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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Jun 5, 2015 11:26:18 GMT
It really is awful. I have known her for 12 years, and this just started happening the last couple months. You know I always say don't judge because you don't know what could happen to you. She has three boys, and she is worse than a helicopter mom! What bizarre behavior. I would choose not to be around her. |
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Post by oldcrow on Jun 5, 2015 12:25:36 GMT
What a cow!! She is NOT someone who I would consider to be a friend. I wonder what she'd say about me if she were MY friend: 2 children 7 years apart to 2 different men, didn't marry either of them! (I will point out that both my precious children were planned.) My parents were married Sept 3/49 I was born June 3/50. My parents were married April '67 and I was born 4 months early  weighing a healthy 8lb 4oz  in September '67 !!!  Wow, good thing she didn't go full term, it would have been hell getting you out. |
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Post by craftsbycarolyn on Jun 5, 2015 17:10:04 GMT
Got married in April 76, had our daughter Sept 76...
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jun 5, 2015 17:21:09 GMT
Most of the time I refuse to get judgy over things like this, but I have one niece that I do silently judge a tiny bit. Why? Because my sister always made such a HUGE deal about the sacrifice they made to send their kids to Catholic school so they would get an extra dose of morality and be schooled in a supposedly more wholesome environment (yeah, right) than the public schools all their other cousins went to.
This particular kid (the oldest) went all the way through private grade school and an elite Catholic HS at a cost of about $8K per year AND they hit my mom up for a good chunk of that money for her to do so. She then went on to get pregnant not once but twice (same guy) with someone who is 12 years older than she is, and they have no plans whatsoever to get married. Yup, best money my sister (and my mom) ever spent.
ETA: I think I judge my sister more than my niece, actually.
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 5, 2015 18:09:50 GMT
I choose not to associate with anyone who makes rude comments about my family choices. Your friend isn't really a friend, and she's also incredibly rude and thoughtless. Exactly! I would not have her in my life, as you have talked to her about it and she continues. |
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Post by papersilly on Jun 5, 2015 18:10:10 GMT
I have a judgy friend like that. she saved her virginity for marriage. she had kids after marriage. anyone who does otherwise is immoral and wrong in her eyes. you can't convince her otherwise. she's an otherwise great person but she has super old fashion values like that. thinks her BIL is living in sin even though he has been with his girlfriend for 25 years. she believes her sister should have stayed in the bad marriage because he made a lot of money and could provide her with security. she thinks her older sister should have gotten married to someone, anyone, rather than be single at 50. she thinks she and her DH are the perfect children for having followed the "traditional" route (even though he wasn't a virgin when they married). we've had tons of conversations about it and she won't change her mind on any of it.
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Post by trainscrapper on Jun 6, 2015 1:59:09 GMT
I have yet to see a copy of where this "specific order" is written. My sister got married before I did and she is 3 years younger. I had no problem with that she met a great guy. But every time I turned around I was asked the same thing, "Why aren't you married? I can't believe you are letting B get married first?" So I got so fed up and I just started asking them point blank "Why does this bother you so much?". Never got a straight answer, just a bunch of hem haw, but they never asked again. Sounds like she isn't much of a friend and more jealous that anything.
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Post by pierkiss on Jun 6, 2015 2:28:35 GMT
Your friend is not a friend. Cut her loose and don't look back.
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Post by librarylady on Jun 6, 2015 2:46:04 GMT
If you continue to be in her circle of friends, then the next time she was a B----, I'd embarrass her in front of everyone.
"I have noticed you want to discuss my wedding and my 20 year old child. Why?"
You have not attacked her, just "called her hand" on the social situation. Repeat that phrase as often as necessary.
Sit back and watch her mumble and stumble reasons.....
Frankly, I'd do my best to never be in her presence again.
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weighing a healthy 8lb 4oz 
in September '67 !!! 
