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Post by padresfan619 on Jul 26, 2015 3:36:46 GMT
I like to play Gran Turismo, I have a whole set up for online play. I have been playing tonight and have been called a midget, a cunt, a bitch, a fucking cock sucker... it goes on.
So if your kid plays games that have online game okay, do you check in on them? Because I'm sick of 12 year old kids calling me names.
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Post by scrapqueen01 on Jul 26, 2015 4:14:55 GMT
Dd is 11 and I let her play online games. Usually she's content to play single player most of the time. Her pc is in the kitchen so I know everything she does on it. Because I'm a gamer I usually introduce her to the games she plays. If I feel like someone she is playing with is being inappropriate I tell her not to play with them and why.
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Post by scorpeao on Jul 26, 2015 4:17:12 GMT
Sorry, but your last line gave me a giggle.
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 26, 2015 5:07:03 GMT
I'll admit that I don't know a whole lot about it, but my kids are not quiet when they are talking through their headset. If I heard any foul language, I'd nail them for it.
our rule is that they cannot be friends with or play with someone who we do not personally know or is not a cousin or somethi ng to a family I know personally, them they cannot play online with them
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Post by ptamom on Jul 26, 2015 7:04:28 GMT
These are kids you know? Or random internet strangers?
My son plays Minecraft and Terraria with friends online, and friends of friends (someone we know IRL has to know each player IRL for them to be included in the group) but no random internet strangers.
And he only gets to go online in the common rooms of the house, never behind closed doors. So while we are not actively monitoring him, it's hard not to hear him.
He'll be sixteen in a few weeks. The only game he played with strangers was ToonTown, years ago, and that was pretty locked down as far as personally interacting went.
If you are playing with kids you know, I would recommend stopping. IMHO it is inappropriate to play adult geared games with Tweens. If you are playing with random internet strangers, how do you know how old they really are? And again, if the interaction is undesirable, why play with these people?
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Post by anxiousmom on Jul 26, 2015 11:48:51 GMT
When the boys were younger and played video games, they were only allowed to play on the big tv in living area where I could keep an ear out for what was going on. They were allowed to use the headphones, but they also had to keep the sound on so I could hear. I let general/random cursing go, but when the name calling and mean spirited assholishness started, I would ask them to pull out from playing with that group. I heard an interview one time with Chris Kyle, the guy from American Sniper. He said that there was one time that he and a couple of his fellow seal team members had come back from doing some kind of high hush hush mission and were trying to relax by playing Call of Duty. He said that he wasn't all that good really that night and what sounded like a 12 year old boy started in on him calling him a pussy and all other kinds of horrible names. Mr. Kyle said that he didn't say anything back to the kid, but wanted to say to him 'look kid, I *can* find you and slip into your room at night and scare the shit out of you without anyone even knowing that I was there-I am a flipping Navy Seal Dude..." Anyway, my kids heard the interview too and I think it was the one thing that actually made them consider who might be on the other side of the conversation. In fact, it worked better than anything I ever said.  |
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Post by peano on Jul 26, 2015 12:21:53 GMT
DS’s (age almost 16) gaming is done in a family room just off the kitchen so we can hear everything going on. Sometimes he gets a little riled up, and we tell him to knock it off and take a break, but if he were swearing, we'd shut that down. He says he does hear a fair amount of swearing when playing with people he doesn't know, even younger kids as you describe.
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Post by melanell on Jul 26, 2015 14:05:23 GMT
My 12 year old is only allowed to play single player games online, and he has no way to be online other than to use the computer that's set up right next to me. So when he's home, he's very well supervised in that regard.
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Post by mrsscrapdiva on Jul 26, 2015 14:19:39 GMT
My son is 10 and not allowed at this point to play group games like that online. Not comfortable with it.
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Post by annabella on Jul 26, 2015 17:24:44 GMT
I read an article that said that women are not welcome in the online gaming community and that's why you were spoken to like that. Next time create a man's name for yourself.
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Post by alittleintrepid on Jul 26, 2015 17:28:45 GMT
My DS plays online games but the other kids are kids that we know from the neighbourhood or his sports teams. DH and some of the other dads also play ostensibly to monitor the boys and make sure there is no bullying/inappropriate language etc. sometimes I think the dad's are more into it than the kids are!
