tincin
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Post by tincin on Jul 22, 2015 16:49:50 GMT
I just joined a new online dating site. Had a guy email, I had seen his profile and I was interested so I replied. He sent another email and I replied. Went to work last night, worked 12 hours, came home and checked my email. I had 4 new messages from him. I went to the dating site and there are no messages from him. Weird right? So I tried to send him an email to tell him his messages had disappeared only to discover he had blocked me. SMH
Really I was kind of wondering when I saw that I had 4 new messages from him but I tried to remain open minded until I actually read them. Now I am thinking he got upset over my not replying to his messages, which I hadn't read yet, and blocked me. I think I dodged a bullet there. Kind of odd behavior because the emails were very casual and sort of "how's it going" vibe in them.
Now I am wondering what kind of nutter he is to get upset enough to block me in 12 hours. Whew, online dating can be tiresome.
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Post by peabay on Jul 22, 2015 16:51:36 GMT
What happened to the neighbor guy who wanted to play cards? I had forgotten til I saw this post....
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tincin
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Post by tincin on Jul 22, 2015 16:54:19 GMT
He has had several more strokes, lost his job and pretty much his ability to speak. My XH had a ton of medical issues and quite honestly I am not looking to get into a relationship with another man I have to take care of. If we had already been in a relationship and the strokes occurred, that would be a different story but I just slowly backed out of that one.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2015 16:55:21 GMT
Whoa! Yeah, I think you dodged a bullet there. I used to try those dating sites, and the men on there were very particular. I can't remember any specifics, but there were enough weird things that I gave up on them. Unless, just my area bred weird guys. LOL!
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Post by choppedliver on Jul 22, 2015 16:56:44 GMT
I just joined a new online dating site. Had a guy email, I had seen his profile and I was interested so I replied. He sent another email and I replied. Went to work last night, worked 12 hours, came home and checked my email. I had 4 new messages from him. I went to the dating site and there are no messages from him. Weird right? So I tried to send him an email to tell him his messages had disappeared only to discover he had blocked me. SMH Really I was kind of wondering when I saw that I had 4 new messages from him but I tried to remain open minded until I actually read them. Now I am thinking he got upset over my not replying to his messages, which I hadn't read yet, and blocked me. I think I dodged a bullet there. Kind of odd behavior because the emails were very casual and sort of "how's it going" vibe in them. Now I am wondering what kind of nutter he is to get upset enough to block me in 12 hours. Whew, online dating can be tiresome. Pretty sure I met that guy before. You definitely dodged a bullet. |
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Post by scrappert on Jul 22, 2015 17:07:03 GMT
Crazy people out there! Sounds like you did and great for you!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2015 17:08:53 GMT
Good luck, Tincin! I have a recently divorced friend who has ventured into the online world (neither one of us had to worry about that back when we were first dating!) and has met some nice guys, so I do believe it is possible!
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Post by Basket1lady on Jul 22, 2015 17:18:56 GMT
Whoa! Yeah, I think you dodged a bullet there. I used to try those dating sites, and the men on there were very particular. I can't remember any specifics, but there were enough weird things that I gave up on them. Unless, just my area bred weird guys. LOL! No kidding. My dad was one of them. My mom died 25 years ago and Dad was ready to date about 2 years later. So this was about 1992 ish. Online dating was brand new. Dad had a whole list of expectations and wouldn't meet a woman unless she had met them. I worried that he was too picky, but he did meet a wonderful woman and they were married a year later. Now they are coming up on their 25th anniversary. Tincin, I think you dodged a bit bullet there. Good job! |
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Post by librarylady on Jul 22, 2015 20:35:33 GMT
Definitely you managed to escape getting tangled in THAT web!
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Post by annabella on Jul 22, 2015 20:47:31 GMT
Yep he was crazy. FYI I do know that dating sites can send messages to your phone like a text message so he may be receiving your messages instantly and wondered why you didn't respond in kind. Still no reason to block you.
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Post by Dori~Mama~Bear on Jul 22, 2015 20:51:10 GMT
Does sound like you dodged a bullet on that one.
I met my husband online 20 years ago. I know you will find a nice guy.
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Post by k8smom on Jul 22, 2015 22:57:18 GMT
Maybe his membership period expired. Do you know for a fact he blocked you?
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Post by perumbula on Jul 22, 2015 23:00:45 GMT
Bye, Felipe. If he's so insecure he has to block you over having to wait 12 hours for a message from you, he's a nutcase. I would actually suggest making sure you don't always reply immediately with new online friends as a rule. See what happens when they have to wait. It seems just that one thing will weed out the nutters faster than anything else.
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Post by alexa11 on Jul 22, 2015 23:12:01 GMT
I feel your pain!!!
