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Post by librarylady on Jul 1, 2015 14:22:33 GMT
This is an extended branch of the family. Family who live near them tell me the marriage is on rocky ground. Some think the father is preparing to leave his wife and take the daughter to live with him. Family dynamics: Father is a bit strange, very socially immature. What gives me pause--this man (early 40s) never interacts with adults at family gatherings, but only with the children. His daughter is now age 12. --The FB postings sound creepy to me, but I have never had daughters. Is this the way girls/fathers talk to one another? ======================================= Daughter posting to Father Daddy Ilysm I don't ever wanna loose u as my father I'm glad 2 call u my dad I can't go a day w/ out thinking how much Ive grown & how long I've watched me change into the young lady I am 2 this day! I'm always proud of u in no matter what u do I can't ever stop being proud of u.....u do t have 2 do big things 2 make me proud it takes the little things 2 make me proud & I'll never stop being proud........I can't explain the love I ha e 4 u but its stein & Ik u love me & I'll ...never 4get it but daddy I need u 2 keep ur head up 4 me cause I hate 2 see u so sad & angry & I defiantly hate it 2 see u cry cause then I cry but no matter what I want u 2 promise me that u will never 4get how proud I am of u & how much ily cause I can't say it enough.......Ik we have had our ups & downs but Idc as long as ur in my life I'll always be happy........but God bless & (photo here about love forever and being together forever) Father posting to Daughter woke up this morning in a great mood. I had a long talk with my daughter last night and I wanted to post a big thanks to her. She answered everything I threw @ her and she made me proud to be her daddy. She is my beautiful princess and I'm very proud of her. Love u princess!!!! Daughter to Father Daddy ilysm ok ur not a disappointment 2 me ur an improvement 2 me! I'll always love u & be ur little girl until God tells me 2 take my last breathe! I do t ever wanna loose u but 1 day u will but I'm gonna cherish every moment that I have w/ u while ur still here in this earth! If u keep ur head up & not follow in my footsteps then u wouldn't run into walls but u know what we're family & ily?  ? I'll never 4get the good times & 4get the bad times the past is the past were in the present on out way 2 the future so don't give up now ok! Like I said earlier ur never a disappointment 2 me I'm always proud of everything u do 4 this family I may be the only 1 that shows it but we do appreciate u & never stop & we will always will ?? so keep ur head held high & don't put ur self down |
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Post by gsquaredmom on Jul 1, 2015 14:27:25 GMT
i think he relies too much on her for emotional support and validation.
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Post by valleyview on Jul 1, 2015 14:29:54 GMT
This is creepy. He could be relying on her to keep him out of depression. This child needs some responsible adults in her life.
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Post by GiantsFan on Jul 1, 2015 14:31:04 GMT
I'm very close to dad and would never say stuff like that. I think it's creepy and suspicious.
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Post by BarbaraUK on Jul 1, 2015 14:35:17 GMT
Can't say I've ever heard a 12 year old girl talk quite like that to her Father. Sounds as though, at the least, he's brought her up to polish his ego - and gets mad at her if she doesn't......and it does sound creepy and odd to me that's for sure!
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Post by tinydogmafia on Jul 1, 2015 14:36:06 GMT
Yes, odd and slightly creepy.
And I guess I'm old, but that was like reading another language that the 12 year old writes in.
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Post by kimpossible on Jul 1, 2015 14:37:11 GMT
We have a very extended family member who has a daughter that talks like this about her Dad. It's creepy, inappropriate and gives everyone the "heebie/jeebies" when reading posts.
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Post by BoilerUp! on Jul 1, 2015 14:40:45 GMT
 uuummmm creepy! Yeah, definitely creepy!
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Post by anxiousmom on Jul 1, 2015 14:41:17 GMT
Yes, odd and slightly creepy. And I guess I'm old, but that was like reading another language that the 12 year old writes in. I live with teenagers. Well, only one now, but there was another around up until recently. Even they don't write like that. The older boy, aka boot camp boy, has been forced to write real letters (oh, the horror) and they are sloppy, slightly disheveled and beat up looking and more misspellings than should be allowed, but there in none of that illegible text speak. Thank goodness.  |
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Post by J u l e e on Jul 1, 2015 14:43:46 GMT
My 13 year old daughter would never write anything remotely close to that - to anyone. It seems almost desperate.
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Post by katybee on Jul 1, 2015 14:46:15 GMT
It sounds to me as if the daughter is worried the father might do something to hurt himself… Very sad. Why would a dad put that kind of emotional burden on his 12-year-old daughter?
