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Post by darkangel090260 on Aug 12, 2015 5:14:49 GMT
A friend said this to me and it's been bugging the heck out of me (you stay at home and sit on your but all day. You have no reason to be tired) So instead of blowing up at her i am just going to do it here.
i clean 2 house each day I manager 3 adult and 2 children scheals I cook up to 9 meal/snacks per day(home made) I do wash for 5 people per day I do all the driving for all 5 people I do the shopping for 4 people sometime 5 people I have 8 home visits with NIEC and EHS for m I have 4 playgroups for M I have 4 occupational therapy appointment for M per month I am trying to get my business off the ground again after take 2 year off I am trying to get my GED and learn ASL again . I have to work with M each day on speech and occupational therapy . Plus deal with personal health problem including lower back pain and something going on with my feet they hurt to the point i can not stand up.
Only time i get to sit on my ass is at night after everyone is in bed or at meal time. .
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Post by jenb72 on Aug 12, 2015 11:16:29 GMT
I'm sorry you feel unappreciated. I've been in those shoes and I try to be very careful about saying things like that, because you never really know for sure what someone is up against from day to day.
Jen
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Post by Really Red on Aug 12, 2015 11:25:01 GMT
I would be sorely tempted to say: Who the Hell says stuff like that?!
Except I've been in your shoes and even nice people say stuff like that. Ugh. Sorry.
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lesley
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Post by lesley on Aug 12, 2015 11:27:43 GMT
If I had a friend like that, I would sit her down and firmly list all the things you have told us. Do it unemotionally but clearly. I would not let her misconception stand. You have a lot to deal with, and you need friends who get that.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 12, 2015 11:32:02 GMT
She's not much of a friend if she's saying things like that to you. Remember you don't have to justify yourself to her or anyone else. My vent, brother you are a moron in fact you are so moronic you give other morons a bad name. Coming in to mums house and shouting and bawling at me and threatening me with physical violence just makes you look like a giant arsehole. Sort your own mess out face up to things like an adult (he's 53) and stop blaming the 'world' for your problems.
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Post by gsquaredmom on Aug 12, 2015 11:36:55 GMT
Tell her what you do.
Or lose her.
Now, your back pain and your feet and standing issues may be related. See a doctor.
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Post by KikiPea on Aug 12, 2015 12:05:05 GMT
"Neighbor" vent- About a year after we moved in, I had a lady from the neighborhood (that I had met twice), text and ask me if I had something she could use to cut circles for a birthday banner. I said I did, and that she was more than welcome to borrow it. I should have told her I'd use my Silhouette to cut them...she borrowed my cutter in March, and I still haven't gotten it back, 5 months later, even after asking her for it 4 times. Monday, I told her I was going to be driving by her house, and to leave the cutter on the porch. She STILL didn't do it!!! WTH? I am so irritated with her. The cutter is something I no longer use, and was trying to sell it. It was originally over $30. I told her a couple of months ago that if she wanted to keep it, she could just give me $10 for it, as that was what I would sell it for. Crickets. UGH So mad.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 12, 2015 12:12:15 GMT
I hate being deaf. That is all.
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Post by rainangel on Aug 12, 2015 12:45:07 GMT
My vent is on me. I knew a lot better than to leave my DD's at home WITH A FRIEND. Two's a company, three's a crowd, and I have spent most of my day at work taking calls from the DD's who were upset because they had an 'argument' and got their feelings hurt. Ugh! I KNEW this was going to happen, so I really can't blame anyone but myself. We've talked it out, so it's all good now. Not repeating this tomorrow, my DD's will have a 'no friends over' policy while I am at work. Thank god school's back next week.
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Post by padresfan619 on Aug 12, 2015 14:26:26 GMT
5:45 came way too early this morning.
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Post by scrapsuzy on Aug 12, 2015 14:48:38 GMT
I woke up to the sound of roofers working just feet above me this morning. No warning from the condo association that this was starting today. And I had been told that this unit had been re-roofed just 4 years ago, so WTH? Oh, aaaannd they were parked in front of my garage (we get two spaces, one in the garage, one in front of it)... blocking me in!
My calls to the property manager have not yet been returned.
I did get them to move their truck, but now they are parked in a no-parking area (designated as such because if cars park there then others can't get out of their garages.)
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Post by marimoose on Aug 12, 2015 14:58:18 GMT
KikiPea - I would be hopping mad, even if you were planning on selling it. I really hate when people take advantage of another's generosity. They suck.
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Post by miominmio on Aug 12, 2015 14:59:07 GMT
Menopause sucks!
