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Post by KikiPea on Jul 18, 2015 2:37:57 GMT
and the moms drive me NUTS! "Well, *I'M* the one with the checkbook, so *I* have to LOVE it." Excuse me? ![???](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/huh.png) ? Drama lamas!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2015 2:43:21 GMT
It's the "house Hunters " of TLC.
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Post by CeeScraps on Jul 18, 2015 2:44:08 GMT
I watch that show too, although I'm not tonight. Yeah, between that and the bridesmaids choosing the dress makes me nuts.
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Post by julieb on Jul 18, 2015 2:46:35 GMT
My dd is getting married next year and just starting to talk about going to shops. I'm thankful that she has good taste and I've liked every dress that she has shown me on-line. So no drama from this mama...I hope.
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Post by threegirls on Jul 18, 2015 2:46:39 GMT
I actually stopped watching the wedding dress shows because I got tired of seeing the smiling bride all happy in the dress that she loves and then the mom comes along busts the the poor girl's bubble by telling her how awful the dress is. Or, it would be great if this, this and this were different. The dress is usually just lovely and I've never understood why the mom pipes up and says how horrible it is.
I hope I get to go wedding dress shopping (some day) with my girls. The dress would have to be way, way off the tacky meter in order for me to be negative about a dress they love. It's their wedding, not mine.
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Post by julieb on Jul 18, 2015 2:47:59 GMT
I watch that show too, although I'm not tonight. Yeah, between that and the bridesmaids choosing the dress makes me nuts.
My dd is handing her bridesmaids a palette of colors and telling them to go buy a dress they like, so she is hoping to avoid all drama in that department. I hope it works out.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2015 4:52:52 GMT
I actually stopped watching the wedding dress shows because I got tired of seeing the smiling bride all happy in the dress that she loves and then the mom comes along busts the the poor girl's bubble by telling her how awful the dress is. Or, it would be great if this, this and this were different. The dress is usually just lovely and I've never understood why the mom pipes up and says how horrible it is.. Or worse, mom says something disparaging about the shape of the bride's body or her weight. And then follows with "well I'm just being honest". No. You're being an ass.
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Post by RiverIsis on Jul 18, 2015 5:02:24 GMT
I won't have this problem unless a Future DIL invites me. I have to say I'm not a fan of the dresses that look like glorified lingerie, save it for your husband and the wedding night/honeymoon. But yeah, there are plenty of Momzillas and Bridesmaidzillas out there.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2015 5:43:23 GMT
The solution is to take dad because he will always think that you look beautiful.
DD asked my DH (her stepdad) to go with her. I got to see all the dresses she tried on, but when it came to discussing which one she wanted, I was banished to another part of the store and she discussed it with him. ![:D](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/grin.png)
He was thrilled to be a part of it.
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Post by kernriver on Jul 18, 2015 6:54:56 GMT
I can't imagine going wedding dress shopping with someone and being the least bit critical of anything they tried on. I would not make a good person to be on those shows.
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Post by camcas on Jul 18, 2015 9:41:10 GMT
Those shows are a secret pleasure of mine. My family think I am nuts but they are such a train wreck...I love them! I am always gobsmacked at the $$$$ they spend just on the dress...gasp...!
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Post by teddyw on Jul 18, 2015 12:20:06 GMT
Those shows make me not want to go shopping with my girls. My oldest dd is engaged & she bought a dress online on a whim & we love it. So we avoided that whole scene. Her best friend is difficult & probably would have ruined it. I do like the show 4 weddings. Maybe because I haven't watched that many.
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Post by mallie on Jul 18, 2015 13:01:57 GMT
I just saw the ep with Miranda Lambert and her posse and they were so negative about the dresses the bride was trying on. She finally found one she loved and her mom hated it and she finally said, "I DON"T CARE!" Four for you, Glen Coco, four for you.
Also saw an ep where the mom and brother were battling it out and the brother was declaring that the bride wasn't going to buy a dress he didn't like. WTH? Who gives a crap what you think, buddy? Then he picks out a skin tight dress that highlights the bride's rearend and he's all agog over her rearend. Ummm, no. Just no. I am hoping it was manufactured drama for the show, but I can't imagine why anyone would agree to go all gaga over their siblings rearend for a show. Doesn't make you look very good, IMO.
But in general, I can't imagine why anyone would bring a whole gaggle of people with them. I can't imagine why a bride wouldn't understand that it's a recipe for trouble and tears.
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Post by brina on Jul 18, 2015 13:54:38 GMT
My dd (age 12) and I watch those shows sometimes. I have told her I will not say a single negative word about a dress she likes, unless the bodice is see-through, in which case her father and I will not pay for the dress. She likes pretty simple styles, so I don't think it will be an issue, unless her taste drastically changes, but I will not spend thousands of dollars for my dd to look like a skank.