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Post by marimoose on Jul 1, 2015 14:54:54 GMT
What I find creepier than what they wrote is that they wrote it on a public forum where others can read it. The daughter may not know any better but the adults in her life should advise her as to what are not things we need to share with the world. I do believe that some families whether it be mother/child, father/child have this kind of relationship. What may not seem normal to all, may be perfectly normal to others. I grew up in a family that never touched, never hugged and found it very discomforting to have others hug me. On a side note, I have raised a family of huggers  . Normal varies widely. As for the father only taking to children t family get togethers, maybe he really doesn't care for the adults and is there pout of obligation so chooses to talk to the kids. I know I would rather play with the nieces and nephews than most adults at my husband's family gatherings in years past. |
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Post by disneypal on Jul 1, 2015 14:55:14 GMT
I do not find it creepy but it feels more like she is taking care of him (emotionally) more than he is of her. Sounds like she is validating/reiterating conversations they have had.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 1, 2015 15:10:38 GMT
Creepy, if for only because of the barely literate text speak and incredibly misplaced sentence structure.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 1, 2015 15:12:51 GMT
Very unusual and slightly worrying.
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Post by buckeyegirl on Jul 1, 2015 15:13:45 GMT
Something is not quite right with this.
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Post by oldcrow on Jul 1, 2015 15:29:20 GMT
I vote for creepy.
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Post by cmpeter on Jul 1, 2015 15:48:10 GMT
I think her posts are strange and overbearing. His seems more normal.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 1, 2015 15:58:31 GMT
I've known some young ladies about that age that just adore their fathers, but this is WAY out of the normal scope of behavior. I would guess something is going on or he has raised her to respond this way. Why oh why is this on FB. Attention seeking much?
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Post by maryland on Jul 1, 2015 16:12:18 GMT
Just to address the hanging with the kids at family gatherings. I know some people who aren't comfortable with their spouse's family, so just hang out with their kids at family gatherings. Or maybe their spouse is busy catching up with family, so the spouse watches the kids to allow the spouse time to spend with family. At my husband's family reunion, I often take my kids and their cousins out to play on the playground while the others talk. I hope they don't think I am odd.
I have three kids, all girls, and neither me/my husband nor the kids sound like that when talking to/texting/etc. each other.
I may have totally missed the point! I am trying to post while cleaning up the house for guests. So I wasn't reading carefully! If I am off base, ignore!!
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Post by peabrain on Jul 1, 2015 16:18:29 GMT
Here's what I get from my 13 year old daughter:
"K"
and I pry for more info and she responds again:
"yeah"
so not really normal in my house, but I guess my house isn't really "normal" either LOL
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Post by originalvanillabean on Jul 1, 2015 16:36:08 GMT
odd. I'm in the creepy camp on this one.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 1, 2015 16:38:17 GMT
Good god that's painful to read and definitely creepy.
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Post by smartypants71 on Jul 1, 2015 16:40:20 GMT
Here's what I get from my 13 year old daughter: "K" and I pry for more info and she responds again: "yeah" so not really normal in my house, but I guess my house isn't really "normal" either LOL My 13yo DS is the same way. |
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Post by peatlejuice on Jul 1, 2015 16:44:55 GMT
Yes, odd and slightly creepy. And I guess I'm old, but that was like reading another language that the 12 year old writes in. This. Creepy and completely confounding to try and interpret her posts. |
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jul 1, 2015 17:00:07 GMT
i think he relies too much on her for emotional support and validation. All of this. And I vote creepy and inappropriate. |
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Post by psiluvu on Jul 1, 2015 17:11:20 GMT
My 15 yr old dd is the biggest daddy's girl ever and would never post like that. I vote CREEPY
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Post by Deleted on Jul 1, 2015 17:18:31 GMT
I'll vote creepy.
But, I'll also vote I don't think the 12 year old wrote the posts she supposedly wrote. It may be her account but I think someone else (dad?) wrote them trying to sound like she did.
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Post by bc2ca on Jul 1, 2015 17:35:05 GMT
Why the fricking frack does a 12 year old have a FB account?!?!! This is a major pet peeve of mine.
I think the kid's post are incoherent but not sure I'd say creepy. DD, who adores her father, would never write anything like this.
The hanging with kids are family gatherings is something my brother and BIL both do because they aren't into adult conversations. Both have done their best to avoid adult responsibilites and the kids never ask about work, etc.
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Post by Zee on Jul 1, 2015 19:39:28 GMT
I don't know whether they have a creepy relationship or not, but it definitely sounds as though the daughter is emotionally overwrought and probably very worried about her dad, and maybe sees herself as his emotional caretaker. I'm sad for her.
I've seen some immature people post very personal things on fb. Someone should shut hers down for a while.
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uuummmm creepy! Yeah, definitely creepy! 
. Normal varies widely.
