scrapaddie
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Post by scrapaddie on Jun 6, 2015 20:07:52 GMT
Some people are easier than others... But I am usually glad to have my space back
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caro
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Post by caro on Jun 6, 2015 20:40:52 GMT
Nah, I think we're the exception Kathy. Well I do have to say that I do a lot of the cooking and grocery shopping when I visit my DD and I always offer to keep the boys for the weekend so she and her DH can go out. I'm not messy nor do I need to be entertained. Once when I was visiting my SIL didn't think I was staying long enough so he paid to have my ticket changed And we don't smell.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 6, 2015 22:46:28 GMT
Just returned home after 2 nights spent with dd. Sounds like I left just in time.
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Post by gramasue on Jun 6, 2015 23:42:00 GMT
Some people are easier than others... But I am usually glad to have my space back I agree with this. I am much easier going with some people than others. But, yeah, 2 or 3 days is plenty. I love to see them, but I love to see them go home, too! lol
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breetheflea
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Post by breetheflea on Jun 6, 2015 23:55:55 GMT
My sister and her 2 year old were here for 8 days once. It was a looooooong 8 days. She doesn't drive... I'd try to sneak off to Target to get some quiet time and she'd want to come along... I'd go upstairs and lock myself in my room and my sister, her son, and my 3 kids would find me... I was very happy to drive her to the airport when it was time to leave!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 7, 2015 0:01:37 GMT
I'm just curious do any of you plan on visiting your children if they were to move away?
My dd lives in San Diego, she's always asking us to come down and visit. I hope she wouldn't feel this way about me after a few days.
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Post by maryland on Jun 7, 2015 1:26:42 GMT
I get so bored when we go to other people's homes. At home, I am always doing something or cleaning. And when I am out of town, I think of all the things I need to get done at home. I think it's what the kids have done to me! Before we had kids, I loved going out of town to visit relatives.
It's so hard for me to just sit around all day. I like to get out and do things when we go out of town. Now when we go to a condo at the beach for a month, and it's just us, it's wonderful! It's like home to us, and we are never bored.
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Post by epeanymous on Jun 7, 2015 1:33:43 GMT
I don't do houseguests. I think my years in NYC, when everyone seemed to assume I was operating a B&B out of my tiny apartment, killed all of my hosting desire. I love having visitors. I love having them over. I love having a relaxed evening with them. And then I like them to go back to their hotel.
I don't stay with people when I travel, either, so that door swings (or slams) both ways. I keep hours that aren't that freaky but also aren't that standard (I'm up at 5:00 and in bed by 9:30, generally), and it is hard both to have and be a guest when so many other people are happily sleeping at 9AM on a weekend and may stay up making noise until 1AM.
I realize this makes me out of step with a lot of people, and I am sure there are people I insult with both not hosting and not staying, but I'd rather enjoy our visit together.
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 7, 2015 2:32:41 GMT
I will dissent. I don't consider immediate family (parents, children or siblings) as guests. I have to travel 2000 miles to visit and if the kids and I invest all that time and money to visit you every 2nd year you got me for 2 weeks like it or not lol. Most beg us to stay longer. My dad wants us for the full summer but I can't do that. When I take my family in it's also for a minimum visit of 2 weeks. We can't really afford hotels for that length of time. I think that anyone who doesn't live in your house throughout the year is a guest. Your routine generally changes. That being said, I think it is awesome that you have somewhere to go for that long and both parties enjoy it. It is expensive. I know I loved it when my parents came for a visit. But they also took us out to eat, brought us Nebraska Steaks, and entertained each other too. It is just very different with my in-laws. They exhaust me to no end.
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 7, 2015 2:36:16 GMT
I don't do houseguests. I think my years in NYC, when everyone seemed to assume I was operating a B&B out of my tiny apartment, killed all of my hosting desire. I love having visitors. I love having them over. I love having a relaxed evening with them. And then I like them to go back to their hotel. I don't stay with people when I travel, either, so that door swings (or slams) both ways. I keep hours that aren't that freaky but also aren't that standard (I'm up at 5:00 and in bed by 9:30, generally), and it is hard both to have and be a guest when so many other people are happily sleeping at 9AM on a weekend and may stay up making noise until 1AM. I realize this makes me out of step with a lot of people, and I am sure there are people I insult with both not hosting and not staying, but I'd rather enjoy our visit together. My MIL is always up by five and then complaining that we waste the day away if we sleep past that. Told hubby that I wasn't going to get up until eight when she visited unless we had to be somewhere. It was kind of funny because she falls asleep about five times a day and insists that she never naps . You generally don't snore when you are awake.
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luvnlifelady
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Post by luvnlifelady on Jun 7, 2015 2:57:38 GMT
I've had overnight guests but it's extremely rare. The only ones we have had in recent years are the kids' friends for sleepovers.
For DD's high school graduation this week, she wanted 3 cousins to spend the night. It would've cost me far more to get the carpets cleaned and more stress to get the house ready than just getting them a motel room, so I got them a room nearby. They were able to have fun without pesky brother bothering them and it saved me a lot of stress...win, win. One girl even thanked me for getting the place for them. (all the kids were over 18)
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tincin
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Post by tincin on Jun 7, 2015 6:05:13 GMT
I think it depends on the people involved. I don't have house guests currently but my DS and DIL moved in almost 3 months ago so they could save more money to buy a house. My primary concern was the disruption of my normal every day life. The way we have dealt with it is to be very upfront and straight forward about things getting on our nerves. Every couple of weeks we sit and chat about any issues that might have come up and so far it has all been good. It does help that they have their own bedroom and living room area in the basement that is closed off from the rest of the house but I do think the direct open communication has been a huge part of it going so well.
By the way, you may need to remind me of this post in the future if things change so whomever is keeping the spreadsheet best take note!
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Post by polz on Jun 7, 2015 8:04:08 GMT
I love my Mum but when she comes, she does not adjust to my schedule. DH goes to bed at 8.30pm. He gets up for work at 3am. I've told my Mum so many times that my house is quiet from 8.30pm. Why she wants to have people over after that is beyond me. Or she wants to talk loud on the phone or watch tv loud. I don't care if she wants to get up at 3am and throw a party, but DH earns most of the money for my household, so she needs to shoosh between 8.30pm and 3am. It's very simple to me.
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Post by mom on Jun 7, 2015 12:35:17 GMT
We try to avoid having people stay with us at all costs! LOL We will put them up at a nearby hotel. Everyone needs their own space and not having people sleep at our house is the way we achieve that!
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grinningcat
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Post by grinningcat on Jun 7, 2015 12:45:28 GMT
I don't really understand the almost hatred of having people over and entertaining. But different stroke and all that jazz. When my mom comes to visit, she's not a guest... she's family. She doesn't disrupt the household routine, she just becomes part of it. She has her space, we have ours. I guess having space for everyone is key. Even when my friends come to visit it's the same thing. Maybe we're hosting wrong, but it never seems like guests become like fish after a few days. When I go somewhere as a guest, I don't expect to be entertained every minute, I'm fully capable of doing my own thing. I honestly don't like it when hosts hover over me every second of the day, it's like they don't trust us or something. At least, that's what it feels like.
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