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Post by maryland on Jul 22, 2015 23:15:24 GMT
Take your time, and I bet you will find a wonderful man out there! He will realize how lucky he is to have you. Just as there are some crazy men out there, there are some crazy women and the men will realize you are one of the good ones and you will have them fighting for you!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2015 23:17:31 GMT
He has had several more strokes, lost his job and pretty much his ability to speak. My XH had a ton of medical issues and quite honestly I am not looking to get into a relationship with another man I have to take care of. If we had already been in a relationship and the strokes occurred, that would be a different story but I just slowly backed out of that one. My birthmom is on a couple of the dating sites and she is in the same boat as you. She doesn't want a man that is in need of a lot of medical care. She cared for her husband for 11 years after his first stroke and doesn't want to do that again.
Totally TMI but she was seeing this man and they spent the night together....the following afternoon he had a heart attack and died. I highly doubt it was because of the night before but that pretty much scared her for life!
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Post by cherrie on Jul 23, 2015 0:25:50 GMT
I have a friend that joined a dating site and immediately heard from a guy who said his wife recently passed away. They went to dinner, he invited her back to his home for coffee and seeming harmless she said ok. She used the bathroom, saw a ladies robe hanging on hook, sat down in living room and saw a pair of glasses on the table. She kept glancing at the late wives picture on the mantle and the very next day she saw the ladies picture and obit in the paper. She had only died 4 days before the jerk was out to dinner with another woman!!
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Post by penny on Jul 23, 2015 0:32:56 GMT
He has had several more strokes, lost his job and pretty much his ability to speak. My XH had a ton of medical issues and quite honestly I am not looking to get into a relationship with another man I have to take care of. If we had already been in a relationship and the strokes occurred, that would be a different story but I just slowly backed out of that one. My birthmom is on a couple of the dating sites and she is in the same boat as you. She doesn't want a man that is in need of a lot of medical care. She cared for her husband for 11 years after his first stroke and doesn't want to do that again.
Totally TMI but she was seeing this man and they spent the night together....the following afternoon he had a heart attack and died. I highly doubt it was because of the night before but that pretty much scared her for life!
I'm not making light - that's a horrible coincidence, but it reminds me of Golden Girls... Rose was scared to be with a man because her husband died when they were in bed together... A man finally spends the night and he's dead when she wakes up, and then she finds out he's married and goes to tell his wife what happened... Doesn't sound funny how I'm telling it, but if you've seen the episode  |
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Post by tincin on Jul 23, 2015 1:38:25 GMT
Maybe his membership period expired. Do you know for a fact he blocked you? Yes, I received a message that said so when I tried to email him about his missing messages. |
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Post by tincin on Jul 23, 2015 1:40:04 GMT
I have a friend that joined a dating site and immediately heard from a guy who said his wife recently passed away. They went to dinner, he invited her back to his home for coffee and seeming harmless she said ok. She used the bathroom, saw a ladies robe hanging on hook, sat down in living room and saw a pair of glasses on the table. She kept glancing at the late wives picture on the mantle and the very next day she saw the ladies picture and obit in the paper. She had only died 4 days before the jerk was out to dinner with another woman!! OMG that is crazy. Even if she had an extended illness, 4 days, that seems like a rush to me. |
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Post by tincin on Jul 23, 2015 1:41:35 GMT
I have met several really nice guys online. I have dated a couple of them for a year and the last one for 3 years. They just aren't THE one. I am in no hurry to remarry but I would like someone to spend time with and do things with other than my GFs and kids.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2015 2:04:22 GMT
In the past, I was quick to block, too. Grammar and other stuff like dick pics (Good god yuck!) and other stuff made me use the ignore feature fast and furious.
If u write to me a ltr n say stuff wut u du-ing 2night? The guy goes on ignore. I am over 20 and if an adult man wants to talk like a teenager, have at it. Ability to communicate is part of a man's finesse. He would write shit like that at work in a professional email why on earth would he write shit like that to someone he wants to get to know? IGNORE!
Smoking and casual smoking both go on ignore. I don't have a problem with it. I just don't want to start again myself. I also don't want to smell someone who smokes. I don't want to ride in a car with someone who smokes. My friend's boyfriend would want to smoke and she would stop on the highway so he could light up. (He was an ass of mammoth proportions, but that's just the tip of the ice berg. He can't wait 10 min until the pull in the driveway to smoke?)
Men who mention SEX in their profile i.e I have a HIGH sex drive, I want sex often that kind of thing is more than I want to know about the guy at first glance. I don't want someone hounding me for sex from the first date on. IGNORE before even chatting.
