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Post by PEAcan pie on Jul 21, 2015 4:42:50 GMT
WHile I know from reading here that some find the book creepy, I've always just thought it was a story about the never ending love a parent has for a child. Would anyone share their reasons why they think it is creepy? I love the book and cannot read it without crying. I do not think of the book as literal more as a feeling of love, life and death.
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Post by apeacalledliz on Jul 21, 2015 12:24:12 GMT
As a parent of adult and near adult children I find the book creepy and that kind of obsession about your adult children suffocating. I love my kids, I have always loved my kids, but as adults living on their own when they aren't with me, I don't think about them everyday or night, I don't stop and wistfully stare off wishing for their toddler days back or one last cuddle. I understand that some parents are that way, that some feel like they are losing something as their children grow. Personally I look forward to each new thing they will experience or did experience... I look forward to the new milestones that will happen, I love their personalities, I love that instead of being in their lives day in day out(the ones who don't live here) I get to catch up and visit with them when they are here. I don't miss babyhood or toddlerhood... I love the relationships that I have with them in the here and now. That infantilizing adult children is what creeps me out, even if it was only in her head. What kind obsession with your adult children? As I said, it's a children's book, to be read to children. The children are relating it to the relationship they, as children, have with their adult parents and most parents relate it to the relationship they have with the children to whom they are reading it (hopefully not adults).
I do miss my children as toddlers and children (although, the idea of me staring wistfully is rather ridiculous). I also miss them as newborns and tweens. I might prefer them as teens but they were pretty awesome kids too. And, when they're adults, I'll miss their teen years too regardless of how great our relationship might be at the time.
Someone asked why people find the book creepy, I was answering... for me. You have every right to feel how you feel about the book and your relationship with your kids, just as I have every right to feel how I feel about the book and my relationship with my kids(I did say personally, as in for me not meaning everyone should feel how I feel). As to the "its a book for children"... even as a child I would have found that type of relationship between myself and my mother smothering and not comforting at all, even then I would have been a little creeped out. That's me and my relationship with my mother, it doesn't mean other people can't feel differently.
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Post by Dalai Mama on Jul 21, 2015 12:31:25 GMT
What kind obsession with your adult children? As I said, it's a children's book, to be read to children. The children are relating it to the relationship they, as children, have with their adult parents and most parents relate it to the relationship they have with the children to whom they are reading it (hopefully not adults).
I do miss my children as toddlers and children (although, the idea of me staring wistfully is rather ridiculous). I also miss them as newborns and tweens. I might prefer them as teens but they were pretty awesome kids too. And, when they're adults, I'll miss their teen years too regardless of how great our relationship might be at the time.
Someone asked why people find the book creepy, I was answering... for me. You have every right to feel how you feel about the book and your relationship with your kids, just as I have every right to feel how I feel about the book and my relationship with my kids(I did say personally, as in for me not meaning everyone should feel how I feel). As to the "its a book for children"... even as a child I would have found that type of relationship between myself and my mother smothering and not comforting at all, even then I would have been a little creeped out. That's me and my relationship with my mother, it doesn't mean other people can't feel differently. If you were answering someone else you probably should have quoted them rather than me. It would avoid confusion.
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Post by apeacalledliz on Jul 21, 2015 12:57:36 GMT
Someone asked why people find the book creepy, I was answering... for me. You have every right to feel how you feel about the book and your relationship with your kids, just as I have every right to feel how I feel about the book and my relationship with my kids(I did say personally, as in for me not meaning everyone should feel how I feel). As to the "its a book for children"... even as a child I would have found that type of relationship between myself and my mother smothering and not comforting at all, even then I would have been a little creeped out. That's me and my relationship with my mother, it doesn't mean other people can't feel differently. If you were answering someone else you probably should have quoted them rather than me. It would avoid confusion. After having read the thread, it seemed that was the general point of discussion(why you do or do not find it creepy). Your post mentioned having to be a parent to understand the connection between mother and child and thus the book(implying that parents would not find it creepy). I was pointing out that even mothers can find the book creepy. Either way I was not saying you shouldn't feel the way you do, only that I do not feel that way even being a mother. I don't know what to say other than I don't like the book, I think it's fine that you and others do like the book. I don't think it makes anyone who does like the book a bad parent, just as I don't think I am a bad parent for not finding the book sweet.
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Post by Dalai Mama on Jul 21, 2015 13:09:40 GMT
If you were answering someone else you probably should have quoted them rather than me. It would avoid confusion. After having read the thread, it seemed that was the general point of discussion(why you do or do not find it creepy). Your post mentioned having to be a parent to understand the connection between mother and child and thus the book(implying that parents would not find it creepy). I was pointing out that even mothers can find the book creepy. Either way I was not saying you shouldn't feel the way you do, only that I do not feel that way even being a mother. I don't know what to say other than I don't like the book, I think it's fine that you and others do like the book. I don't think it makes anyone who does like the book a bad parent, just as I don't think I am a bad parent for not finding the book sweet. I don't think that anyone is a bad person for not finding the book sweet. What I do think, and what I said, is that you need to be a parent to fully appreciate the book - I do not intend to imply the corollary. I also think that most parents would understand why others might become emotional over the theme in the book even if they don't themselves.
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