an adult but not a fully grown one. Her mother, my former Sister in Law came and stayed the last week as well. She did at least send an email upon return thanking me.
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Jul 14, 2014 6:45:07 GMT
I'm a big believer in hand writing your own notes and not using pre-printed cards, but last year my neighbor sent us a very personal typed note, which he signed. He then added this PS: 'This note is typed by me with nice font; so just pretend that I can really write this neatly.' It was cute.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 14, 2014 11:00:51 GMT
I sent cards with some cash to my ex's nieces. He later told me thank you from the girls. A month later, I got a thank you note from one. She spelled my new last name wrong. Considering I don't see them, I'm not bothered. In two years, when ex's nephew graduates, I'll send a card with some cash.
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Post by worrywart on Jul 14, 2014 12:46:30 GMT
I am so annoyed with ds. I blame myself for not pushing him more to get these darn things done. Seriously, last night he sat and spent 2 hours on a DRAFT of one note! I mean I want it to be personal but you are not writing a prize winning novel! He is 18 and I am ticked that I even have to mention it let alone nag him.
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Post by bugsy on Jul 14, 2014 13:25:53 GMT
I gave two graduation gifts this year. I've received one thank you note and it was written by the graduate's mother!! I won't lie...that irritates me. More at the mother than the graduate because she's being such an enabler, IMO.
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