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Post by miss_lizzie on Aug 12, 2015 15:02:04 GMT
"Neighbor" vent- About a year after we moved in, I had a lady from the neighborhood (that I had met twice), text and ask me if I had something she could use to cut circles for a birthday banner. I said I did, and that she was more than welcome to borrow it. I should have told her I'd use my Silhouette to cut them...she borrowed my cutter in March, and I still haven't gotten it back, 5 months later, even after asking her for it 4 times. Monday, I told her I was going to be driving by her house, and to leave the cutter on the porch. She STILL didn't do it!!! WTH? I am so irritated with her. The cutter is something I no longer use, and was trying to sell it. It was originally over $30. I told her a couple of months ago that if she wanted to keep it, she could just give me $10 for it, as that was what I would sell it for. Crickets. UGH So mad. It's so hard to be polite when the other person isn't. At this point I'd wait till I knew she was home and go over and ask for it. I'd be embarrassed, but I'd tell myself I had nothing to be embarrassed about. Good luck!
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Post by freebird on Aug 12, 2015 15:04:23 GMT
Let me fix it for you OP... she is not your "friend". She's a Frienemy. Ditch her and find a real friend, a supportive one.
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Post by krazykatlady on Aug 12, 2015 15:23:25 GMT
"Neighbor" vent- About a year after we moved in, I had a lady from the neighborhood (that I had met twice), text and ask me if I had something she could use to cut circles for a birthday banner. I said I did, and that she was more than welcome to borrow it. I should have told her I'd use my Silhouette to cut them...she borrowed my cutter in March, and I still haven't gotten it back, 5 months later, even after asking her for it 4 times. Monday, I told her I was going to be driving by her house, and to leave the cutter on the porch. She STILL didn't do it!!! WTH? I am so irritated with her. The cutter is something I no longer use, and was trying to sell it. It was originally over $30. I told her a couple of months ago that if she wanted to keep it, she could just give me $10 for it, as that was what I would sell it for. Crickets. UGH So mad. She's either lost or broken it. Show up at her house and force her to fess up or cough up the cutter.
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Post by wallyagain on Aug 12, 2015 15:28:25 GMT
DS#2, please decide on your schedule and tell us when you will be arriving. Are you showing up today? Tommorrow and how long will you be staying? I'm so excited to see him but this not knowing is making me batty.
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Post by momto4kiddos on Aug 12, 2015 15:33:02 GMT
Ugh, I feel your pain on that one! Love when people feel free to share their thoughts on the SAHM.
My vent...ds is 18 and has a jackass of a friend who is clingy and controlling. Yesterday there was a bit of a rift which I welcomed...but knew would likely be fairly short lived. Kid was at my house last night at 12:40 AM (let me rephrase that it was this morning!) NO freakin boundaries is just the least of the problem. Today he is back...can it be September and school starting yet?!!
The middle of the night visits will be addressed!
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Post by myboysnme on Aug 12, 2015 15:54:17 GMT
Does your friend work? If so she may be doing all those things AND holding down a job outside of the running of the household. So she may see you and wonder about it especially if you complain about all you have to do - not saying that you do, just speculating.
I always worked full time out of the home as the primary bread winner and did most of the stuff you listed as well. I had a husband too so if I was a single parent I would have shouldered it all.
People can fill up their day with whatever they want to fill it with. It can be sitting around, doing housework, volunteering, working, shuttling kids, whatever it they want to do to fill their day. I have never been able to be a SAHM so I can't even relate to it, so to be honest, a SAHM venting about all they have to do would not get my sympathy, to be honest.
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Post by MerryMom on Aug 12, 2015 16:59:00 GMT
Dear Neighbor,
I know that I live out in the country, but none of the families around us live on a farm.
However, the charm of your animals grazing and pooping on our yard has quickly evaporated.
I am tired of your 25 chickens all over our yard, and despite living on 5 acres of land, the chickens congregate on our concrete driveway right outside the garage door and our deck. I am tired of cleaning up and hosing down our cement driveway and also our deck because of the slimy nasty chicken poop. It also stains our cement and deck if I don't hose it down right away.
I am tired of your goats jumping the fence of their pens and none have been de-horned. I am tired of your goats chasing me and our dogs around the yard. I am also tired of nasty goat poop also on our driveway.
But the worst offender is your flock of 13 guinea fowl who have the loudest, most obnoxious squawking and screeching known to man. Despite your assurances that they "eat ticks", I am quickly getting tired of it.
I now let my dogs chase your chickens, your goats, and your guinea fowl all the way back to your property. I really don't so much care about the animals wandering around and grazing, it's the nasty slimy animal poop on my driveway and deck. and the guinea fowl screeching right outside my window. (at 5:30 am)
sigh
That is all.
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Post by my2apps2 on Aug 12, 2015 17:14:34 GMT
Sorry for your bad day OP, insensitive friends are the worst. My vent? I'm tired of irresponsible morons lighting fires in my state. And especially, my neighborhood! Our state is as dry and flammable as a book of matches right now and people refuse to be careful. Burn bans are in place for a reason, and yes, they apply to you too. Driving your car to "watch the fire" and pulling your HOT car into a DRY field so you have a front row seat makes you an idiot. Our firefighters are stretched thin right now and we are having to call in help from other counties to fight the fires. And last night, TWO home arson calls within blocks of each other. People are having to evacuate their homes and farmers are losing their crops because of carelessness. And frankly, I'd like to be able to breathe without it killing my throat and lungs.
