sharlag
Drama Llama
I like my artsy with a little bit of fartsy.
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Location: Kansas
Jun 26, 2014 12:57:48 GMT
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Post by sharlag on Jul 15, 2014 15:19:50 GMT
Unfriending and blocking seems like a LOT less drama than the email you sent. It's just funny to me that you say you can't unfriend bc you hate confrontation, but then you sent that email. I think it was good that she sent it. People need to know how others perceive their actions.
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Apr 26, 2024 11:13:28 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 15:21:12 GMT
I have several friends that have these types of businesses but they have separate pages for that stuff. I don't know if you feel like it but maybe suggest this idea to her. I'm sure you can't be the first person she has annoyed with this behavior. That's a WONDERFUL idea! I will suggest just that. Thank you. I would normally let it slide but I wanted her to know how I perceived it because surely I am not alone! I even asked her point blank if that is why she added me as a friend. We have friends in common and I do remember her from various things. I did zrii years ago (it's a drink full of herbs and vitamins). I know people are often taught to be aggressive with their marketing. That is why I stopped! I do still use doTerra oils but I rarely talk about them on facebook and I don't recruit my friends. I figure if they want to join they can ask me. Or if they want a product they can contact me. I value my relationships FAR above any business transaction!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 15:22:33 GMT
What is MLM? I am clueless! It's multi level marketing. Think pyramid scheme but with products. Some are even great products. It's just hard when they are being pushed on you. Some examples are doTerra oils, Young Living oils, Mary Kay, Avon, etc. "Businesses" where you recruit others to get more money!
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Post by kimpossible on Jul 15, 2014 15:23:59 GMT
I prefer to not have my FB loaded down with this stuff so if they have a separate page and want to post a link once in a while, that's ok. What isn't ok is to post everyday (or more often) on my timeline about your business.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 15:24:17 GMT
I have had the same thing happen to me recently, as well!! It is someone from work and so I accepted her friend request and then saw nothing but posts about jamberry nails and then one of those diet drink things, I forget which one. It didn't take me long to un-follow her. I still have her in my friends, but no longer see her posts in my feed. I feel a lot better about it now. I think you may have done a good thing with your email. Hopefully, it will open her eyes to how rude SHE was/is. That was my intention. I don't want her to lose other friends over it. And I wanted her to be aware of how obnoxious it was to me!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 15:28:23 GMT
I have to vent to someone so I decided to come here. I had someone who wanted to add me as her friend on facebook. I do remember her but vaguely. I decided why not. So I added her. She is doing Isagenix and every post is about it so I decided to just not follow her posts. (I hate confrontation and contention so it was just easier to unfollow her than to unfriend her). She added me to a secret group that was all about Isagenix. I removed myself from that group. I didn't even know I was in it until posts popped up in my feed. She added me again today. I removed myself from the group again and saw an option to make it so she couldn't add me. I should add I tried Isagenix awhile ago and it was awful with my body! It made me super sick! Then I did something I probably shouldn't have done. I wrote her an email about how I felt it was insincere to add me as a friend and just try to recruit me into her MLM. That there were better ways to build business. Has anyone else ever dealt with this before? Maybe I shouldn't have sent that email but seriously when people see me as a number or a possible recruit and not as a person it is annoying. She hasn't ever commented on any of my posts so I don't think she did it just to get to know me better. For those who dealt with this, how did you handle it? I probably could have handled it better and I feel a bit bad. I've encountered this before and it sucks. One was a long time (since high school friend) who kinda dropped me when she married and had her own family. I realized I was no longer "useful" to her. When she finally joined FB, I was actually glad to see her friend request. Until I only got a direct comment or whatever on my wall that was about buying something she was selling or having a party to sell. Another friend only added me when she joined FB to market her real estate business. I hadn't heard from her in at least 2 years and her first contact was to ask me to take head shots (free! or really cheap) of her agents. I would have done it if it wasn't the first time she contacted in 2 years. In both cases, I unfriended and left it behind me. Their loss, not mine. ETA: I think your email was appropriate. Sometimes being blunt is the only way to get through to someone. Wow some people have a lot of nerve to expect you to give them a free service when they aren't treating your like a friend!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 15:32:08 GMT
Unfriending and blocking seems like a LOT less drama than the email you sent. It's just funny to me that you say you can't unfriend bc you hate confrontation, but then you sent that email. I sent it so she would be aware of how she is coming off to others. It wasn't a dramatic email saying I hate your guts and your products. It just said this is how you are coming off to me. I wanted her to be aware so it doesn't cause drama with others. If everyone just unfriends her how is she going to know why? I would want someone to tell me because I would never want to hurt them. You were kind of rude to me on the other board. I really hope that doesn't continue over here. I have finally found my voice. In the past I just kept it inside but that did not serve me well.
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