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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jul 16, 2015 0:58:20 GMT
My two older kids (ages 12 and 10) both have tournaments this weekend. My DH has to work Saturday and Sunday but is off Friday. We just got the schedules and locations of the games.
DS #1--tournament is 2 hours away. He has games Friday at 6, Saturday at noon and 6, and possibly Sunday depending on how they do. We have hotel reservations for Friday and Saturday. If we are going to cancel one or both nights we need to do so 24 hours in advance. Most of the other players are staying both nights and there is a pizza dinner by the pool planned for after the Friday game.
DS #2--tournament is in the next town over (basically connected to our town, but not within biking distance). His friend has offered to help with transportation and taking him to his house if needed. Games are Saturday morning at 9:00 and 11:15. They will have at least one game on Sunday, but we don't know when.
The two best options that I have come up with are:
a) We drive two cars to DS #1 game on Friday. DH and DS #2 drive back after the game and the rest of us stay in the hotel. If we do this option, I am still unsure of what to do about Saturday night, but I am leaning towards seeing if DS #1 could stay with someone in the hotel and the rest of us leave to be back in town for DS #2 Sunday game. I am anticipating that DS #1 won't have a game on Sunday, but I guess you never know.
b) We all drive together on Friday night. See if DS #1 can stay in the hotel with someone, and the rest of us come home. Go to DS #2 games Saturday morning then head to DS #1 6:00 game. There would be a lot of factors coming into play for Saturday night--whether or not DS #2 can come with us, if we stay or not, etc. I don't wan to pay for a hotel room that we are not using, though. If we didn't stay and needed to be back for an early game for DS #2, DS #1 would have to stay with someone else again. I am sure that would be doable, but am not sure if that is asking too much.
So, if you are still with me, what would you do? I will have my 3 and 6 year olds with me as well since DH has to work. The 6 year old wants to stay in the hotel one of the nights, and would be bummed if we didn't, but it isn't the only factor here, obviously.
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Post by myshelly on Jul 16, 2015 1:09:53 GMT
What would I do? Drop out of baseball. That sounds horrible  |
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jul 16, 2015 1:12:55 GMT
Lol... We have had three weekends this summer where they both had tournaments in different towns. We have made it work ok so far, but this is a little different since the one tournament is so far away and possible hotel stays are involved. It would make me feel better if DH had the weekend off so one of us could be with each child.
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 16, 2015 1:16:54 GMT
Do you have people u ou are comfortable leaving the one with? We have good friends on both boys teams so we'd ask no problem. It doesn't hurt that three of us each has a boy on two different, but same teams (each of us has an u12 and u15) so often we split duties
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jul 16, 2015 1:22:36 GMT
There are people that we trust on both teams, I just wasn't sure if asking someone to have DS #1 in their hotel room was too intrusive. DS #2 has his best friend on his team (his dad is the coach as well) and they live two blocks from us. So, it would be easiest to leave him with them. Part of me wants to just do option #1 and if DS #1 has a game Sunday we will see if he can stay with someone. I drive a lot for work and don't really feel like making that trip twice or more. But, then I feel bad that we would be watching so many more of his games than DS #2. I don't think DS #2 really cares--he wants to be with his friend. It is more about me feeling guilty, I guess.
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Post by camcas on Jul 16, 2015 3:06:09 GMT
I feel for you
This happens a lot with my DS basketball.
My older son does not play so not a problem directly for me but as a fellow basketball mum we all get together and work out which child needs to be where with which team and then friends help out to make sure each kid gets to game they need to be at.
Mother/father try to be at whatever games work ,and children stay with which ever repsonsible adult they can .
I have often had members of DS team stay in motel room with us while parents in another town with another child in a different team.
It has also never been a problem when I have had to work and my DS has stayed with friends family in the motel .
We work out some kind of cost split and its all very amicable.
If there are good team relations I am sure the other parents will help you out .
I think it is one of the best things about team sports!
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Post by camcas on Jul 16, 2015 3:08:41 GMT
also -ask another parent to txt you detials of the game you miss-that way you can still have a chat about the game you didnt see but still know details of how DS played.
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Post by akathy on Jul 16, 2015 3:30:04 GMT
There are people that we trust on both teams, I just wasn't sure if asking someone to have DS #1 in their hotel room was too intrusive. DS #2 has his best friend on his team (his dad is the coach as well) and they live two blocks from us. So, it would be easiest to leave him with them. Part of me wants to just do option #1 and if DS #1 has a game Sunday we will see if he can stay with someone. I drive a lot for work and don't really feel like making that trip twice or more. But, then I feel bad that we would be watching so many more of his games than DS #2. I don't think DS #2 really cares--he wants to be with his friend. It is more about me feeling guilty, I guess. I think it is asking a lot to have your DS stay in a hotel room with another family. It's different to ask someone to keep your kid overnight at their home. There's lots more room and everyone won't be sleeping in the same room. I would find it very awkward and embarrassing to have someone's child sleep in the same room with me. |
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jul 16, 2015 3:45:08 GMT
That's true AKathy. DS #2 wouldn't need to stay overnight with anyone, he would just need a ride home from the game. I think DH could drop him off. I just feel bad that he won't have anyone with him that day, but don't know what else to do about it.