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Post by myshelly on Jul 26, 2015 17:29:36 GMT
I read an article that said that women are not welcome in the online gaming community and that's why you were spoken to like that. Next time create a man's name for yourself. Ummm...how is that going to help when she has a woman's voice? |
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Post by padresfan619 on Jul 26, 2015 17:32:01 GMT
These are kids you know? Or random internet strangers? My son plays Minecraft and Terraria with friends online, and friends of friends (someone we know IRL has to know each player IRL for them to be included in the group) but no random internet strangers. And he only gets to go online in the common rooms of the house, never behind closed doors. So while we are not actively monitoring him, it's hard not to hear him. He'll be sixteen in a few weeks. The only game he played with strangers was ToonTown, years ago, and that was pretty locked down as far as personally interacting went. If you are playing with kids you know, I would recommend stopping. IMHO it is inappropriate to play adult geared games with Tweens. If you are playing with random internet strangers, how do you know how old they really are? And again, if the interaction is undesirable, why play with these people? It isn't an adult geared game. It is a racing game. I like to play in the online rooms because it is more fun to interact with other people racing than it is to play against the PS3. I usually try to play with people I know, but last night no one I knew was online. It is pretty easy to tell when kids are playing because of their voices and their reactions to losing. It is also summer vacation, so there are definitely more kids staying up later. I was just wondering if parents really do pay attention to their kids playing these games because I was shocked at some of the language they were using. I know when I play earlier in the day that there is a good chance kids will be on, so I keep my language in check. |
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Post by padresfan619 on Jul 26, 2015 17:32:50 GMT
I read an article that said that women are not welcome in the online gaming community and that's why you were spoken to like that. Next time create a man's name for yourself. My username has no gender identifying labels, but my voice certainly gives me away. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2015 17:35:18 GMT
Yes. DS is 12 and he plays mine craft online w boys from school. Our rule is that his door stays open when any gaming is going on and most of the time, I'm in my studio, also w the door open, about 15 feet away. We don't curse and if someone on the game does repeatedly, I give him the stink eye and he moves on.
He has an established group he plays with and its not an issue for most of them.
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Post by Dori~Mama~Bear on Jul 26, 2015 19:05:44 GMT
My daughter never really played on line games like that. But if she did I would have monitored her.
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Post by Ryann on Jul 26, 2015 19:54:38 GMT
I like to play Gran Turismo, I have a whole set up for online play. I have been playing tonight and have been called a midget, a cunt, a bitch, a fucking cock sucker... it goes on. So if your kid plays games that have online game okay, do you check in on them? Because I'm sick of 12 year old kids calling me names. Oh, this brings me back! When I was around 18-19 I used to play Starcraft and I remember going 1v1 against some random person and winning the match. They were pissed and went off on me in chat. Like you, my username gave no indication of my gender, but I was called a host of things similar to what you've been called, including "bitch". My only response at being cussed out was something to the effect of "I really must be a bitch, because you just got beat by a girl". It was ridiculous to me then and still is now, the way people can react when playing online because they're essentially anonymous. |
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Post by OntarioScrapper on Jul 27, 2015 17:57:31 GMT
My son is 15 but he is a serious gamer. He'll use the f word once in a while but doesn't do the whole cussing and putting down other people. He's actually involved in a group of mostly married men. There's a few women in it. They were surprised to find out how young he was because he's voice just went straight to being deep when he was about 13 and he doesn't talk like some of the teenagers. He has a friend who wanted to play on his Xbox account and my son wouldn't let him because he didn't want HIS account to be banned. Told his friend he should've behaved himself under his own account.
About the female gaming. My younger sister and I started out in our teens. I have found that if anyone is giving you grief for being a "girl" a lot of times saying Fuck You in a very affirmative voice makes them stop. No pleading. They consider that weak. Yeah, it's stupid but then there are some stupid gamers out there.
And my 11 year old daughter doesn't want to do online gaming yet. We do play 2 Sonic racing games together and sometimes go online to play with other racers. Though we don't interact with the other racers.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2015 18:03:56 GMT
My boys (6 and 11) sometimes play minecraft online, mostly with friends they know IRL. However, they do play mini minecraft games on a server that allows strangers to play. We have turned off all communications and all they can do is play. No one can talk to them or text them in any way. The computer they play on is in the living room and we can see what they are doing. We have had no issues as of yet, thankfully.
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