If a guy writes, "I prefer a woman who is natural and doesn't need to be made up to feel beautiful", he too would go on ignore. I work ladies retail. I dress up and do make up and hair all the time and that's part of the look I am trying to portray. If I worked elsewhere and didn't care about my appearance that would be fine too. The thought of a guy in a wife beater shirt on Sunday afternoon watching football drinking beer and burping is probably not going to happen.
If a guy hits on me the first date probably will be the last.
If a guy tells me his entire sexual history and the last threesome he had on the first date, um gosh I want to throw up. Then told me he wants to eff all my friends and I should introduce my friends to him and his friends so we could all be sex friends. Yeah. His parents live on the next street. If I ever see him again, I am sure I would throw up.
The guy who weighed 180 in "college" and is now 325 and bald kind of left something out. Ignore. Before I had a chance to ignore him he wanted to know why I wasn't interested in him. Hmmm. I will think about that and go from there.
The funniest one EVER was the one where the guy said, oh my bitch ex wife Mary contacts you, just ignore her... and I worked right beside Mary and we would have lunch 3x week and hang out on weekends...yeah. Mary's ex husband was a peach. ( She told me he used to have certain fetishes... I don't mean dressing up in women's clothing... Way weirder than that!)
Online dating is an experience for sure!
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Post by MsKnit on Jul 23, 2015 2:17:33 GMT
You certainly did dodge a bullet! Congratulations! Our family friend is on one of those on-line dating sites. We get to hear all about it and have met a few of the women. |
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Post by peabay on Jul 25, 2015 12:04:44 GMT
He has had several more strokes, lost his job and pretty much his ability to speak. My XH had a ton of medical issues and quite honestly I am not looking to get into a relationship with another man I have to take care of. If we had already been in a relationship and the strokes occurred, that would be a different story but I just slowly backed out of that one. Yeah, I hear you. That's too bad. Seemed like it had promise. |
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Post by peabay on Jul 25, 2015 12:09:29 GMT
He has had several more strokes, lost his job and pretty much his ability to speak. My XH had a ton of medical issues and quite honestly I am not looking to get into a relationship with another man I have to take care of. If we had already been in a relationship and the strokes occurred, that would be a different story but I just slowly backed out of that one. My birthmom is on a couple of the dating sites and she is in the same boat as you. She doesn't want a man that is in need of a lot of medical care. She cared for her husband for 11 years after his first stroke and doesn't want to do that again.
Totally TMI but she was seeing this man and they spent the night together....the following afternoon he had a heart attack and died. I highly doubt it was because of the night before but that pretty much scared her for life!
The irony is that you have all these men who want women 20 years younger than them - I guess it's so someone can lift the walker out of the car. And i I don't mean to make fun of someone's infirmities, but when you have 60 year old man who only wants to date 40 year olds, he'd better be damn rich. |
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Post by scrapperal on Jul 25, 2015 13:35:37 GMT
Definitely dodged a bullet! Hope the next contact has more promise.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2015 15:37:57 GMT
The irony is that you have all these men who want women 20 years younger than them - I guess it's so someone can lift the walker out of the car. And i I don't mean to make fun of someone's infirmities, but when you have 60 year old man who only wants to date 40 year olds, he'd better be damn rich. That is so true. My birth mom has mentioned that many times. She is 65-ish and actually changed her age to 51 just to men would notice her. I keep telling her to just find that rich old man on there but she is still looking - lol |
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Post by TheOtherMeg on Jul 25, 2015 16:01:02 GMT
The age thing is a huge factor for "mature" (lol) women. My sister is 66, in a cycling club, participates in 100-mile bike rides all over the country (primarily for JDRF), spent nearly 40 years traveling the world (flight attendant), has her own home and income, and is an awesome woman. (Which isn't a euphemism for unattractive. She's very attractive.  ) However, the men her age are looking for -- and getting -- women in their forties. She's not looking to get married again (she will not marry again), she just wants a nice man she can go out with, travel with, and trust and, frankly, is not looking to be a nurse or maid. It's slim pickin's for sure. |
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Post by luvnlifelady on Jul 25, 2015 16:54:26 GMT
Keep looking. My BIL has custody of 6 kids and just married a woman he met online that has full custody of her 2. They just got back from a honeymoon to Greece (alone).
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 25, 2015 16:59:56 GMT
My good friend tried online dating for years. Different sites seemed to attract different types of men. No matter who she met or where, I made her call me or text me once during the date to make sure she was okay. She had a couple of very weird encounters with some intense guys. Most were very normal, but you just never now. Your experience sounds like he could have turned into a nutter or at the very least be high maintenance and ain't nobody got time for that.
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) However, the men her age are looking for -- and getting -- women in their forties. 