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Post by maryland on Jul 16, 2015 3:52:11 GMT
We have been in situations like that often with soccer and dance. It's so hard to figure out what to do! Kids activities sure do keep us busy! I am glad to hear that it's not just dance and soccer that are so busy!
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Jul 16, 2015 4:14:09 GMT
I should add that there was an email going around between parents, asking if people were staying at the hotel or coming home each day. I responded saying I wasn't sure what we were doing, and wouldn't know until we found out what the tournament schedule was like for DS #2. One parent said that they only had three in their room so there was an extra spot for someone to sleep if needed. Otherwise, I don't think I would have the guts to ask someone if DS could stay with them just out of the blue.  |
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Post by grinningcat on Jul 16, 2015 12:07:49 GMT
Send them with people to the tournaments and enjoy some down time while they are away. That would be a win win in my book.
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Post by TankTop on Jul 16, 2015 12:30:06 GMT
As a baseball mom and a club volleyball mom, it is not unusual to have another child in our hotel room.
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Post by anxiousmom on Jul 16, 2015 12:41:37 GMT
I am single with two boys that played soccer at the same time. Having two kids who had to be in different places at the same time was very common, both for out of town and home games. Their dad sometimes could help, but not always. I had to rely heavily on help from other player's parents. I tried to even it out as much as I could, tried not to go one kid's games more than the other.
One thing I learned is that the sports community is used to this predicament. There were always parents who were more than willing to help out. The coaches in particular were very helpful as was the team parent and there were always parents willing to have an extra kid in the hotel room or to help with the drive.
What I had to get over was the guilt of not being there for one child. Most of the time, they didn't care-they just wanted to be with their friends. It was more a problem for me.
I think in your case, no matter what you do, you will be fine.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jul 16, 2015 12:49:16 GMT
Having had four boys, I am very familiar with the juggling act necessary to cover all the activities.
I'm going to cut to the chase. In your case, I'd go with the out-of-town player and let friends/team-mates help with the at-home kid.
But there's no right or wrong here. At some point you and your husband just have to make a decision and live with it. Don't guilt yourself either way you go.
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Post by momto4kiddos on Jul 16, 2015 13:04:07 GMT
I'd do something like what you are proposing in B, as with plan A you are attending all of kid #1's games and none of kid #2's games until the Sunday game.
My likely scenario would be to leave kid #1 with hubby in hotel Fri night and return home thinking he could go to work from the hotel. That would leave me to see kid #2's games (only missing one game for kid #1) and i'd catch up with kid #1 at the 6 pm game.
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Post by fuji on Jul 16, 2015 13:09:37 GMT
This is what I would do too. If DS2’s best friend is on his team and only lives two blocks away, that seems like the easiest solution. Out-of-town tournaments are more hassle with sleeping arrangements, meals, transportation, uniform washing, etc. I also know that my DS prefers a little time alone/with just our family by the end of a day.
DS2 will be in a familiar area, with friends, and sleeping in his own bed. He will be fine if you aren't there.
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Post by tincin on Jul 16, 2015 14:42:19 GMT
This is what I would do too. If DS2’s best friend is on his team and only lives two blocks away, that seems like the easiest solution. Out-of-town tournaments are more hassle with sleeping arrangements, meals, transportation, uniform washing, etc. I also know that my DS prefers a little time alone/with just our family by the end of a day. DS2 will be in a familiar area, with friends, and sleeping in his own bed. He will be fine if you aren't there. This since Dad will also be at home in case there is a problem. I would stay at the hotel with the other three kids and relax. In the big scheme, they play so many games in their baseball schedules that missing one or two is just not a big deal. I would not drive 4 hours round trip to watch a 10 year old play baseball when he will be playing again next week. I would also not make the younger two endure that round trip for the very same reason. |
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Post by lesley on Jul 16, 2015 14:50:24 GMT
This is what I would do too. If DS2’s best friend is on his team and only lives two blocks away, that seems like the easiest solution. Out-of-town tournaments are more hassle with sleeping arrangements, meals, transportation, uniform washing, etc. I also know that my DS prefers a little time alone/with just our family by the end of a day. DS2 will be in a familiar area, with friends, and sleeping in his own bed. He will be fine if you aren't there. This since Dad will also be at home in case there is a problem. I would stay at the hotel with the other three kids and relax. In the big scheme, they play so many games in their baseball schedules that missing one or two is just not a big deal. I would not drive 4 hours round trip to watch a 10 year old play baseball when he will be playing again next week. I would also not make the younger two endure that round trip for the very same reason.  This seems to be the most straightforward solution to me. |
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This seems to be the most straightforward solution to me.