iluvpink
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Post by iluvpink on Jul 23, 2015 15:39:36 GMT
I am unfortunately rather socially clueless.
My teenage dd has taken up baking. She loves it and seems to have a knack for it. I've been taking in baked goods to work several days a week for the last month. My coworkers always enjoy tasty treats and some are making requests etc lol. One coworker tried to give me $10 for dd's baking supplies. I refused of course. She's baking so much it is definitely making the grocery budget larger but nothing crazy or that's hurting us.
I'm off work today as dd is sick and has a drs appt. One of my coworkers (diff from the one above) posted on FB saying they were missing me and the treats today and posted a recipe she thinks dd should make soon lol. She also messaged me asking me what grocery store we shop at as she'd like to give dd a GC to buy supplies or perhaps make her a basket of supplies and asked what kind of flour she prefers etc.
I don't know what's the most polite response to her message. To say thank you for the lovely thought but no thanks or to give her that information and accept the gift to dd. I feel greedy having dd take the gift but feel the other is rude also. So help a socially awkward person out and tell me what you would do!
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bethany102399
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Post by bethany102399 on Jul 23, 2015 15:45:48 GMT
I kind of feel like, if someone wants to be generous, then let them be generous. Is the person offering a baker? Perhaps you could say that DD is still learning, and do they have suggestions for what type of goods work better than others.
I know there will be others who can word a reply a lot better than I can.
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Post by freebird on Jul 23, 2015 15:46:10 GMT
I'd feel weird, but they want to give her a gift. Let them. It's never a bad thing for people to be kind to each other. Just tell them that you'll give it directly to your daughter and she can buy goods with it on her own. This might spark a lifelong career for her, why not let others encourage it.
"It feels really strange accepting a gift for this, as my daughter loves doing it. But I'll pass it along to her to buy things to share, this might be a great lesson for her to manage a budget." (or whatever you'd like to say)
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2015 15:46:38 GMT
"Thank you! You really do not have to, but my daughter would appreciate it. She loves to bake so much! Maybe a recipe & ingredients that you would love to sample that she can try to make!"
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Post by sunnyd on Jul 23, 2015 15:47:09 GMT
"You are SO thoughtful to think of her! She shops at Smith's Market & uses good 'ole all purpose flour, lol. She is thrilled to know that you are enjoying her new found hobby. I passed the recipe along to her & she's excited to make it for you."
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2015 15:47:16 GMT
Since she asked, I would respond with a name of your grocery store and a very large thank you and have your DD also write out thanks if and when she gets the gift. I personally think it is a nice way for your coworkers to be grateful and to let your DD know that they value what she is doing. I wouldn't ask for it OR expect it, but if it is offered, I wouldn't say no.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2015 15:47:33 GMT
Think of it this way. These people are thoroughly enjoying your daughter's treats and in turn, feel a bit guilty about not "giving back" in some way. I'd graciously thank this person for the offer and accept the card on your daughter's behalf so she can use it to buy ingredients for future treats.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2015 15:48:15 GMT
Thank you so much dd would really appreciate a gift card to (insert store name).
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Post by georgiapea on Jul 23, 2015 15:49:05 GMT
If someone wishes to be gracious, it's polite to allow them to do so. Will it really hurt your feelings to allow the woman to gift your DD with a store credit? Because I'm sure the person who wants to do it will be hurt if it's not accepted. Maybe you could have your DD 'sell' any requests that are made, above the ones you bring to share. Just a nominal amount. Maybe your DD will become another Cake Diva!
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Post by MizIndependent on Jul 23, 2015 15:50:39 GMT
Sounds to me like she recognizes the kindness of you and your DD - that she likewise knows the expense of baking supplies and that further, she wishes to encourage your DD's efforts...plus benefit from the delicious baked goods your DD is making. As bethany102399 said, "if someone wants to be generous, then let them be generous". Tell them where you shop, say your DD is open to baking supply suggestions.  |
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Post by eastcoastpea on Jul 23, 2015 15:52:13 GMT
I'd accept the gift. Your coworkers are enjoying the treats. They want to say thank you and keep those delicious treats coming. There is nothing wrong with that.
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Post by scrappyoutlaw on Jul 23, 2015 15:57:30 GMT
I would accept the gift. Your co-worker wanted to make a specific baking request without being rude herself. Rather than just asking for a handout out in the form of the recipe she posted, she want's to give a gift card in exchange. Nothing wrong with that!
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Jul 23, 2015 16:06:36 GMT
Based on what you described, your DD has an expensive hobby and that you cannot eat all the desserts so you have been sharing them with co-workers. I think your co-worker is being kind and generous. I enjoy baking too. I'd pass along favorite recipes because it is a common interest. Ladies on his board do it all the time. I don't think she was trying to be kind and rude at the same time.
I think you should ask your daughter if she would like to accept the gift and try the recipe and based on that craft your response. In any case, a thank you is in order.
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Post by jemali on Jul 23, 2015 16:11:31 GMT
"You are SO thoughtful to think of her! She shops at Smith's Market & uses good 'ole all purpose flour, lol. She is thrilled to know that you are enjoying her new found hobby. I passed the recipe along to her & she's excited to make it for you."  |
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Post by akathy on Jul 23, 2015 16:18:31 GMT
I'd just say thank you and accept it. People like to be kind in return for a kindness given them. It makes them feel good just like bringing treats to work makes you feel good and baking them for appreciative people makes your DD feel good. Don't take a feel good opportunity away from them. Accept their gifts graciously.