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Post by Peamac on Jul 18, 2015 15:24:26 GMT
Dd2 used to watch those but we bought her wedding gown in January so she's over that show now. I think she was disappointed that I didn't burst into tears at the sight of her in a wedding dress like the moms usually do on the show. I don't think I even got teary-eyed like she did when she found "the one".
ETA~ it was dd1, dd2, dh and I. No entourage. But I did print off some thumbs up and thumbs down signs for us to vote~ she liked that!
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Post by txdancermom on Jul 18, 2015 15:33:04 GMT
some of the families/friends on those shows drive me nuts - the dresses they veto that the bride likes are usually nice - and unless it really makes the bride look awful - my feeling is let her have the dress she wants.
will probably be in a position to do dress shopping with my dd in the near future - she has expensive tastes, but hates for us to spend too much on her! will be interesting.
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Post by Skellinton on Jul 18, 2015 15:33:40 GMT
I am stunned at how mean some people are. There are polite ways to say that a dress isn't flattering, but some of these people delight in picking apart the girls and the dresses. I watch because I like to see the dresses, but there are times I want to shake the people being so rude. The worst is when it is OBVIOUS the bride loves the dress and her face is all kit up and the people with her just start shredding her or the dress. It makes me sad when the brides leave empty handed when it was obvious they found the dress they loved. I like when Lori from the Southern one calls the family out and shames them for being rude.
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Post by stampnscrap1128 on Jul 18, 2015 16:44:34 GMT
My daughter and I took two days this week to shop for her wedding dress. It was of utmost importance, in my opinion, to be there to encourage and support her. She has great taste in clothing so I wasn't worried. I adore the dress and veil she selected - so gorgeous on her. ![:love:](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/W4b_Om5roEadLiOzGo_l.jpg) It was such a big honor and blessing for me to go with her. My mother passed away two years prior to my wedding so I was all alone. I watched one of those wedding dress shows once and was appalled at the behavior.
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Post by RiverIsis on Jul 18, 2015 19:04:48 GMT
The one episode I remember is a young woman who was very heavily endowed up top and she basically barely covered her nipples with her strapless, plunging, see through bodice. And then the Dad liked it. I was like WTH, I guess this isn't a church wedding. I think I would have to say something about appropriateness for the occasion in that scenario. And I don't think a bride needs to look like a frump either. OK and I'm just going to put this there - I'm personally over the strapless wedding gowns. All the closeups show nothing, no lace, no sleeves, no beadwork, nothing. I have seen very few brides that actually look good in strapless (sorry David Tutera I'm looking at you! putting those overly endowed ladies in strapless so you get a gaping shelf) That said, I wouldn't be critical of a bride choosing a strapless, I would however point out that in the closeup photos there won't be any of her lovely dress showing and is that really what she wants, if I were along if I thought she wanted real advice. If she wants someone to say she is beautiful in whatever she wears I can do that too. I pray I wouldn't be like the southern MIL on Arranged who told the Bride to be at the last fitting to eat salad until the wedding day. ![:shocked:](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/JvSt42CUoZ9LG952aAaF.jpg)
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jul 18, 2015 20:57:46 GMT
I can't imagine going wedding dress shopping with someone and being the least bit critical of anything they tried on. I would not make a good person to be on those shows. I ended up being the sole person to go with my husband's cousin to shop for her wedding dress last summer. Her mother gave me all sorts of do's-and-don'ts before I went out there, but although I listened politely, I also ignored most of them. Lol. She had "her" vision which was not completely aligned with the bride's vision. Jennifer and I had several heart-to-heart talks about the process of wedding dress shopping before we ever left for the store. I wanted to know exactly what she expected of me. She wanted honest feedback but I knew she had a clear picture in her head of what she wanted the dress to look like so I knew my job was to help her make the vision a reality. As it turned out, we were in agreement about the pros and cons of each dress and it was crystal clear when she tried on the one that she said "yes" to. I cried, she cried, and we KNEW it was the one. I loved everything about the experience and would love to repeat it. As the mother of four boys, I hope a future daughter-in-law will invite me to participate!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2015 23:56:28 GMT
All the closeups show nothing, no lace, no sleeves, no beadwork, nothing. ![:shocked:](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/JvSt42CUoZ9LG952aAaF.jpg) I agree. And then they hold a hedge of flowers in front of the chest and hide the pretty dress. Makes no sense to me. I always told my brides to hold the flowers down low at or below her belly button.