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Post by delila on Aug 12, 2015 18:05:40 GMT
I have had 18 seizures in 24 hours, my ass is done. My body isn't cooperating with my mushy brain & my brain can't make much sense of a damn thing. If I wrote something stupid, please excuse.
delila
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Post by mallie on Aug 12, 2015 18:14:23 GMT
I am tired of being tired, being overweight, and being told to be "patient" and wait for the meds "to kick in". I am also tired of being in pain on top of it all. I have the day off and have done nothing because I am in so much pain and so tired. I feel like my life is wasting away. I should be prepping for the small birthday celebration we're having for one of our dds tomorrow and I have done nothing yet because i can't find the energy. And not-so-dh, when I say to you that "I am in a LOT of pain and going to bed," (and I truly NEVER talk about my pain, so this means we are at level 9 for me to bring it up), your response should not be, "Why are you talking about it? Aren't you always in pain? Do you need to talk about it?"
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Post by valleyview on Aug 12, 2015 18:16:10 GMT
I have had 18 seizures in 24 hours, my ass is done. My body isn't cooperating with my mushy brain & my brain can't make much sense of a damn thing. If I wrote something stupid, please excuse. delila Have you called your doctor? That sounds close to dangerous.
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Post by eastcoastpea on Aug 12, 2015 18:16:39 GMT
I have had 18 seizures in 24 hours, my ass is done. My body isn't cooperating with my mushy brain & my brain can't make much sense of a damn thing. If I wrote something stupid, please excuse. delila That sucks, Delila. I hope your seizures have stopped and that you feel better soon.
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Post by MsKnit on Aug 12, 2015 18:31:31 GMT
I am tired of being tired, being overweight, and being told to be "patient" and wait for the meds "to kick in". I am also tired of being in pain on top of it all. I have the day off and have done nothing because I am in so much pain and so tired. I feel like my life is wasting away. I should be prepping for the small birthday celebration we're having for one of our dds tomorrow and I have done nothing yet because i can't find the energy. And not-so-dh, when I say to you that "I am in a LOT of pain and going to bed," (and I truly NEVER talk about my pain, so this means we are at level 9 for me to bring it up), your response should not be, "Why are you talking about it? Aren't you always in pain? Do you need to talk about it?" ((((Hugs)))) I deal with Fibro and Chronic Fatigue, so understand all to well. You keep it to yourself 98% of the time. But, you need that 2% to get the frustration off your chest. I'm sorry your feelings were dismissed.
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Post by delila on Aug 12, 2015 20:02:46 GMT
Valley view & East coast Pea, thanks so much for your concern. I have taken my rescue drug, clonazapan 2xs today & truly that is about all I can do. I had been gone for 4 days in San Francisco for a 3 day music festival called Outside Lands. The time change from Cali to Texas is hard on me & not eating right & being on a different schedule is tough. I will be good tomorrow, Friday for sure!!
delila
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Post by mallie on Aug 12, 2015 20:22:33 GMT
I am tired of being tired, being overweight, and being told to be "patient" and wait for the meds "to kick in". I am also tired of being in pain on top of it all. I have the day off and have done nothing because I am in so much pain and so tired. I feel like my life is wasting away. I should be prepping for the small birthday celebration we're having for one of our dds tomorrow and I have done nothing yet because i can't find the energy. And not-so-dh, when I say to you that "I am in a LOT of pain and going to bed," (and I truly NEVER talk about my pain, so this means we are at level 9 for me to bring it up), your response should not be, "Why are you talking about it? Aren't you always in pain? Do you need to talk about it?" ((((Hugs)))) I deal with Fibro and Chronic Fatigue, so understand all to well. You keep it to yourself 98% of the time. But, you need that 2% to get the frustration off your chest. I'm sorry your feelings were dismissed. Thanks for understanding. It helps to know that someone does.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 12, 2015 20:45:43 GMT
I was dressed this morning and looked "nice". Then sweat. My GP assured me I am not even close to menopause. She thinks stress and weight gain are causing me to sweat.
I still have that to look forward it.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 12, 2015 21:42:18 GMT
I'm so sorry to hear of everyone's vents. ((((hugs)))) to you all. My vent: Dear Miss Boss Lady: If you want something done a specific way, please tell me before hand. I was given this assignment in April. I've succeeded where you said no one else has. Now that it's all coming together, you "remember" that you wanted me to pass every. single. freaking. idea. past you prior to moving forward. If it was that (#%&@*( important to you, why didn't you say so in April? OK, off to "correct" my work. )#$&@ @)$!(@% ()$&@!(*%)
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