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iluvpink
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Post by iluvpink on Jul 23, 2015 16:20:14 GMT
Ah, you all are awesome, thank you for the thoughts and suggestions!
Oh I know my coworker is being generous. I don't know her terribly well as she works in a satellite office much of the day but I do enjoy chatting with her when I see her and she is truly one of the nicest women I've ever known with lovely southern manners.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2015 16:24:05 GMT
I am unfortunately rather socially clueless. My teenage dd has taken up baking. She loves it and seems to have a knack for it. I've been taking in baked goods to work several days a week for the last month. My coworkers always enjoy tasty treats and some are making requests etc lol. One coworker tried to give me $10 for dd's baking supplies. I refused of course. She's baking so much it is definitely making the grocery budget larger but nothing crazy or that's hurting us. I'm off work today as dd is sick and has a drs appt. One of my coworkers (diff from the one above) posted on FB saying they were missing me and the treats today and posted a recipe she thinks dd should make soon lol. She also messaged me asking me what grocery store we shop at as she'd like to give dd a GC to buy supplies or perhaps make her a basket of supplies and asked what kind of flour she prefers etc. I don't know what's the most polite response to her message. To say thank you for the lovely thought but no thanks or to give her that information and accept the gift to dd. I feel greedy having dd take the gift but feel the other is rude also. So help a socially awkward person out and tell me what you would do! The coworker isn't offering to compensate you for the groceries, they want to give the g/c to your daughter to buy groceries. I think it's a nice gesture. The coworker enjoys the goodies your daughter makes and wants to show her appreciation. I would accept the gift certificate. It's not like it's cash. It's a gift card or whatever they use to the store. I think it's a nice gesture. You will probably also see several people wanting to do the same thing. |
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Post by AnotherPea on Jul 23, 2015 16:29:19 GMT
Not sure how to phrase a response - you have some great suggestions.
I just wanted to add that it seems like you have a talented daughter and awesome colleagues.
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Post by mom23sweetpeas on Jul 23, 2015 16:40:03 GMT
Sunnyd said it best- go with that!
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Post by mrgiedrnkr on Jul 23, 2015 16:41:26 GMT
I would accept the offers and have your daughter continue sending in treats. I think the gifts would bolster her confidence and be a tangible way to know that she is excelling at her new hobby.
Stacy
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Post by sharlag on Jul 23, 2015 16:54:57 GMT
I can see wanting to 'repay' someone if I were eating their free, delicious treats, week after week. I don't find her offer odd at all.
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Post by nyxish on Jul 23, 2015 17:07:51 GMT
i'm always of the mind to let people be generous and show gratitude when they offer. Just learn to graciously say thank you and accept. |
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Post by rainangel on Jul 23, 2015 17:44:53 GMT
If I was this woman offering the GC, I would be SO happy if you accepted. Obviously your coworker is appreciating all of the tasty treats, and wants to give something back as a thank you.
I have gotten a lot of cool hand me downs from a coworkers DD. I am buying the DD a giftcard as a thank you for all the clothes my DD's have received from her. I am sure this 14-year old will appreciate a GC to her favourite clothing store, and I am sure your DD will appreciate the oppertunity to stock up on supplies. Maybe she can use the GC for something a little extravagant, like real vanilla beans, a cool icing tip or some extra cakepans?
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Post by annabella on Jul 23, 2015 17:58:26 GMT
I would take the recipes, then tell the person it’s up to your daughter to decide if the recipe interests her, you can’t make any promises on her behalf. You never know the recipe might be something interesting you haven’t run across before, it’s a great way to find new recipes from suggestions. I would ask why her flour is better. I experiment a lot with flours and would be open to the suggestion. I no longer bake with white flour anymore. I use oat flour, spelt flour or almond flour as I find them to be healthier.
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Post by annabella on Jul 23, 2015 17:59:59 GMT
Based on what you described, your DD has an expensive hobby and that you cannot eat all the desserts so you have been sharing them with co-workers. I think your co-worker is being kind and generous. ITA |
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Post by papersilly on Jul 23, 2015 18:13:45 GMT
accept the gift. your DD enjoys baking and obviously your co workers enjoy eating them. they probably want to help offset the costs to show their appreciation and as an incentive to keep the treats coming. so long as your DD enjoys doing it, I think the gift is fine.
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Post by happymomma on Jul 23, 2015 18:30:51 GMT
The lady is just repaying kindness with kindness. Let her, you will be allowing her to feel good! Also, I don't think it's right to refuse a gift such as this on behalf of your daughter. Let her enjoy a little reward for her activity even if she's just doing it for fun. It's also encouraging! The gift is meant for her not you. Would you be cool with her, your husband or anyone refusing a gift or small gesture of kindness that was meant for you? |
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Post by chlerbie on Jul 23, 2015 19:21:05 GMT
Yes, think of it this way--you are gifting them with delicious treats and she'd like to give you a gift in return. I think it's very nice of her!
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Post by IPeaFreely on Jul 23, 2015 19:25:25 GMT
People offer things to make themselves happy. Let your coworker be happy about helping your daughter with her baking hobby.
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