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Post by hennybutton on Jul 4, 2015 15:02:45 GMT
I know and understand that young couples don't want or need china, crystal, or silver anymore. I get that.
What I don't get is the registries that have hardly anything on them to choose from or just junky stuff. A young woman I know is getting married this summer. She's registered at Amazon. She recently had her bridal shower and I went on to get her gift. Pretty much all that was left was cabinet organizers and a mattress. Really, cabinet organizers? I looked at the items that had already been purchased and there wasn't anything that gave me a clue as to their tastes. I know that they're adults who have lived on their own for several years (not together) and they probably don't have a lot of "needs", but it would be nice to have a registry that provides some direction as far as their sense of style and what colors they're using in their home.
This isn't the first time I've run into a registry like this. Is anyone else seeing it too?
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Post by valleyview on Jul 4, 2015 15:18:58 GMT
My experience with registries this summer have been wonky, so I'm glad it's not just me left wondering. I went to BBB to choose a gift from a registry. The bride had already had two showers. Nothing from the registry had been taken! I was left wondering what to choose and how to know in the opposite way of OP.
Turns out she had already been gifted 3 of what I bought! Brides having a registry do need to manage it/them a bit.
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Post by hennybutton on Jul 4, 2015 15:23:23 GMT
My experience with registries this summer have been wonky, so I'm glad it's not just me left wondering. I went to BBB to choose a gift from a registry. The bride had already had two showers. Nothing from the registry had been taken! I was left wondering what to choose and how to know in the opposite way of OP. Turns out she had already been gifted 3 of what I bought! Brides having a registry do need to manage it/them a bit. Yes, they do need to manage them to avoid duplicates. Guests also need to make sure that when they buy something from a registry that they indicate that it's from the registry. |
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Post by melanell on Jul 4, 2015 15:29:57 GMT
In my experience, that happens when the couple really doesn't feel that they need much, but someone in the family or wedding party is really pushing them to have a registry. I attended a wedding once where the couple chose to register for all home improvement items, because they were in the process of moving from a rental to their first owned home around the same time as the wedding. The gifts were unconventional, but they were what they needed.  |
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Post by moodyblue on Jul 4, 2015 15:35:06 GMT
I hate when I wait until close to the shower to purchase from the registry and then find that most of the items are not available in the store, only online. Yeah, it's my fault for not shopping weeks ahead, but sometimes life is busy and it gets put off because it's not the highest priority, but when I do go to the store to get the gift I like to be able to purchase and have it right then.
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Post by melanell on Jul 4, 2015 15:36:41 GMT
My experience with registries this summer have been wonky, so I'm glad it's not just me left wondering. I went to BBB to choose a gift from a registry. The bride had already had two showers. Nothing from the registry had been taken! I was left wondering what to choose and how to know in the opposite way of OP. Turns out she had already been gifted 3 of what I bought! Brides having a registry do need to manage it/them a bit. Yes, they do need to manage them to avoid duplicates. Guests also need to make sure that when they buy something from a registry that they indicate that it's from the registry. Having worked with brides & registries in the past, I'll tell you what happens the most. A.) People wait until the last minute to shop for the event. So if the shower is Sunday, there will be a ton of people printing & shopping for the registry either the weekend before or the day before. And at that point, you can have people buying the same items at basically the same time and not even realize it. I once had 2 ladies come to me to check out the same towels. The first one handed me the registry and the lady behind her asked her who she was buying for. Sure enough, they were shopping for the same couple. So they just barely avoided a duplicate gift. B.) People just don't tell the clerks that they are shopping for a registry. They print or look up the list, buy the item, and the item never comes off of the list because the sales people have no idea it was supposed to. Sometimes they can guess. Either because they helped the customer with the list, or because the item is so unique. But plenty of times Emily might help someone print a list, Betty helps them look for the item, and Paul checks them out, so no one realizes. A bride can't manage a list until she receives the gifts, kwim? She doesn't know her guests have chosen the same 3 toasters until they give her the 3 toasters. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 4, 2015 15:37:10 GMT
A mattress?!
Weird.
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Post by myshelly on Jul 4, 2015 15:40:25 GMT
Gift card.
Money.
Problem solved.
It doesn't have to be difficult.
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Post by georgiapea on Jul 4, 2015 15:45:07 GMT
Well, I looked at someone's registry selections recently and she listed dishes from 3 stores. All different patterns.
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Post by CarolT on Jul 4, 2015 15:55:42 GMT
I think a lot of guests look at registries online, then go elsewhere to purchase items... so a couple registers for something at Macy's, the guest purchases it from Amazon, and duplicates occur. Or, a couple registers at multiple places, so their registry looks odd... cookware at BBB, linens at Macy's, odds and ends at Target.
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Post by AnotherPea on Jul 4, 2015 15:58:23 GMT
Way back, when brides only registered at one or, gasp, maybe two places, registries included important information, not just items to buy. You knew the color schemes of the bathroom, master bedroom and kitchen. You knew if they were going for a certain style "country" or "formal" for instance. Notes were made that indicated if it was a particularly small home/apartment, so large items weren't purchased. And you could add items that weren't available at that particular store.
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Post by leeny on Jul 4, 2015 17:31:59 GMT
I once looked up a registry for a friend and they had video gaming systems on theirs. Times are a changin'
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Post by mama2three on Jul 5, 2015 0:34:13 GMT
A registry I looked up today had only little glass prep bowls in various sizes. Other registries I've seen recently have also had camping gear, kayaks, car stuff, video game systems and tools. I get it. I'm all for practical stuff. The tools will be used in their house.
When we got married, we had already lived in our own apartments for at least 10 years and had what we needed for our household. Still, my parents and friends made us set up a registry. We kept it pretty simple, but friends of my parents insisted on buying us fancy China. We didn't want fancy China. But we got 2 place setting of the absurdly expensive dishes with no way to return them. We could not afford to buy more, nor did we need them. They've sat in a box for more than 20 years. I would have much rather have had cash or something we could actually have used.
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