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Post by RiverIsis on Jul 19, 2015 2:49:10 GMT
All the closeups show nothing, no lace, no sleeves, no beadwork, nothing. ![:shocked:](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/JvSt42CUoZ9LG952aAaF.jpg) I agree. And then they hold a hedge of flowers in front of the chest and hide the pretty dress. Makes no sense to me. I always told my brides to hold the flowers down low at or below her belly button. My photographer had an assistant and told us to basically arm down at your side and just bent enough to hold your bouquet in front 25years ago. My cousin got married about three years ago and her photographer told them to hold their flowers up high - ![:thumbdown:](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/SCylSBljj3e3QKjxF2vn.jpg) it looked ridiculous. And don't even get me started on etiquette when I see a groomsman taking the arm of the bridesmaid rather than offering her his arm. It looks so silly.
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Post by milocat on Jul 19, 2015 15:54:30 GMT
I hope it's drama the create for ratings, but sadly it probably isn't. My BFF, mom and sister came with me and the same when my BFF got married (her mom and sister). You need a bit of critiquing help or you'll never make a decision. Little things like "I like the lace on dress 1 better" or "the back of dress 2 looked amazing on you". Nothing bossy or too personal. Not the tv show over the top listen to me I'm the mom/brother/BFF.
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Post by RiverIsis on Jul 19, 2015 16:58:21 GMT
Sometimes watching these shows I feel like I was the only bride that went into the shop with a checklist. I knew what looked good on me and what I was looking for. I nearly got it and had no alterations, which 26 years ago in a sale is saying something.
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Post by metaldancer on Jul 19, 2015 17:16:12 GMT
I will admit out loud and in front of everyone that I love these shows! LOL Not because of the drama, but I love to see the gowns. I do find myself telling the TV "I don't care what YOU think, it's not your wedding!" ![(rofl)](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/rofl.png) I had a 2nd cousin who was on SYTTD Atlanta. She was there with her grandmother (who was buying the dress), step-mom, cousin and BFF. The war was between grandma and BFF. I know these people and grandma really made an ass of herself - big giant donkey she was. That branch of my family tree thinks they are just a little bit better then the rest of us poor slobs! When I found my dress, it was totally not planned. I decided to take a trip to one of the big malls in Charlotte on a Saturday, just to get out of the house and dink around the mall for a while. When I entered the mall, I went in through the Belks entrance. (Belks is the Southern version of maybe Dillards or Macys I would say.) I just happened to go in the entrance where the formal/bridal wear was. I though to myself, why not just make a breeze through the gowns and see what strikes me. The very first gown I tried on was just ME - I couldn't believe my eyes. (I got married in 1983 - didn't do the big poofy stuff though!) I knew nothing about sweetheart, ball gown, fit and flare...I just knew what I loved and this was it. Three little old ladies came through the door about that time and they just ooohhh'd and aaahahhh'd over it, telling me how beautiful I looked. Bless their hearts, they made my day. So I had them hold the dress for me until I could get my mom and sister to go with me. They both agreed that this dress looked like I had designed it for myself and they didn't think I needed to try anything else on. I knew they would love it, and there was no way I would have purchased anything without mom and sister loving it.
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Post by KikiPea on Jul 19, 2015 17:31:53 GMT
metaldancer, don't get me wrong, I LOVE these shows, but the mom's poss me off.
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Post by moodyblue on Jul 19, 2015 19:21:19 GMT
I watch these shows and I am constantly amazed at how assertive some of the bridesmaids and friends are, and how rude they can be. Some seem to think their opinion is THE most important of all. And the mothers who insist they know better than their daughter what she should wear. Yikes!
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Post by birdy on Jul 19, 2015 20:22:22 GMT
I can't get over how some brides want their parents to pay outrageous prices for dresses... and if the parent says the budget is x but then the bride tries on a dress that is y, she is all pouty until she gets her way. Geez, be grateful they are helping you out!!!
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Post by grinningcat on Jul 20, 2015 11:56:56 GMT
I watch these shows and I am constantly amazed at how assertive some of the bridesmaids and friends are, and how rude they can be. Some seem to think their opinion is THE most important of all. And the mothers who insist they know better than their daughter what she should wear. Yikes! That's what blows my mind about this show as well. Yes, it's fine to voice a criticism, but it's all in the way you say it. These families have made taking the bride's self esteem and grinding into dust into an art form!
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Post by mallie on Jul 20, 2015 13:01:24 GMT
Sometimes watching these shows I feel like I was the only bride that went into the shop with a checklist. I knew what looked good on me and what I was looking for. I nearly got it and had no alterations, which 26 years ago in a sale is saying something. Most women today do not know what looks good on them in terms of formal dresses because we no longer wear fitted clothes. When you spend your life in yoga pants and t shirts, sundresses, or at most, slacks and a pullover shirt, it doesn't translate into picking out a wedding gown.
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